I stay single – it's wonderful!!!

[cnmcdeeParticipant 125]

I’ve dated every women from the top of the pile to the bottom, from Phd Cum Laude’s to mental patient evacuees (who actually was one of the most reasonably balanced).

At Christmas I made the commitment to get heavily into programming – and it was the best decision I made in my life.

The last girl I dated was blind (seriously) and she was better than 98% of them because she would never complain how you dressed or the truck you drove. But again the expectation of a commitment was there of some fashion and she was quick to realize I was just taking her out of my boredom, and eventually reluctantly because her seeing eye-dog would shed hair all over the inside of my truck.

Now I see women like stray cats – irresponsible except to their own value systems, untrainable in any fashion of mutual respect whatsoever, and that is just fine, I’m not judging at all what they do, nor do I care.

I have in essence became like a kid again, I have fun on the computer (play eve online) write piles of Java code for android, go for bicycle rides, and love it all..  And the money I saved from not constantly entertaining women is a fortune.  So I dressed up, and they come out like cats in heat because you’re well dressed now.

But I realized the cost of ownership of one of these headaches and in spite of the fact women hit on me all the time now that one dresses out nice I keep it curt.

I am married to my freedom and it was the best decision I ever made, and when you tell a woman that she realizes there just isn’t going to be any finger wrapping manipulations, no waiting on her beck and call, no being her beta (or her alpha), no listening to her whining bulls~~~ or crying instability followed by the usual emotional rescue.

I feel guilty almost because staying away from women in total has afforded me incredible freedom.  When I was younger I used to get so lonely it was crazy, but now I don’t miss them at all – and I am *super* thankful for that.

 

[AxiomaticusParticipant 11]

Stray cats is a pretty apt comparison in my opinion. I am glad you’ve found your freedom, you should never feel even almost guilty for enjoying it. I noticed that I used to get lonely too, and I would wonder why I was having such a difficult time with women; but now I don’t feel that way at all. I too am simply happy to be free. Welcome Cnmcdee.

As an aside: I think it is funny how it’s so common to view a man who has a love of his life and enjoys having fun as “like a kid”. As if being all grown-up, managing, and supporting oneself is not enough responsibility to award a man the title of “adult” or “real man” lol. Society needs to just come out and say it already “If you are a man: you are not an adult unless you are miserable and carrying around an ever-expanding nag who despises you”.

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