I'm leaving her for a love doll

[Chucks_RevengeParticipant 216]

I’m a 56 year old man in his 3rd “marriage”. I put “marriage” in parenthesis because, although we had a ceremony for her and her families benefit, I never signed a damned thing (I’m not that stupid) and Washington state doesn’t recognize common law marriage.

We’ve been together for almost 14 years.  I was never really attracted to her in the first place. But I was downloading a lot of porn and so I needed someone who could fix my computer for me. I was getting a lot of viruses. I guess what I really needed was a good software program but I didn’t know that at the time. I enjoyed spend time with her most of the time. We had fun together. But she was definitely not what I was looking for in a relationship.

My first 2 marriages left me financially crippled. So I was living with some room mates and it really sucked. I just needed a better situation. So when she invited me to live with her I accepted. I figured it would be very short term. But in all this time we’ve never really had any arguments. I mean we’ve been p~~~ed at each other from time to time. She started gambling and required me to bail her out. And there was the time I brought a sexy young Asian girl home with me because her boyfriend had kicked her out. My “wife” is bi so I thought we could have some fun with her. We had a few 3 somes before I moved in with her. But my “wife” felt threatened this time so I ended up giving the Asian to my best friend to enjoy. Which he did. But In 14 years I don’t think I’ve had to do more than talk sternly to my “wife”. I can’t think of a time we ever yelled at each other. There were times I wanted to dump her. But it never got so bad that I wanted to pack all my s~~~ and actually go. So, slowly and without any real passion, the years ticked by.

About 3 years ago, after she was “emotionally distraught” that I still was being cheap with her after she had given me 10 years of her life and it being christmas time, I asked her if she wanted to get married. She agreed. Fortunately we decided not to make it a technically legal marriage. We had a ceremony in the park with family and friends. But, again, I never signed the documents and Washington state doesn’t recognize common law marriage.

Shortly thereafter I inherited enough money to buy a nice house, a decent car for her and another for myself, and some extras. And shortly after that I had an injury that resulted in me getting SSI. A year ago she told me that she was no longer physically able to do her job. So she quit and applied for benefits. It will probably be about another year before she gets a final determination. I told her then that she should not expect me to pay for her forever in the event that she gets turned down. And, having enough room, we took in a few renters to help with expenses.

Since a year ago the relationship has gotten more stale than ever. She hangs in the bedroom while I spend nearly all my time in my home office. And what was maybe a 60/40 relationship has turned into more of a 90/10. I keep a roof over her head and pay her minor expenses. She has a trickle of money coming in so she chips in for food, her car insurance, and a half a tank of gas.

We’ve had sex 3 times in the last 3 years. Partly because of my injury. But mostly because she’s such a lousy lay that its about as exciting for me as taking out the trash. She rarely cooks anything. Maybe once a week. And getting her to pick up after herself is next to impossible. She whines and complains constantly. Mostly about our renters who wouldn’t be here if she was holding up her half of the expenses. Occasionally she still helps when I have a problem with the computer. But that’s pretty rare. Last week I told her that my therapist had pointed out that if anything happens to me over the next 3 years then the house reverts to the trust fund and she will be out on her ass. So she had best become more involved with my diabetes and making sure that I eat right. My wife snapped that my therapist and I were just trying to lay a guilt trip on her. Completely missing the point!

All in all she does as little as she possibly can for me. Yet for some reason I still do whatever I can to make her life pleasant. I bought her a swimming pool even though I wanted a hot tub instead. I bought her a 55″ TV that she wore out in a year because she never turned it off even when she left the house. Then she insisted that I pay to get it fixed. I told her she’d have to wait so she insisted on moving the big screen projector into the bedroom and had a fit when I told her I wasn’t going to let her wear that out too. Still no raised voices though. Just a lot of whining on her part.

Then a couple of weeks ago she told me that  she was “feeling stressed” by some of the problems with our renters and me not fixing her TV right away and such. So she was going to go live with her mom for a couple of weeks. She was a bit surprised when I acted very calmly and told her that if she thought that was necessary I understood and would help her get her old room cleaned out. I told her I might even go over and stay with her some nights. But really I was thinking, “If she leaves then it will be a lot easier to tell her she can’t come back!” But after several days of making noises about it she changed her mind. That figures.

Then last week I came across a web site for these AMAZING love dolls. I knew about the $6000 ones that Real Doll makes. But these are even better and they’re just $2100. I can do that. Check them out! http://www.reallovesexdolls.com/ They’re completely pose-able and look and feel (so I am told) like a real woman. Here’s a video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b1kjAxR0LOw And I’m asking myself would I rather lay next to something truly beautiful excites me sexually and doesn’t whine and complain or make demands but isn’t real? Or would I rather lay next to something that’s real but whines and complains and makes demands and doesn’t excite me sexually? Because either way I’m going to be making compromises. And let’s face it at 56 years of age with a serious disability and erectile dysfunction because of the diabetes I’m not going be landing any unicorns. And while I’m not beyond paying for some companionship (I always said that the pussy I paid for cost a LOT less than the pussy I got for “free”) I’d still hate to lay out $150 for an episode of erectile dysfunction. Which would also be a risk for any woman I might meet. I suppose I could keep my “wife” and just tell her to deal with it. But you can imagine how that would work out.

I honestly think this is my best option! Tell me I’m not crazy.

 

[Soldier-MedicParticipant 2566]

You don’t sound crazy to me.  Your circumstances sound as though you feel as though that this is the best options for yourself.

I would recommend that you dump the current woman.

Chucks_Revenge wrote:

I’m asking myself would I rather lay next to something truly beautiful excites me sexually and doesn’t whine and complain or make demands but isn’t real?

This makes me believe that you are trading a real woman for an artificial one.  This is not necessarily a bad thing.

However, I would suggest that you try not living with one at all, for awhile.  You just may find that you like not having one around.

"I asked you a question. I didn't ask you to repeat what the voices in you head are telling you" ~ Me. ........Yes I'm still angry.

[EekParticipant 1162]

It is kind of sad that a love doll will likely win over a human women in a cost/benefit analysis.

I better stock up on marshmallows for cooking over the fire as the world burns. Smores at my place when everything finishes going to s~~~.

[Crazy CanuckMember 4215]

It sucks to be your situation. However you diabetes can be cured if it’s type 2. Green juice fasting can help with this. You are probably over weight and this will also help. You can easily do a 30 day juice fast as long you’re not doing a lot of heaving exercise or lifting. I have done many juice fasts and it’s very enjoyable.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/linda-larrowe-bergersen/diabetes-let-food-be-thy-_b_5585712.html
http://www.amazon.com/There-Is-Cure-Diabetes-Program/dp/1556436912
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-3168615/Could-liquid-diet-reverse-diabetes-transform-treatment-provide-drug-free-way-treating-condition.html

"If pussy was a stock it would be plummeting right now because you've flooded the market with it. You're giving it away too easy." - Dave Chapelle

[Math RoninParticipant 86]

It seems pretty clear that you need to get your “wife” out of your life. She is no longer adding any value to your life, has no interest in doing so, and is going to continue to be more and more of a burden on you.

But I also agree with soldier-medic: one thing at a time. Get that old baggage out of your life FIRST and then give yourself some breathing space, time to heal, and think about things. You’d be surprised how getting an irrational bitch out of your life will help you calm down and see things more clearly.

And as far as having a sex doll being crazy, I would say absolutely not. For many people, myself included, sex is just a biological function and a way to relieve stress. Why should it matter if you use another person, your hand and internet porn, or a doll? I can’t see how one is any more healthy than the other.  At least with a doll, you won’t catch diseases (STD or computer virus types), and you can do it at your convenience without all the added stress.

[Chucks_RevengeParticipant 216]

Math Ronin wrote:

At least with a doll, you won’t catch diseases (STD or computer virus types), and you can do it at your convenience without all the added stress.

Plus she can’t get pregnant! That’s a HUGE plus!!!

 

[Math RoninParticipant 86]

tru dat … not to mention taking your kids and over half your property.

Yeah, doll is looking more and more like a sane option 🙂

[Robert HallamParticipant 696]

I hope this becomes somewhat of a trend.  This would really give the women a wake up call.  A c~~~ (vagina) is no longer a ticket to ride.  To be replaced with a simulation would really be a slap in the face.  The more I think about it the better it becomes.  You don’t even have to talk to it before f~~~ing it…. that’s gotta’ be a plus.  I’ve seen the very early models on TV used by Japanese guys but this sounds a lot better. ,

If you get one, let us all know how it works out.

[ByronParticipant 465]

The love dolls seem really awesome!! It is definitely a 1000 times better alternative. Who needs actual women? Real sex has so many disadvantages it is unreal:

1) It’s always in the back of your mind that you have to please her (distraction alert)
2) You don’t have sex whenever you want to
3) She demands stuff in bed and overall
4) You have restrictions to what you can and can not do
5) She could get pregnant and f~~~ you up
6) She could cheat and/or get an STD by some other unfortunate way (the dentist?) and infect you

ETC. ETC.

While with the love doll it’s all RAW AWESOME SEX and ONLY fun times. As soon as I get more money and a bigger place I will get one doll too! I’m actually really excited to f~~~ some of these dolls. Hell, if I like it too much I will buy 2-3 so that I will f~~~ whichever I feel like and make orgies with them.

I highly approve of that idea. Please, be sure to let us know if it’s as pleasurable as I imagine it to be when you get one. Awesome stuff.

[Chucks_RevengeParticipant 216]

Crazy Canuck wrote:

It sucks to be your situation. However you diabetes can be cured if it’s type 2. Green juice fasting can help with this. You are probably over weight and this will also help. You can easily do a 30 day juice fast as long you’re not doing a lot of heaving exercise or lifting. I have done many juice fasts and it’s very enjoyable. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/linda-larrowe-bergersen/diabetes-let-food-be-thy-_b_5585712.html http://www.amazon.com/There-Is-Cure-Diabetes-Program/dp/1556436912 http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-3168615/Could-liquid-diet-reverse-diabetes-transform-treatment-provide-drug-free-way-treating-condition.html

Thank you for the info. I’m 240 lbs @ 5′ 9″ so I’m carrying about 60 lbs more than my high school weight. I haven’t been able to work out due to the injury. I’ve been walking a half mile per day and trying to get that up to 2 miles. I’ll definitely look into the juice diet!

[RennieParticipant]

I don’t do dolls myself, but I know some people who are into them and can understand and respect why someone might chose to go that route.

[avillaxParticipant 280]

Dude, seriously I don’t know if what you wrote was real but it was hilarious “We ended up giving the Asian to a friend” hahaha!

[Chucks_RevengeParticipant 216]

avillax wrote:

Dude, seriously I don’t know if what you wrote was real but it was hilarious “We ended up giving the Asian to a friend” hahaha!

It gets funnier. She came with her own half gallon of Vodka, was already drunk on her ass, and he made me throw in some Viagra before he’d agree to take her. She was cute too.

[Anonymous 9]

Dude, I wouldn’t even think about that doll s~~~.

F~~~ that.

Edit-

I just googled men f~~~ing dolls, and there are some videos on this porn site that I visit. I checked one out, and this one doll looks and behaves like a human.

Wow. That can’t be real…lol.

That’s super creepy.

 

[RennieParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

Dude, I wouldn’t even think about that doll s~~~. F~~~ that. Edit- I just googled men f~~~ing dolls, and there are some videos on this porn site that I visit. I checked one out, and this one doll looks and behaves like a human. Wow. That can’t be real…lol. That’s super creepy.

To each his own.

[Anonymous 5]

Doll technology is still in it’s infancy and they’re evolving in the same way video games have.
Just look at the realism of games we played in the 90’s and compare them to now.
It’s hard to imagine them in 10 years time considering the advanced models the Japanese are already producing.

If you take away the blue pill “shame” factor and do the math, you’ll realize current dolls are already better than real women.
I’m not saying they’re better than real c~~~,,,but sit back and watch because men in industry are working on that too.

In the meantime women can still shove any number or mechanised medieval weapons in their holes.
They’ve been shoving a variety of vegetables and objects into themselves since time immemorial.
But that’s blue pill shame on men because they can’t satisfy them,,and it’s blue pill shame on men when we use objects for the same reason they do.

[Anonymous 9]

Rennie wrote:

gllahone84 wrote:

Dude, I wouldn’t even think about that doll s~~~. F~~~ that. Edit- I just googled men f~~~ing dolls, and there are some videos on this porn site that I visit. I checked one out, and this one doll looks and behaves like a human. Wow. That can’t be real…lol. That’s super creepy.

To each his own.

I guess.

But the doll is still lifeless with dead eyes, it’s like f~~~ing a corpse or something.

Creepy man.

I tried watching a video, and it was beyond creepy with the guy fixing dinner for the doll; he was also dancing and talking to it like a real human.

I’m just offering my opinion, and if that floats your boat then cool.

OP no disrespect to your post either. It was a very good read.

[Chucks_RevengeParticipant 216]

Anonymous wrote:

 I guess. But the doll is still lifeless with dead eyes, it’s like f~~~ing a corpse or something. Creepy man. I tried watching a video, and it was beyond creepy with the guy fixing dinner for the doll; he was also dancing and talking to it like a real human. I’m just offering my opinion, and if that floats your boat then cool. OP no disrespect to your post either. It was a very good read.

Have you seen the South Park episode where Cartman dresses his fist up like Jennifer Lopez? That leaves a lot to be desired too. So does sex with a 50 year old woman. But life is filled with trade offs. Speaking of which have you guys ever heard of the “Ben Franklin decision making method”?

 

“My way is to divide half a sheet of paper by a line into two columns; writing over the one Pro and over the other Con. Then during three or four days’ consideration, I put down under the different heads short hints of the different motives, that at different time occur to me, for or against the measure. When I have thus got them altogether in one view, I endeavor to estimate their respective weights; and where I find two, one on each side, that seem equal, I strike them both out. If I judge some two reasons con equal to some three reasons pro, I strike out five; and thus proceeding, I find where the balance lies; and if after a day or two of further consideration, nothing new that is of importance occurs on either side, I come to a determination accordingly.” –Benjamin Franklin

 

How to Decide Between Two or More Attractive Possibilities

Every decision has its advantages and disadvantages. The trick is to figure out which choice will give you more of the former and less of the latter.  A typical pro and con chart can be too vague. This is where a decision “balance sheet” comes in. If you want to get really fancy, philosophers who study decision making (yes, there is such a thing) call it a “multi-attribute optimization chart.” Get out a sheet of paper, gents, you’re about to become The Decider.

1. Make your columns. You need two columns. Label the first column “Element” and the second column “Importance Factor.” Next to those two columns, create as many columns as you have possible choices. Label these columns with the names of your choices. For example, “Job in Seattle” and “Job in Phoenix.” If drawing this out by freehand takes too much time for you, just download this template and use it.

2. List the important elements of your decision. In your “Element” column, list all the major elements that influence your decision. For example, if you’re trying to decide between jobs, you would list things like location, pay, benefits, job security, work hours, enjoyment, etc.

3. List the importance factor of each element. In your “Importance Factor” column, assign each element a number from 1 to 10 according to how important that element is to you. For example, if the time your job will allow you to spend with your family is very important to you, give that element a 9. If being close to your family isn’t as important to you, then give it something like a 4. Put down the first number that comes to you; don’t overthink it.

4. Grade the choices in relation to each element. You’re now going to assign a number from 1 to 10 in relation to how each choice measures up to the elements you have listed. For example, if the job in Seattle offers an excellent health insurance plan, you would give it a 9. If the job in Phoenix would sometimes have you working 60-hour weeks, then you would give it something like a 5 for “work hours.” Again, don’t think too much about it; just put down the first number that comes to your mind. These numbers go on the left side of your choice columns. Make sure you leave room on the right side of the column for another number.

5. Multiply the importance factor by the grades for each choice. For example, if you gave the importance of the pay element a 8, and you gave the Job in Seattle a 7 for that job’s potential salary, you would take 8X7 and would come out with 56. This number goes on the right of your choice column.

6. Add up the totals. Once you have multiplied all of your importance factors by your choice grades, add all those numbers up to get a total. Which choice has the highest number of points? That’s probably the best choice for you.

These directions may make it sound more complicated than it really is. It’s actually quite simple once you see an example of a chart. Here is an example chart of choosing between two different jobs. Let’s say that both jobs seem attractive, but you want to figure out which would be the best job for you and your way of life. Here’s how you could figure out which job to take:

After multiplying the importance factor by our choice grades, and then adding those totals up, we’re left with the Seattle Job scoring 428 and the Phoenix Job scoring a 468. Looks like you’re moving to Phoenix! Of course, there is a possibility that you come up with some false positives doing this exercise. Even though you try not to be biased, there’s a tendency to give the choice you really want higher scores, even if it really doesn’t warrant those scores. Despite that small drawback, multi-attribute choice optimization does a pretty good job of helping you come to a choice (after all, if you’re inflating the scores of one of your choices, then deep down you probably already know which one you want!). It forces you to really think about all the factors going into your decision.
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[Anonymous 3]

Anonymous wrote:

Rennie wrote:

gllahone84 wrote:

Dude, I wouldn’t even think about that doll s~~~. F~~~ that. Edit- I just googled men f~~~ing dolls, and there are some videos on this porn site that I visit. I checked one out, and this one doll looks and behaves like a human. Wow. That can’t be real…lol. That’s super creepy.

To each his own.

I guess. But the doll is still lifeless with dead eyes, it’s like f~~~ing a corpse or something. Creepy man. I tried watching a video, and it was beyond creepy with the guy fixing dinner for the doll; he was also dancing and talking to it like a real human. I’m just offering my opinion, and if that floats your boat then cool. OP no disrespect to your post either. It was a very good read.

So it’s just like a regular woman then? Except it doesn’t destroy your life or try to attack you, and isn’t STD riddled?

I have no interest in one of these dolls, but I’ll tell you what in my personal ranking of things I’d get in bed with, these dolls are much higher than Western women are. And unlike rattlesnakes, which also beat out Western women, these dolls won’t kill you either.

[Anonymous 9]

Lol.

 

 

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