"I really need to tell you something, but you have to promise not to get mad…"

[UptownjesusParticipant 95]

This is one of those phrases that you will NEVER hear a dude say to the woman that he’s dating, but that every f~~~ing one of us has heard from ever woman we’ve ever dated. Guys are straight forward. If we think something is going to result in a fight with your whiny, female ass; we either say it bluntly and end it with “so f~~~ you!”, or,  we don’t feel like fighting with you and we keep our mouths shut. What we DON’T do is passive-aggressively say some f~~~ed up s~~~ while feigning shame and remorse for it. This has become one of my biggest pet peeves while in a relations~~~. I know our policy should simply be to not engage in a scenario like this one, but I still fall into it every time.

#pancaketittyshaming

[Soldier-MedicParticipant 2566]

My response to that is no promises.  If you are going to say something s~~~ty expect a s~~~ty response.  Otherwise take what you need to say and bury it down deep inside so that it festers and rots until it becomes a constant source of resentment.  That’s what I do with you.

"I asked you a question. I didn't ask you to repeat what the voices in you head are telling you" ~ Me. ........Yes I'm still angry.

[experiencedParticipant]

Yeah, like, “I know you’re in the middle of something extremely important at work and this’ll distract you so I’m not going to say what it is.”

And they know damned well what the effect is.

Like them trying to pick start an argument at the firing line. that’s right, while they’re holding the weapon.

 

Wait a sec, think I just started to have a mild stroke.

Memories……………………….thanks for the therapy Uptown. What does not kill us…. leads to mgtow.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[Knights Templar RisingParticipant 5106]

By the time a woman finishes that preface, I am already enraged.

Sovereignty above all else.

[RoyDalParticipant]

When I was a cubicle dweller, I was too busy for domestic arguments and not interested anyhow. It got so I left my cell phone locked in the desk drawer. The desk was all metal and the phone didn’t work in there. This strained our ‘relationship’ which, in hindsight, was a good thing.

Edit: These days, I leave the damn thing locked in the car unless I need it for something. It’s for communicating, not for idle chit-chat.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Helen be DamnedParticipant 480]

Don’t make promises that are entirely based on emotion, ignore the bitch when she talks to you trying to interrupt.

“Promise not to get mad”

Let’s paraphrase someone here “I can’t promise that, I have no idea what you’re going to say. you could say it and my natural response could be to get angry, then through no fault of my own I broke my promise.”

"You can keep your soul, I don't want a cell-mate." - Them Crooked Vultures

[Won'tGetFooledAgainParticipant 3293]

Does this mean prepare yourself for one of the following statements?

“I accidentally crashed your car” or “I accidentally slept with someone else”

For women, everything eventually boils down to Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.

[FullMetalExoParticipant 2383]

Helen be Damned wrote:

Don’t make promises that are entirely based on emotion, ignore the bitch when she talks to you trying to interrupt. “Promise not to get mad” Let’s paraphrase someone here “I can’t promise that, I have no idea what you’re going to say. you could say it and my natural response could be to get angry, then through no fault of my own I broke my promise.”

I love Pulp Fiction 🙂 and I agree.

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[RusskyParticipant 13503]

Won'tGetFooledAgain wrote:

Does this mean prepare yourself for one of the following statements? “I accidentally crashed your car” or “I accidentally slept with someone else”

or “I spent 500 dollars on a handbag”

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

[UptownjesusParticipant 95]

Won'tGetFooledAgain wrote:

Does this mean prepare yourself for one of the following statements? “I accidentally crashed your car” or “I accidentally slept with someone else”

The way I interpret it is:

I’m bored. I wanted to start a fight with you, so I went out and did something s~~~ty so that I could tell you about it and watch you go nuts. I’m a little bit nervous about it, so I’m prefacing it with this disclaimer. That way, after we’ve spent the evening fighting, I can say “I knew I shouldn’t have told you.” And then it will be your fault.

That’s why I liked the guy who said

Knights Templar Rising wrote:

By the time a woman finishes that preface, I am already enraged.

Maybe she wrecked the car. But 9 times out of ten she did something s~~~ty to you on purpose specifically so that she could tell you about it and start a fight. Once your girl starts making this statement, it means that she’s already signed you up for a contest of Let’s See Who Can Cause The Other One More Pain.

#pancaketittyshaming

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Uptownjesus wrote:

This is one of those phrases that you will NEVER hear a dude say to the woman that he’s dating, but that every f~~~ing one of us has heard from ever woman we’ve ever dated.

Amen to that.

“I really need to tell you something, but you have to promise not to get mad…”

RESPONSE “OK, so lemme get this straight… you should be able to do whatever you already KNOW is wrong…. and I should never have a problem with it. I can go one better. You don’t NEED to tell me anything. You can just LEAVE with that f~~~ing attitude.”

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[kormatParticipant 3]

Uptownjesus wrote:

If we think something is going to result in a fight with your whiny, female ass; we either say it bluntly and end it with “so f~~~ you!”, or, we don’t feel like fighting with you and we keep our mouths shut. What we DON’T do is passive-aggressively say some f~~~ed up s~~~ while feigning shame and remorse for it. This has become one of my biggest pet peeves while in a relations~~~. I know our policy should simply be to not engage in a scenario like this one, but I still fall into it every time.

Yes – I also fall into it every time and end up having soul-destroying internal monologues about it for days after. Case it point: On a recent 4 day trip with a girl I’m seeing, she suddenly decides to get moody and arsey after eating breakfast. We’re walking down to the beach and she just switches off, puts up an ice cold barrier (not holding hands, grunting replies to any of my attempts at conversation and basically keeping me at arms length) Of course, I’m thinking what the heck have I done this time? So I ask her, and her reply is “I don’t want to tell you.” And I stupidly keep asking her, which just makes her more moody and give it more of the old “I don’t want to tell you, I don’t want to talk to you now.” When we get back to the room I tell her that she’s ruining our holiday, I don’t want to fight now because this is supposed to be a nice time that we’ve planned for a long time. But nothing – she won’t say what it is that I’ve done. Eventually she comes round, but never actually tells me what it was that I actually did. And stupidly, again, I just let it go and try to get on with having a nice trip.

[mrpropmechParticipant 216]

Uptownjesus wrote:

This is one of those phrases that you will NEVER hear a dude say to the woman that he’s dating, but that every f~~~ing one of us has heard from ever woman we’ve ever dated. Guys are straight forward. If we think something is going to result in a fight with your whiny, female ass; we either say it bluntly and end it with “so f~~~ you!”, or, we don’t feel like fighting with you and we keep our mouths shut. What we DON’T do is passive-aggressively say some f~~~ed up s~~~ while feigning shame and remorse for it. This has become one of my biggest pet peeves while in a relations~~~. I know our policy should simply be to not engage in a scenario like this one, but I still fall into it every time.

YES. Definitely something all women say. This is actually one of the reasons I became a mgtow. One of my ex’s used to say this s~~~ all the time when I was a blue pill. F~~~ that noise they all said it but she said it the most. Another funny thing is though every male has heard this s~~~ or something similar they STILL believe the NAWALT bs. Even though their own personal experience should say otherwise. Have fun with that pipe dream, I refuse to now be apart of it.

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