A very compelling opener. I had no idea you were going through such hard times. But high medals for your bravery and determination. It’s times like these when I have told myself I can’t fall off the floor and that gets me by.
Trust me on the recruiters. Every last one of them is a crooked piece of s~~~ and NOT looking out for your best interests. They can go f~~~ themselves for all I care. It’s not in your imaginings that white men are enormously discriminated against, but can also count that as a plus. Hear me out. We are the only demographic that (when we don’t get a job) we can’t cry “sexism” or “racism” and blame it on color, sex or race. We get laughed out of the room for that.
When a woman doesn’t get a job, she thinks is because she;s a WOMAN… but she didn’t get that job for the same reason another WHITE MAN didn’t get it. The white male doesn’t have that luxury of blaming his sex or color…. and he is forced to accept it’s because he’s not good enough, or qualified enough, or talented enough – so he demands more from himself. He works harder and improves.
Women don’t accept that reality. They think it’s because they’re female and they don’t beat themselves up as much as you will. They don’t DEMAND and EXPECT more of themselves, and they will NEVER arrive at your level of self-determination.
That’s the beauty of it. You have something they don’t have and never will. So what, you’re not a receptionist who answers phones for a piddly $22,500 a year. So you’re not some worthless HR rep that sifts through resumes all day and throws darts at them. When the s~~~ comes down they will be the first to be out of a job.
That kind of work is good enough for HER, but it’s not good enough for you because you expect MORE from yourself. She’s ok with a useless job, because she can get that job with an artificial smile and a pair of t~~~. She’s also replaceable in 2 seconds – just like every recruiter and HR piece of s~~~. They aren’t even qualified to ask the right questions. your contempt for them is perfectly justified.
You KNOW you can do better.
I wouldn’t know what to tell you about what to do or where to find work based on your skills and talents, but your attitude is excellent. When things were looking so low that I thought I wouldn’t make it out , I managed with the same outlook …. and very quickly, the stars aligned and I pulled myself out of the wreckage to come out better than before. It sounds like a cliche but it was true. I was stuck in a foreign country with no papers and no work or RIGHT to work. I couldn’t even legally get a job pumping coffee at the local coffee shop. It was THAT bad.
Things DO work out. They DO. For alot of people, all that stands between them and success (whatever that means) is the WILL. But you have the will, so now just find a way … and I wish you every success. I hope this was of some value to you.
If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.
