I think I'm not marrying after all!

[avillaxParticipant 280]

Hi guys, in my previous post I said I met this very special good girl and I was thinking about marrying. Well guess what?

Yesterday she was going to spend the night with me, we were just going to cuddle since she’s a virgin. I took a shower and when I come out of the shower I see my apartment empty and the door wide open. I of course, thought she had been kidnapped or whatever, I had a panic attack and even right now I feel as if my nerves were destroyed.

At first I thought that being an innocent girl she had seen my browser history and found porn and felt shocked, which made me feel even worse. BUT it turns out she got into my facebook (which by the way, I had made sure to close the windows in order for this situation not to happen though I never logged out as I didn’t think she was going to dig into my stuff.

Well, she actually digged into a conversation with my best friend who is a woman (I know) and scrolled up until she found a part where I mentioned she was a virgin and that was enough for her to be shocked and leave. After talking and all that we’re left in a situation of “giving each other time” but I’ve made up my mind and I don’t want to have my nerves destroyed every time she will have some trust issues or some paranoid s~~~ just because her ex had stood her up before the wedding. And of course, I don’t want to get my nerves destroyed AND have a marriage contract.

So, yep, bitches are crazy, dont need them, stay away from them they only bring trouble. You know that.

[RoyDalParticipant]

By all means marry; if you get a good wife, you’ll be happy. If you get a bad one, you’ll become a philosopher.
— Socrates (469 BC – 399 BC)

They sentenced Socrates to death for saying things like that.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

Like I said before: when you give it some time – true nature always shines through

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Who didn’t see this coming?

Just be eternally grateful it came BEFORE you made any irrevocable mistakes.

There’s no such thing as a NAWALT, just women who haven’t proven themselves AWALT… yet.

AWALT = NAWALT + time.

avillax wrote:

she found a part where I mentioned she was a virgin and that was enough for her to be shocked and leave.

Or she realized the jig is up and you might not be as easy a mark as she had hoped.

The point is you really don’t want to find out which was the truth.

[avillaxParticipant 280]

She was really a virgin, I’m sure but in the end this just reveals that all women are broken inside, unable to live logically/coherently. I have never had a girlfriend with a “happy background” they have all felt betrayed and s~~~ like that but then you ask yourself, were they?

For instance, my ex before this one had trust issues and had been single for many years just because she spent 1 year with her previous boyfriend, the guy was giving her a ride to college and had to pick her up on the other side of the city every day and they hadn’t had sex, as she was a virgin too, he didn’t even push that much and the girl was almost about to tell him to have sex when on one heavy traffic day the guy couldn’t hold it anymore and complaint about not having sex. The girl immediately dumped him and felt traumatized for this during years and now she couldn’t trust men! Then I took her virginity (she did have a hymen) but trust issues continued and after 4 months of being together we broke up.

But it surprises me how easy they get traumatized?

How about a lifetime trying to get a date with women that stood you up before a date, go borderline crazy in the middle of the relationship no matter how good you treat them, and women putting you on a waiting list? I would say that is 1000000% more shocking and we’re still alive as men.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Classic.

avillax wrote:

I mentioned she was a virgin and that was enough for her to be shocked and leave

Think about that. “Shocked” that she’s a virgin…. so she storms out and leaves.

How is it shocking? Doesn’t she KNOW she’s a virgin?

You realize she texted all of her friends and is talking with ALL of them about it right now. Including her facebook friends. But she can’t talk to YOU about it right? They can all talk about it, but you get walked out on because it’s “shocking”.

It’s not the porn. It’s not the “virgin”. She would have reacted EXACTLY the same way if she found a credit card receipt for flowers that you bought your mother. Think I’m joking? That actually happened to me. A dramatic break up, with an argument lasting 3.5 hours because I was “sending another woman flowers and I never sent her any”.

Don’t even THINK about running after her or explaining, or apologizing. It’s her issue.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

avillax wrote:

She was really a virgin,

Which was never the issue. Everyone is a virgin at one time or another. It’s no big deal. What was a big red flag was her selling her virginity for a lifetime contract from you.

The girl immediately dumped him and felt traumatized for this during years and now she couldn’t trust men!

No offense, but that sounds more like a convenient excuse than an actual reason. Likely she never had sex with him because she simply didn’t want to have sex with him, and when he complained she knew her days of free rides were coming to an end so it was time to cut her losses.

If a woman wants to have sex with a man, she will have sex with him. Case in point:

Then I took her virginity

Q.E.D.

trust issues

Are another common excuse rather than a real reason.

But it surprises me how easy they get traumatized?

I honestly don’t think she was traumatized. But that’s beside the point.

What matters is SHE WENT SNOOPING IN YOUR STUFF.

Even if your personal data was up on a 60 inch flatscreen on the wall a decent person would know better than to go peeking. But not this woman. She proved that herself. This “traumatized” bulls~~~ from her is just a dodge to deflect from the real matter that you cannot f~~~ing trust her.

She was no NAWALT.

You just dodged a giant f~~~ing bullet.

[FullMetalExoParticipant 2383]

…and that’s why I said to wait. At least more then a year. I didn’t say to wait for 9 years. I mentioned a couple that did (and they had sex).

Didn’t even took that long for the mask to come of. ‘sigh’

If a girl is a virgin/traditionalist, great, but no reason to rush it just because of  SEX,SEX,SEX. You have to be careful man, think with your upper head haha.

 

It’s sad that it happened but, better before marriage. You got Lucky.

 

avillax wrote:

At first I thought that being an innocent girl she had seen my browser history and found porn and felt shocked

lmao

avillax wrote:

I never logged out as I didn’t think she was going to dig into my stuff.

uhuh… haha. well, It actually saved you. I would actually leave it like that, to see how much do they sniff around your websites/browsers etc. Check browser history after she leaves etc.

 

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[chirParticipant]

Think you may be missing a piece to the puzzle.  She had no re guard for your personal privacy.  Just did not exist for her.  You were her property therefore there was no harm no foul to hop on your computer and proceed to do an investigation violating your personal privacy.  What if you had done the same thing and dived into all her private conversations in her facebook and other social media.  How would she have reacted?  Men seem to be trained that women poking their nose into every corner of our existence is normal.  Men doing the same to women is stalking.

She had her nose so far up in your business that if you yawned you would see her in there checking your dental work.

It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion, it is by the beans of Java that thoughts acquire speed, the hands acquire shaking, the shaking becomes a warning; it is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.

[BiG_WeaselParticipant 116]

Why marry anyone, let alone a virgin? I’m not saying I’d screw an uber-slut, but a woman with no experience is like a having surgery from someone who’s never gone to med school.  But, then again, you do get a clean slate, and can show her what you yourself prefer…so there is that.

But yeah, I read your original post, and knew how this would end.

[UntamedParticipant]

Why did you have your puter on? Did you actually trust her? Why?

She obviously didn’t trust you enough to stay out your s~~~. Or did she plan it that way all along? Just a pathetic excuse to get out of sex.

Rule 1 ( for me anyway ) Never trust.

Rule 2 Never bring home what you can consume elsewhere.

Rule 3 Always lie about how much you have on you.

Rule 4 Follow your Own mind, no compromise.

Rule 5 Never break the rules 🙂

 

Don't let them Blame, Shame or Tame you!
Give 'em NOTHING, not even an answer!
#GenderSegragationNow!

[FermatParticipant 3478]

You should have seen this coming. I recall previous posts of men here telling you it doesn’t matter where in the world you travel women will always overvalue their vagina. Glad you got out of this before any real damage was down. Now you know not to repeat the silly mistake of trusting women and marriage again.

I have discovered a truly remarkable list of reasons why women are not necessary for a happy life, but alas this margin is too small to contain it.

[DakotaParticipant 341]

Keymaster wrote:

It’s not the porn. It’s not the “virgin”. She would have reacted EXACTLY the same way if she found a credit card receipt for flowers that you bought your mother.

That’s what I was getting at in the other post.  A “nice, traditional girl” has all kinds of ideas about the real world that are built on fantasy or some Disney movie…as in she is the chaste princess who is won by a heroic white knight on a silvery stallion.  Anything that breaks her illusion is always a deal breaker.

Just last night I was brow-beat by some white-knighter in your other post telling ME that…”He couldn’t believe that I would tell another man not to marry after his well researched decision.”  Holy f~~~!  What the hell is going on around here?

In the end, you got to do what you got to do.  If a girl ever says, “I’ll let you have my pussy if you _____ for me.”  RUN!

 

[avillaxParticipant 280]

chir wrote:

Think you may be missing a piece to the puzzle. She had no re guard for your personal privacy. Just did not exist for her. You were her property therefore there was no harm no foul to hop on your computer and proceed to do an investigation violating your personal privacy. What if you had done the same thing and dived into all her private conversations in her facebook and other social media. How would she have reacted? Men seem to be trained that women poking their nose into every corner of our existence is normal. Men doing the same to women is stalking. She had her nose so far up in your business that if you yawned you would see her in there checking your dental work.

chir wrote:

Think you may be missing a piece to the puzzle. She had no re guard for your personal privacy. Just did not exist for her. You were her property therefore there was no harm no foul to hop on your computer and proceed to do an investigation violating your personal privacy. What if you had done the same thing and dived into all her private conversations in her facebook and other social media. How would she have reacted? Men seem to be trained that women poking their nose into every corner of our existence is normal. Men doing the same to women is stalking. She had her nose so far up in your business that if you yawned you would see her in there checking your dental work.

This is funny because guess what? She met a guy once who according to her kept stalking her for years and the guy had hacking skills so even once broke into her computer and downloaded all of her files to keep track of her, etc.!

[UntamedParticipant]

How many hours did you waste listening to her stories ( that might or might not be true )? If you spent more than a half hour around a woman outside of work I say you’re losing money and neglecting yourself.

Don't let them Blame, Shame or Tame you!
Give 'em NOTHING, not even an answer!
#GenderSegragationNow!

[FrankyParticipant 2338]

Now think about this, you where actually sold on this woman and where ready to give her the ability to destroy your whole life.Do you see how easy it is for a woman to be a “NAWALT” as long as it suits her needs?

[LupusParticipant 214]

It does not matter if she was a virgin. Eventually they all turn out the same and your life would suck.

But if you want to attempt it, by all means, but do it educated.

If you can be hard listen to the lessons of Patrice O’Neal.

He had control over his gf. That’s the only way you can guard your own happiness, but it takes constant vigilance and placing your happiness first.

Learn their s~~~tests, recognize them and counter them. To me it’s way to much energy expended, but if you want to try it, that’s the way to go.

Listen to The Black Phillip Show, especially number 6, where he has his gf on.

 

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

@TheRoadWarrior I wrote you a book in your previous thread regarding this.

I am glad to hear you got out, before the real damage was done.

Bravo

[Mana KnightParticipant 333]

Welcome back….far quicker than expected, but not unexpected entirely.

The thing I love about this story most? Sorry, but it is the almost puppy or toddler like behaviour. The second you leave the room, she decides she has to do something she would never do with you watching.

 

 

 

[Anonymous 3]

I doubt she was a virgin. None of them are in the West. Although plenty like to say they are.

She had no respect for your privacy, and was actively snooping around while you weren’t around. She would have reacted with extreme hostility if you did the same or even accused her of doing it. That’s just how women are. For some reason they are all pathological liars that muster up the type of vindictiveness and self righteous anger when they’re in the wrong as to boggle a man’s mind.

If a woman ever accuses you of cheating for instance, just out of the blue, that is one of the signs that she just did it herself. They seem to think by accusing someone else of their own behavior it means they aren’t to blame or something.

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