You may think this sounds harsh, but I have no sympathy with those women who have come forward to say they were sexually assaulted, groped or who have alleged someone said something of a sexual nature to them, and they took offence, all as adults etc..
But I do have sympathy for people who were the victims of paedophiles, who are children. I know it’s almost a taboo subject, and it needs to be discussed at some time, it has happened to many people, including myself as a boy and in my very early adolescence.
The reason why I have no sympathy for these women who have come forward is because of my own experiences and consequences of dealing with certain people’s attitudes, and I’m about to mention the reasons why I come to this conclusion and I hope the men on this site will understand.
When my mother found out about the abuse I received, she was shocked, but I got very little sympathy, no hugs, in fact she and my sister gave the impression it was my fault, because I was born with physical disfigurement, they always saw me as a freak and this was very traumatic for me, because I felt unsupported, my mother was always neurotic/psychotic behaviour and her constant mad outburst drove me elsewhere, constantly dotting on my sister, to try and make me feel resentful and hated, feeling unwanted and unloved etc.. And you can suss out this very fortunate pattern of being driven into the clutches of a predator, a paedophile, with their grooming and promise of attention I was not getting with my very dysfunctional family.
When I told my psychologist, when I was much older about my family blaming me, he was horrified and disgusted!
When you are the victim of this foulness, it messes up your life, and P.S.T.D is the biggest hurdle, years of therapy, but because this had ruined my adolescence.i.e academically ruined and forming healthy and natural relationships!
The more shocking element is when I worked in factories, holding down dead end jobs, because in my early twenties, the word had got out that I had been abused by a paedophile and although some arsehole men mocked and taunted me for this, mainly the sort of men who try to impress women, acting all macho, most of the lads were sympathetic and kept quiet, it was the women whose attitudes shocked me, in fact they thought the abuse was of a laughing matter and I got no sympathy, non whatsoever.
Working in such environments for 15 years of my life from 17 to my early thirties, I’ve witnessed sexual abuse. i.e groping, and this was all done by women, in fact in the last factory I worked, it was rampant, women constantly groping male backsides and no one dare complain, because the personnel dept were all women.
On one occasion, two girls in their twenties, tore the shirt off a fitter (mechanic) because they wanted to see and feel is body, he was embarrassed and complained, but these women got a slight slap on the wrists, yet two months later they complained of a man saying something sexist to them, and he was disciplined and nearly sacked!
Anyway, getting back to the psychologists, you get to hear from their differing views on cognitive behaviour, one psychologist told me bluntly regarding sexual abuse. He said: “You do realise that many women fantasise about being raped”.
I didn’t know what to think of this at the time, but I wasn’t really surprised, although no doubt some would disagree!
After much therapy and personal endeavour I managed to tear myself away from working in factories, to avoid the sort of sh*t I had and witnessed and I now work with a very small business assembling PCs, which is my speciality, something I learnt and It paid off, working in friendly environment, all male, just a few of us and no toxic behaviour, and most of all no contemptible c~~~s to drag you down. If I had not done this, I could have ended up on drugs or become an alcoholic, suicidal and that other extremely unpleasant stuff, but I pulled myself up, and I thought f~~~ em!
So can you understand, having zero sympathy for these women, having zero sympathy from them about the abuse I received, and their silence on their abusive ways, so this is why I have zero sympathy for them, the Kate Beckinsale’s or whoever etc..
I don’t hate these women, my hatred is wasted, it’s bitterness, trust and betrayal, when you go through such, you have little trust in anyone, but most of all I don’t trust women and I have some bitterness and sometimes suppressed anger in me, because of how they have treated me, but having said that, I’m learning to move on, doing the things I want to do and I really couldn’t care less about what happened to certain women anymore in the media of late, tough!
Mr. Spock 2 years, 3 months ago.
