I started disqualifying today

[KeymasterKeymaster]

It just keeps getting better in here. Nodding through Soulman’s entire testimony.
But that “faceless” photo is one hell of a metaphor.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 2]

Soul Man wrote:

So I f~~~ing strut like a f~~~ing peac~~~ when I’m out in public e.g. running errands, going to the store, etc.  I carry myself like I’m just King S~~~!  Haha!  The fun part for me is completely ignoring the vapid bitches in public that will get offended if you dare look at them or try to speak to them.

So much THIS!

[ArjunParticipant 11]

Good step to getting your power back! I’ve been doing something similar….letting conversations go flat if she doesn’t input, I just let the akwardess take over…it’s hilarious and awesome but many of them will actually step up and talk , BUT his works better on the phone or in person than with text.

Im getting in the habit of speaking only when I feel I want to , and instead of using conversation to make them like me.

 

 

[SMADParticipant 651]

I have been “disqualifying” for a while now and it is ENORMOUSLY empowering.

I have even gone so far as to ignore a pretty “retail” girl who asks me for help, only to go over to the less attractive shop assistant and ask her for help instead.

Using my peripheral vision, I swear I can see the pretty girl seething and thinking “why is SHE getting attention and not me.”

I recommend you gents try this sometime.  You can *literally* feel the power surge and the Man Points just piling up like in a casino slot machine.

Marriage?  No thanks, i'm not ready to be THAT miserable.

[I_Walk_AloneParticipant 580]

I’ve started nuking the hamsters of mid-50 somethings on POF now. I’m 41 and I’m in damn good shape for my age. I get messages from one of two demographs:

1. Obese (sometimes morbidly so)

2. Women over 50.

I had one woman message me saying “Nice body, I like a man in shape. What else can you offer me?” I responded with “What can a woman like yourself offer ME?” The conversation abruptly ended.

Seriously, the online ego inflation of women on dating sites has now led to POST-MENOPAUSAL women still acting like they’re hot stuff, expecting the 5 Star Hotels/restaurants and impromptu weekend breaks in farflung exotic locations. Their vaginas have STOPPED WORKING and they still expect men 10-15 years their junior to jump through hoops in the hope of access to said expired genitalia. It beggars belief, it really does.

[RoyDalParticipant]

“What can a woman like yourself offer ME?” …

This is one of my stock answers when people ask me why I don’t “man up and get married.” It usually shuts them up.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[RoyDalParticipant]

Dating site profile:

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[NewtonParticipant 8]

This thread takes me back to a while ago. I ended up with some friends at this nightclub. While my friends were trying to get laid I was hanging in the smokers lounge with my beer. Some girl walked up to me and said “lighter ?” with a kind of demeanor that is just aggravating. So I just took a sip from my beer and lit another cigarette for myself. Then she went “give me the lighter !”. I turned towards her looked her in the eye and said no. She stomped out of the smoking area like a little girl who didn’t get her way with daddy. I laughed my ass off for 15 minutes. The entitlement of these women, they really do expect for a man to just drop everything in a second even if they are being really rude.

[Sam RavenParticipant 181]

I have started to train myself to see past women like they are a blurred image. I have already done it with certain figures in my house I no longer talk to.

Your eyes don’t really focus on them. Like a thousand yard stare. Someone once told me I look like a zombie. Good for them.

[finallyfreeParticipant 341]

Newton I had a similar experience in a strip club. My buddy kept asking me to go with him one night so I gave in and went. We are sitting at this little table watching the whores on stage when another whore came to sit with us. She sits down and starts chatting with us and then asks me for a lighter for her cigarette.  I quickly reach into my pocket and hand it to her. My friend and her paused for a moment, then my friend says “you’re supposed to light it for her” – SIMP. I was thinking to myself “why does this stripper think she is a lady that deserves respect like we are out on a date or something” ? If you can swing up and down on poles  you can light your own f~~~ing cigarette.

[xgreenlanternoxParticipant 253]

Soul Man wrote:

Ahhhh yes…the feeling of liberation…it feels f~~~ing FANTASTIC! The truth is I am “average” looking I suppose. I am certain that I am in that 80% women consider “below average looking. I really don’t give a rat’s ass anyway and that’s not my point here. I have been eating well and hitting the gym for the past year. I am feeling good and looking better than I have in a long time. I am really a humble person at heart but I’ve been feeling good lately. So I f~~~ing strut like a f~~~ing peac~~~ when I’m out in public e.g. running errands, going to the store, etc. I carry myself like I’m just King S~~~! Haha! The fun part for me is completely ignoring the vapid bitches in public that will get offended if you dare look at them or try to speak to them. They all want that attention so they can get validation, boost their ego, and act holier than thou when their sensibilities are offended by the attention of someone beneath their perceived station in life. It’s all about the attention and drama for them. “UGH! LIKE OMG! DID YOU SEE THAT CREEPER!?! HE WAS LIKE RAPING ME WITH HIS EYES! HE HAS A LOT OF NERVE! WHAT A LOSER!” When in reality you smiled and said, “Hi! How are doing today?” You can see the hamster being flung off the wheel in their head when you act like they are invisible. it simply does not compute because it flies in the face of their little priveleged paradigm. HAHA! You can wield a metric f~~~ ton of power by simply doing NOTHING! It’s great…it’s liberating. BITCH MY TIME IS TOO VALUABLE! I DON’T EVEN HAVE TIME TO ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR EXISTENCE!

Soul Man wrote:

Ahhhh yes…the feeling of liberation…it feels f~~~ing FANTASTIC! The truth is I am “average” looking I suppose. I am certain that I am in that 80% women consider “below average looking. I really don’t give a rat’s ass anyway and that’s not my point here. I have been eating well and hitting the gym for the past year. I am feeling good and looking better than I have in a long time. I am really a humble person at heart but I’ve been feeling good lately. So I f~~~ing strut like a f~~~ing peac~~~ when I’m out in public e.g. running errands, going to the store, etc. I carry myself like I’m just King S~~~! Haha! The fun part for me is completely ignoring the vapid bitches in public that will get offended if you dare look at them or try to speak to them. They all want that attention so they can get validation, boost their ego, and act holier than thou when their sensibilities are offended by the attention of someone beneath their perceived station in life. It’s all about the attention and drama for them. “UGH! LIKE OMG! DID YOU SEE THAT CREEPER!?! HE WAS LIKE RAPING ME WITH HIS EYES! HE HAS A LOT OF NERVE! WHAT A LOSER!” When in reality you smiled and said, “Hi! How are doing today?” You can see the hamster being flung off the wheel in their head when you act like they are invisible. it simply does not compute because it flies in the face of their little priveleged paradigm. HAHA! You can wield a metric f~~~ ton of power by simply doing NOTHING! It’s great…it’s liberating. BITCH MY TIME IS TOO VALUABLE! I DON’T EVEN HAVE TIME TO ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR EXISTENCE!

I do this all the time and it works wonders. Try paying very slight attention out of the corner of your eye the next time you do it. You can see the whore staring at you in a manner like “omg, why isnt he looking at me? What’s wrong with me?”

[RedHeadedStrangerParticipant 204]

Disqualifying — So that’s what it’s called.  Love me some jargon.  I’ve been marathoning this for a few years now, but only recently has it become difficult.  I’ll explain:

I took this year off to spend time with my daughter.  She is 10, and her school is a couple blocks away.  I’m 40, attractive, and fit.  I live in a up-scale suburb of Austin, so there is hot ass everywhere.  So I walk her home from school every day, and disqualify every single one of them.  I still look at their ring-finger though, and married women do not exist at all to me, never have.  It drove them nuts at first, they would try to smile, flip their hair, or say ‘how are you’, or some bulls~~~ to get attention.   I just keep walking, never giving them the dignity of eye-contact, sometimes saying ‘good, thx’.  It took awhile for them to develop a consensus that I am an asshole.  They still want my attention, but have given up asking me ‘how are you’.  That’s the fun and easy part.

The hard part, is this one single mom.  Dudes she is f~~~ing smoking hot.  Perfect hair, skin, face, body, I mean foook.  But she is a single mom, so I really want to put her in the ‘does not exist’ category.  She has not given up on me.  She goes out of her way to smile and say hi.  Every day.  It’s starting to wear me down, and I actually made eye-contact with her and smiled in response to her smile yesterday.  I know I know, right.  See, I am a lvl2 MGHOW.  But I will not date a single mom, or a girl over 30. Capital PERIOD.  But dudes, did I tell you how amazingly hot she is?  I mean, exactly my flavor.  Jerked off to her a more than a few times guys.  O, I forgot to mention that she has a Russian accent.  I mean, comethef~~~on guys.  I am only a man, and I know that if I hit it, it’d be hard as hell to quit it.  I’ve been celibate for 3 years now and don’t want compromise my principles.  I’m standing on the edge of the abyss here, and while I really want to live up to my convictions, the school year is getting shorter and shorter, and I don’t know if I have the fortitude to pass it up.

I need to get this chick out of my head.  Seriously, I don’t know if, in a few years, I will regret passing on it.  I’m sure that I will regret either decision.

No need to reply, I’m not trying to take over this thread.  It has helped a lot just talking about it.  If you made it this far, thanks for listening.

[Schaefe89Participant 163]

RedHeadedStranger wrote:

Disqualifying — So that’s what it’s called. Love me some jargon. I’ve been marathoning this for a few years now, but only recently has it become difficult. I’ll explain: I took this year off to spend time with my daughter. She is 10, and her school is a couple blocks away. I’m 40, attractive, and fit. I live in a up-scale suburb of Austin, so there is hot ass everywhere. So I walk her home from school every day, and disqualify every single one of them. I still look at their ring-finger though, and married women do not exist at all to me, never have. It drove them nuts at first, they would try to smile, flip their hair, or say ‘how are you’, or some bulls~~~ to get attention. I just keep walking, never giving them the dignity of eye-contact, sometimes saying ‘good, thx’. It took awhile for them to develop a consensus that I am an asshole. They still want my attention, but have given up asking me ‘how are you’. That’s the fun and easy part. The hard part, is this one single mom. Dudes she is f~~~ing smoking hot. Perfect hair, skin, face, body, I mean foook. But she is a single mom, so I really want to put her in the ‘does not exist’ category. She has not given up on me. She goes out of her way to smile and say hi. Every day. It’s starting to wear me down, and I actually made eye-contact with her and smiled in response to her smile yesterday. I know I know, right. See, I am a lvl2 MGHOW. But I will not date a single mom, or a girl over 30. Capital PERIOD. But dudes, did I tell you how amazingly hot she is? I mean, exactly my flavor. Jerked off to her a more than a few times guys. O, I forgot to mention that she has a Russian accent. I mean, comethef~~~on guys. I am only a man, and I know that if I hit it, it’d be hard as hell to quit it. I’ve been celibate for 3 years now and don’t want compromise my principles. I’m standing on the edge of the abyss here, and while I really want to live up to my convictions, the school year is getting shorter and shorter, and I don’t know if I have the fortitude to pass it up. I need to get this chick out of my head. Seriously, I don’t know if, in a few years, I will regret passing on it. I’m sure that I will regret either decision. No need to reply, I’m not trying to take over this thread. It has helped a lot just talking about it. If you made it this far, thanks for listening.

 

whats the problem? smash it. if she tries to go for a ring or commitiment, ditch her. sounds like you have a great situation man, props

[BrainPilotParticipant 7640]

red,
you can hit that all you want. just don’t put a ring on it, or a baby in it. And DO NOT share an address or bank account with it.

Happy hunting…

Look, it's not my fault that tornado dropped a house on your sister. Now get back on your broom and get your ass out of here... and take your monkeys with you

[Anonymous 12]

Good for you. I have been finding the same thing, I realize that for a long time I felt privileged when a woman spoke to me, I saw it as my duty to keep her interested and to keep the chat going even though I am not a very talkative man.

Something else I have noticed on dating sites, women will almost always have written “If you contact me, don’t just say Hi” that really p~~~es me off. For a start it is quite difficult to just start chatting to a stranger, “Hi I would love to chat with you” to me seems a way of asking permission to approach without writing a huge monologue. Also women rarely approach men in real life or online so what do they know about this anyway.

And of course when a woman has approached me first, what does she say?? Yep, “Hi” just hi, nothing else! I give it a few exchanges and if I feel like I am the doing the work I stop. The odd thing is you get some of these women coming back saying “You stopped chatting with me” well yeah I did because your one word messages gave me the distinct impression you didn’t care!

 

[BDParticipant 1146]

Soul Man wrote:

I DON’T EVEN HAVE TIME TO ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR EXISTENCE!

Everyone on here is awesome, great thread! LMAO!

When texting or even seeing chicks in public, I randomly ignore them, it drives them crazy.

In public, I’ll use the excuse that I didn’t recognize them (usually because I don’t wanna hear their verbal diarrhoea anyway) this knocks their self esteem down a notch because they all think that they are special haha!

Texting or any messaging for that fact,  is for MY CONVENIENCE, NOT THEIRS, I respond when convenient for me, which can be 10 minutes later, the next day or never, you can always blame poor cell service, you were driving or whatever, the point is that their mind will wander because you are not being a nice guy by replying immediately, and maybe you have something else on the go.

Ignoring women helps build their attraction level. Never underestimate how effective it is to ignore them for a while.

 

 

Because in order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive.

[ThomasQuinnParticipant 50]

Oasid wrote:

Before today, I always thought it was my responsibility as a man to stay interesting and keep a conversation. When things got stale and failed I owned it and worked on bettering my conversation performance. Got a match on Tinder an hour ago and I say Hi (name), she says “Hey” I say “Nice weather outside” she says “Lovely” (we are under a tornado watch and she is 3 miles away from me) I say “Wanna go for a ride on the bike?” she says “No Thanks” I wait ten minutes for some kind of a “not today” or an “lol in this?” than something clicked, I looked at the entire conversation history and noticed she said 4 words, For the first time in my life I had a moment of clarity towards a woman and this popped in my head “Hey girl, YOU are not floating MY boat, goodbye! *unmatch* This is big for me and I wanted to share

The female needs to bring something to the conversation or I drop them right away as uninterested in me, or a boring girl who has nothing going on. Or she is attempting to play THE GAME very badly.

The conversation starters are the worst only because MEN are told that we have to be the ones to START the convo and keep it going…. well f~~~ that. Not worth my time or effort. The females are the desperate ones, their clocks are ticking and they are in a search for a man 24/7 before they hit the wall.

Online profiles from dating sites of these females are freaking INSANE. I am really shocked at how many 20-30yr olds have 1,2,3 kids! and are putting their profiles together as if they are the best catch of the decade and of course looking for the “perfect” mangina. Most of these girls have no job or low paying jobs seeking more money from their newly soon to be acuired man. It is a HUGE red flag if a female is single/divorced and has a kid, 2 kids, 3 kids! It would probably be fun and interesting to dissect these females profiles to see how f~~~ed up in the head they are.

 

 

 

[Son of PeleusParticipant 13]

I’ve never balked from informing women that they’re horrific conversationalists. It’s disgraceful; beauty seems to allow women to stint on developing a personality. As as for disqualifying, they need to KNOW that they’ve been disqualified; it’s one of the most effective tricks to turn a situation around.

Recently I opened up a conversation with a woman who found ME on FB through mutual friends, but then cancelled on a few dates (via text, which, is fine with me BTW). At this point my message to her was: “I see. Well, I wish you all the best!” A minute later she responded, suggesting another day; I said “I’ll have to see if I’m available, but at this point, I think you’ll likely chicken out. So I’ll pass. Be well!” She sent me a few other messages which I reply to for a days or so, and, after a lot of work on her end, I agreed to see her again. She didn’t cancel.

If I’d been a little more irritated, I would have cancelled on her just to make the point, but, “To err is human, to forgive, divine.”

#untrainable

[UptownjesusParticipant 95]

Well, in my opinion, that bitch don’t give a f~~~ that you did that s~~~. She’ll have 50 other dudes try to pick up on her before the day’s over. It’s good that you did it, because it’s a good habit to be in, but I wouldn’t celebrate too much of a victory thinking that you crushed that woman’s spirit or anything. I think guys should all just say “f~~~ online dating.” The guys who use these applications and sites are just feeding an already bloated and overstuffed beast.

#pancaketittyshaming

[OasidParticipant 116]

True, she may have 50 other dudes by the end of the day. But luckily, I’m not one of them. What you say is correct: Don’t celebrate the Unmatch. I’m not celebrating her woe’s or any perceived damage to her psyche, I’m celebrating Freedom. I no longer feel the full weight of obligation to attract like I was brought up to believe. I dropped a huge weight off my shoulders the moment I realized I can drop them for being a boring as s~~~ person to hang out with. Before that moment, things rather sucked for me. It’s more of a taking the pussy off the pedestal kind of moment…

May the Force Be With You

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