I want you to change

[WarratahParticipant 895]

‘Love is not love which alters when it alteration finds’ Sonnet 116.

What is it with women who demand that you ‘change’ a certain aspect of yourself – or else!
When I befriend somebody I accept them for what they are, warts and all. Naturally if their ‘warts’ become unbearable then I tend to neglect that friendship.
I most certainly don’t demand that they ‘change’ that aspect of their personality.
I’ve been around for almost half a century now and in that time, amongst all of those friendships, it has NEVER been a man demanding that I change an aspect of myself, always a woman.
Perhaps women use the demand for change as an early notification that they are in the process of discarding the friendship/relationship.
The way I see it, its virtually impossible to change part of your personality.
Like it or lump it.

...And in our own despair, against our will, Comes wisdom to us by the awful grace of God. - Agamemnon; by Aeschylus

[Anonymous 16]

Alwayssssssss…. and then they dump you couse “you changed”.

[GeraldParticipant 3628]

Change is not difficult if you are open to it… and it suits you. What I mean by that is I am changing right now… becoming less of what I was and more of what I should be… and my wife can’t stand it. Change is possible, both for the better and the worse… it just takes the right motivation.

No longer can we walk away, we must run. Remove the motive power.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

I want you to change

: “I want you to blow me 2X / day. Any other questions??”

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[AwakenedParticipant 35202]

Warratah wrote:

What is it with women who demand that you ‘change’ a certain aspect of yourself – or else!

Women use “change” as another means of control. It’s a women thing, they always want to try and change “their” man into what they want them to be instead of either accepting him or just finding a new sucker that meets their criteria.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[Anonymous 54]

Bitches look at men like we would look at a fixer upper house.
They feel entitled to “fix you up” to a manner that suits them.
You are an unmolded piece of clay with a wallet.
Then they try to mold you.

NEVER GET MARRIED

HEED MY WARNING

[Anonymous 42]

The only “I want you to change” I want to hear from a woman is “I want you to change into nothing”…

THEN F~~~ MY BRAINS OUT!

[ZoidbergParticipant 965]

Another proof that to women, men are just tools.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Warratah wrote:

What is it with women who demand that you ‘change’

It’s a s~~~ test and nothing else. You FAIL if you “change” for her.

I used to change and make little comprises (especially as years went on) because I thought it was “the right thing to do”. It isn’t. If you have to change or compromise who you are so that a relationship doesn’t fail, then you’re with the wrong person.

100% of the time, when a woman asked or expected me to “change” and I did to appease her, it didn’t work in one way or another. Conversely, 100% of the times I REFUSED to budge, it drove her crazy and she wouldn’t leave – even if I held the door open and said “you don’t like it? Get out”. It actually came to that more than once.

In my opinion, listening to this is a MUST for every man. When I first heard Tom Leykis on this, it was as if he read my mind. I would imagine it only takes enough experience for every man to figure this out eventually.

/audio/no-compromise-get-out/

The worst mistake a man can possibly make is to listen to women – about you, and what’s best for YOU. She hasn’t got a f~~~ing clue. If you gave her free reign to make you over, she will turn you into a woman.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

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