For those that know my past: My wife bragged about her ongoing affair last Christmas and I gave her the boot on 26/December/2016. I contemplated suicide but joined MGTOW in early February. Yet we still kept financial bonds to help each other out. That bond cost me nearly $4,000 and continuing interest. I was so stupid for trying to help her. She is honest with money but also careless with how it is spent. I just deleted her credit card and will end her cell phone service next month. That will end all financial bonds.
To be certain, one of the more difficult climbs in the path of your life is underway, brother.
First: congratulations on having taken the step to physically remove this woman from your life, Sparky. The 26th of December, 2016 was a day of triumph for you. I am very glad for you that you chose not to darken this victory by taking your own life sir.
Second: the triumph is not yet complete, but it is clear that you recognize that you must completely sever ties with this woman. It is completely and only to her advantage that you have kept financial bonds with her.
Apart from finances and things money, it’s important to recognize that spending and investing comes in many forms.
One can spend money, for certain. But one can also spend and invest time. Happiness. Mental energy. One can spend the good of one’s self on someone or something which is completely detrimental to the investor’s own well-being.
In my opinion there are times where it is imperative to rip the band-aid off. You can continue to experience a long, drawn-out pain and anxiety by having what is now effectively a purely parasitic entity in your life, should you wish. But I am imagining that you’re much wiser than that, having already taken the step to remove this negative, entitled being from your life.
She made a choice to openly hurt and take of you, creating a “s~~~ test” to see how far she could get in taking advantage of the kindness of a man. You obviously responded how you should have; by scrubbing this barnacle from the hull of your ship.
But now it’s time to put a new coat of lacquer on the keel of the vessel that you are, sir. Scrubbing the parasite away is not enough, as it has somewhat degraded your fine finish. You, as honest men do, let this person past this well-protected barrier into your life. And she, as AWALT women do, took advantage of you, once past that veneer. The veneer of your heart and spirit. Unfortunately she is continuing to do so. Women are masters of this, and legally do it for a living.
It’s now time to completely cut all ties with this woman, for good or for bad. The outcome can only be better.
I am glad that you are here in a place where you can seek support without judgement from your brothers. And I am very glad that you are past the dark place of considering suicide.
My friend; I have been homeless. I have been in prison. I have “triumphed” in career plateaus. I’ve been ill. I’ve been healthy. I’ve earned everything I’ve ever wanted, and I’ve lost everything I’ve ever wanted. But none of those situations was ever a precursor to taking my life. Please do not consider such actions again. Especially under the circumstances you speak of.
You would not have been taking your own life. Were you to have committed suicide it’s important to recognize that you would have effectively allowed her to conveniently murder you. She was a perpetrator, damaging values which are precious to you. So precious in fact, that you found yourself so heartbroken that you no longer wanted to be conscious. You must never again give this power to any other human being.
I am glad that you are alive, brother. I am glad that you have removed the immediate problem from what was a dire situation. But I am even more glad for you that you are taking the final steps to rid yourself of grief, childishness, possessiveness and ultimately of a human being who probably would have been just fine with the prospect of you disappearing from the planet.
Well done sir. I raise my glass to you in knowing that by the one-year anniversary of having put salt on the leech, that you’ll now be tearing the slimy f~~~er off.
Cheers, brother.
Astro 2 years, 3 months ago.
