Hello all! My name is Mike and I’m 32.
I had my full awakening early this spring. It wasn’t so much one particular experience as it was a collection of experiences adding up. Over the past 8 years I’ve met and had at least one date with what I would estimate is somewhere around 50 women. Out of that group I would say I slept with at least 40 of them, had multiple dates/sexual sessions with 15-20, and a serious relationship with only 2. I eventually cheated on both of them in frustrated response to their treatment of me. One was sexually anorexic and the other thought she could change me and attempted to very often. So to sum up I’ve essentially never had a happy relationship.
My frustration over my lack of long-term success with women was a topic of conversation fairly often among my male friends and I. It was frequently mentioned to me that the reason women lost attraction for me was because I took on too much of a feminine energy in my relationships (focusing on pleasing and attending to needs) and that not only was that the wrong way to attract women but that the women I dated were complete bitches who didn’t deserve it anyway. For a long time I shrugged these ideas off. In hindsight I can see that I was a NAWALT/bluepill/white knight. I believe that type of personality in relationships was cultivated by tv/movies, being raised by a single mother, and having a low self-esteem that manifested itself in insecure behavior.
When a girl I really liked broke it off with me in May after 4 dates I really started to do some examining. Einstein said the definition of insanity was to continue to do the same thing and expect different results. Upon my inner reflection and polling of various friends I came to accept that the way I behaved was a turn-off to women. More importantly however was my realization that the effort/correct behavior that does attract women was NOT WORTH IT. Looking at it in terms of investment there simply is nowhere near enough return on my sacrifice of time, money, and emotional happiness.
My new stance as it relates to women is to put absolutely no effort into dating/relationships. If someday somewhere down the line a woman happens to meet me and proves over a LONG time that she’s a worthy partner we’ll see but I give the odds of that at 10 billion-to-1. In the meanwhile I focus on my priorities (work, financial budgeting, getting in better shape for my health) and things I enjoy (sports, spending time with my friends). When I get really horny and need a release I may decide to meet a woman but with the self-imposed rules of I won’t pay for anything we do, I’ll only meet them at night, I will give none of myself to them emotionally while acting selfish and disinterested, and will not meet them a third time if we don’t have sex by the second time. After I’ve satisfied my sexual desires I’ll break things off.
It feels so incredibly freeing to go about my life in pursuit of my own happiness with not a single f~~~ given to what women think. I’ve already noticed an uptick in energy, production at work, and overall lack of stress. I look forward to being a part of this group as we all work to support each other in the quest to GO OUR OWN WAY,
Thank you for reading.
George 4 years, 4 months ago.
