I'm new! Hello everybody!

[BarbariskaPParticipant 2]

Hello everyone! I found MGTOW via Youtube but I have been interested by the no fap movement and avoiding porn (if that’s a movement, I think it is). I am here to basically write and read others experiences. I am single, 25 and soon (in 7 months) done with university studies. Unfortunately I have realized that what I’ve studied to become is not something I want to work with. But hey, I find it better to finish what I start than dropping off so i’m gonna do that and then see which path life is leading me. I don’t exactly know what I want to do with my life career wise, but I do know what I don’t want.
Everyone I know would most probably look down on MGTOW because to them we all are supposed to do x, then y, then z. So I can’t really sell the idea of being free to them. They wouldn’t understand it. Being around them is nice in a way but can get depressing since it feels like i’m loosing control of my life. That’s why i’m seeking other channels (like this one) so that I know i’m not alone with these feelings.  Besides I don’t really have close friends since I have lost contact with all of my old friends. But I guess that’s because we all choose different directions after highschool.

anyway, glad to be here!
cheers

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

Hi and welcome aboard.

I get the message behind the “no porn” thing… that it creates unrealistic expectations and reduces a man’s ability to appreciate and enjoy the kind of women who actually will have sex with him… in much the same way that chasing after gay men does for women, one would imagine. I don’t, however, have an issue with masturbation.

To be honest, sometimes you just need to get the poison out so you can think clearly and treat women without bias. Imagine going to a grocery store hungry versus after a solid meal… your shopping behavior will be dramatically different. On empty you’ll fill your basket with whatever sparkly crap looks good at the moment but on a full stomach you’ll plan and make choices about what is healthy and will stay fresh in your refrigerator long enough to be worth purchasing.

For me, fapping has the same effect. If I go out socializing when I’m horny, I’m much more likely to succumb to female trickery and to make bad decisions in the hopes of getting that need fulfilled. But take five minutes to crank one out before leaving the house and I see those fake t~~~, made up faces and teasing flirts for what they are… then look past them to see the real woman underneath.

Jerking off doesn’t make your any less of a man and if you’re smart about it (and use your own imagination instead of toxic porn) then it can help you maintain a healthy attitude and perspective when it comes to approaching real women.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Hello Sir / BarbariskaP . Welcome to MGTOW and we are equally happy to have you here!

Yeah I heard about this (no fap movement) around last year – men making a conscious effort to ease back on porn. I heard about it through a PUA channel, where it serves as an incentive to crush some real ass instead of a quick solo nut. Personally Im rather indifferent about it. Whatever helps a man deal with “the haze of orgasm” I suppose, but I’m also intrigued.

I don’t exactly know what I want to do with my life career wise

As Baz Luhrman once put it… “that’s ok. Some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know STILL don’t”.

At 25 you haven’t even begun to conceptualize your potential. (Difficult to say without sounding condescending) but I mean to say you have NO IDEA HOW MUCH you have to look forward to. Best of luck and good fortune, and we hope to read more from you.\

Cheers, and enjoy the rest of your long weekend.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[TyberiusParticipant 25]

For me, fapping has the same effect. If I go out socializing when I’m horny, I’m much more likely to succumb to female trickery and to make bad decisions in the hopes of getting that need fulfilled.

Everything docfenders said is true and the best advise. Before any date I will jerk off and have done it for years. My friend taught me that long before any no fap movement. It really changes your behavior to i don’t give a f~~~. I am sure girls can smell desperation and they will use trickery whenever they can. Nutting before hand puts you in the drivers seat and you see her clearly.

Welcome BarbariskaP thanks for the topic.

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