I have issues

[AstroParticipant 2045]

I have some pain coming in. It’s a lifetime of pain. I just keep crying like a f~~~ing bitch. It’s not about my wife who had her affair at Christmas, it’s a lifetime of s~~~ that is f~~~ing me up. I can’t explain it. Something is happening to me and I don’t know if it is good or bad. I just keep crying, what the f~~~ is wrong with me?

[Faust For ScienceParticipant 22524]

Focus on the here and now. Start a hobby you know you will enjoy. That will help.

[joetechParticipant]

Healing is a process. Crying is part of that process. Get out and live your life. You’re free now.

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[KeymasterKeymaster]

A couple of weeks/month ago, I saw a father play catch with his son. The ball hit the boy ( about 4?) and it knocked him over. It was a NASTY fall. The man approached his son, kneeled down , made two fists and taught him to “be strong” and not to cry.

Part of me thought that was wrong. The boy was in pain.

Why are we taught that having a good cry is a problem?

Consider this topic……

I have issues

Well, a man could have an “issue” with the smell of dog s~~~ too.
It doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with HIM.

“Having issues” is not an indicator that YOU have a problem.

Perhaps it’s time for you line up all the unnecessary things you blame yourself for and re-evaluate them. Are you the cause of it? If the answer is no, toss it away and you’ll be dropping a s~~~ ton of weight you’re carrying around.

A cheating wife has got to be VERY difficult to take , and my cousin went through that too this year after 28 years of being surgically attached to her. NOBODY thought they would split up. They even survived the death of their first child to leukemia. That is the ultimate trial on a married couple. He doesn’t have any tear ducts left. He couldn’t cry anymore if he wanted to.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 6]

[Anonymous 42]

Astro wrote:

what the f~~~ is wrong with me?

Nothing brother, life itself has become a crying shame, we’ve been literally mind tortured by societies bombardment against men, we’re not alone, women are feeling it too, they’re the most unhappy women in history, it’s the price we all pay for the changes made. I weep for the fate of freedom and how easily it’s lost, sometimes lost forever as the society folds in the wake of its own corruption.

[Anonymous 13]

You cry because you care.

There is NOTHING wrong with that.

Or YOU.

We can literally weep for mankind.

We’re complex beings, all the s~~~ and memories that ever happened to you, can sort of surface all at once during sad or emotional/traumatic times.

Just accept it, let in a while, then let it out.

Have a beer or two when you fancy and start thinking about things YOU want or would like to do.

Feel better.

[DorkShitParticipant 4353]

Leave it to a woman. Brother, I was right at that spot. Cry that s~~~ out.

It’s part of the rage stage. Unfortunately, it’s the beginning.

For me it was the realization that nobody gives a s~~~. You are pulling that cart alone. Your the resource and everything is a parasite.

You will probably spiral into anxiety attack world. This is the circling the drain stage.

Be very careful. If you feel hazy and your vision goes tunnel, when the circle goes completely black you are out. I mean you fall. If you’re standing you fall.

Personally, it happened to me when I was sitting in a chair. (Probably mental. Mind knew it was safe to crash) the first time was at a hockey game. My brothers took me to it to get my mind off divorce, etc. When everything went black I slid down off the chair into the nasty soda, popcorn, sticky concrete floor.

When I came awake I was partially stuck to the floor. I looked up at my one brother and he let out a sigh of relief. He said dude, I’m not going to give you mouth to mouth.

Point is now we all joke about it. For us, it is real. You’ve been carrying the weight on your shoulders pulling the bitch cart.

Breathe brother. Time is what you need. Peace and serenity is the goal.

Peace brothers

[Can’t Stump TrumpParticipant]

Men shouldn’t be taught not to cry. Why? Because they’re f~~~ing MEN. They naturally don’t cry very often. But when they need to, they should go ahead and let all hell break loose.

When they’re told that real men don’t cry, they start to think they should NEVER cry, and that’s unhealthy. Just because men naturally don’t cry often (or at least, I don’t) doesn’t mean they shouldn’t ever.

You have to feel it to heal it. Don’t suppress your feelings or drive them away with drugs or alcohol: LET YOURSELF AUTHENTICALLY FEEL THEM. That’s how you recover and become stronger.

Women are better at multitasking? Fucking up several things at once is not multitasking.

[DorkShitParticipant 4353]

Another thing. The cry will turn into rage brother.

Rage will lead to hate. Dark thoughts. Revenge and everything else.

Resist the negative. Find nothing. The rage of dull nothing.

Nothing leads to everything. Centers you. It is your force. Then you rise up and place both feet firmly on the ground and yell into the stormy wind. Bring it on bitches.

Nothing is a quiet masculine strength that flows around you. Our super power.

You got me all jacked up brother.

Peace brothers

[TuneoutParticipant]

Actually I envy you brother,a lot of us that have served can’t do that anymore – over quarter of a century since I last did.

Lifes a bitch,but you don't have to marry one!

[Anonymous 6]

You’re a caring man. I could tell from our brief interaction on the videoconference, you also care about people getting a fair shake. These are qualities to cherish.

Cry my brother. Get it out. Cry as much as you need to. It helps and is part of the healing process. I also give you kudos for talking about on these forums. That is why we are all here, to help each other through these things. There is nothing wrong with you. You’re a man with a past and a future. You also have the here and now. What you have now is the need to cry, and to possibly talk to some folks which may include people on the website.

[NerdTunnelerParticipant]

Its alright brother…Its just the process of detoxing from the lifetime of programming..Im also in that situation..A damn roller coaster of emotions but it will get better…The more you cry, the less it happens and then you smile more…The loneliness will fade away…We are here, we prop you up…We are strong…We are MEN…

I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...

[Heave-Ho MgtowParticipant 1797]

Reflect on what you are feeling. I like to put some headphones on and crank 30 +miles a day on my bicycle when life kicks me in the nuts. I remember when I had just dumped a hair dresser that was more artificial then her t~~~. I stared down the front tire, and told myself that no bitch was going to get in my head, and I was one strong MF. Tears turning into perspiration are earned ten fold. Try it

skip the cavernous vag and go your own way

[AstroParticipant 2045]

Every demon has a name, they are the names of every female I cared for going back to when I was six. They haunt me according to my intensity to them. I had so much Love to give, it was such a waste, such a waste. I must find my way out of this s~~~. I can’t stay here. I can’t wallow in a lifetime of sorrow, it’s just not me and more than I can stand. I stopped crying and am now throwing up. This s~~~ is like detox. I think Love is a true addiction and the monkey is on my back. I never knew it was like this. I’m going to get through this s~~~, I don’t have a choice. I feel like such a pussy.

Thank you for tuning in, all of you, you are such beautiful bastards. I think I will be OK. KM, thank you for putting up with my s~~~. I didn’t want to thread but I’m so f~~~ed up and had to do something.

[Anonymous 6]

Astro wrote:

Every demon has a name, they are the names of every female I cared for going back to when I was six. They haunt me according to my intensity to them. I had so much Love to give, it was such a waste, such a waste. I must find my way out of this s~~~. I can’t stay here. I can’t wallow in a lifetime of sorrow, it’s just not me and more than I can stand. I stopped crying and am now throwing up. This s~~~ is like detox. I think Love is a true addiction and the monkey is on my back. I never knew it was like this. I’m going to get through this s~~~, I don’t have a choice. I feel like such a pussy.

Thank you for tuning in, all of you, you are such beautiful bastards. I think I will be OK. KM, thank you for putting up with my s~~~. I didn’t want to thread but I’m so f~~~ed up and had to do something.

You are NOT a pussy. You are facing what you need to face, admitting to other what’s going on, and walking through it. You are identifying your emotions and feeling them and most of all, YOU ARE NOW LOVING YOURSELF. These things take courage, make no mistake about it. Keep us posted Sparky, you are valuable.

[HitmanParticipant]

We all have issues and it’s okay to cry my friend.
Cry until you can’t cry anymore.
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I have cried more in the last five years than I have in my entire life and I am 50 +..
After you wipe away all the tears in the snot and the phlegm you are going to feel a lot better and then you will be able to assess the situation that you are in. .
You will get through it no matter what no matter what the cost no matter what the pain you will get through it you will survive it.
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And it will be worth it to do so do not quit do not stop ..cry let it out and then you can continue.
Don’t give up brother don’t give up!!!

[NerdTunnelerParticipant]

Astro wrote:

Thank you for tuning in, all of you, you are such beautiful bastards. I think I will be OK. KM, thank you for putting up with my s~~~. I didn’t want to thread but I’m so f~~~ed up and had to do something.

That was me a few days ago Sparky…LOL…and you were there to punch some sense into me….Just let it out…You will get tired of feeling that way soon and then you will be knocked down again…But its going to become better…Just do this for me…Take a long deep breath…then another…then another…and know that you are not going insane and we your brothers have also been there…We are here so dont f~~~ up…LOL…A single deep breath is all it takes Sparky…

I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...

[AstroParticipant 2045]

NerdTunneler wrote:

That was me a few days ago Sparky…LOL…and you were there to punch some sense into me

Hey Nerd, now you know why I kicked your ass, it is because I needed you to stick around to kick MY ass! I took my hit around Christmas and it still made me cry and puke my guts out yesterday. Recovery comes very slow and things flash in my head, like every romantic relationship I ever had. I took your advice on breathing. I need to get back to my spirituality but feel removed, like God can’t stand my smell. Still, I have people like you and think God is still hanging around.

[Anonymous 6]

Astro wrote:

NerdTunneler wrote:

That was me a few days ago Sparky…LOL…and you were there to punch some sense into me

Hey Nerd, now you know why I kicked your ass, it is because I needed you to stick around to kick MY ass! I took my hit around Christmas and it still made me cry and puke my guts out yesterday. Recovery comes very slow and things flash in my head, like every romantic relationship I ever had. I took your advice on breathing. I need to get back to my spirituality but feel removed, like God can’t stand my smell. Still, I have people like you and think God is still hanging around.

Hey Sparky, do you have access to the Video chat right now?

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