I REFUSE to be a FAILURE!!!

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  • #20211
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    PZ1$
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    Hello men,

    My self respect is f~~~ing p~~~ed off! I refuse to be a failure any longer! I refuse to allow life, my wife, or society to marginalize my worth and shun me aside, as if I am just an unemployed, middle aged man! IT’S NOT HAPPENING ANYMORE!

    I know a woman can’t respect a man who is not working and taking care of his wife and kids. I get that. I also know that a while male in his 50s is probably the most discriminated against segment of today’s demographics; horrible, but oh so true!!!!!!!

    So what the hell do I do with myself? After being rejected year after year for jobs I was qualified for, being lied to be recruiters, being ignored by resume submissions, what the hell do I do?

    I KNOW THERE IS AN ANSWER! I’m just not finding it!

    Now, I am not the smartest guy in the world. I can’t just do anything. I have to work with what I have.

    Any guys have a breakthrough to success in their 50s?

    THIS IS BULLS~~~ AND I AM NOT ACCEPTING IT!

     

     
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    #23079
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    BigD
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    The only person that can determine if you are a failure or not is you.  No one else can judge you.  I know people who just totally suck at their jobs and just show up to collect a paycheck, but they are well known as heroes in their hobbies of choice.  I know people who have let their family fend for themselves with money they earn and just become gods at their work.  Both types of these people I know are extremely happy and could give a f~~~ who says what about their lives.

    Blaze your own path and set your own goals.  As long as you are successful by your standards, no one can say anything.

    Don't stick your dick into anyone you aren't willing to put up with for eighteen years and nine months.

    #31142
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    Keymaster
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    A very compelling opener. I had no idea you were going through such hard times. But high medals for your bravery and determination. It’s times like these when I have told myself I can’t fall off the floor and that gets me by.

    Trust me on the recruiters. Every last one of them is a crooked piece of s~~~ and NOT looking out for your best interests. They can go f~~~ themselves for all I care. It’s not in your imaginings that white men are enormously discriminated against, but can also count that as a plus. Hear me out. We are the only demographic that (when we don’t get a job) we can’t cry “sexism” or “racism” and blame it on color, sex or race. We get laughed out of the room for that.

    When a woman doesn’t get a job, she thinks is because she;s a WOMAN… but she didn’t get that job for the same reason another WHITE MAN didn’t get it. The white male doesn’t have that luxury of blaming his sex or color…. and he is forced to accept it’s because he’s not good enough, or qualified enough, or talented enough – so he demands more from himself. He works harder and improves.

    Women don’t accept that reality. They think it’s because they’re female and they don’t beat themselves up as much as you will. They don’t DEMAND and EXPECT more of themselves, and they will NEVER arrive at your level of self-determination.

    That’s the beauty of it. You have something they don’t have and never will. So what, you’re not a receptionist who answers phones for a piddly $22,500 a year. So you’re not some worthless HR rep that sifts through resumes all day and throws darts at them. When the s~~~ comes down they will be the first to be out of a job.

    That kind of work is good enough for HER, but it’s not good enough for you because you expect MORE from yourself. She’s ok with a useless job, because she can get that job with an artificial smile and a pair of t~~~. She’s also replaceable in 2 seconds – just like every recruiter and HR piece of s~~~. They aren’t even qualified to ask the right questions. your contempt for them is perfectly justified.

    You KNOW you can do better.

    I wouldn’t know what to tell you about what to do or where to find work based on your skills and talents, but your attitude is excellent. When things were looking so low that I thought I wouldn’t make it out , I managed with the same outlook …. and very quickly, the stars aligned and I pulled myself out of the wreckage to come out better than before. It sounds like a cliche but it was true. I was stuck in a foreign country with no papers and no work or RIGHT to work. I couldn’t even legally get a job pumping coffee at the local coffee shop. It was THAT bad.

    Things DO work out. They DO. For alot of people, all that stands between them and success (whatever that means) is the WILL. But you have the will, so now just find a way … and I wish you every success. I hope this was of some value to you.

    If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.
    #31146
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    Hey KeyMaster, great reply and needed at the most perfect of times!!! Thank you! I like your statement that “I can’t fall off the floor and that gets me by.” THAT’S PERFECT BROTHER! Do you know I am LITERALLY SLEEPING ON THE FLOOR AT NIGHTS? Okay, it’s cushioned by a take out matt, but I am sleeping on the floor! Yes, Recruiters are all pieces of s~~~! They never stop affirming that for me.

    This morning I realized something. As of today I am NO LONGER DEPOSITING MYSELF INTO ANYTHING THAT IS NOT PAYING BACK!!! This goes for the love of my wife, for career goals, for ANYTHING! That means friendships, love, money ANYTHING! I tell you, being down on the bottom does bring forth some wisdom.

    Thank you BigD. Blazing my own path is what I am doing. 😀

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    @ Keymaster…as always a great reply…just find it peculiar that while white men are discriminated against…especially hated are the straight conservative white males…we are also the bar that women say they want to be raised to (or should I say “above”) in order to be equal   ….  @pZ1!…sorry about your situation but inspired by your attitude! Being around your age, I’ve wondered what I would do in the same situation…I would say that whatever you do…do it on your own…many of today’s workplaces are toxic, politically correct s~~~holes where reverse and age discrimination is just fine.

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    Lowroller
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    There’s a line from fightclub that ive seen mentioned only when a man loses everything is he free to do anything.

    Im kinda down and out too living at my ex girlfriends parents house and sleeping in my kids room until my girlfriend moves out and then I guess it will just get worse from there, ill have to leave too shes already mentioned shes taking the kid and brought up child support that shes f~~~ing ENTITLED to even though we both are still in the same house and ive spent more resources on it.

    Im 39 and have very few skills , i spent the last 21 years partying it up and just getting by.

    After I got discarded by her and my hours got cut to like 10 a week I decided I need a new career , ive applied for college for automobile repair , have some money socked away for it and im going to do everything I can to make it happen.

    This is a job where theres going to be plenty of work , side work if she tries to f~~~ me over as well .

    And no bitches!

    Ive been studying for a placement test i think i can get a grant for about half of the twelve grand I need , I have another 3 on hand so i just have to put the time in.

    Once she dumped me I realized I was free to work on me and I dont care about anything else now , ive gone my own way and its going to work and if it doesnt ill try something else.

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