I need some support, some stories about fathers who got their kids back

[Anonymous 13]

I’m thinking about going to fight against ISIS with other crazy US veterans – in northern Iraq and Syria – and those bastards right this time – with those other ex soldiers and marines who were probably over there before the same time I was.  BUT only after the court finally sees my time line, the text messages, pictures, voice recordings, police reports, and friends statements and what have you — FINALLY — and probably to no avail — then I will make a good bye video to my kids, a sorry video – I’m going to hide them all over the place and give copies o all my friends and family — just in case I don’t come back, and then I’m going over there.  That is only if the court does nothing or the same old thing they’ve been doing to my kids and I – which is rape me and tell me to kick rocks – what they do to ALL fathers unless the woman actually hurts the kids in public – permanently disabling them – or if they get caught keistering untaxed dildos full of cocaine while hitting an officer while pushing a baby carriage while J walking while soliciting for sex while smoking a joint while yelling obscenities.  Or if they kill someone – and they have to go to prison, but hey maybe then you could get your kids – after 10,000 dollars or more and a few years of custody battles maybe the father could get the kids…maybe….MAYBE!? — these cases are f~~~ed – Justice is dead – the constitution is dead – america is dead – common sense is dead – the capacity for most humans here to act moral and descent is f~~~ing gone.

 

I love my kids – they are my world – I am treated like I’m not their father – I was a great father – a better parent than their mother – I rocked my girl to sleep when mom didn’t, would sing to her, I did it for my boy – I had to fight through hell to just be there for my kids – put up with her starting arguments and yelling – complaining – I changed their diapers every time I was around back from working or school and I had to work in the morning NOT her.  I home schooled HER daughter and when we first got together I showed her daughter love like a father would for years before we had our own kids.  I still love her daughter as well as my own boy and daughter.  The mother, my ex, had her call me dad – I was only 22 at the time and just came back from Iraq and was at the army hospital in DC, I was okay with that.  I sort of knew them before I joined the Army.
My ex never respected her job as a mother NOR ever looked at it as if it were an admirable job – she called it baby sitting her own kids – I mean the amount of brainwashing and entitlement this woman was brought up with is AMAZING!   She has been caught doing bogus protection orders on not just me but other people – and the COURT EMPOWERS HER INSANITY!

 
“Its a long story of blue pill helldom, I was niave and impulsive when I came out of the army – still licking a few wounds from Iraq at Walter Reed Army medical center in DC.  I knew very few available women – I was a bit of a shut in (I’m sort of opposite of that now – still of bipolar).  One woman I did know – a friend of mine’s ex – was texting me – I could fly her out for free (at my expense – via yellow ribbon fund) to Walter Reed.  To skip over a rough seven years of codependent abuse by a narcissist – of which I learned and changed – but I have two kids from the ordeal so mitigation and compromise were essential in me getting to see my kids and raise my kids – Joint custody never worked – she never cared – I legally had it – but all she had to do and just recently did again is…file for a protection order.  Recently after co-habitating for a about six months (this time) she left.  After wondering where my kids were and when she was going to bring them back, she kept saying her brother was in the hospital (lie) and in a conversation I told her I threw all her s~~~ away – this was a month after she left and it is when she filed for an order of protection an entire state away.  I’m going to spare a lot of details.  Under the VAWA (violence against women act) mandates that most states have adopted in some form or another the judge was granted jurisdiction in his state – thanked me for my service and promptly took my kids thereafter – even with evidence that my kids were involved in a meth lab raid in our home state – even though I had witnesses she hit and I called the cops on her apparently if a woman hits you you are both offender and victim (I laughed like a mad man when the bureaucrat behind the counter told me that one).  Even with texts that exposed her as a liar – nothing nada zip null.  There was no evidence of me hitting here – though she said I have in the past w/o proof – also I lost my kids and the order was affirmed on the basis that I may have “shook” my daughter.  If you have kids with a woman…the power she has is akin to that of a loaded fifty caliber with a hairline trigger pointed directly at the forehead of whomever man she is speaking with at the time.  It matters NOT if “not all women are like that” the fact that they have been legally empowered to wreck lives and reek havoc on such biblical levels is enough to turn me off on ALL women forever.  I had a few 6s in looks type of gfs and they may not use such tactics or at least not as often and they had a desire to please – it made me feel guilty – and uncouth about it all – so I merely began to opt out – however I would let the woman whom I had kids with always come back (should I be killed for my insolence!?”
I’m done brothers…I’m done with this stupid world — I’m just barely hanging on for my kids.

The lawyer my father helped me pay for is kind of smug – he’s really busy, like most lawyers are – but there’s something about him — I don’t have much hope in getting my kids back —- everyone is like “Just wait *****, she’ll either mess up like she always does, or come back to you and drop the Protection Order”  YEAH BUT THAT NEVER MATTERED BEFORE IT MAKES THINGS WORSE THE COURT DOESN’T GIVE A S~~~!  And just how long this time?  And what if they get hurt this time!

The content was taken from other posts and put together here on this forum, I really need some positive stories bros.

[FrankyParticipant 2338]

I’m going to give you a story about a father that got his kid back.

He married at a really early age he had a kid when he was 25 with the woman he madly loved.He spent absolutely every ounce of his free time supporting his family and never uttered a word about it.He almost never got to see his kid.His wife was constantly trying to pin the boy against his father each and everyday while the man was away working.Then the wife proposed the boy lived with her mother, the father of course agreed.She also tried to make the boy hate his father.Despite the countless years of manipulation however the boy never believed his father to be a bad man.One day the mother asked the boy who would he choose if they where to divorce?The boy said he wouldn’t choose either but had started to realize the manipulation going on from that simple question.After that his parents separated and the boy stopped seeing his father entirely.The boy grew up and formed a resolve, he said to his mother that she would never see him for the rest of her life if she kept treating his father the way she did.

From that day forward the the boy’s parents started living together again in a strange manner.The father in his delusion still loved the mother and continued to do absolutely everything to please her and the mother was neutral and even cooperative at times.The boy connected with his father and is with him to this day.The boy realized his father’s gentle and noble nature and the love that that man had expressed trough his endless toiling.

Thank you dad.

[hydro137Participant 6]

Am not sure if this is helpful, but wanted to tell you the story of a kid that got his father back.  Me actually,  I was the kid, and the lad who was torn between an image of my Dad who was the guy my Mum blamed for everything,  sometimes I was left feeling my Dad as an evil, uncaring, selfish bastard who was not there for me when I needed him.  It wasn’t how I really felt, but the s~~~ of man blame is not something you have the ability to understand as a kid, especially when if you stick up for your Dad,  you get blamed s well, which is just what does happen, doesn’t mean I blamed him, nor does it mean he was  a saint or anything,  he was like most men of this world,  misunderstood, misrepresented and pretty much helpless to put his side of things over to us kids (I have a sister and bro).

Am not gonna tell you all the gore and glory of my life, cos it just that kind of crap that would make me, what I’ve worked out was the ‘blue pill’ fed me as a kid, and one which I continued to swallow till I was in my 30’s.  Whatever s~~~ was going on,  I did work out somethings.  My Mum is a professional victim, and still is. My Dad was a silent hero, who despite having cause to, never bad mouthed my Mum to me, other than his fair point, that Mum doesn’t understand him.

Me and Dad didn’t have a great relationship to speak of,  party because my Mum would engineer it to be that way,  except, what she didn’t know was I started to let my Dad know,  that I had my own eyes and I didn’t always see things the way Mum did,  it became our secret in a way,  and we started to have a laugh as we both removed the knives Mum had stuck in both of our backs.

Life goes on and I’m 44 now,  Dad passed away 3 years ago aged 71.  I took time off work to be with Dad towards the end, and it was one of the best times of my life, and given my Dad was ill, judging by his sense of humour,  when we were alone, I am pleased I was able to relieve him of some of the guilt, shame and s~~~ which had been placed on his shoulders and my shoulder all my life.

Of course,  He still gets blamed now,  as do I.  According to my Mum,  I was the one responsible for putting him in an early grave.  I let her think what she wants, I know the truth, so did Dad and my brother and sister are waking up to the reality and hopefully none of us are accepting or playing the blame game.  I don’t talk bad of my Dad,  I talk of him in ways which acknowledges him in lots of ways,  but mostly in the way with we all contunue to loved.  He wasn’t a victim,  despite being victimised.  He wasn’t responsible for all that was wrong, he was, as everyone of us is, caught up in a family situation which didn’t recognise a man trying his best in difficult stories.

Of course he drank,  as have I, but somehow, when  stopped blaming,  I lost the need for drinking to the bottom of the bottle, and for all the world might think, or have been told otherwise.  Sometimes A Father finds his children, only when they stop being the children their Mothers keep them being.  I grew up and became the Son I wanted to be,  and your kids I hope will become their own people and will find you.  Write them lettes, don’t slag off their Mum,  it wont do you any good,  just make sure they know your there for them,  tell them what you love about them, tell them your proud of them, encourage them as best you can, and that’s what men do well,  be patient and let the truth speak in ways which is often the loudest of all, in your own dignified way.  Its hard being the one whose voice is barely heard from the sidelines, but believe me,  if you start shouting too loudly,  all the blame your ex might be casting on you, sounds more truthful, if bellowed from the voice of an angry man.  They will know who their Dad is,  be strong mate,  and just keep the door open for them.  Like all things in life,  truth outs in the end.

Peace to you.  and if you want a bit of strength,  watch this.  I saw it for the first time 3 weeks ago on the anniversary of my Dads passing.  My Dad is an amazing guy, and I’m glad to tell another man that truth.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DPU30dgqEyM

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[Anonymous 13]

Thank you for sharing your stories, it meant a lot to me.  I think I’m tied to a stump right now…my kids are still young and if I keep my cool (which I feel is impossible right now) and be humble, it will work out.

I’m praying.

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