I lost 20K just to become the oldest cliché

[LuchoLibreParticipant 7]

Twice divorced.

My first woman I don’t even know why I married. She was kind enough to kiss me after a ONEitis depression, told me she was a virgin and needed time to have sex, I was comfortable with jerking-off, and then going to church to confess the same sin week after week. Marriage seem like a great idea, I though a pair of t~~~ and an ass would do, I was horny all the time, I was a desperate man.

My first marriage was a big lie, she conned me in thinking that if we didn’t, their parents wouldn’t allow her to use the Canadian residence she had gotten independently. She also promised that if I wanted a divorce, she would make it a breeze. In Toronto I kept looking at other women and realized I didn’t even like my wife. I tried negotiating passion and passion was never there, not even from my side. After a year I got my first divorce, she took all the 10K I had saved for emergencies, and spent it traveling around Europe. I was a jerk too, full of hubris, bragging about my single sex life which in reality was lame, thinking I could lie to myself and keep my head high at the same time. She moved back to Peru, I had to travel to finish my divorce, and she asked for 2K more through her lawyer just to sign the papers. The only time I saw her again was to receive a letter she had written calling me an animal and other insults. That was the end of 7 years stuck in this sexless relationship.

Then my second woman, she was gorgeous. You might have guessed it: she was the reason for my depressed ONEitis, just a few years older and now that I was Canadian, seemed very interested in dating. This relationship I’m a slightly more thankful for. There was a lot of passion, at least from my side, and that lasted for a while, but she always had a reason to be lazy: she was affected by her dad’s passing, then she didn’t have a work permit in Canada, then she had to be available casting for her non-existing acting career. We burned through 40K of her own inheritance plus my own salary which was around the same, when money run out, her best idea was to lay in the couch with facebook, hoping for more inheritance money. I realized I didn’t want to have kids with this woman, told her so, passion died, I almost pushed her away as she was too high-maintenance for me.

I had a powerful mythology with this woman, my ONEitis had lasted for long years, starting one night in high-school, when I had a personal epiphany right before seeing this girl for the first time. At 16 she was drop dead gorgeous and a classmate dedicated her “More than words”. During the last months together, she denied this mythology, said she had talked with this classmate and that he didn’t remember things the way I did. I took a cue, went traveling across Canada, had sex, and broke-up at my return. She acted shocked with the break-up. I had more experience and went back to school just to prove I had no income, she was decent during the divorce, considering I was paying for the 10K student loan I had taken for her to study acting at Vancouver Film School.

Will I marry for a third time? Hard to tell. I usually say no, and then I recently fell hard for a surfer-girl that said she wanted to have kids right before she had the b~~~~ to take me to a local inspiration point to kiss me, just to later tell me she was tired. Maybe I didn’t kiss her right enough to have sex, and for a month now, my ONEitis mind has been fantasizing about a life with a girl that is most likely dating a couple other surfer-dudes. Mind says no, my body is still AFC.

[SoldanoParticipant 108]

Are you Ross Geller ?

[KeymasterKeymaster]

I’ve never seen One-itis used so perfectly in a sentence (or story) before. Hi Lucho. thanks for dropping your story.

“told me she was a virgin and needed time to have sex”.

Yup. That’s a cliché alright. You’ve certainly come to the right place. Voluntarily or not.

Ironic you mention this today. This morning (12.16) I woke up to find an email from a chick who once told me EXACTLY the same thing. Some other sucker bought the bulls~~~ and married her in 2006. The marriage dissolved 4 months later, and I couldn’t stop laughing when I heard. I’m guessing he learned something I already knew: the juice is never worth the squeeze. Except he had to marry her first to find out.

Now she’s 33, rapidly approaching the wall, her eggs are drying up and she’s looking for a wallet.

Wanna see it?

Now if I were an AFC, I would be all over it. At least for a blow job. Because she was f~~~ing HOTT (15 years ago). Now she lives 5900 miles away and must be WAY down on her luck to have to reach out to a guy 1/3-way around the world who she hasn’t seen since 2008. That’s female desperation buddy. If you don’t cure yourself fast from this, some chick will come crawling back to you and you will think you just hit the jackpot – making the same mistakes over and over again.

MGTOW is not just a 5 letter word, man.

Women don’t “need time to have sex”. She already made up her mind within the first 5 minutes and she doesn’t need to sit through 3, 5 , 10 dinners to “decide”. Its’ the oldest trick in the book. The only reason they tell you this is to see what ridiculous hoops you will jump through for it, so that she can sit back and say “aw, look what I can make him do”.

Never be that guy.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

Women don’t “need time to have sex”. She already made up her mind within the first 5 minutes and she doesn’t need to sit through 3, 5 , 10 dinners to “decide”

True this. A female knows within the first few seconds of seeing a guy if she’s going to f~~~ him or not. The trick for us is to figure out as quickly as possible whether or not we have a chance and then act accordingly. Eye contact, body language, touching… if you know how to read non-verbal communication you can figure out if you’re in (just sit back and let it happen) or if you’re out (play along until you exit comes then punch out).

[KeymasterKeymaster]

I would get a lot of flack form the PUA /”game” inclined for saying this because they really emphasize persistence. But I don’t believe in that. If a girl looks at you and goes “yum”, then it’s worth exploring. Otherwise the juice is never worth the squeeze. Persistence works, yes, but it also over inflates her value…. while increasing your costs.

I think it’s very wrong for men to “pursue women”. Its not natural. I think men should have much loftier pursuits and come across love affairs and women by accident or chance because they wanted OUR attention. Kind of like James Bond is always on a bigger more important mission… and the women he meets are just by chance and temporary pleasures on the road to where he is really going.

By nature, I think women should be trying to see if they “have a chance” with MEN … and not the other way around.
When a man thinks “gosh I wonder if I have a chance with her” he’s just killed it.

All this IMO.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Peter GrieveParticipant 1]

That email made me laugh hard mate, I get the same from a particular ex every year, we haven’t seen each other for about 5+ years. It’d be sad… except it’s just hilarious…..

[KeymasterKeymaster]

At first it made me laugh hard too! I misread the last part: “It’s about time for our ANAL catch up!”.

Another significant EX of mine had just gotten married. For almost 8 years (and with NOT ONE reply from me in Eight years!!) there was always an email from her on my Birthday and Valentine’s Day. Can you imagine? Imagine you got married and your wife is writing to an EX BOYFRIEND for eight years on Valentine’s Day and his Birthday. It took her 9 years to stop sending. I don’t even know where to start with that, except to say…. I would divorce that t~~~.

But in retrospect.. better him than me.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[F4CCParticipant 20]

Old jobs and old girlfriends, you never go back, because they are never the same.

[johnconnor777Participant 85]

I am sorry for all the crap that LuchoLibre has been through… but like they say, whatever doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger.

This is a very interesting topic, I only been closed to married once in my life. We got to the point where I was looking for engagements rings, met her family, her family met mine… so forth. Anyway, making the story short, she was a sweet woman but very right-wing/conservative/bible-beltish and a virgin too, saving herself for marriage. We part ways before the big step, but I always had this theory that if the woman you married is a virgin, or with very few sexual partners, it would be a lot more likely that she would bond more with you, and less likely that she would go around hunting for other c~~~s.

Reading stories like this, it seems that even if the woman is an actual virgin, there is no scintific evidence that you’d have more chances of a succesful marriage. I’d love to hear your thoughts on it

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