I still care about her

[Ranger OneParticipant 16836]

I think that first Star Trek episode “The Man Trap” was a metaphor for all women. That salt vampire was a metaphor for all women.

It appeared to each man differently (as a human female), and its goal was to extract resources from the man, in this case salt.

All my life I've had doubts about who I am, where I belonged. Now I'm like the arrow that springs from the bow. No hesitation, no doubts. The path is clear. And what are you? Alive. Everything else is negotiable. Women have rights; men have responsibilities; MGTOW have freedom. Marriage is for chumps. If someone stands in the way of true justice, you simply walk up behind them and stab them in the heart-R'as al Ghul.

[wyrParticipant 591]

Kage wrote:

You should work to become indifferent to her

I thought I was indifferent. I just need to keep working on it. I know it’s not about her, it’s about me moving on.

I appreciate the encouragement and advice from all of you.

Self-improvement is my religion. Sovereignty is my god.

[iMickey503Participant 12465]

Wyr, I Understand what you feel.

Men are always going to be thinking about other people. It’s a curse of being a good man.

Don’t know what to suggest that would bring positive results. That’s the truth I can give you.

When your heart feels something, it is hard to ignore it. But the basic general idea here is that you are operating in a heartless world.

Your “programing” as they say has nothing to do with the way you feel. It is your soul that wants to do right and there is nothing wrong with that in a world that accepts that.

But the world that you live in no longer accepts this premises. So whatever you feel has no real basis of action in the real world.

Do what you feel like. Before you make your choice, or choose your coping method. Be clear on what the consequences are.

I don’t want to tell you what to do, but its best if you just stay away. It’s not only good for you, but if she wants your help, she will ask you. And make sure you listen to it and record it. Listen to it, and see if you catch anything.

When you go over it a second time, you get to see her for what she really is.

You are all alone. If you have been falsely accused of RAPE, DV, PLEASE let all men know about the people who did this. http://register-her.net/web/guest/home

[HermitParticipant]

Ranger One wrote:

wyr wrote:

Just woke up from a nightmare. The life of my ex had fallen apart and I was worried about her. I woke up and I’m still worried about her.

I’m surprised to realize I still care about her. I’ve tried to push her out of my mind and convince myself that I don’t care. I guess I’ve been deluding myself to soften the pain in order to move on with my life.

I’m monk and I’ve never been happier. I don’t want her back or anyone else.

Just picture her with her Chad’s cum spilling out of her mouth. That helped with me giving a crap.

I certainly don’t care about my x at all, but when I pictured that, it made me want her. 🙂

I’ve had nightmares that I was still married to my x. I really like those, because it’s such a relief when I wake up and realize that I’m free.

The evil in women’s hearts leaves them no moral bounds as to inhibit them from descending to the lowest levels of darkness to acquire their self entitled desires.

[Fr JackParticipant 926]

Sounds like you are still going thru the grieving process, not so much grieving for her, but for the life you thought you had, and thought you would have in the future.

[wyrParticipant 591]

Fr Jack wrote:

Sounds like you are still going thru the grieving process, not so much grieving for her, but for the life you thought you had, and thought you would have in the future.

Yeah, I guess so. Everything I’ve learned from here and elsewhere has given me understanding, but it seems I need more time to internalize it.

I’ve been thinking about a quote I read here in someone’s sig, “She didn’t love you, it was just your turn” or something like that. It’s comforting.

Self-improvement is my religion. Sovereignty is my god.

[AttonParticipant]

Get a doll.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[xanthineParticipant 4903]

wyr wrote:

Just woke up from a nightmare. The life of my ex had fallen apart and I was worried about her. I woke up and I’m still worried about her.

I’m surprised to realize I still care about her. I’ve tried to push her out of my mind and convince myself that I don’t care. I guess I’ve been deluding myself to soften the pain in order to move on with my life.

I’m monk and I’ve never been happier. I don’t want her back or anyone else.

I can relate man. I had a dream about my ex the other night too.

In my dream I was living in this cool huge four story house in the country. No women in my life. My brother was staying with me. In the dream, he wasn’t doing heroin anymore, and was getting his life together. I was on the balcony of the top floor, telling him to look outside, and see how great everything is.

Then at some point my ex came in, and was sad. She wished we hadn’t broken up, and missed me, and wanted to get back together. I was sad too, but I told her I could not go back. That was all I said. I can’t go back. Even though I wanted to, it was like I was incapable. I couldn’t do it.

When I woke up I still felt kinda sad. But you know, you get over that s~~~ pretty fast, especially when you have to get out of bed and go do a job that takes most of your mental faculties all day.

The funny thing is, in my dreams, I almost always do the things that I am afraid I’d do in real life. It’s like I have some subconscious fear that my self-discipline will fail and I will make a regrettable decision, and the dreams are my brain playing out the situation for me so I can feel the end result, the regret, without having to experience it in real life.

Even in this dream, I shut her down. And I would today too, for sure. I don’t care what happens to her, or any of the women I’ve dated, or any of the women on this planet. I’m on my own, and they are on their own. I’m not coming back.

Everyone has moments of weakness. Maybe these dreams are our minds way of testing us, or teaching us something. Or, maybe they are just a manifestation of our deepest, darkest anxieties, fears, desires, etc. Or, maybe it’s just a f~~~ed up dream, maybe it doesn’t mean a thing. Either way, don’t worry about it too much. Just stick to the path, and enjoy the promised land. I’ll meet you there.

[wyrParticipant 591]

xanthine wrote:

I can relate man. I had a dream about my ex the other night too.

Thanks brother. I’m not worried about it. I was caught off guard and find it interesting now. In the dream I didn’t want her back, just felt sorry for her due to her situation. I never felt an urge to reach out to her. Thanks for sharing.

Self-improvement is my religion. Sovereignty is my god.

[narwhalParticipant]

From an emotional standpoint, I don’t think of my ex as still being alive. The woman that still exists as my kids mother isn’t the same person to me.

I honestly don’t know exactly how that happen. My father died around the same time as I got divorced, and I found the feelings I had to be remarkably similar. Perhaps that made it easier for me to process the two events in the same way.

My ex has remarried, and she has rarely attempted to come to me for emotional support in any way. When she has though, it’s been met with a blank stare from me. She once went several months where she wasn’t on speaking terms on her family. I never asked why or even acknowledge that she told me. I’m not happy or sad about it. It doesn’t even feel right to say I’m indifferent. It’s not for me to do anything about it.

I really took this attitude with her on every thing. She’s asked for more money, and I don’t care. She’s claimed she needs money because of her step children’s expense and I don’t care. She’s claimed new hubby cares more about our son than me and I don’t care. She gets no reaction from me.

It’s not any different then a car salesman who tries to get me to pay a bit more because he’s got kids at home. I don’t care.

Looking at it another way. Both marriage and divorce are lifelong commitments, suppose to be anyway. Part of the commitment is you are suppose to hold them to their promise. If marriage is saying they promise to love you AND I want your love FOREVER, then divorce is saying I don’t love you AND I don’t want your love FOREVER. Sometimes I feel guilty for not keeping my marriage promise by accepting her request for a divorce. I do not to break my divorce promise.

Ok. Then do it.

[wyrParticipant 591]

narwhal wrote:

divorce is saying I don’t love you AND I don’t want your love

I never thought about divorce like this, but maybe I should.

Self-improvement is my religion. Sovereignty is my god.

[ArcturisParticipant 2819]

wyr wrote:

Just woke up from a nightmare. The life of my ex had fallen apart and I was worried about her. I woke up and I’m still worried about her.

I understand this mate. I still think about my ex. We were together for 8 years and I GENUINELY cared for her.

HOWEVER now my eyes have been opened my logic always trumps my emotions. I look back and can see how sex was the ONLY thing offered in return for my MANY sacrifices. After I said NO to moving in together to HER TOWN that was the final nail in the coffin. AND AMEN!

I’m so much better off alone. You are too.

Kage wrote:

but brother once you start digging and thinking back…you’ll realized it was all a scam.

Well said Kage!

Protect Your Sovereignty. Women WILL TRY To Manipulate You. #NOCONTACT #ICETHEMOUT

[WOTGMParticipant 22]

narwhal wrote:

Both marriage and divorce are lifelong commitments

Quote of the Month.

DO NOT MARRY. When you do, you automatically give her the "option" to divorce, which means "half, plus vaginamony". Take away the marriage, take away the "option".

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