Instant s~~~ test

[SpacemonkeyParticipant 1481]

I went out for lunch with a female friend of mine last weekend, she is just about the only female friend I have as I dumped the rest of them because they were all take and no give. We meet up maybe a couple of times a month, chew the fat and so on. There is certainly no sexual attraction from my side and I believe it is mutual. She just has interesting points of view about some things.

Well, last Saturday she texted me to see if I wanted to meet up as she was going out with some people from a social club she goes to. She failed to mention they were all post wall hags. So I arrive and there is my friend, “A” with the 3 witches form Macbeth, double double toil and trouble! I greet my friend, she introduces me to the others whom I greet politely then make to sit next to “A”. “Oh, no!” The witches say in unison “Come sit at this end of the table where we can see you” S~~~ TEST ALERT!!! I’m momentarily stunned and lost for words, I had been there less than 60 seconds and these c~~~s were already s~~~ testing me! My mind goes into overdrive thinking of an answer more polite than “F~~~ off, you witch” when one of them pipes up “Oh, look. He is obviously uncomfortable with that idea. Let him sit next to his comfort cushion” SHAMING LANGUAGE ALERT!!!

F~~~ me! I had been s~~~ tested and shamed for failing to comply within seconds of meeting these 3 complete strangers. They then preened and pouted for the next half hour as if I would be in the slightest bit interested in them, until another friend of theirs arrived with a homo in tow and then they went into full on f~~ hag mode.

What a f~~~ing nightmare.

“Long is the way and hard, that out of Hell leads up to light.”

[NEVERGELParticipant 166]

My condolences Spacemonkey; talk about an ambush! Was your friend setting you up or was she saying “this is your alternative to me”? Just curious…

I live the life I love and I love the life I live.

[HitmanParticipant]

It’s instinctual in them..they can’t even help it.not excusing their behavior at all . Just that they are acting in the only way they know, f~~~ them! Tell your friend not to include you when they are around. Funny how when the gay guy shows up they go into f~~ hag mode..dumb f~~~ing c~~~s.

[SpacemonkeyParticipant 1481]

NEVERGEL wrote:

My condolences Spacemonkey; talk about an ambush! Was your friend setting you up or was she saying “this is your alternative to me”? Just curious…

I don’t think she was doing either, maybe there was a back story of getting me out and meeting people but I don’t think she was trying to set me up as such. At least two of the witches were married, not that the fact meant much to one of them as she repeatedly said her husband was away and how happy she was to be alone in the house. Proper mutton dressed as lamb old crone, might have been moderately attractive 30 some years ago but she had hit the wall hard and still had chunks of it sticking out of her face.

“Long is the way and hard, that out of Hell leads up to light.”

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

Just keep talking to their t~~~ next time. No eye contact.

If you can slip in fiddling with yourself … all the better ?

Also next meeting find a couple of homeless guys and bring them for lunch …. oh .. and invite your friend for a chat.

Make sure she sits with them.

[Mr. SpockParticipant 10910]

Sounds like the three witches were looking for a new source to exploit.

Feminism isn't about equality with men, it's about leverage over men.

[QuietlyquietlyParticipant 728]

Yeah, it’s tough that we need to be on full alert all the time when we’re in the presence of females, even if weren’t not even f~~~ing interested in them!

I’m trying to spot shaming language, controlling, s~~~ tests, the whole gamut, the instant that they occur, and calling them out on it. I’m not totally there yet, but it’s fun not buying into it all any more. Actually, slash that, I’m pretty darn good at spotting them, I’m just changing the way I respond to them, from being jokey-hang-it-back-on-the-controller, to slicing through it with a razor, and calling them out.

I guess the difference is (using the original post):

“Come sit at this end of the table where we can see you”
[me] “Clearly you guys can’t wait to get me naked”

to

“Come sit at this end of the table where we can see you”
[me] “Stop being controlling, you’re not my moms.”

[experiencedParticipant]

This situation offers you insight into the true nature of “your friend.” Take it.

Allow the subject of them to come up in the future, with you doing all of the listening and none of the talking.

Birds of a feather flock together;the wrong gal pals is key.

If her nature significantly differs from theirs, wouldn’t she have forewarned you?
Forewarned is forearmed and she chose to not have you ready?

Pardon my exploring feelings here, but how did you feel afterwards:
A) confident and self assured
B) not so great
C) not so great and I’m going to rationalize for them. By the way – she gets to be in the ‘them’ grouping here.

For the love of self preservation, do not chose “C”

LAYDEEZ slowly whittle all of us into a eunuchs, if we allow them to.
Their repeated tactic is to have you chose between shaving off 1/10,000 of your self respect, or if you counter them, they are totally devastated. AND THEY KNOW THIS!
They bank on men to swallow just a teaspoon of their bulls~~~ as a moral decision vs. having them drown in it. BUT WHO CREATED THAT SET UP?
When they paint you into a corner, call them out on their s~~~.
Ask them “who do you think you are?”
“Where did you get the idea to treat anyone this way?”
“WTF were you thinking inviting me to this hag convention?”.
Stand up, look each in the eye, say,”ladies this has been most memorable” and leave.
Let them ask themselves ‘why’ when you don’t return.
Another option is see the maître de on the way out and pay for yours/yours and hers/the whole check.
I’ve made all the same mistakes – hopefully this’ll help you to learn quicker than I did.
You are their prisoner only if you consent to it.
You are their whittle stick only if you consent to it.
Look at the whole set up for what it is.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[NEVERGELParticipant 166]

Here’s a great quote to use if you ever find yourself in this situation again:

I live the life I love and I love the life I live.

[NEVERGELParticipant 166]

Oops! My quote didn’t post…
From Breaking Bad, Mike Ehrmantraut: “You know how they say it’s been a pleasure, well it hasn’t!”

I live the life I love and I love the life I live.

[Anonymous 5]

What a bunch of f~~~ing witch c~~~s!

[uchibenkeiParticipant 7965]

text a friend to call you. answer that call and fake an emergency.

I bathe in the tears of single moms.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Spacemonkey wrote:

My mind goes into overdrive thinking of an answer more polite than “F~~~ off, you witch”

You need to understand that there is no need for courtesy to any women who try s~~~ like this. Quite the opposite. “F~~~ off, you witch!” was probably one of the best things you could have said.

Now me, I probably would have handled it like this:

: “Come sit at this end of the table where we can see you”
: “But I don’t want to look at you.”

Shuts them down instantly.

[Silverstone the SecondParticipant]

Love how entitled these c~~~s are. So demanding to a complete f~~~ing stranger, ordering you around and shaming you within minutes of meeting you. F~~~ing pathetic. I’d definately give your female friend the cold shoulder. F~~~ being led into an ambush like that.

Also, funny how they give you a s~~~ test like they even have a shot with you, to see if YOU are worthy of THEM. Ha, you should be s~~~ testing them! I feel you on that, man. I’d dump your female friend like the others, especially for doing that to you.

Feminism is a movement where opinions are presented as facts and emotions are presented as evidence.

[experiencedParticipant]

Nowadays it’s like you have to be willing to walk, before you even get there.
Sad state of affairs.

Instant s~~~ test = instant no respect = instant walk.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

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