Is there something wrong with me? I can't get excited for a woman anymore

[WOTGMSpectator 749]

You know for a long time I wanted to be with a woman so badly, to the point where I broke down and got myself in trouble legally for cursing a girl out. Since that incident, I have calmed down a lot. But now I am at the point where I am so turned off by women and their behavior that I actually am starting to not even be attracted to them anymore. Even the “hot” girls do next to nothing for me as of late.

When I see a girl with a hot body now, instead of thinking “man look at her ass” etc. I find myself thinking about how dirty she is, how many men she must have screwed in the past and/or are currently screwing, how she is probably screwing some dirty guy with tats all over his body etc. Is it weird to think like this? I’m not sure how I feel about it, or if anyone else feels the same way.

I am in my mid 30’s so I am not that old yet, and yet I almost feel as if my days of being sexual with a woman are over. I am a fairly decent looking guy, and in good physical shape, and a few months ago I had a chance to sleep with this very attractive woman. But I just couldn’t do it, because I kept thinking about how dirty she was, and I guess I kept thinking back to all the negative experiences I have had with women over the past few years.

Is this weird? Is there something wrong with me? Is it normal to feel this way after having so many bad experiences with women? I don’t know, I am just not into one night stands like a lot of guys are in general. It actually turns me off. Is that strange? The ironic thing is, because I am decent looking, a lot of chances for one night stands come up for me, but I either don’t want to do it, or am unable to because of my general disgust with women overall.

What should I make of this situation? Should I just accept it? Try to embrace it? Or…do you think I should be upset, and try to “correct” myself into wanting one-nighters and trying to not be so disgusted with women? Their attitudes and the way they are so loose with scumbag men has really done a number on my attraction for them. I don’t know if I can ever recover.

[Crazy CanuckMember 4215]

Many women have been around the block unless they fat.

"If pussy was a stock it would be plummeting right now because you've flooded the market with it. You're giving it away too easy." - Dave Chapelle

[RoyDalParticipant]

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Soldier-MedicParticipant 2566]

This issue is serious.  I would recommend that you get some counseling.

I’m not trying to be dismissive orcallous.

Coping with this takes guidance.

Sorry can’t say better but I’m on my mobile and texting is difficult.

 

"I asked you a question. I didn't ask you to repeat what the voices in you head are telling you" ~ Me. ........Yes I'm still angry.

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

It might be because most women aren’t exciting ….. or outwardly they portray such an acidic persona ….. you’ll never get close enough to find out.

Most are just dull and boring media fueled morons.

What’s not to like ☺

[DoinMyOwnThing40Participant 1000]

I’m not a psychologist so I don’t know if this is normal or if this is good. I will tell you this though……….embrace it. You are so much better off not worrying about pussy.

I sorta get where you are coming from. I have turned down many girls in my life. Why? Cuz I simply didn’t have the interest in doing them. Some of them were actually pretty attractive too. I just didn’t “feel it” so I didn’t do it.

I wouldn’t worry about it mate. You are thinking with your brain and not your dick.

Women are parasites. Each and every last one of them.

[Anonymous 12]

Nothing wrong with you.

Here is what happened to me, maybe you can relate. I used to think women were brilliant shiny creatures, magical and superior. I would chase them one way or another and I would always notice they preferred the dickheads who would treat them poorly but also well from a material perspective. I had romantic dreams and hopes and came to see it was pointless.

Even when I would meet a woman who said she liked me it wouldn’t take long before she would come out with some reason as to why she didn’t like me, the classic “You’re a really nice guy but..” excuses. I started to time them it would become so regular.

So eventually the romance was just killed in me. Now, I don’t even want them for sex.

 

 

 

[MENGINEERParticipant 583]

What you are feeling is the normal aftereffects of seeing the actual TRUTH. This was the bitter part of the red pill that I had to shove down my throat without water.

It’s a strange feeling to feel completely free from the control of a any female. Use the pent up sexual energy for new hobbies or projects, such as building a muscle car, working out, or traveling. Those three helped me out drastically with my technical expertise, quality of life, and knowledge gained.

Pretty soon you will forget about women and think they are an obstacle to doing whatever YOU want to do instead.

Pretty soon it becomes entertaining to see women acting like attention whores when you aren’t drooling over them, buying drinks, etc. Some will be furious but most will take it as a challenge. Watch their hamster wheel spin into orbit!

Think about it: what do you REALLY need a woman for? I really need to take a p~~~ every now and then but you don’t see me marrying/carrying a urinal around! I just use it and keep it moving! (The urinal that is). Rather rub one out and save the time, $$, and hassle..

 

[Mango IngawayParticipant 2264]

ILiveAgain wrote:

It might be because most women aren’t exciting ….. or outwardly they portray such an acidic persona ….. you’ll never get close enough to find out. Most are just dull and boring media fueled morons. What’s not to like

Same here.
Women are like treasures.
Made with s~~~.
And with s~~~ inside it too.
But for some reason everyone thinks they’re great.
The only women I have found smart were one of my English teachers, and two of my economics teachers.
The rest: brain-f~~~ing-dead.
Plus ugly most of the time, anyway.

It is a common failing of childhood to think that if one makes a hero out of a demon the demon will be satisfied.

[foolsgoldParticipant 5637]

Nothing wrong with you. I have found I don’t even want to talk to them anymore. I’m not a bad looking dude either. At a coffee shop last week I had a very attractive lady approach me. Then she opened her mouth and wrecked it for herself. Game over. I couldn’t get out of there fast enough. Again, nothing wrong with you.

[OasidParticipant 116]

You’re not alone. I feel the same way…and I have tat’s all over my body. Doesn’t change a thing.

May the Force Be With You

[Anonymous 12]

Just adding to what I wrote earlier. I used to love talking to women, I was like a mouse in a maze trying to find the right places to walk through so I could find my way into her heart and mind. I was bad, I wasn’t even looking to get laid, I truly wanted love. I would sit there and listen to whatever s~~~ they wanted to talk about, if they had problems even better, I can help her!

Nowdays I wouldn’t have a clue what to say, doesn’t matter how hot she is, how easy she is making it for me. I just don’t know what to say, it is like I am mute. Even online where I tend to communicate the best, when a woman tells me “Tell me more about yourself” I just don’t respond, I don’t talk much anyway to anyone. I don’t want to tell her about myself, I don’t want to go there and I don’t know what to say either.

The motivation is lacking. I have seen no matter what I do any success is fleeting and usually it just ends up with me being alone. I can be alone without the effort being expended. I am very happy alone.

There is nothing wrong with you.

 

[MyselfParticipant 353]

WOTGM wrote:

I find myself thinking about how dirty she is, how many men she must have screwed in the past and/or are currently screwing, how she is probably screwing some dirty guy with tats all over his body etc. Is it weird to think like this? I’m not sure how I feel about it, or if anyone else feels the same way.

Nothing wrong with you at all.  I could have written your post word for word.  All you are doing is forming a judgement based on observation – it is logical and rational.

The simple fact of the matter is that women are slutty – at least as slutty as men, but probably more.

First, the average number of sexual partners that men have is equal to the average number of partners women have (because it takes two to tango, and the size of each population is roughly the same).

However, it is fairly safe to say that the average woman’s standards are HIGHER than the average mans standards.  In other other words, women are willing to sleep with a smaller percentage of the male population than men are.

So what you end up with is a situation that looks like this:

In this simple case the number of partners for each man is 5, 3, 1, 1, 0, and for women it’s 3, 3, 2, 1, 1.  The average is the same, but the distribution is not.  Sex gets distributed narrowly in the male population (around the so-called alphas), whereas sex gets distributed widely in the female population (away from the fatties).

WOTGM wrote:

What should I make of this situation? Should I just accept it? Try to embrace it? Or…do you think I should be upset, and try to “correct” myself into wanting one-nighters and trying to not be so disgusted with women? Their attitudes and the way they are so loose with scumbag men has really done a number on my attraction for them. I don’t know if I can ever recover.

Just recognize the situation for what it is and try to deal with it logically.  Maybe try a fling or two and see if you get anything out of it?  If not, no need to keep rolling those dice.

 

[BeerParticipant 11832]

I’ve almost arrived the same point you have.  Most of the women around my age have either hit the wall, or are damn near close to it.  Most of them have s~~~ty jobs, tons of baggage from years of carousel riding, student loans/debt, kids, etc.  I’m not bad looking, I don’t have any drama in my life, I actually have a good paying career, my own place, a car, no kids…basically I have my s~~~ together.  Most the women I meet…even if they are somewhat attractive, single, and flirty to the point I feel I could easily get a date if I asked…I just don’t want to.

I’m not repulsed by them, its just I don’t want them in my life.  I feel like I haven’t worked hard to get to where I am just to have someone drag me down with their bulls~~~.  Maybe at some point I’ll meet a girl version of me that has actually done something with her life rather than c~~~ hop and make baggage for herself, but if not its just far more entertaining to sit on the sidelines watching the wall wreak havok rather than waste my time, resources, and sanity for the sake of having a wet hole to play with.

I almost thought for a while, maybe my standards are too high…but literally all I want is 1. not fat(5-10lbs overweight is one thing, I’m ok with that, obese though…disgusting), 2. no kids, 3. not on drugs/heavy drinker, 4. hasn’t hit a double digit c~~~ count, I want nothing to do with an excessive carousel rider.  Like I said…I almost thought my standards were too high…but in reality most women these days just seem to be low quality, and being happily single beats introducing a low quality woman into my life any day.

[WOTGMSpectator 749]

Thank you all so much for replying! Wow, it was really refreshing to read I am not alone. Apologies to the guys with tattoos I didn’t mean to lump you in with the dirtbags lol. I have basically become A-sexual at this point, but in a way I am not because the weird thing is I still get excited when I see an image of a physically attractive woman online or in a magazine or something like that. But when the actual woman is in front of me and the potential is there to “get involved” with her, that’s when all these negative thoughts flood in and I become completely turned off.

I guess it has to do with a lot of bad experiences, a lot of hurt, and a lot of disappointment over the years regarding female behavior. I didn’t think women, as people, were this bad. Growing up you assume girls are just like you, very simple in that they want a good person to be with, to love, and to be loved by someone else. Of course now I see that is not the case. It is heartbreaking to see just how many women are these vile, disgusting, self-absorbed “things” that are walking around all over the place.

Like one guy here said, the motivation for me is just not there anymore. Sometimes I come across these articles about “why you’re single” and just for poops and giggles I read it, and I’m always amazed at some of the crap these things advise you to do just for the privilege of having a woman in your life who has already probably slept with 100 other guys. “You have to change this, you have to change that” meanwhile what is the woman “changing” about HERSELF? Oh that’s right, she doesn’t have to change anything. “You have to act like a dick blah blah blah” you know what? If I have to go through all that s~~~ just to sleep with someone, it just isn’t worth it.

It really does feel like I have “woken up” out of some sort of trance, and I can see everything clearly now. What also cracks me up are some of these insecure guys out there who come around and brag about all the women they have slept with. I just think to myself “what is really so great about it at the end of the day?”…do these women love you? You’re putting your body and health at risk, which if you think logically about it, you can get the same end result from your right hand with no risk whatsoever. There is a really nice, clean, and refreshing feeling when I go to the doctor for my physical and he asks me “are you sexually active?” and I reply “no”. I know that I have nothing to worry about in that department at least and it feels good.

Women are nothing but a headache, at best, and life-ruining, at worst. I am happy to be here. When I see a douchebag with a “hot” girl now, I can honestly say I have no feeling of resentment the way I used to in the past. I now find myself thinking “you can have her buddy” because I just think of all the bulls~~~ he has to go through just for the “privilege” of having her in his life. If you really stop and think about it, it’s insane to want to be in his position.

Thanks everyone for your replies! 🙂

[Binary LogicParticipant 2351]

Anonymous wrote:

“Tell me more about yourself”

I personally find that unattractive and immediately walk away without another word. It’s not only cliche’, but dammit, that is the whole point of having that kind of conversation, it’s to discover the other person. It’s not a gd resume or job interview. smh.

Funny, isn't it? How women thrive on a mans time, attention and resources, while simultaneously telling him he isn't enough...

[ToadParticipant 271]

Well if you read my introduction to this site you can relate to me perfectly. find it if you want.

Since i smashed my beliefs against the red pill truth i suffer for a total transformation… I passed from a powerful sex drive and a perfect mangina-white- knight mode through the anger of understanding the real game rules…

And with the vision clear i decided not to play

Why? because i talked to myself:

-Toad: do you like the way you are?

– Of course: i’m a nice guy, intelligent, gentle, funny, healthy, worker, confident, loyal and truthful…

-And you understand that if you show yourself to a woman without the mask of a confident , rude, and mysterious alpha she automatically will lose the interest for you, right?

– Yes, i saw that many times: when i act like myself, they play with my feelings and mock about me, but if i put a fake smile and keep for me my conversations, my interest for them and my real “me”, the chances for get laid increases like a rocket…

-Right: do you think that, in order to get sex, fake that you are other person is worth it?…do you think is worth maintain that situation for a long time in order to get “a normal relationship”?

– Not at all

– Welcome…to the real world…

 

That’s why i realize that all why i suffered in the past was due to a big f~~~ing lie… i thought that the girls were looking for a good guy and was not true, i thought that having a family was the only purpose in the life and it is not, and i thought that the sex will be fabulous like in the porn movies…and it’s not… at least not for me…

 

When i saw a pretty girl before all of this, i thought about all the great moments that this human being and i would pass if we were together and suffer because i can’t have it… now i see lizards with soft skin and automatically lose my sex drive, along with my suffer for not having a relationship…and the envy towards the “normal guys” who get laid…

Normal? of course: it’s a consecuence of something, something awful, something cruel, something serious… This are the scars of a battle, the remember of a trauma at which i survived… so i’ll keep it with pride…. You want to cure it? go to a therapist… i’m well with it because i finally get peace with myself not chasing women and suffering because they don’t like good guys for a relationship…

and i can’t change being a good guy…i tried it… i can’t… i don’t want…

F~~~ them/love yourself

[RennieParticipant]

Don’t feel bad, I have become largely intellectually asexual myself. Just the thought that any chick may be and likely is.. a piece of trash is offputting.

[LowKeyParticipant 702]

Not giving a crap about women? Thats the dream !

If I could re-wire myself my brain to think in that way, my life would be more peaceful.

Don't let defeat, defeat you; Let defeat be your greatest teacher.

[lonestar77Participant 406]

Nothing wrong with you man. I have had similar thoughts as you for about 8 yrs now. I EMBRACE IT. I wouldn’t call ourselves “asexual” though because the site of a hot chick in a mag etc still excites us. It’s just when they open their mouth to us in real life we realize how much they truly suck at life and want nothing to do with them anymore. I just laugh at them when I’m around them. They are so stupid and slutty I find it comical at this point in my life.

Again, you don’t need counseling as I believe most men would be happier if they thought they way we did.

Good luck

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me

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