I really could use some help

[Savage WillParticipant 181]

My parents were divorced for 16 years and now they’re together. I lived with my mom and my sis during that tenure. They got together a year ago. My parents are coming to the city i live in to give a visit. My sister too most probably. She is the only sibling i got. I don’t want to meet her or my mom. My sister started treating me differently ever since my parents got back together. She is a hard feminist. Most probably the reason she spread rumours about me and turned my friends(who she knew since we were quite young) and I like living like a man. She thinks me some sort of accessory like ill drop her somewhere when she wants me to (and if i don’t she’ll say something about me to some cousin or someone) or not liking it when i go hanging out with pals and have real fun. Mom doesnt listen when i tell her about it. Dad’s too busy and don’t have a clue about what’s going on. no point trying to explain it to him.
The problem is I left my hometown and I’m in a city. I have friends from back home in this city too. My mom and sis are trying to make me go back home. I know what it’s gonna be. I feel bad about saying this but they are trying to make me look bad. they’ll talk about the things that annoy me (like family being together and stuff which i dont believe after what ive seen), and when i dont agree theyre gonna say it in a different way to people i know. My sister most probably will try to get on my nerves and when i start saying s~~~ she’s gonna use that against me by telling the people we both know(cousins, neighbors, friends etc.) about my outburst in a way that makes only me look bad. The thing is people are clueless about these things in my country. Plus when its your own family member causing problems like this, no one wants to get their hands dirty. I could meet with my dad alone but ( i don’t wanna say this) not my mom or my sis. My mom tries to keep me in this baby bubble. When i get outraged my sis makes her move. She’s been doing it for years and i was clueless about it. Even when i Was a bluepill user.
The bad thing about it is, i am still under the support of my parents. I’m 23. i dropped out of junior college(prep school) as i was going through a major depression and id crisis. And freelancing jobs pay quite less around here. There are some but it takes several months to start getting enough to sustain myself. I’m planning on doing that and being independent and free. But meanwhile my mom and sis are trying to get me back in that bluepill hell. I’ve been with them most of my life and i know them. i got no proof but i know theyre planning what i mentioned. I’m worried about the outburst i’m gonna throw and my dad thinking something else(something bad) about it and my sis f~~~ing it up.
I don’t know what to say either because i’ve been very angry at my sister and my mom for the past 8-9 months. They’re arriving around ten days from now
If you guys could give me some advice, it would be much appreciated.

Don't fucking tell me it's nighttime when the sun is clearly shining in the sky.

[experiencedParticipant]

It’s not going to be easy.
You’ll have to live within your means. You’ll Have To Live Within Your Means.
Try to not let them get under your skin.
BEWARE of them asking questions.
RESPOND TO ALL QUESTIONS WITH QUESTIONS.
You (nor anyone) will never be able to “explain yourself” sufficiently for them, and even if you did, you’d only be granting them success in turning you into a well trained explainer, perhaps.
Stay on this site. Work toward getting a decent job.
Hope this helps you.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

experienced wrote:

You (nor anyone) will never be able to “explain yourself” sufficiently for them, and even if you did, you’d only be granting them success in turning you into a well trained explainer, perhaps.

That sums up my second marriage in a nutshell^^, aside from all the arguing & fighting bulls~~~ anyway.
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It was a major undertaking for me when I was about your age. I had tried to break away to start my own life & my family did all kinds of s~~~ trying to sabotage me…and of course, they did.

I tried everything I could think of. Try to explain myself, stand up for myself, argue, everything, it seems.

In short, the only solution I ever found for myself, that actually worked, was to cut all ties, relocate out of state, and not have any contact with them. It was years before I finally did make contact. Wanted to get my life established and all that.

I didn’t tell them where I moved to, or any info. I am not telling you what to do, just throwing it out there, on what it took for me to accomplish it.

I would like to be more helpful on the upcoming visit…if it were me, I would try to keep my head cool, not let them see that it bothers me, even if I am p~~~ed inside, and give as little information as possible.

[Savage WillParticipant 181]

@experienced
thanks for the advice. gonna use it. Getting the job is my priority

Don't fucking tell me it's nighttime when the sun is clearly shining in the sky.

[Savage WillParticipant 181]

@mgtow Age

I would cut all ties if i had a job. turns out i don’t. I’m a droput and freelancing jobs pay little in India. the ones not requiring technical skills. its a drag. I’m gonna use your advice though. Keeping it cool and not giving much info. I used to do some coding back in prep school before i dropped out. let me see if i can brush up and learn some new things

Don't fucking tell me it's nighttime when the sun is clearly shining in the sky.

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