Just broke my hand

[Anonymous 54]

If I say c~~~ enough times in one day,the rage goes away.C~~~. aaaahhhhh.. Hey, there are some dudes on here I wouldn’t want to p~~~ off!!

[experiencedParticipant]

Sorry about what you’re going through.
Interaction with her triggered it, so as much as possible, absolutely minimize interactions with her.
Use emails, use texts, only leave verbal messages when certain she won’t pick up the phone. Know ahead of time what you only want to communicate; don’t allow her to add on. Have your brother or friend talk to her, not you, and you are officially unavailable at the moment. “When will he be?’ “I have no idea.”
Have a male friend attend as much of the interaction as possible to minimize it.
Let us know specifically her button pushers like, “What I say goes”
Record the unavoidable conversations, but set her up by saying, “The judge said X, The court said Y.” That way her “What I say goes will be documented her against the court, not you. Courts don’t take kindly to Anyone interfering with their power.
Keep us posted. Don’t think about her as that will only release stress hormones which will f~~~ up your recovery.
Pray.
Eat wisely.
Sleep.
Exercise or actively focus on other stuff.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

With respect, you need to get that anger under control.

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

[Dashing Young DissidentSpectator]

Biggvs_Dickvs wrote:

Broken bones suck. I hope they at least gave you some decent pain meds.

Having been through it myself multiple times I can recommend lots of sleep or as much as possible/comfortable/able and a solid diet of fruits and veggies with lots of micronutrients. Don’t get hung up on the calcium thing – there’s a lot more involved in (re)building bones.

The good news is, bone is the fastest healing tissue in the body. It’s the ligaments, tendons, and similar connective tissues that take the longest to heal up.

That is good to hear. I have lots of codeine but they depress the s~~~ out of me and space me out and make me feel like utter ass at the end of the day. Oh well, it helps the pain.

[ConstantineParticipant 4420]

That sucks Dashing, sorry to hear it. Do you have a stress ball that you can squeeze with your other hand until you’re recuperated? I would recommend getting a punching bag, but those things are expensive, and you’re probably not up to doing any hitting right now. But maybe in future, it would be a good way to relieve stress if you’ve just had another altercation with your ex.

And no matter how tempted you are, resist the urge to make up a harrowing story about how you got the injury, because those stories can always come back to haunt you. When I was a kid I used to suffer from acid reflux and had to have a polyp removed from my throat. After the procedure, I got tired of telling everybody where the scar had come from, so switched to saying that I’d been in a knife fight. I thought that that was a cooler story. Seven years later I met my uncle at a family wedding, who said, “So tell me about being knifed by that guy”, and of course I had no idea what he was talking about.

To see what is in front of one's nose requires a constant struggle. -Orwell

[Dashing Young DissidentSpectator]

experienced wrote:

Sorry about what you’re going through.
Interaction with her triggered it, so as much as possible, absolutely minimize interactions with her.
Use emails, use texts, only leave verbal messages when certain she won’t pick up the phone. Know ahead of time what you only want to communicate; don’t allow her to add on. Have your brother or friend talk to her, not you, and you are officially unavailable at the moment. “When will he be?’ “I have no idea.”
Have a male friend attend as much of the interaction as possible to minimize it.
Let us know specifically her button pushers like, “What I say goes”
Record the unavoidable conversations, but set her up by saying, “The judge said X, The court said Y.” That way her “What I say goes will be documented her against the court, not you. Courts don’t take kindly to Anyone interfering with their power.
Keep us posted. Don’t think about her as that will only release stress hormones which will f~~~ up your recovery.
Pray.
Eat wisely.
Sleep.
Exercise or actively focus on other stuff.

Thanks for the advice man.

I’m at the end of my rope I really am. Without sounding melodramatic, I am 90% homeless, in another country on a visa with a broken hand and no job, no friends, no f~~~ing nothing here. Just years of slaving away for 8 years for some fat c~~~ and her kids from her ex husband, no gratitude from any of them what so ever. Now im left as this broken down flesh vessel waiting to capsize, treated with disdain and like s~~~ because im been out of work for almost 2 years due to my anger, depression and not being able to hold down some s~~~ slave wage job which drove me to f~~~ing insanity.

I’m still badly affected from the last relationship i had as well, with the bitch who had the demon daughter. The reason im so affected is because of how f~~~ing disrespectful and c~~~y they both were to me, and were like this team of mother and daughter against me, but were more like sisters. The kid was always around likem her f~~~ig shadow parroting her mother anmd always had sometning to comment on what mw and her mother were talking about. When i told the little c~~~ to f~~~ off and give us a break her mother would immediately go against me.

Every f~~~ing evening without fail they both created a huge drama, arguing and yelling at each other, the mother wold then start throwing my stuff around and saying pathetic things like “I cant handle this anymore, this is not how i planned my life, this is all your fault, blah blah blah whine f~~~ing whine” and on and on and on the psycho drama would continue.

I’m still affected by it because i wanted so badly to punch that f~~~ing kid in the head and throw her into a fire. Again, you can call me sick, but that gobby little tyrant made the entire time she was present a f~~~ing MISERY. I also wanted to sonic boom the mother plenty of times for her vile wretched incomprehensible behaviour. She hated me when i was around but would spam my phone at night wanting my company when i was staying round my sons grandfathers. Only wanted me around when it f~~~ing suited her.

Im a man. My primal instinct when all else fails in trying to communicate and reason with some c~~~ who is constantly pushing me is to knock them the f~~~ out, man or woman. We are men, and thats how we are wired. I tried everything from giving her the silent treatment and ignoring her when I lived there to get some f~~~ing peace but she was relentless and i ended up having to grab her and throw her out the house a few times when she started throwing shoes at my head.

None of my married blue pill friends in the UK are any help what so ever when i tried confiding in them, asking their advice. They are all pussies owned by their wives. All i get is one worded replies or they magically go offline. F~~~ these losers.

Have any of you guys honestly ever been in my situation? And i mean at the f~~~ing bottom of the ocean drowning?

Im waiting on this plane ticket from my granny. All i want is to get a job back in uk and get my own place, before i f~~~ing top myself. I’m sick of being disrespected and shat on.

[Dashing Young DissidentSpectator]

Constantine wrote:

That sucks Dashing, sorry to hear it. Do you have a stress ball that you can squeeze with your other hand until you’re recuperated? I would recommend getting a punching bag, but those things are expensive, and you’re probably not up to doing any hitting right now. But maybe in future, it would be a good way to relieve stress if you’ve just had another altercation with your ex.

And no matter how tempted you are, resist the urge to make up a harrowing story about how you got the injury, because those stories can always come back to haunt you. When I was a kid I used to suffer from acid reflux and had to have a polyp removed from my throat. After the procedure, I got tired of telling everybody where the scar had come from, so switched to saying that I’d been in a knife fight. I thought that that was a cooler story. Seven years later I met my uncle at a family wedding, who said, “So tell me about being knifed by that guy”, and of course I had no idea what he was talking about.

I’m afraid a squeezey ball just won’t cut it Constantine ole pal, as much as i appreciate the tip. I have a heavy bag I lay into many times but i was at my sons mothers house when i became enraged.

This horrific anger has built up over a long, long time. I have an incredibly short fuse for bulls~~~ now. Any other man in my position would have ended up in a straight jacket, I garuntee that.

[Dashing Young DissidentSpectator]

All the rage comes from not fully loading your male testosterone fueled brain with governing logic engines.

You can self educate.

Logic cools the brain.

It diverts the s~~~ from the ears going straight to the reactionary lizard brain.

Listen to me. I know whay I am talking about.

What follows after all that logic is stealth in your private life.

Your mouth no longer gets you into trouble.

Learn to learn and life will be pleasant and better.

True. I have no coping strategies. I’ve spent so much time in isolation here I feel like ive lost my f~~~ing mind.

[Truthseeker82Participant 6406]

I was on the receiving end recently of verbal and physical abuse. The single mom I married two years ago came home drunk and reeking of cigarettes after a few hours drinking in a pub with a guy friend. She came after me and slapped me pretty hard. I was cool and walked out and went sleeping in my car. If I called the cops – they might have hauled my ass off even though I never touched her. She also has a 12 year old daughter from her first marriage (I’m number 3 – she’s 34). Fortunately I have a high paying secure job and moved out this week.
Like many have said- time heals both your bones and spirit. That fat angry c~~~ will retreat and pull in her claws once you show her indifference and she finds some simp to pick up her miserable broken life. Carry on brother – 15000 plus men are marching forward with you.

[Dashing Young DissidentSpectator]

Truthseeker82 wrote:

I was on the receiving end recently of verbal and physical abuse. The single mom I married two years ago came home drunk and reeking of cigarettes after a few hours drinking in a pub with a guy friend. She came after me and slapped me pretty hard. I was cool and walked out and went sleeping in my car. If I called the cops – they might have hauled my ass off even though I never touched her. She also has a 12 year old daughter from her first marriage (I’m number 3 – she’s 34). Fortunately I have a high paying secure job and moved out this week.
Like many have said- time heals both your bones and spirit. That fat angry c~~~ will retreat and pull in her claws once you show her indifference and she finds some simp to pick up her miserable broken life. Carry on brother – 15000 plus men are marching forward with you.

Thanks man appreciate it alot. When i finally get back to the UK my life should start making sense and have meaning to it once again. You showed alot of restraint to that slap, i don’t have that kind of restraint at all, no idea how you didn’t slap her back but good on you. What you did was way more effective. Once these pathetic bitches know they have no power over you-boom. Game over bitch, game over!!!

[experiencedParticipant]

Dashing Young Dissident wrote:

Just years of slaving away for 8 years for some fat c~~~ and her kids from her ex husband, no gratitude from any of them what so ever.

I’m still badly affected from the last relationship i had as well, with the bitch who had the demon daughter. The reason im so affected is because of how f~~~ing disrespectful and c~~~y they both were to me, and were like this team of mother and daughter against me that gobby little tyrant made the entire time she was present a f~~~ing MISERY. for her vile wretched incomprehensible behaviour. She hated me when i was around but would spam my phone at night wanting my company when i was staying round my sons grandfathers. Only wanted me around when it f~~~ing suited her.
Im waiting on this plane ticket from my granny. All i want is to get a job back in uk and get my own place, before i f~~~ing top myself. I’m sick of being disrespected and shat on.

Truthseeker82 wrote:

I was on the receiving end recently of verbal and physical abuse. The single mom I married She also has a 12 year old daughter from her first marriage (I’m number 3 – she’s 34).
That fat angry c~~~ will retreat and pull in her claws once you show her indifference and she finds some simp to pick up her miserable broken life. Carry on brother – 15000 plus men are marching forward with you.

Know that you are already doing tons or tonnes of good, via your posting reality here.
For all:
Don’t date single moms
Don’t date single moms
Don’t date single moms
They’re like great white sharks who’ve been given cognitive enhancing drugs for the soul purpose of slaughtering men. They are beyond hyper motivated to destroy men.
Sex beyond your wildest dreams…. and then they fry your life.
I had a close call with one years ago and it was only via Providence that I emerged unscathed.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[Mr_WhiteParticipant 48]

Read through this entire thread, and there has been a lot of sound wisdom proffered; forgive me for not quoting everyone directly but if I may, condense into hopefully a manageable package of advice. Let me say as well that yes, I have been in your position. It has been 8 years and I’ve come out the other side a better, wiser person in countless ways.

1. As soon as you can ie before or after you move, as has been suggested, get some help with the anger control. This is a topic unto itself, but just do it. If absolutely necessary even get a sedative if you can. Temporarily.

2. Communicate as little as possible with the bitch. And when possible, electronically as suggested. Remembering that it will all be documented will also help keep you in check.

3. When you have to talk to her f2f, yes be indifferent/calm regardless of how she tries to wind you up. Recognize that’s what she’s doing, it will help. Also, you’ll find tremendous self satisfaction afterward.

4. Be an example for your child and remember that he’s watching everything you do.

5. As Stealthy has said in many posts in many ways, become a learner. The more you develop higher brain functions, the more control you have over the lizard brain. I know that some guys just aren’t readers-again another topic-nonetheless, start to try, or find audiobooks, whatever you have to do. Some of the best books ever written are available free online. Start where your own interests lie and just keep going; they will broaden on their own. The thirst for knowledge can be life sustaining.

6. Remember that even though it may not seem like it, and that circumstances are s~~~ty right now, it’s the start of your own autonomy, sovereignty, and freedom.

7. Don’t date single mom’s, or anyone else for awhile.
8. Check in here. Often.

Mr. White

Let go or be dragged -Zen proverb

[narwhalParticipant]

Agree with what every one is saying. But I think it’s very important that you realize that you are one of your biggest problems. Yes, your ex is a bitch, but even if you remove her completely, you’re still going to have issues. So deal with the anger, and find a way to get a good productive job.

I understand you love your son, but I’m not even sure you should be focusing on him too much. Don’t abandon him, not saying that, just focus on getting yourself to a place where you can really help him.

Never ever ever get emotional with your ex. Never ever allow her to get emotional with you. When she starts showing any signs of emotion, walk away. No exceptions. Remember, women love attention. The fact that she can get you so worked up that you break your own just makes her feel like she’s got it going on. Use your head, and do not give her that.

Realize that all your frustrations over people in your past doesn’t hurt them at all, it’s only hurting you. Stop letting in control you. Move on.

Ok. Then do it.

[Dashing Young DissidentSpectator]

Thankyou for the advice guys, I very much appreciate it, more than you know.

[experiencedParticipant]

What you are going through is hard, unbelievably hard.
Think of yourself as a top fuel dragster:

All that horsepower. It’s truly wonderful, but it has to be controlled/guided.

“Don’t kill the guy.” “Don’t drag him behind the woodshed and shoot off his kneecaps.” “You can’t help your kid from behind Plexiglas.” Are some of the advice I received at your stage of things. I got rid of all of my weapons.

It’s not f~~~ing easy. It’s hard, real hard. But always think first. I’m confident that you will emerge from this even stronger. Don’t let the bastards(laydeez) get you down.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[Dashing Young DissidentSpectator]

experienced wrote:

What you are going through is hard, unbelievably hard.
Think of yourself as a top fuel dragster:

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All that horsepower. It’s truly wonderful, but it has to be controlled/guided.

“Don’t kill the guy.” “Don’t drag him behind the woodshed and shoot off his kneecaps.” “You can’t help your kid from behind Plexiglas.” Are some of the advice I received at your stage of things. I got rid of all of my weapons.

It’s not f~~~ing easy. It’s hard, real hard. But always think first. I’m confident that you will emerge from this even stronger. Don’t let the bastards(laydeez) get you down.

Sound advice Experienced, thankyou.

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