I've Made My First Major Step Towards MGTOW

[NeroParticipant 1466]

I’ve been in marital therapy for about seven months. I’ve recently suggested divorce and that, even though the therapist is good, we are just really not a good fit. Last night, I’ve come out and said I’m filing for divorce and we need to move on. I haven’t worn my wedding band all week. It was hard. It was painful. But, I believe it is the right thing to do. She doesn’t want the divorce but will do it if I’m not happy. I hope to keep this amicable. So far, there are no signs she will become a total bitch. She wants to move out ASAP to start getting over me. Any words of advice or encouragement are welcome. My home is going to be really hard to afford on my own, but I want to try, so my kids aren’t uprooted. Thanks.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Why doesn’t your wife want the divorce?? Does she love you more than life, or are you just the “bank”??

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[NeroParticipant 1466]

Solo MAN’S Wisdom wrote:

Why doesn’t your wife want the divorce?? Does she love you more than life, or are you just the “bank”??

Partly because I’m her chad. Partly because of co-dependency.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Nero wrote:

Partly because I’m her chad. Partly because of co-dependency.

Ouch. S~~~.
Why do you want to leave??

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Nero wrote:

I hope to keep this amicable. So far, there are no signs she will become a total bitch. She wants to move out ASAP to start getting over me.

Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst. She’s got the hive going full tilt right now. She’s talking to all of her friends and they are all chiming in. Why would let him keep the house? He should be one moving out? I have a friend who got divorced and she made BANK!!

My ex wanted the divorce and was the one who pushed for it. And I’m thankful. She was a f~~~ing c~~~ during the process. I can’t imagine how bad it would have been if I had dumped her fat ass. I’m sure fake domestic violence charges would have happened.

Don’t be surprised if she’s just getting everything in order and then will hit you hard with everything all at once: Sole custody, she gets the house, threatens to lie to the police and judge.

Good luck, and keep us informed. We are here to help.

Order the good wine

[Ronin De NiroParticipant 200]

Congratulations! At first it can be hard and painful, but in the long term it will pay. Stay strong!

[Anonymous 17]

I don’t know the details of your situation, but if you have children it is always best to avoid a divorce for the children’s sake.

[Masculine_ManParticipant 2735]

Anonymous wrote:

I don’t know the details of your situation, but if you have children it is always best to avoid a divorce for the children’s sake.

I don’t know your situation either but if you are miserable it is best to leave the bitch for your sanity. If you’re miserable then the kids are miserable. Don’t torture yourself for the sake of the kids. There are way more things that will f~~~ their minds up than another f~~~ing divorce. A calm stable home (which I’m sure you can provide) is worth more than some phony miserable marriage.

If it costs you your peace of mind, then it is too expensive.

[Anonymous 3]

Anonymous wrote:

I don’t know the details of your situation, but if you have children it is always best to avoid a divorce for the children’s sake.

I also agree with Masculine Man. A miserable family life is no place for kids, they will get affected by it.

If you two could get along fine and make a good environment, that would be another situation. But that is rarely the case. Women are emotional abusers, that dont hesitate in involving the kids in their manipulations to destroy a man. Children end up being the victims also.

But I am wondering, why do you say you are her “chad”?

[NeroParticipant 1466]

Solo MAN’S Wisdom wrote:

Nero wrote:

Partly because I’m her chad. Partly because of co-dependency.

Ouch. S~~~.
Why do you want to leave??

I want to leave the marriage because of the laundry list of reasons why most men here don’t want to get married, and why we encourage unmarried men to never get married. My case is no different. One of these days, I’ll take the time to write everything. To get it all out. Right now, I’m just too mentally exhausted to do so. She hasn’t gotten bored of me yet or disgusted with me enough to divorce me yet, because I’m a good little hamster. But, that doesn’t mean that all the other s~~~ that is standard in today’s married life is not occurring. So, it’s best for my to GMOW.

[NeroParticipant 1466]

Anonymous wrote:

But I am wondering, why do you say you are her “chad”?

What I’m saying is that I’m her Chad #1, the bad boy (used to be before I got onto the hamster wheel of marriage) to provide, provide, provide. I’m not an affair Chad. We’ve been married for 19 years and were not previously married before.

She is still in love with me and considers me her top ace, but it is not enough. Women just really don’t know how to properly treat their husbands, even when they do have the one they want sexually and have high attractiveness to. They can’t f~~~ing help themselves after they’ve won the prize.

[OldBillParticipant]

Nero wrote:

They can’t f~~~ing help themselves after they’ve won the prize.

And now you’re taking that prize away from her.

Let me suggest that you expedite your divorce as quickly as possible. Do whatever it takes to get her signature on the final decree before she “wakes up” and starts demanded what’s “owed” her. As TaxGuy pointed out, the Hive and her lawyer haven’t even begun their brainwashing process yet, but your luck won’t last forever.

She’s still mooning over her Chad and that’s bought you not only the house but also precious time. The Hive and her lawyer are going to try and get her back in and you out. In fact, you’ll know your time is running out when she starts talking about that.

Move rapidly and keep the process speeding along by offering minor inducements. A member here was able to get a quick divorce by offering his greedy, but shortsighted, ex-wife a lump sum payment. Fortunately, she was stupid enough to take the cash up front rather than put in the time and effort to grind more long term money out of him.

Good luck. Hopefully her feelings towards you will keep her pliable until the final documents are signed.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[NeroParticipant 1466]

I think it’s a good time to post an update as to my situation. I filed on June 17th. The court is so backed up, they could schedule a hearing until July 23, 2017. When my wife was served, she kinda snapped and starting saying dumb s~~~ like letting the house foreclose if I move out and whatnot. The house has anywhere between $120k – $190k in EQUITY. I can’t take that kind of risk with a complete ignorant f~~~ing woman saying crazy s~~~. We have already split our liquid cash of $59k, have separate bank accounts and credit cards, and she finally agreed to buy a used car, so my son can use our paid off one for when he starts college in two weeks.

I was about to hire a mediator for $1,500 and purchase a condo by my youngest son’s high school. He’s a junior. I put everything on hold and established a new strategy with my wife. Since she didn’t want to comply willingly with the divorce, I would just do whatever the f~~~ I want to do (as I should anyways) and grind her down with being alone. This did work, however, but it still did some psychological damage. Mainly, you still feel somewhat trapped with her and entertain her dumb f~~~ing questions.

Initially, she was begging for time to prove herself and to give her a chance. Honestly, she was doing quite well. I really haven’t changed my mind about the divorce, but I was enjoying the behavioral changes I was witnessing. It made it much easier to live with her, and I just started doing some things with her again.

Here is what I want you currently married guys to understand and I’m warning you now. Whether or not it is true, your wife will think (and be convinced) you are having an affair or multiple affairs if you ask for any kind of privacy or go places without her. Once she found out I bought airline tickets to see a great friend (former Marine) of mine in Texas, she flipped the f~~~ out. We got into a argument, until I squashed it quick because I don’t f~~~ing care what she thinks. She was insulting my friend’s character out of pure f~~~ing jealousy. During this argument, her posture, facial expressions, arm and hand motions, and the nasty venom she was spewing made me realize instantly she will never change. She is what she is. For more than two months she was able to chameleon and keep things alive, but she finally cracked.

With that said, I am moving forward with all plans at “full go.” Fortunately, my son (who has been guilting me to stay and give her a chance) saw and heard the argument. He was a big reason I postponed my efforts earlier. At this point, I can’t really be concerned with anyone else’s opinions on the matter. It’s time to move the f~~~ on with life.

I was miniature gaming with some friends of mine on Saturday. Everyone shared their divorce stories. I got some really good tips on how to save my own ass as best as possible. I will implement all advice as I am able to.

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