Is Monogamy…?

[Darth SinParticipant 576]

Greetings gents. I hope you are doing well.

I am curious on your opinions of monogamy. By monogamy I am not referring to monogamous marriage but just the concept of being monogamous.

I define monogamy as lifelong commitment to a single romantic partner. That should make things clear.

So what do you guys think of monogamy ? Is monogamy a mistake ? Or is it achievable but extremely difficult in current circumstances ? Or is it dead ?

I am simply curious to see your answers.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Interesting question. And I have asked myself the same question. In all of my experience and travels, guys / men are far more monogamous than women – which also makes perfect sense, because it’s actually more difficult for man to have many sexual partners. Men don’t just “decide” to have more sexual partners to the same degree.

Quite frankly, I just don’t think women are built that way. And I would be right:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1093011/Women-far-promiscuous-men-says-shock-new-study.html

So I stopped asking the question and chalked it up to that. It really isn’t a personal male opinion.

But since you asked….. I have always had a “rule” not to cheat. Before I cheated (even when the opportunity arose) I would break up with a girlfriend before I cheated on her. I broke that rule once or twice in a quick & unbridled moment – but I didn’t SEEK it. She did. As a general principal, I wouldn’t even GET INTO a “relationship” with a girl if I had no intention to be monogamous with her. I never even WANTED to have a “girlfriend” and f~~~ other women at the same time. If I did, would just f~~~ other women.

For a long time, that’s what “being single” meant to me. Keeping myself available – if the right girl came along.

I will never understand these Ashley Maddison people.
What the f~~~ are you doing there, if you DONT want to be there.

Ashley Maddison is Actually Madness.

And chicks like this…. you gotta be f~~~ing kidding me.
She actually WANTS to be able to have ” a boyfriend” and f~~~ other men. I don’t even GET that.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 11]

I realize everyone has different modes in relationships open marriage, cuckolding, covert/overt cheating, polyamory or monogamy. That is not for me to judge. I only do what is right for me.

I am monogamous and will require the same from her if I were to ever be stupid enough to enter another relations~~~ that did not allow me to go my own way as if that’ll ever happen.

Keymaster wrote:

it’s actually more difficult for man to have many sexual partners. Men don’t just “decide” to have more sexual partners to the same degree.

Witness last week my friend confidently texting to one of his whores that he’s had hundreds of partners, and she comes back with thousands. I would empirically agree.

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

Anonymous wrote:

Witness last week my friend confidently texting to one of his whores that he’s had hundreds of partners, and she comes back with thousands. I would empirically agree.

Wow, I am still a virgin. Think I have had about 20 partners in my life, at max.

When I was in my mid 20’s and in my first marriage, I was tempted to cheat beyond belief for me.
To me, she was a smoking petite blonde at the job we worked at. I finally caved and, and next thing I knew, we were kissing every chance we got.
One thing led to another, even drove her to my apt. one day, and I just couldn’t bring myself to cheat with her.
I wanted her so f~~~ing bad.

[Anonymous 11]

Phantom wrote:

Wow, I am still a virgin. Think I have had about 20 partners in my life, at max.

By that criteria, I am a virgin too though I got plenty of action in my relations~~~s. I’ve always had a thing for petite blondes so I can see why you were tempted. I almost married one once.

I turn down potential hookups on a regular basis. I have only one friend who thinks the same. My other friends think I’m crazy. The one time I stuck my dick into crazy left a lasting impact on me is all I can say.

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

Anonymous wrote:

I’ve always had a thing for petite blondes so I can see why you were tempted. I almost married one once.

Hear you loud & clear on that. Had I not been married, I could see me saying that about her as well back then.

Anonymous wrote:

The one time I stuck my dick into crazy left a lasting impact on me is all I can say.

Last one I was with almost 4 yrs ago, She was blonde & crazy…lasting impact as well.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Phantom wrote:

Wow, I am still a virgin. Think I have had about 20 partners in my life, at max.

On the contrary. You’re a swinging stud.

Your grandfather could never say the same. And neither could mine. They had to MARRY her first.

After all, it wasn’t all that long ago that 20 women in your life would have made you a regular Valentino. By today’s standards , 20 is “not that much”?? “Only” twenty women doesn’t say anything about you. That says more about women. And they have never been easier.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 11]

Phantom wrote:

Last one I was with almost 4 yrs ago, She was blonde & crazy…lasting impact as well.

Funny thing MGTOWAge. My crazy one was a petite hot red exactly 4 years ago. CPig no do land whales.

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

Keymaster wrote:

On the contrary. You’re a swinging stud.

Your grandfather could never say the same. And neither could mine. They had to MARRY her first.

After all, it wasn’t all that long ago that 20 women in your life would have made you a regular Valentino. By today’s standards , 20 is “not that much”?? Twenty women doesn’t say anything about you. That says more about women. And they have never been easier.

Those are some excellent freakin’ points
Certainly a much clearer & deeper perspective than how I was looking at it.

Thanks for the kick in the ass KeyMaster

Rocks for me 🙂

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

Anonymous wrote:

Funny thing MGTOWAge. My crazy one was a petite hot red exactly 4 years ago. CPig no do land whales.

LOL CP, no land whales for me either…the thought of being sucked in & never escape, along with everything else makes me curl up in a fetal position mentally & suck my thumb 😛

Just Hell No! 😛

[Anonymous 11]

Men, if I would not turtle on land whales, my notch count would be in the hundreds. Going turtle prove the little head has a modicum of intelligence.

A big fat f~~~ you to all of you fat acceptance SJWs out there!!!!

If I can’t pick her up, she won’t get me up!!

[Soldier-MedicParticipant 2566]

I ‘was’ in a monogamous marriage. But when the pussy dried up, I was still in a monogamous marriage even though I found a little blonde f~~~ puppet.

Monogamous means to me that you aren’t having sex with anyone but with your partner or are married to only one person. When you are not having sex with you wife, you in an asexual relationship.

I was married to one and having sex with another.

Either I was cheating or I wasn’t. The discussion of monogamy implies a relationship. Something I am definitely not interested.

"I asked you a question. I didn't ask you to repeat what the voices in you head are telling you" ~ Me. ........Yes I'm still angry.

[Robert HallamParticipant 696]

If you want my opinion humans are not and have never been Monogamous. Monogamy has been imposed by society (Marriage, Common Law Marriage). Yes, a couple can live a monogamous life. But for the most part either both partners, or one or the other partner will at some time during the relationship have outside desires. Just from surveys it has been shown that 80% of either spouse confess that they would have extramarital affairs if they thought they would never get caught. And that is for both sexes. The only thing that keeps either partner in line is the possibility of getting caught and the consequences that follow. For many years it has been believed that men are more likely to cheat. But just who are they cheating with? In actual fact the statistics for women cheating is approaching that of men. This is not a new phenomena, it is just that more recently women are more open about just what they are doing. In a few years I expect that we will see the rate of infidelity approach 20%/per year for both sexes. And the real number for children conceived and unknowingly raised by the non-biological spouse (paternity fraud) is 10%-20% ranging from a low of 3% in affluent neighbourhoods to 30% in poor neighbourhoods.

[Sky-OParticipant 18949]

Monogamy as a concept and ideal is not practical as long as women:

Are able to have alternate options on hold at all times while in a ‘monogamous’ relationship with their primary partner.

Have the ability to be deceptive and manipulative enough to bang other guys and not get caught most of the time when in a ‘monogamous’ relationship with their primary partner.

Lack the ability to ever be happy with what they have and value the relationship they are in with a primary partner.

Are allowed to go through life without any accountability for their actions and engage in hypergamy, any chance they get.

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Now with that being said. Monogamy might be possible if a woman was trapped on a desert island and she realized that there was no possibility of being rescued and there was only one other person on the island and it was a guy. At that point and due to the logistics and nature of her circumstances, it is possible that she could be monogamous. But in an attempt to seek out new and exciting dicks and while lacking the ability to actually construct a decent boat, she would tie a bunch of tree stumps together with a makeshift sail and take off in search of new dicks only to be stranded at sea. Still possible though. I mean if there was only one guy left on the planet, and the last remaining woman met him, it could be argued that there is a reasonable amount of certainty that she could remain monogamous.

[Sky-OParticipant 18949]

And to continue. . . . .

Monogamy is totally possible for any woman that:

01: While in a relationship, gets in an accident and winds up in a coma. At that point, the chances of her cheating are about 0%

02; Is a paraplegic and physically lacks the ability to cheat on her primary partner and find new dicks.

03: For some medical reason, had to have her vagina surgically removed. Although she would at that point probably transition to cheating via anal and blow jobs.

But assuming no medical issues, not being in a coma and having a vagina. A woman, when conscious of the fact that alternate options exist and that she can secure them (new dick) without too much effort, will in fact the majority of the time cheat. And with little or no remorse for her actions.

At this point, the evidence has proven that it’s in their bio-chemistry, neuro-transmitters, emotional blueprint and psychological foundation.

[AncientwisdomParticipant 6089]

Darth Sin Or is it achievable but extremely difficult in current circumstances ?

Fantastic topic. My thoughts on the matter are in part what makes me think modern relationships are dead, and one reason why I dont trust women today.

When circumstances in society are such that girls simply right or left swipe on their phones and have literally HUNDREDS of c~~~s being thrown at them via text pics a la tinder, let alone in person, men are CLEARLY at a disadvantage for a monogomous relationship. Its simple supply and demand. Women have a MUCH, MUCH higher supply of willing c~~~. A below average girl can easily bed an extremely attractive man, even if for one night only. While an attractive man still has to put in a certain amount of effort to get laid; and even then: one wrong move, or one situation which evokes the wrong emotion from the ever changing flowing of emotions known as a “female”, will kill the deal. Thats why theyre compared to cats: you pet (or compliment) them the wrong way and theyll SNEER all their teeth at you.

KM

She actually WANTS to be able to have ” a boyfriend” and f~~~ other men. I don’t even GET that.

I completely agree and have NEVER understood this. Its as though women think of men as shoes: they want a variety to suit their whims daily. But men arent shoes. Imagine being a chick and when you have sex your letting some guy INSIDE of your body. One would think theyd want as few partners as possible. Their risks are greater than mens: higher chances of STDs, they can get pregnant etc.

Resident cynic.

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