I should have listened to you.

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  • #619479
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    Astro
    Astro
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    For those that know my past: My wife bragged about her ongoing affair last Christmas and I gave her the boot on 26/December/2016. I contemplated suicide but joined MGTOW in early February. Yet we still kept financial bonds to help each other out. That bond cost me nearly $4,000 and continuing interest. I was so stupid for trying to help her. She is honest with money but also careless with how it is spent. I just deleted her credit card and will end her cell phone service next month. That will end all financial bonds.

    that “bond

    #619515
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    Carnage
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    Now is when nasty begings.

    You are cutting her resources, she will go overdrive hamster spin.

    Get ready.

    To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

    #619524
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    Astro
    Astro
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    2045

    Now is when nasty begings.
    You are cutting her resources, she will go overdrive hamster spin.

    I expect it. I am ready to fight. I may have to plead bankruptcy for the first time but I will survive.

    #619532
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    NerdTunneler
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    Dont fight Sparky…Run from the bitch…
    Dont waste your energy engaging in a fruitless battle…Use that energy on something productive…hating her is only going to hurt you in the long run…

    I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...

    #619538
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    Carnage
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    Dont fight Sparky…Run from the bitch…
    Dont waste your energy engaging in a fruitless battle…Use that energy on something productive…hating her is only going to hurt you in the long run…

    Forget about him. Join me in insanity and no f~~~ given.

    There is power in the dark side… and we also have cookies.

    To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

    #619548
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    NerdTunneler
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    Nooooo…Dont listen to the dark side…LOL

    I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...

    #619551
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    Astro
    Astro
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    2045

    I do not hate her and in fact, we are on friendly terms for now. I expect that to change but I still will not hater her. Her reaction is natural for a woman. At the same time, I have no Love for her or anyone else but the Dachshund that stopped me from suicide.

    #619564
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    Atton
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    A bitch ain’t worth killing yourself over.

    A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

    #619644
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    Jake
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    yes cookies

    #619681
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    Xenon
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    2007

    Mmmm cookies.

    #619703
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    Bstoff
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    Sparky, I’m afraid you’re still hung up on her and you have more suffering to endure before you learn your lesson.
    “friendly” is no way to be with someone who bragged about cheating on you and then continued to cheat you out of money because you decided to help her out. You are still shooting yourself in the dick.

    #619717
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    Monk
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    Once the resources are cut off, it’ll turn nasty with a bump. Get things in place.

    Bear in mind that she doesn’t necessarily need you to be there to make THAT phone call. She might suddenly ‘remember’ ‘historical’ abuse.

    #619758
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    Anonymous
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    She slid another c~~~ in her hole.

    She bragged about it.

    She destroyed her marriage.

    Why in holy f~~~ is she still reaping the cash and prizes?

    She needs to see her new c~~~/s for all the amenities she can scour from them. She’ll be resourceful, they always do.

    You need to be free of her and be solid concrete in your decision. Hold her accountable or expect no good, and no respect from her.

    You better start holding yourself accountable for enabling her bulls~~~ to continue in your life. She’s not a wife, she’s someone’s filthy whore and nothing more, she threw all that away! It’s up to you to climb out the garbagecan! Her garbagecan!

    Or

    Live with the stench…

    #620191
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    EscapedMentalPatient
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    For those that know my past: My wife bragged about her ongoing affair last Christmas and I gave her the boot on 26/December/2016. I contemplated suicide but joined MGTOW in early February. Yet we still kept financial bonds to help each other out. That bond cost me nearly $4,000 and continuing interest. I was so stupid for trying to help her. She is honest with money but also careless with how it is spent. I just deleted her credit card and will end her cell phone service next month. That will end all financial bonds.

    To be certain, one of the more difficult climbs in the path of your life is underway, brother.

    First: congratulations on having taken the step to physically remove this woman from your life, Sparky. The 26th of December, 2016 was a day of triumph for you. I am very glad for you that you chose not to darken this victory by taking your own life sir.

    Second: the triumph is not yet complete, but it is clear that you recognize that you must completely sever ties with this woman. It is completely and only to her advantage that you have kept financial bonds with her.

    Apart from finances and things money, it’s important to recognize that spending and investing comes in many forms.

    One can spend money, for certain. But one can also spend and invest time. Happiness. Mental energy. One can spend the good of one’s self on someone or something which is completely detrimental to the investor’s own well-being.

    In my opinion there are times where it is imperative to rip the band-aid off. You can continue to experience a long, drawn-out pain and anxiety by having what is now effectively a purely parasitic entity in your life, should you wish. But I am imagining that you’re much wiser than that, having already taken the step to remove this negative, entitled being from your life.

    She made a choice to openly hurt and take of you, creating a “s~~~ test” to see how far she could get in taking advantage of the kindness of a man. You obviously responded how you should have; by scrubbing this barnacle from the hull of your ship.

    But now it’s time to put a new coat of lacquer on the keel of the vessel that you are, sir. Scrubbing the parasite away is not enough, as it has somewhat degraded your fine finish. You, as honest men do, let this person past this well-protected barrier into your life. And she, as AWALT women do, took advantage of you, once past that veneer. The veneer of your heart and spirit. Unfortunately she is continuing to do so. Women are masters of this, and legally do it for a living.

    It’s now time to completely cut all ties with this woman, for good or for bad. The outcome can only be better.

    I am glad that you are here in a place where you can seek support without judgement from your brothers. And I am very glad that you are past the dark place of considering suicide.

    My friend; I have been homeless. I have been in prison. I have “triumphed” in career plateaus. I’ve been ill. I’ve been healthy. I’ve earned everything I’ve ever wanted, and I’ve lost everything I’ve ever wanted. But none of those situations was ever a precursor to taking my life. Please do not consider such actions again. Especially under the circumstances you speak of.

    You would not have been taking your own life. Were you to have committed suicide it’s important to recognize that you would have effectively allowed her to conveniently murder you. She was a perpetrator, damaging values which are precious to you. So precious in fact, that you found yourself so heartbroken that you no longer wanted to be conscious. You must never again give this power to any other human being.

    I am glad that you are alive, brother. I am glad that you have removed the immediate problem from what was a dire situation. But I am even more glad for you that you are taking the final steps to rid yourself of grief, childishness, possessiveness and ultimately of a human being who probably would have been just fine with the prospect of you disappearing from the planet.

    Well done sir. I raise my glass to you in knowing that by the one-year anniversary of having put salt on the leech, that you’ll now be tearing the slimy f~~~er off.

    Cheers, brother.

    #620893
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    Maddlad
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    Sparky, no offense brother but this c~~~ cheated on you willingly and then bragged about it. Why would you have anything to do with her or be friendly to such a disgusting person? She let some other Chad inside her when she was married to you. That is the lowest of lows and you should be giving her nothing but the silent treatment after telling her what a low life scumbag she is. You deserve better, but only you can make that decision mate. Respect yourself properly or no-one else will.

    Look after yourself buddy.
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    #620937
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    Stargazer
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    “to help each other”

    That’s how they get you. Let me ask you this… at any point during that portion of the relationship, did you ever actually, honestly believe there would come a time when YOU would be down on your luck and SHE would offer you money? Be honest. Did you REALLY think that was a possibility?

    I moved in with a woman once. “I’m independent” she said “and we’ll be equals.” knowing full well that my income was four times hers. I think it took about three months for her to “come up short” with the rent and promise to “work it off” with blowjobs or sandwiches or some s~~~. After the third month in a row of this, the blowjobs started running out too. It took me nine months to give her the “you have three months to pull your own weight or get out” talk and when the lease came up for renewal after a year, I let it go and told her I was moving on.

    She paid her share of the rent exactly three times out of twelve, meaning that I paid my share of the rent 21 times adding up to 87.2% of the total rent. Bills were the same… and it was around week five that she stopped paying for her portion of dinners and started kicking in for coffees… which also ended around month 2.

    What she did with her income I still don’t know… half of the time she wasn’t working so I suppose there wasn’t much of it to do anything with. And she got depressed and gained weight and wouldn’t go out of the house. I tried to encourage at first, then she just started getting angry at me for mentioning it so I gave it up… then finally gave up on her.

    This is what happens to women when you believe their bulls~~~ about how things are going to be.

    #621974
    Astro
    Astro
    Participant
    2045

    She slid another c~~~ in her hole.
    She bragged about it.
    She destroyed her marriage.
    Why in holy f~~~ is she still reaping the cash and prizes?
    She needs to see her new c~~~/s for all the amenities she can scour from them. She’ll be resourceful, they always do.
    You need to be free of her and be solid concrete in your decision. Hold her accountable or expect no good, and no respect from her.
    You better start holding yourself accountable for enabling her bulls~~~ to continue in your life. She’s not a wife, she’s someone’s filthy whore and nothing more, she threw all that away! It’s up to you to climb out the garbagecan! Her garbagecan!
    Or

    You are correct and deep down, I knew you were. It just took ,e some time and money to understand.

    #621978
    Astro
    Astro
    Participant
    2045

    Sparky, I’m afraid you’re still hung up on her and you have more suffering to endure before you learn your lesson.
    “friendly” is no way to be with someone who bragged about cheating on you and then continued to cheat you out of money because you decided to help her out. You are still shooting yourself in the dick.

    I am now more free to listen to you and you are correct. Bonds are breaking faster and all will soon be broken.

    #621984
    Astro
    Astro
    Participant
    2045

    My friend; I have been homeless. I have been in prison. I have “triumphed” in career plateaus. I’ve been ill. I’ve been healthy. I’ve earned everything I’ve ever wanted, and I’ve lost everything I’ve ever wanted. But none of those situations was ever a precursor to taking my life. Please do not consider such actions again. Especially under the circumstances you speak of.
    You would not have been taking your own life. Were you to have committed suicide it’s important to recognize that you would have effectively allowed her to conveniently murder you. She was a perpetrator, damaging values which are precious to you. So precious in fact, that you found yourself so heartbroken that you no longer wanted to be conscious. You must never again give this power to any other human being.
    I am glad that you are alive, brother. I am glad that you have removed the immediate problem from what was a dire situation. But I am even more glad for you that you are taking the final steps to rid yourself of grief, childishness, possessiveness and ultimately of a human being who probably would have been just fine with the prospect of you disappearing from the planet.
    Well done sir. I raise my glass to you in knowing that by the one-year anniversary of having put salt on the leech, that you’ll now be tearing the slimy f~~~er off.
    Cheers, brother.

    You f~~~ing ass, you just made me cry. You just told me what I needed to hear. Some may admire me but I admire you. You may gave me a reason to survive this f~~~ing Christmas and the three days after.

    #621987
    Astro
    Astro
    Participant
    2045

    Sparky, no offense brother but this c~~~ cheated on you willingly and then bragged about it. Why would you have anything to do with her or be friendly to such a disgusting person? She let some other Chad inside her when she was married to you. That is the lowest of lows and you should be giving her nothing but the silent treatment after telling her what a low life scumbag she is. You deserve better, but only you can make that decision mate. Respect yourself properly or no-one else will.
    Look after yourself buddy.

    You are correct and I am listening. She still wants to be “friends” but that friendship is going away. She destroyed me and I will never forget it though I may forgive.

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