I Remember…

[CPT ObviousParticipant 2727]

I recently reposted Learning’s comments warning against marriage. I came across a follow-up post saying he was “pretty drunk” when writing….(posted below).

Gawd, I remember that time. Worst year of my 50 years on this Earth. For an entire year I crawled inside the bottle to numb the pain.

Rocky marriage after year three when we had our first child. Wife slipped into a depression and never recovered. Eventually she had a fling and our marriage never was on stable ground.

I moved out, leaving her in our home with kids in an attempt to not disrupt their lives. I would come by on weekends to take care of house and see kids. My attempt to have an amicable divorce was met with a nuclear response with extreme prejudice.

She hired a high priced lawyer (whom court eventually ordered I pay for). Cleaned out our joint checking and savings account on a Friday when my paycheck and military bonus hit. Then served me with divorce petition and DV restraining order the next day.

Over the next six months I missed both my girl’s birthdays, 4th of July holiday, my oldest graduation from middle school, and their attendance to my mother’s marriage. Me and Jim Beam became close friends.

She posted bullsh1t lies all over social media and turned nearly all my “friends” and peers against me. She posted how I was “using” my children in divorce, yet she was emailing me saying if I would agree to her terms (lifetime alimony plus child support equal to 3/4 of my income) she would let me see my children again in supervised visits.

The court case dragged on as her lawyer continued delaying tactics in the hope I would capitulate. I was dead broke, alone, isolated, and supposed to deploy to Afghanistan in a few months. It was a desperate time for me. My blue-pilled world was crashing down, and I admit I contemplated taking a premature exit to this thing we call life.

However, in my stubbornness I was determined to fight her lies and eventually got my day in court. The DV charges were quashed quickly and the divorce proceedings eventually turned in my favor. She and her lawyer upped the ante by accusing me of sexually abusing our children. The court ordered a parental evaluation (at my expense of course —- $5000) and it ended up blowing up in her face since evaluator ruled nothing such happened and I had excellent parenting relationship, while hers was deemed sub-par.

At that point, she realized tide was turning against her and she fired her lawyer and settled with me directly. She left the state and our children so she could live with her bum boyfriend … subsidized only by my alimony. She never paid a dime in child support and constantly asked for more money.

So much more to the story…her demands, name-calling and threats. Me rebounding into second marriage to a controlling gold-digger. Then my second divorce after a year. Immediately followed by a deployment to Afghanistan, then my newly found “unicorn” moving in when I returned home. Only to realize AWALT.

What a ride. But now, finally, I am truly MGTOW and free.

For all those still reading, there is a happy ending if you can put all those blue-pill lies behind you and go your own way.

"You don't know a woman till you have met her in divorce court."

[CPT ObviousParticipant 2727]

Learning posted:

“ I must admit, that I’m quite drunk right now. Many things have happened in the past year … job loss, a mgtow awakening for me, no money even though I made seven figures in pounds in a year at one point in my life …. and right now I’m sitting in the toilet cubicle in one of the temp office lounges drinking beer, feeling like a worthless piece of s~~~.
I have written a couple of threads before about warning people of marriage. I hope that some of you listen.
I’m not saying that if you get married then this will happen to you. Maybe it won’t. But I know one thing for sure, without any doubt, that I have spent the last fifteen years of my life living someone else’s dream. It’s because marriage is only a woman’s dream… it is not a man’s dream. Show me an eight year old boy who dreams of marriage .. I have a ten year old son and he only dreams of being a captain of a spaceship one day.
If wyou get married, the only thing that will happen to you is that you will be stripped clean, of everything… not just the money, but of your dreams and aspirations. The woman who will make that happen probably won’t even mean to do it.. but her dreams are incompatible with yours. Although I am disgusted with the general behaviour of women nowadays, I really dont think that most of them plan it, they are just selfish by nature, and actually the things that make them happy will never make you happy. Show me a man who is happy about spending 20 thousand pounds on a wedding, show me a man who is happy about owning a huge house he hardly ever spends any time in (cos he is so busy working), show me a man who is happy about hardly any sex at home and getting used to masturbating at home. This is married life, and it doesn’t get any better.
I don’t know what lies on theother side, maybe it’s better and maybe it’s not. I don’t know cos I’ve never been there. Some of you have and I really hope that it is a bit better, cos this sucks, it sucks big time.
If you have been on the other side, then I hope that you provide inspiration to the young men of this world, cos all I can provide is a warning… dont come here, its not worth it, dont get married. You will end up a slave. No matter how well you do in life financially or otherwise, you will end up a slave. All your money will be spent on worthless bulls~~~ and before you realise it, it will be too late.
And I’ll tell you why it will be too late. It will be too late cos you will almost certainly have kids – kids that you love beyond believe – kids, who provide you with the only source of happiness in life. That’s how kids are – they are f~~~ing awesome. They aren’t expensive, women make them expensive. A local school and lots of love is enough for any child, but a woman is never satisfied, she wants more. She wants a private school and burberry diaper bags and a 500 pound buggy and on and on it goes. It never ends. And it never will.
I hope that at least some of you will realise this and live your life differently. Good luck.”

"You don't know a woman till you have met her in divorce court."

[MonkParticipant 16984]

Tells it like it is.

#MANOUT

[TwistParticipant]

CPT Obvious wrote:

Although I am disgusted with the general behaviour of women nowadays, I really dont think that most of them plan it, they are just selfish by nature, and actually the things that make them happy will never make you happy.

Beautiful telling of the story that must be told, over and over and over again. But the above I take issue with – I do think they plan all of this. Perhaps not on their own, but the plan plays out just too perfectly to have not been planned with great attention to detail. Planned with help, with the lawyers, but particularly with the Hive. Holding their hands the entire way. Encouraging, supporting, justifying. Every step of the way.

Yes. They plan it.

[Sky-OParticipant 18936]

Twist. . .

Regarding the planning.

It is always planned and calculated. Every move they make and every tactic they employ.

From the early days when she first locks on. That first time she puts your d*ck in her mouth – until the final hour when she is strategizing and plotting, sometimes years later: To extract without empathy or remorse while inflicting the most amount of financial, emotional and life devasting damage.

Nothing is left to chance. The modus operandi of a pumpkin requires a state of mind equal to that of a predatory sociopath.

A hardened blue piller that is on the verge of transitioning to the red pill can learn some of the warning signs over time after numerous similiar experiences.

The most notable is the look in her eyes – even weeks or months prior. It gives her intentions away every time. The ability to discern that look comes with experience. And by the time a man knows what it is and understands it, he is more than likely already ready to walk away. And walk away for the last time.

[BubParticipant 1404]

Sky-O wrote:

That first time she puts your d*ck in her mouth

Everything is planned, mother’s teach daughters, they all follow the playbook

About 3years into my marriage

Me – how about a blowjob darling
Her – I don’t have to do that anymore.

Guess what cupcake, there’s plenty I’m not doing anymore.

Just rolling down the road

[BubParticipant 1404]

Sky-O wrote:

The most notable is the look in her eyes

Once your full on Red Pill you can spot this look without trying.
It takes awhile to get good at recognizing it but you can’t miss it when you see it.

Lying f*cking wh*res. All Of them.

Just rolling down the road

[TwistParticipant]

Sky-O wrote:

Nothing is left to chance. The modus operandi of a pumpkin requires a state of mind equal to that of a predatory sociopath.

And this is what strikes me so often – to do this damage one must be a sociopath/psychopath. This is not trivial damage, this is destruction of a life(s). With no remorse.

Ted Bundy – now there was a psychopath right? But Teddy (product of a single mom, btw) was one in a million. Perhaps one in several million. An outlier of the most extreme.

But these women, who hate. Who hate without remorse. Who hate the one who they swore to treat to absolute opposite way? They are not the outliers, they are the 80% who file, they are the 80% of the 50% that fail. They are everywhere, and their script is cast in stone. AWALT. Disregard at your peril.

If Ted Bundy’s hobby was accepted, supported and rewarded by the legal system – would it become pervasive? Maybe 80% of 50% – so like 40% of the population snuffing a buncha biotches? No – there is not enough evil in the world.

But still we come back to AWALT. And evil.

Don’t
Just don’t

[CPT ObviousParticipant 2727]

Sky-O wrote:

The most notable is the look in her eyes – even weeks or months prior. It gives her intentions away every time.

Agreed. I saw my-soon-to-be-ex-1 at a school concert with our girls just a few days before her nuclear divorce launch.

It was a mix of hate, hurt and I-will-destroy you.

That year-long trip to hell to divorce rape court is why I have my signature…

"You don't know a woman till you have met her in divorce court."

[MonkParticipant 16984]

Sky-O wrote:

And by the time a man knows what it is and understands it, he is more than likely already ready to walk away. And walk away for the last time.

If he survives that long.

Better to listen to others and not stick your head in the fire in the first place.

[CPT ObviousParticipant 2727]

Twist wrote:

But these women, who hate. Who hate without remorse. Who hate the one who they swore to treat to absolute opposite way? They are not the outliers, they are the 80% who file, they are the 80% of the 50% that fail. They are everywhere, and their script is cast in stone. AWALT. Disregard at your peril.

Well said Twist.

Whether it be their nature or their own machinations or both, doesn’t matter cuz in the end all women are predators and will viciously turn on you in the right circumstances.

What I find fu​cked up is how our court system not only enables the destruction of the husband, it encourages it!

Like you said, it’s as if they have legalized Ted Bundy behavior for women.

"You don't know a woman till you have met her in divorce court."

[AwakenedParticipant 35201]

Bub wrote:

Guess what cupcake, there’s plenty I’m not doing anymore.

I LAUGH at how much that I USED TO DO….Well, she too inadvertently showed me HER HAND on a couple occasions, and that was the end of HER GRAVY TRAIN.

She TRIED to half heatedly apologize claiming that she didn’t mean “most of it”.

Yeah, WAY TO LATE FOR THAT.

At least, she wasn’t smart enough to keep me dangling on HER LINE.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[Vajra VarahaParticipant 1284]

All true…….all true.

[Gravel PitParticipant]

All Women Are Like That. no conscious, no mercy. Wrathful, greedy and deceptive. Men always believe the act. Its all swell until they turn on you.

As a Veteran of war and a recovered alcoholic, I can truthfully say that I have been BOTH, a drunkard for several years and a sober man for several years; a psychologically insecure person and a psychologically healthy person for many years.

From age 18 – 27, I was pretty insecure and drunk so I dont blame women for not appraising my true worth. But from 27 to 33 (current) I have been nothing short of a diamond in the rough. But guess what?

IT NEVER MATTERED EITHER WAY, women NEVER cared for me, whether I was a roughneck drunk or an squared away achiever. They dont see anything beyond the tip of their nose. I have been through severe trauma of all sorts: physical, mental, financial and I survived and adapted. I SELF ACTUALIZED. Now, approaching the age of 34. Im taking life by the horns, completely at one with myself, my objectives and my future.

Girls my age are the total opposite! Theyre on antidepressants, maxed out credit cards and student loan debt, living well beyond their means leasing cars and condos beyond their paygrade. They have no self respect after a decade of riding the caulk carousel. Many of them have STDs or have had multiple abortions, or they have illegitimate kids! Most of them are so far gone down the road of obesity that even if they had a psychic change and started a healthy lifestyle, the damage to their skin and body is irreversible.

GOOD BYE HOES! Enjoy a miserable existence with boxed wine, cats and pus5y beggars from Dating Apps. REAL MEN DONT WANT YOU! This is the seeds youve sown.

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