Introducing myself; hey everybody!

[guyincramponsParticipant 20]

What an amazing website to stumble upon! Since I am all too familiar with the issues reported and discussed here I might as well introduce myself and hear your opinions which I already value.

So I’m 26, finding this place after going through a roller-coaster of relationship weirdness.
To tell you the truth, I’m not depressed, sad, losing hope in humanity or feeling anger towards anyone, esp. the opposite sex.
There are just things I understand, and things that I don’t. To put it more precisely, there might be things I’ll never understand.
As far as relationships go, I am that kind of a guy who projects a bunch of love and care. It’s my nature, and that state of being brought me more good feelings (hey, we’re all egoistic, right?) than bad ones. One would call me an “honestly good person”, that guy you can call at 2am and he won’t shout at you.

Not considering youth and short-terms, my first major LTR ended abruptly with a text, informing me that I was cheated on. Nice, but a text? Told her maybe we’ll stay friends, few hours later blocked her on all channels. There are red lines obviously. Thought to myself – whatever, need to move on. I did. Second major LTR was again in a form of a text (few days before it was all “I love you” etc) saying that she changed her mind all of a sudden, now I got blocked on all channels. [What’s up with the texting?] No explanation received either.

That hit me, gotta be honest. It hit me because I didn’t get it. Couldn’t grasp it, how can a person be this way at all? I mean jesus, there must be something wrong. It brought me back to the first case, trying to find correlation, a pattern. Still couldn’t grasp it. Months upon months of loving, caring, talks about commitment, marriage for christ’s sake. I was ready… “I changed my mind” – but not ready for that. Fortunately, I’m into sports (I climb mountains) and I quickly converted the spare time I used to invest into her, back into a new training routine which effectively took my mind off things as time passed by. Having a “thicker skin” than usual, I guess I found my way of dealing with it all.

I thought to myself, maybe I should turn into an asshole for them, stop being that “good guy” who honestly cares? No. I’m not changing my nature for anyone, let alone disrespectful and unappreciative people. Better be alone, but myself. Maybe it’s my lifestyle which taught me how to deal with things mentally, especially dealing with them solo, so I acted upon what I told myself. It’s great to read info on this website which, I guess, support this mindset. Took a while to let it sink though, it’s always like that.

Few months have passed, meeting another one. Hell, I gave it a go. I have the mental strength. More importantly – I’m curious. You can already guess if a pattern all too familiar started to appear in the following months. The feeling of an unbalanced relationship immediately switched on a red light from the start, there will be no commitment here at all. The ever-reoccurring “tests of expectations”, god forbid my answer to a little question doesn’t sit right with a set of expectations only well-defined by her (and I doubt that)… consider months of my love and care ignored because I answered “wrong”. Wow, if there are mindsets beyond my grasp…

I’m still meeting with her, which is fun when it’s fun, but now as years have passed by I know that my good nature will probably be answered with more unexplained “changes in mind”, “tests of expectations” and other dramatic mumbo-jumbo, which honestly nowadays I simply don’t have time for . Anyway I kind of accept that, as I won’t change, why should I?
I’m optimistic though, I still engage in contact, trying to satisfy my curiosity whether simple decency, honesty, respect and integrity are indeed such rare commodities, or maybe I was as they call it “unlucky”. Whatever, planning to do the 7 summits in the meanwhile and won’t let ’em stop me, it’s expensive enough without buying dinners and gifts.

So thanks for reading yet another true story if you’ve read thus far, maybe you relate to it and thanks for all your contributions which I read as part of my little and everlasting side-quest of gaining deeper understanding
At this point I must say sorry in advance for my English, it’s not my native tongue, but please do correct me, I honestly would appreciate that.

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[Blue SkiesParticipant 15665]

welcome brotha! i’m glad you found the path to freedom.

guyincrampons wrote:

One would call me an “honestly good person”, that guy you can call at 2am and he won’t shout at you.

when a women asks, where have all the good men gone, i would point them towards you……haha
but not anymore, cuz you’ve turned MGTOW. congrats.

MGTOW is not a movement, it is a way of life.

[guyincramponsParticipant 20]

$$$ Saver, awesome man, thanks for the reply and awesome logo, totally support it!

[OrlandoParticipant 833]

The 7 summits! That’s a huge undertaking, but imagine the experiences when you’re done.

Welcome.

[Anonymous 26]

Welcome aboard Guyincrampons…..

Sounds like you got your head screwed on right brother, bet when your climbing I bet that that’s where your soul feels the freest!

I’ve mentioned this already in a few other welcoming posts, but again…. it never fails to floor me how the difference in members here in age and demographics…. so many of us have walked common paths with the same kinds of results and destination.

Keep climbing…. your mountain tops will be your victories!

[UntamedParticipant]

Nice intro, guyincrampons. Good read, and your English is more than okay. I didn’t even realize I was reading something from a non-English speaker.
Congratulations on going mgtow and realizing there’s nothing wrong with you besides the fact that you gave your best to individuals who didn’t deserve your goodness. Unfortunately I’ll have to say very few women deserve a man’s goodness and breaking up with text is beyond cowardice, it’s insulting.
Another bright fellow who understands the music.
Welcome to MGTOW.com, brother!

Don't let them Blame, Shame or Tame you!
Give 'em NOTHING, not even an answer!
#GenderSegragationNow!

[Silverstone the SecondParticipant]

Welcome man. Nice to know you can stay upbeat after all of this, it’s a shame such genuinely good people are treated the way they are. Welcome!

Feminism is a movement where opinions are presented as facts and emotions are presented as evidence.

[BubParticipant 1406]

“tests of expectations” What a pleasant way to say “s~~~ test”. I loved it!

Welcome aboard. its good here, plenty of help digesting the red pill available.

Just rolling down the road

[guyincramponsParticipant 20]

Thank you all for the warm words, you’re awesome and keep the positive spirits up, it’s great!

Orlando, indeed! I climbed in different parts of the world before besides that. But the 7 – – It’s one of those life-long journeys and being free from the burdens of “gray-scheduled” life might be the key to accomolish that.

Of course, for everyone the mountains they climb in life take a different form, and for each it’s a personal journey.

[RoyDalParticipant]

Welcome!

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Anonymous 42]

Welcome g-pons, nothing’s better for your strength than climbing, who needs weights when you’re already a weight? Funny thing today, I climbed to my ridge line (few hundred feet) the weather was spectacular and visibility was 100%. It only took 45 minutes! Normally this time of year it’s covered in several feet of snow! It was nice, no foliage, no snow, making it almost effortless.
Anyway, welcome to the mantronium smelter, here’s where you’ll find massive quantities of weapons grade Ma 240.

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

Welcome.

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

[WallyParticipant]

Welcome! Looking forward to reading about your 7 summits undertaking.

"what a waste of a life, to marry, give up your freedom, just for the hope of not dying alone. Don't get married Son."

[Anonymous 0]

Welcome Brother,
This is a fun bunch. I think we can all relate to being too nice to women that don’t deserve it.

[MattNYCParticipant 2329]

Hey g’pons – welcome aboard!

Great to hear about your 7 summits – i think you’re the first MGHOW that i’ve heard taking that on – a huge task! How long does something like that take – as in, how much time do you have to spend training before/between each peak? And do you have a full-time job that you’ll be doing at the same time?

Unfortunately many of us have had experiences like yours – being completely blindsided & confused by womens’ behavior. On the other hand – if it brought you to the MGTOW path ***before*** you got financial destroyed by marriage/alimony/child support – that’s a very very very good thing! More money for crampons lol.

Oh, and your English is excellent. Where did you learn? I assume it must have been from a young age in school or with tutors?

[guyincramponsParticipant 20]

Great to read your replies guys!

MG-ɹǝʍo┴, awesome! One of the better reason to climb is for the spectacular view, and those who know how to enjoy that are great in my books.

MattNYC, this might be a bit too detailed but since you asked: every peak and approach is different, as in it has to be tackled as a project, and takes preparation in several aspects: physical, and even more, mental, strength and endurance; then there is gear and the technical aspect of operating it under s~~~ty conditions; another bit is oxygen -when you go high enough VO2 must be taken into account (maximizing it with interval training, for example). Currently I’m several months into training which consists of 8 aerobic 45-min sessions per week (running, cycling etc) plus 4 1-hr long weight sessions per week in the gym. That means I’m pretty much occupied for 5-6 days with that. Training for Aconcagua, Elbrus and Kazbek now, almost 5 months into it. The most important training is of course climbing and hiking, nothing will replace that, so if you’re doing this regularly (say once a year/0.5 yr), you always find yourself training in-between. If you’re out of shape and have never done this before, you should first tackle a non-technical 5k-er or a 6k-er, that is after several months of good training and diet. My point of measure as far as endurance goes is to be at least in good half-marathon shape cardio-wise as a starting point to build upon.
I am an Engineer by trade, so financing comes from that, nothing fancy – so it takes a long time to get the gear, which is expensive, not considering flights and expedition costs. I live modestly in a tiny apartment which I rent, I don’t own a car and cook my own food. That helps and I don’t need more. Anyway now at least I know exactly where to focus my financing and time (i.e not dinners and hotels!).
My English mainly comes from TV actually and reading.

[Anonymous 42]

You must be a steel chimpanzee! I like climbing but not like that! I’ll admit that when I get off a skilift, I’m the guy looking for the footpath to higher terrine and backcountry skiing. When I know the mountain I ditch under the outerlimits ropes for the real ACTION! Sings like Avalanche control area never stop me, only the avalanche!
As far as climbing, I have skin rubbed off on everything in the Green mnts. of Vermont!
Please don’t become one of those frozen fish dinners on the side of some route to the summit! Those kind of mnts. are as cold and lifeless as cryogenic storage!
I’d say take a wing suite with you for a fast effortless decent, but I know the air is to thin to support flight, you’d only be a bombhole at the bottom of your launch cliff!
I admire you….

[MattNYCParticipant 2329]

Thanks man – that’s some good info! I never knew much about mountainclimbing – i think the closest i’ve ever come is those rock-wall gyms. 🙂

But that sounds like a great fitness goal – especially when you say you ***start*** at half-marathon fitness levels & work your way up. Holy s~~~! Putting that much time & energy in to yourself, in to your passions & achievements is what we’re all about.

Welcome brother!

…oh and i almost forgot. +1 to you for your English skills. How you managed that from reading & TV i don’t know – i’ve always heard that English is one of the hardest languages to learn for non-native speakers. Well done!

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