Intro and Hello from a UK Chap

[AufladenParticipant 105]

So….I’ve been lurking on the forums for quite a while now, and decided to finally write an introduction.

I’m 37, from the UK. Never married, no children. So I guess I’m to be counted amongst the fortunate few. I have had a couple of relationships, the second of which lasted around 6 years. More on which later. I came across MGTOW a few years ago, and joined the forum around February time this year. In this time I’ve devoured many a youtube video from the likes of Stardusk and Spetsnaz and come to rely on this site for my daily dose of red pills.

I was a painfully shy kid, and grew into a pretty introverted, quiet adult. Looking back, I think I always realised I felt a little differently than most people around me. Like I didn’t fit in somehow (which I now know is possibly the best route to be taking, my own). I saw my mother and father’s relationship as highly volatile and prone to bursts of emotion and rage, and vowed I would never be that way when I grew up. I had my own passions and interests, and furthered them as I grew older. Of course, biology and hormones factored into things, but due to my reticent nature, looks, lack of bravado, whatever, female attention was a non-starter. This continued through my late teens and early twenties, by which time I started to have the odd encounter with the opposite sex. With my now slightly comical awkwardness putting the brakes on anything of any consequence happening.

Here’s where I think I must’ve taken my eye off the MGTOW ball, per se. Yes, this was way before Going My Own Way was even conceived of in my mind. I now know that I had been living the right way throughout my twenties, but, in hindsight, needed to be burned by the fires of hypergamy to fully realise my own potential, and how it could all be flushed down the toilet with one or two simple errors in judgement.

I may expand on my relationship experiences at a later time, but to keep the length of this intro down…..first real girlfriend at 29, blue pill to the max, was basically taken for a gigantic ride. Second girlfriend was the long term one. My unicorn. All was really good for a long while, till the cracks began to appear. Helped her through very tough times, to the extent of carrying out DIY and renovations while we were strictly ‘on a break’. Was eventually cast aside late last year when a better gravy train had been thoroughly tested and approved to replace me. Said it ‘just happened’, in direct contradiction to things that had been said before. I swallowed it all like a good little blue pill boy.

I’m not going to lie. The lessons hurt. Hurt more than any other pain I have experienced. But I know now that I had to be pushed against these barriers, and break through them myself to fully comprehend what life can be. That there is no meaning to it all, other than the meaning you create for yourself. I still struggle. Every day. Though most of the time manage just fine. I keep thinking to myself that I see a new world opening up before me, trying to refocus myself with a new world view, and all the questions I have to face. The lies we’ve all been told, years and years of indoctrination and ‘nuturing’, only to find the cesspit at the end of the rainbow.

It got dark for a while, and occasionally I can feel myself slipping back into the darkness now and then. I try to remind myself that this is natural, and a part of trying to move forward. Like climbing a mountain, to reach that peak and look over your own personal heaven. You have to move a few rocks along the way to find the right path. Suicide was a companion for a while, the eerie feeling of calmness that comes with having it by your side, when all else has gone to s~~~. I have come out of that frame of mind for now, and continue to work on myself, be selfish, and cut myself some slack too.

I hope to add to this intro as time goes on, a little bit more of my own journey.

For now, I would just like to extend a massive thankyou to my MGTOW brothers from afar. You truly won’t know how much you have helped me over the last months. Reading your posts and thoughts has been of immeasurable benefit to me and I do really hope to repay the favour and contribute in some small way myself. In my opinion, there is nothing better than your own story resonating with another person, moving them in some untold way to better themselves. None of this having to be said, just knowing brothers will look out for one another. I know when I’m having a hard day, I can come here and refocus my energy and clear out any blue-pill thoughts still trying to worm their way back into my thinking.

Thankyou again.

'You can achieve more and be happy avoiding the wrong women than you ever could searching for the right woman.' - KM

[MutineerParticipant 1467]

Epic introduction. Welcome home brother.

"The secret to happiness is freedom... And the secret to freedom is courage." - Thucydides

[joetechParticipant]

Welcome to the club. Kick back, have a beer, and enjoy!

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[BlacqueJacqueShellacqueParticipant 6890]

Welcome Aufladen. These forums have done wonders for my mental health. Things here are discussed at length and if ‘yer wondering, ask a question. This is a gathering of like minded men. You’ve come to your own conclusions, so have each of us. We just happen to agree on many things. Why should we not gather?

Because we are a game changer.

The suicide stuff. I’ve lost two people in my life due to this. A third one I once dated was a girl who was ‘a cutter’, a self harmer. You can’t fix this. You can fix yourself. Always reach out brother. There are men you have never met who care about you.

Post your stuff, share your stuff. You never know who you are going to help.

Peace be with you. Welcome to the forums.

[Greg HondaParticipant 6406]

Welcome,

Yet another fellow Brit. You have to be from here to understand how it all works.

It's Time to get Wise

[WinterhandParticipant 53]

Welcome Aufladen,

Greg Honda wrote:

Yet another fellow Brit

Yep, it’s nice to see us Brits are joining in numbers and are doing our share to make the world a better place…mind you we have been to war with most of it too!.

Winter.

[black_knightParticipant 2602]

Another Brit here mate!

Never married, no children, same age, and introverted too! Looks as if we’ve both trod the same path!

Welcome mate!

[MutineerParticipant 1467]

Greg Honda wrote:

Welcome,

Yet another fellow Brit. You have to be from here to understand how it all works.

Me n’all.

"The secret to happiness is freedom... And the secret to freedom is courage." - Thucydides

[clint englandParticipant 341]

Welcome Bud.

Same age group here too, never married, no kids. UK born and bred.

As said before, kick back my son. You have arrived!!

[Y_Participant 4591]

Welcome. You are one of the fortunate few.
However it is nature that demands we get burnt before the lessons sink in. Biology is a hard nut but it can be cracked.

You talked about the darkness. That is one of the areas you need to be careful of. It comes and goes. But it helps a lot to have friends around or to visit this site. Try not to be alone during these episodes. They are not nice.

Have a great time in the forums.

[Anonymous 0]

Welcome home, Auflauden
Beer’s in the fridge

[Anonymous 25]

Welcome

it’s always good to see fellow brits join. we’re getting quite a few men from UK join recently, looks like we’re undergoing a mgtow brexit too. last one out, please turn out the lights

[Red KnightParticipant 720]

I’m not going to lie. The lessons hurt. Hurt more than any other pain I have experienced. But I know now that I had to be pushed against these barriers, and break through them myself to fully comprehend what life can be. That there is no meaning to it all, other than the meaning you create for yourself. I still struggle. Every day. Though most of the time manage just fine. I keep thinking to myself that I see a new world opening up before me, trying to refocus myself with a new world view, and all the questions I have to face. The lies we’ve all been told, years and years of indoctrination and ‘nuturing’, only to find the cesspit at the end of the rainbow.

It got dark for a while, and occasionally I can feel myself slipping back into the darkness now and then. I try to remind myself that this is natural, and a part of trying to move forward. Like climbing a mountain, to reach that peak and look over your own personal heaven. You have to move a few rocks along the way to find the right path. Suicide was a companion for a while, the eerie feeling of calmness that comes with having it by your side, when all else has gone to s~~~. I have come out of that frame of mind for now, and continue to work on myself, be selfish, and cut myself some slack too.

Damn, this is quality stuff here. Welcome aboard, man. Don’t ever give up the fight.

Formerly MoneyOverBitches

[AufladenParticipant 105]

Thanks so much for the warm welcomes guys. This site and all of you have become a big part of my life and moving forward in the last few months. I hope to contribute as much as I can!

'You can achieve more and be happy avoiding the wrong women than you ever could searching for the right woman.' - KM

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

Welcome to the fold

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[Anonymous 1]

Welcome, Brother. Glad to know that you didn’t follow that suicide path. You’ll be surprised of how much you’ll be winning in the end.

[AttonParticipant]

Welcome to the dark side Aufladen

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[Y_Participant 4591]

Aufladen wrote:

Thanks so much for the warm welcomes guys. This site and all of you have become a big part of my life and moving forward in the last few months. I hope to contribute as much as I can!

Do not force yourself into anything bro or try too hard.
You are your own man and have nothing to prove to anyone.
Do what you feel comfortable with and no pressure.

MGTOW will always be here.

Peace.

[AufladenParticipant 105]

Thanks for the further welcomes and words of wisdom. Much appreciated.

'You can achieve more and be happy avoiding the wrong women than you ever could searching for the right woman.' - KM

[CurmudgeonParticipant 64]

Welcome Aufladen! I went through my own personal hell 20 years ago (like you… in my 30’s) with divorce/child custody/child extortion payments which lasted a decade.That decade was the most challenging part of my life. I remember thinking it would be easier to end the pain and take out a few individuals contributing to my pain. However, it is too permanent of a solution either ending in prison or death. NO THANKS…The years go by and I see the challenges as a Spiritual battle within.

Aufladen wrote:

The lies we’ve all been told, years and years of indoctrination and ‘nuturing’, only to find the cesspit at the end of the rainbow.

I familiar with hitting bottom and having to rebuild everything. Dreams and ideals I strived to achieve were like a mirage or illusion. I have solitude and am able to reflect on the more important things in what remains of life. I am grateful to be alive and to express Love to the Creator within myself. It was hard to see the beautiful forrest when making your way out of the trees…so to speak. Enjoy the forums and your fellow MGTOW brothers! God bless

No Bills No Boss No Bitch

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