I said no to sex for the first time

[Masculine_ManParticipant 2735]

This was one of the toughest things I have done and no one else would understand this except this community. So the backstory, I had an ex-girlfriend a year ago and we broke up July 2015. The argument that led up to the breakup was me forgetting an event she thought was important but I was working late and also traveling. Instead of realizing I was busy, she turns it into an argument. Needless to say we broke up and three weeks later she finds some new sucker who is willing to settle down. I always told her marriage was off the table since I was divorced and I will never do it again. This was my pre-red pill days. Well fast forward, this chump proposes to her in November and soon after she realizes he’s been f~~~ing around with at least three other women. Guess who she called to complain about this situation? Not to mention while complaining she’s telling me sex with him is awful and she wants to fool around with me again. I told her this guy was a user and abuser but she didn’t listen. Well fast forward another two weeks, all is forgiven and she stays with him. Around this time is when I discovered MGTOW. It was a breath of fresh air because it explained her s~~~ty attitude and her making f~~~ed up choices. Told her to not complain to me anymore and cease communication. I never heard from her again until last night:

Phone rings…odd number I really shouldn’t have answered but I did (first mistake)

[Male] Hello
[Female] Hey! (Enthusiastically)
[Male] Hey
[Female] How are you?
[Male] I’m fine. Is there something you need to tell me? (Im hoping she’s not calling me to tell me about a discovery of an STD)
[Female] yeh….you were right about XXX. I need someone to talk to. Are you busy tonight? Can you come over?
[Male] I really don’t want to turn this into an I told you so conversation. Plus I have things I need to do. Is this why you called?
[Female] Do you hate me?
[Male] No I don’t. To hate anyone or anything one must care somewhat. I do not care about you.
[Female] That was a little mean but I guess I deserved it. I’m sorry, I shouldn’t have bothered you I figured you must be seeing someone else.
[Male] Well nice talking to you.

I hung up she didn’t say bye. No text, no more questions nothing. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing more I wouldve wanted than to be nuts deep in some pussy but here is what would have happened. We would have sex, we would go to breakfast in the morning, I would pay for it, and repeat cycle. I said no to all of that.

If it costs you your peace of mind, then it is too expensive.

[Anonymous 54]

Congratulations. Well done sir.

[bigboy83Participant 11312]

Like I said, Women will be complaining about the good old days,”when men wanted women just for sex.”

Shit Tested, Cunt Approved.

[BigDParticipant 3024]

Should have said you were a bit short, if she could pick a place she could afford and you would talk if she pays. As she is talking, after you take your last mouth full, just walk out and go home.

Don't stick your dick into anyone you aren't willing to put up with for eighteen years and nine months.

[Mr. SpockParticipant 10911]

Good job but stay ready. She’s not going to go away that easy. She will try again. In her mind she’ll rationalize that you were that way towards her because you were woken up from a sound sleep and not because you truly don’t want anything to do with her. Expect her try again.

Feminism isn't about equality with men, it's about leverage over men.

[EchoesParticipant 92]

To me saying no to a woman feels too good. I remember I brought this chick back home one night and had sex. The next morning we wake up and asks me to have sex again, I told her no and she goes “Wow. I’ve never been told no before.” and kind of shrugged it off stupidly.

Western women are so used to being pandered to by men that they one-sidedly expect more and more.

[OldBillParticipant]

Masculine_Man wrote:

[Male] No I don’t. To hate anyone or anything one must care somewhat. I do not care about you.

I want to buy you a round of drinks! And I’ll be toasting your name with a single malt later tonight.

Didn’t it feel good? Didn’t it feel right? You finally told a woman the truth. Did you feel the weight lift from your shoulders? All those expectations, all that societal pressures, all that bulls~~~ just dried up and blew away.

Heed Mr. Spock’s wise advice though. She will be back to test you. Women don’t understand rejection, they can’t “grok” like men must to do from birth. She’ll be back. She was already making “excuses” for your being “mean” during the phone call; i.e. you’re seeing someone else.

Next time give her both barrels. Tell her flat out that you aren’t seeing someone else, that you do not care for her, and that you do not want to hear from her ever again. If you hit her with enough of the truth, she might have a chance of actually comprehending what you’re saying.

Don’t tell her it was nice talking to her either because it wasn’t nice and her motives for contacting you were entirely selfish.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Fun post! And great for you. Gratz on your doing the right thing. Except I might not consider it a celebration when I turn down sex…. for the same reason that I would not consider it a “tragedy” when she does.

The only thing I might have done differently:

“Do you hate me?”

“?? Pardon?? No I strictly don’t fraternize with other men’s WIVES.”

She shouldn’t even be CALLING.

As soon as they are married, remind them they are MARRIED and off the f~~~ing market. There are no “dates” , sexual tensions, frictions and dramas with married exes. She does not exist. No more convenient “oh can you come over?”. Refuse to play that part and shatter all of her illusions.

Remember when the wedding was the most important thing in her world? Now force her to go be a wife. Rub her nose in that wedding s~~~ like she rubbed it in everyone else’s face. You got your wedding, now go be a wife.

while complaining she’s telling me sex with him is awful

That’s what her HUSBAND thinks, and probably why he’s banging other women. Because she’s bad in bed and a s~~~ wife. How does she like that now? She can work it out with him.

Who would ever want to be the guy women call to complain about the asshole who’s cheating on her — whom she CHOSE and refuses to leave. Let her feel like a piece of s~~~ and out of line for calling you in the first place.

She’s married. It’s over. Go be a wife.

Bed. Made.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Mr_OptionsParticipant 298]

Well done brother. You killed all hopes and aspirations of that c~~~. Now block the number she called you on.

A man without a woman is like a fish without a hook.

[WhackerGuy2030Participant 999]

This post inspired me to share my buddy’s current drama. See the post “Advanced Hookery…”
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I didn’t realize how well thought out those situations really are. Women like that just don’t simply try to hook up. They create some kind of need or vulnerability meant to trigger ancient man’s “save” mechanism.
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Good for you for putting her down hard right off the bat.

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

Well played.

[The_YoungParticipant 1073]

I didn’t something pretty stupid yesterday.

It was my ex’s birthday, and I broke up with her a month ago. Thing is, she picked out her gifts and made me buy them online a whopping three months before her birthday. F~~~ing wow. Anyways, I didn’t know what to do with them (should have burned them in a forest), but I’m just too nice so I decided to drive by her house, drop them off with a note asking for a special picture of me I need to get a T shirt, knock on the door, and f~~~ing run. My phone blows up about 5 minutes later with texts saying how sorry she behaved towards me etc. A few hours later, being an idiot, I responded. Now we’re texting back and forth. I’m trying to stay away from being too flirty and give her the wrong idea, but if she asks me to hang out or do anything, I’m going to say no.

Brother, we need to stick together.

[Masculine_ManParticipant 2735]

Now go f~~~ her best friend.

A classic Stealthy reply.

My college friend went through six cascades of that.

This sounds very tempting, I would only do this if it fell on my lap though.

If it costs you your peace of mind, then it is too expensive.

[Masculine_ManParticipant 2735]

The_Young wrote:

Advanced Hookery

This sounds like she is using you for emotional pleasure. Cut her off and starve the bitch, you don’t need it.

If it costs you your peace of mind, then it is too expensive.

[LonerBonerParticipant 358]

Well done!

Keep clam i'm dyslexic.

[DeepInThoughtParticipant 2710]

Do yourself a favour. Change your cell phone number and disappear from her life!

[WhackerGuy2030Participant 999]

The_Young wrote:

I didn’t something pretty stupid yesterday.

It was my ex’s birthday, and I broke up with her a month ago. Thing is, she picked out her gifts and made me buy them online a whopping three months before her birthday. F~~~ing wow. Anyways, I didn’t know what to do with them (should have burned them in a forest), but I’m just too nice so I decided to drive by her house, drop them off with a note asking for a special picture of me I need to get a T shirt, knock on the door, and f~~~ing run. My phone blows up about 5 minutes later with texts saying how sorry she behaved towards me etc. A few hours later, being an idiot, I responded. Now we’re texting back and forth. I’m trying to stay away from being too flirty and give her the wrong idea, but if she asks me to hang out or do anything, I’m going to say no.

You have to put her down hard, or she’ll keep coming. She’s clearly struck out in the three months she’s been seeking to replace you. She won’t just try to get back together with you, she’ll create a white-knight fit crisis that’ll require you to either submit, or coldly walk away.
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Be strong brother.

[AttonParticipant]

If one must f~~~ don’t f~~~ a bitch, nice work.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[Masculine_ManParticipant 2735]

OldBill wrote:

Masculine_Man wrote:

[Male] No I don’t. To hate anyone or anything one must care somewhat. I do not care about you.

I want to buy you a round of drinks! And I’ll be toasting your name with a single malt later tonight.

Didn’t it feel good? Didn’t it feel right? You finally told a woman the truth. Did you feel the weight lift from your shoulders? All those expectations, all that societal pressures, all that bulls~~~ just dried up and blew away.

Heed Mr. Spock’s wise advice though. She will be back to test you. Women don’t understand rejection, they can’t “grok” like men must to do from birth. She’ll be back. She was already making “excuses” for your being “mean” during the phone call; i.e. you’re seeing someone else.

Next time give her both barrels. Tell her flat out that you aren’t seeing someone else, that you do not care for her, and that you do not want to hear from her ever again. If you hit her with enough of the truth, she might have a chance of actually comprehending what you’re saying.

Don’t tell her it was nice talking to her either because it wasn’t nice and her motives for contacting you were entirely selfish.

It felt as satisfying as biting the first slice of ham at Christmas, or sipping and ice cold beverage during a hot day.

If it costs you your peace of mind, then it is too expensive.

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