"I'm a single mom" Erasing dads

[TronParticipant 285]

Have you guys ever noticed that divorced women all call themselves “single moms?” The first question i always ask is where is dad? You would be surprised to know how many of these moms are lying. Dad is usually right there, paying his child support and seeing the kids. The problem is this:

1) Divorced women refuse to acknowledge their ex-husbands contribution to the child rearing process because they know that by calling themselves single moms everyone automatically assumes, “No Dad.” It is an easy way to erase dad and kick good men and father’s in the groin.

2) they also love the “single mom” card because it absolves them from all responsibility. If the kid grows up to be a scholar and a star athlete she is a great mom for doing it all by herself. If he is a rapist and drug addict it’s because he doesn’t have a dad.

Mom gets credit for the kid turning out good but then blames the absent dad for why the kid is screwed up. Wow, that must be nice.

We have been reduced to sperm donors.

[shaunozParticipant 512]

Many times I have had candidates in job interview tell me they are single-mom. I assume they think it will elicit sympathy and increase their chances. They clearly have no idea how I think. Sometimes ( years ago ) I would respond along the lines… “Hmmm, ok, *you* have brought up your status as single-mom. I would never have brought a topic like that, however, since *you* have, u must think it is relevant to your ability to perform the job ?? or you are comfortable with it, i.e. inviting discussion , in this interview ?? Do you have concerns that you being a single-mom will struggle to perform the job ?? ….. Usually they backtrack very fast. Then I close that topic – “please do not bring up your status again, unless you are inviting discussion on it, which in itself would be inappropriate”. Also of the many dozens of people I have hired in my career, funny thing is *NONE* have ever been a single-mom whose status I was aware of at time of job-offer, go figure 😉

[Daryll55Participant 2950]

Tron wrote:

Mom gets credit for the kid turning out good but then blames the absent dad for why the kid is screwed up. Wow, that must be nice.

We have been reduced to sperm donors.

If the #METOO movement becomes mainstream among the feminine population, that is all you will ever be.

Marry again, Hell NO ! ( Even JESUS was hung on a cross just once)

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

No kids, problem solved.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[bstoffParticipant 4863]

“Single mom” sets off red flags everywhere as far as I’m concerned, regarding just about anything.

I wouldn’t want to have anything to do with someone voluntarily identifying as one.

[SpiderHerderParticipant 3755]

shaunoz wrote:

Many times I have had candidates in job interview tell me they are single-mom. I assume they think it will elicit sympathy and increase their chances. They clearly have no idea how I think. Sometimes ( years ago ) I would respond along the lines… “Hmmm, ok, *you* have brought up your status as single-mom. I would never have brought a topic like that, however, since *you* have, u must think it is relevant to your ability to perform the job ?? or you are comfortable with it, i.e. inviting discussion , in this interview ?? Do you have concerns that you being a single-mom will struggle to perform the job ?? ….. Usually they backtrack very fast. Then I close that topic – “please do not bring up your status again, unless you are inviting discussion on it, which in itself would be inappropriate”. Also of the many dozens of people I have hired in my career, funny thing is *NONE* have ever been a single-mom whose status I was aware of at time of job-offer, go figure

Nice. Well replied. I wish I had half of your ability to handle conversations.

[WarfishParticipant 408]

Tron wrote:

Have you guys ever noticed that divorced women all call themselves “single moms?” The first question i always ask is where is dad? You would be surprised to know how many of these moms are lying. Dad is usually right there, paying his child support and seeing the kids. The problem is this:
1) Divorced women refuse to acknowledge their ex-husbands contribution to the child rearing process because they know that by calling themselves single moms everyone automatically assumes, “No Dad.” It is an easy way to erase dad and kick good men and father’s in the groin.
2) they also love the “single mom” card because it absolves them from all responsibility. If the kid grows up to be a scholar and a star athlete she is a great mom for doing it all by herself. If he is a rapist and drug addict it’s because he doesn’t have a dad.
Mom gets credit for the kid turning out good but then blames the absent dad for why the kid is screwed up. Wow, that must be nice.
We have been reduced to sperm donors.

Man, double edge knife. First off she belives she should be hired on the spot because she is a SM and has to support the brat. Second, it’s a passive-agressive push to let you know she will not always be on time and will have to randomly leave/take time off due to the brat. LOL.

[JB BooksParticipant 3182]

Great topics and posts! “I’m a single mom” is a huge red flag, both for work and non-work issues.

They often use it as an additional excuse to duck responsibilities, like it’s automatically every other chump’s duty to pick up their slack.

Either way, I don’t volunteer to be Captain Save-a-Ho.

We just don't realize life's most significant events while they're happening. Back then, I thought, "Well, there'll be other days". I didn't realize that that was the only day. - "Moonlight" Graham

[743 roadmasterParticipant]

Women’s attitude of looking at men as disposable. Out of the women’s lib movement, installing the fake pride in I’m a single mom.

mgtow is its own worst enemy- https://www.campusreform.org/

[MonkParticipant 16977]

‘I’m a single mom (because some man mistreated me)’. Applicant as victim. You will be a bad person if you don’t immediately cave in to her demands, both now and in the future.

I notice that in news reports, even where there is a man, he is frequently erased altogether.

[Ranger OneParticipant 16836]

Ah, single moms… f~~~ing up Western civilization’s future one child at a time.

It takes a single mom and a village to raise the village idiot.

All my life I've had doubts about who I am, where I belonged. Now I'm like the arrow that springs from the bow. No hesitation, no doubts. The path is clear. And what are you? Alive. Everything else is negotiable. Women have rights; men have responsibilities; MGTOW have freedom. Marriage is for chumps. If someone stands in the way of true justice, you simply walk up behind them and stab them in the heart-R'as al Ghul.

[narwhalParticipant]

Tron wrote:

Have you guys ever noticed that divorced women all call themselves “single moms?” The first question i always ask is where is dad? You would be surprised to know how many of these moms are lying. Dad is usually right there, paying his child support and seeing the kids. The problem is this:

Well, no, they are not lying. The definition of single mom does not mean Dad is completely out of the picture. They could be divorced, widowed, or never married. I don’t think you’re off though in the sense that the phrase is often used as a means of seeking out sympathy. I’ve seen women make that statement as if they are making sacrifices, then realize that they not only have significant income of their own, significant child support who gets the kids every other weekend or more, and local family who will gladly watch the kids at a drop of the hat. They actually have more freedom than married parents.

For that matter, you never hear a man refer to himself as a ‘single dad’ unless he has sole possession of the kids. Technically, I am a single Dad, but I have know desire to draw attention to myself or garner sympathy that I don’t think is warranted. I have my kids every other weekend, and two nights a week (plus whatever school activity is going on). I honestly feel my life is less stressful from most married Dads since I miss out on most of the boring logistics of getting ready for school and such, nor do I have to deal with a wife’s needs.

Tron wrote:

1) Divorced women refuse to acknowledge their ex-husbands contribution to the child rearing process because they know that by calling themselves single moms everyone automatically assumes, “No Dad.” It is an easy way to erase dad and kick good men and father’s in the groin.

I don’t think that’s always it, at least not in a dating situation. Yes, they want sympathy, but they always want to let their potential BF know that the kids aren’t going to a burden, and they don’t have to be Dad. So they will quickly volunteer that “he’s a good dad”. However, they still want you to believe that the divorce was all his fault, she was underappreciated, and all that. She really doesn’t want you to think about the situation at all if she can get away with it.

Tron wrote:

2) they also love the “single mom” card because it absolves them from all responsibility. If the kid grows up to be a scholar and a star athlete she is a great mom for doing it all by herself. If he is a rapist and drug addict it’s because he doesn’t have a dad.

I haven’t seen this as much, but it’s entirely possible I avoid women like this for other reasons. You do see it on TV quite a bit, but even that seems more of the media trying to make a more interesting narrative. You do see some cases where the mom is actually pretty good, and those rarely speak on TV because they don’t want to draw attention away from their kid. For those that don’t it’s pretty obvious her greatest parenting accomplishment is in not getting in the way of coaches who wanted to teach him how to be a successful man.

Ok. Then do it.

[Mr. SpockParticipant 10907]

When a woman declares that she is single mom, she expects special treatment because she is “doing it all alone” and yet we all know better. Dad is out of the picture courtesy of her being a bitch with the help of the support courts. She’s also getting help from big daddy government with all those free handouts she gladly accepts. All these resources at her fingertips doesn’t sound very “alone” to me. Single moms want praise for doing something that should be automatically expected yet they demand awards and attention for doing something that women have been doing for thousands of years on their own. Men weren’t always present to help raise their kids. They were often killed in battle either with a predator or an opposing nation’s army. Some were captured and sold as slaves as well. Being a ‘single mom” isn’t some new concept. It’s been around for thousands of years. Why the need for recognition all of a sudden?
I think when women mention the term single mom, that it’s a s~~~ test. If you fail to play then you are against women with children, mean and all that crap. If you go along with it she expects to be able to play that card over and over again and her fallout plan is to remind you how you knew that she was a single mom when she mentioned it in her interview.
Single moms should not be dated or employed.

Feminism isn't about equality with men, it's about leverage over men.

[UntamedParticipant]

“I’m a single mom.”

“Yep, nobody’s perfect.”

Don't let them Blame, Shame or Tame you!
Give 'em NOTHING, not even an answer!
#GenderSegragationNow!

[MonkParticipant 16977]

As soon as I see an article or hear a conversation start with “I’m a single mother”, “I’m disabled”, or “I’m a pensioner”, I switch off.

I don’t like blackmail.

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