I feel like a new man today… Thanks

[LordReillyParticipant 18]

Hello everyone,

I have been, without knowing what it was, living a MGTOW life now for about 13 years.  A little background on myself and the reason I titled this thread “I feel like a new man today… Thanks” is as follows

I was raised in a military family and then became a military member myself (USMC).  Both my parents stayed together until death took my father away in 1993.  I feel I must also add that my mother was and continues to be one of those NAWALT’s you hear about. Even today she is disgusted by the way I have been treated and supports me in the way I have decided to live my life even though she has a hard time understanding it.  But as long as I am happy, she is.

As for my past relationships, all but one of them has been really bad.  Cheating girlfriends became the new normal for me.  I’ve had girls try and trap me with a baby that wasn’t mine (twice).  I’ve had everything taken from me by a woman, all my money, and even lost my job.  The worst was when I was younger I had an ex that almost killed me.  She picked a cast iron skillet off the stove top and slipped me across the head with it.  There was blood everywhere, and when I tried to call for help she told me I better not or she would tell the police I had tried to rape her and it was self defense. I still have a scare and a deformity in my skull just past my hair line as a reminder.  I won’t go into any more details about that now as I’m sure this is getting old to listen too (read).  I simply wanted to give a background on where I’m coming from, and know I do not hate all women because of it. I find hate to be a useless emotion that take up too much of my time and energy.

Shortly after my last long term relationship and started reflecting on the past few years of my life and realized what was wrong.  Enter the “red pill”, the problem was me.  She made between two to three times what I made yet I was still paying for everything, doing all the cleaning, shopping, you name it. When things would get bad between us I would think to myself “I need to try harder” and that’s what I did.  I worked harder at making her happy.  In the end it was all for nothing, she left me anyway and left me with nothing to show for it.  I was a sucker, and I realized it for the first time in my life.  This was one hell of a wake up for me.  I had never heard of a guy that had been beaten before, or that had all his money taken, where I’m from men don’t have that happen or so I thought.

I continued through the next few years of my life with a “white knight” mind set, but there was something different now.  I didn’t want to be the sucker I was before.  I knew I needed to work on my career and education so that’s what I did.  I kept telling myself I would make myself better for “her”.  I was under the impression that if I could make myself happy than I would be able to make someone else happy.  As I was working to better myself I realized still that more was wrong then I had even dared to imagine in the past.  Why was I working so hard for someone else?  Why not finish my education and kick off my career and just do it for me?  Why should I have to basically pay someone else to like me?  So I started living for me and making me happy.  I decided to cut women out of my life and just stay single…forever.  This plan, at least in my mind, worked for me.  The only problem I had at the time was all my friends, everyone around me kept saying something was wrong with me.  I believed them for years.  I looked online, every now and again, and never heard anything about MGTOW, or the MRA (this was a long time ago).  I was on an island by myself, left to wonder if I was the only one in the world that had this “problem”.  Everyone was telling me I was doing something wrong, and that I was the problem.  I just needed to man up and do what was expected of me, get over it and start dating again.  I even thought about it several times, but couldn’t bring myself to do it.  I just couldn’t justify spending that much time doing things I didn’t want to do, and all that money to do it.  I kept thinking to myself “I am not here to make someone else’s hopes and dreams come true at the expense of my own”.  So I stayed the course, and watched all my guy friends spend $500 to $1000 a month dating.  I just couldn’t do it.

The other day I saw a video on you tube about the sexodus, and it really made me happy, happier than I have been in over ten years.  I was not alone in this, I was not the only one that saw things the way that they really were!  There was something on that page about this thing called “MGTOW” I had know idea what this was, and I wanted to know everything there was to know about this video and it’s content.  I did a quick search and guess what I found????  There is a whole community of people, men, just like me.  I have been living as a MGTOW for over a decade and didn’t even know it.  I had just stopped looking for anyone else and instead been listening to those around me telling me there was something wrong with me.  I quickly went back on you tube and found sandman’s page and have been marathoning his videos for the past three days.  I finally decided to go out and search the rest of the internet instead of just listening to one guy.  That’s when I found this site!

I know this is a long post, but I really feel like I’ve been trapped on an island and finally found a way back to shore.  Not only have I found the rest of you, but I have quickly started making changes for myself and for my own fulfillment and happiness.  The day after I found Sandman’s video’s I got back into the gym to work on my health, I have new plans now to work on starting my own business (I’m a programmer).  I know this my sound silly to many of you, everyone had me believing I was the only one like this, single, and that something was wrong with me.  So I never bothered to look for other like me, stupid I know.  So that’s a nut shell version of me and why I titled this thread as I have.  Thank you all for coming together, I look forward to going my own way as I have been but now with new confidence.

[…Spectator 1165]

LordReilly: hello and welcome. ListenUp! here. Nice to see you here! Not at all surprised at that story about her hitting you. happened to me many times. this one girl we were passing around 20 years ago had f~~~ed some of my friends and they passed her onto me as she had decided I was the one with the highest long term potential. When she figured out that that was incorrect, she went into my bathroom one afternoon, locked the door, and cut herself up really badly. I was f~~~ing furious. still, i had to stifle all that, nicely talk to her, break the door down, go in, lift her out, clean her up. tell her its ok when inside i was thinking “f~~~ing crazy lunatic bitch” to myself and then strategize my way out of that s~~~. f~~~ing awful. anyway, nice to see you here man. have fun!

[redstarParticipant 15]

Congratulations for swallowing the red pill! You have been awakened my brother!

[Anonymous 42]

@lordreilly, It’s my interpretation that you ran the MANSTER WHEEL for a while, I did the same! you said “I kept thinking to myself “I am not here to make someone else’s hopes and dreams come true at the expense of my own”. I agree, It damn near cost me my life! Welcome to MGTOW and WELCOME to LIFE my friend, you’re not alone!

[Joe_b_wanParticipant 15]

You are  new man! A born again new man!

Because of your decision(s), there are people/institutions (women, lawyers, courts, etc.)  that are NOT going to get your BLOOD, SWEAT AND TEARS!

All I ask you is to SPREAD THE WORD!!! (And I KNOW you will.)

Love one, love all,

Joe

 

[BrainPilotParticipant 7640]

Welcome LordReilly,
I’m on this site only a few weeks ahead of you. But reading your story may as well having been reading my own. Welcome to a collection of what we already were…

Look, it's not my fault that tornado dropped a house on your sister. Now get back on your broom and get your ass out of here... and take your monkeys with you

[combatmechanicParticipant 2]

I am also new to MGTOW, but just as you also mentioned I’m not new to the concept. I was married for 3 years (that felt like 30 years), it’s also worth mentioning that this about 20 years ago. By some miracle I made it out, and knew deep inside my heart that I would never go back to that again. It wasn’t always a easy road, their were plenty of bumps along the way, but I made it. When ever one of my younger male friends tell me they are thinking about getting married, I always use the analogy;  getting married is like giving someone else the keys to your life, and hope they never get made at you and walk away with them. The courts give women wayyy to much power. I honestly can not figure out why any men would get married in this day and age, barring getting a GF pregnant. The high schools in America should have a manditory class on divorce court, and what happens to men in them. Just my 2 cents

[harpo-my-“SON”Participant 2410]

Welcome, I am new here also and like you was living the life without knowing it. When a man has to choose between loving a woman and his own sanity, most will do what it takes to survive.

I was bound to be misunderstood, and I laugh at those who misunderstand me. Kind mockery at the well intentioned, but unfettered cruelty towards those would be prison guards of my creative possibilities. This so as to learn as much from misunderstanding as from understanding. Taking pleasure in worthy opponents and making language fluid and flowing like a river yet pointed and precise as a dagger. Contradicts the socialistic purpose of language and makes for a wonderful linguistic dance, A verbal martial art with constant parries that hone the weapon that is the two edged sword of my mouth.

[Krab_AssParticipant 267]

Welcome sir!!  Don’t think that starting your own business as a programmer is ‘silly’.   You got the talent, chutzpa and $$$ – then DO IT MAN!!  I am into electronics design and repair (have been for a LLLLOOONNNNGGGG time).  If I could make a living at it- I sure would.

Believe in yourself and go after your goals.   Hopefully, none of them involve violent, money-hungry women!

Peace.

 

 

"I care not what others think of what I do, but I care very much about what I think of what I do! That is character!"
~ Theodore Roosevelt

[Terminal MemeParticipant 57]

As a former Marine myself, I identify very much with your plight and am happy you’ve found the brotherhood. I had a lot of trouble with not giving a s~~~ about anything except smoking weed, hard drinkin’ and pussy when I enlisted as an 0311 in 2004. I was 18, extremely rebellious and almost never compliant with authority.

For three years I struggled hard to show that I had Honor, Courage and Commitment and the truth is I was a stellar Marine in theatre and even picked up Lance Corporal in Iraq, but in garrison, I always f~~~ed up everything. Those three years I continually got NJP’ed losing rank, pay and liberty like a broken record. Honestly, I’m not a s~~~bag blue falcon but I couldn’t not smoke weed, drink alcoholically and become insubordinate. Women also played a part in that ego deflating alcoholism I was in.

I was finally summary court martialed and sent home with an OTH. For years I walked in shame because of my broken oath to my comrades. I actually do love the corps but the USMC doesn’t tolerate kids who smoke pot and don’t show up for formation. The pattern of drug abuse, alcoholism and being a doormat for women continued for another 5 years. I won’t go into the immense amount of legal, economic, physical and mental suffering that ensued but I will say this; I’m sober now almost 2 years from everything, have a great job and my own stuff and there’s no way I could have done any of it with a stupid bitch sucking the blood out of my existence. I narrowly escaped babies and marriage with a few of the worst hoydens. I’m free from shame, addiction, misandry and servitude.

The thing is, as Marines (and men in general mostly) we have ideals and standards of honor that no women could ever comprehend, much less pretend to emulate. Even male drug addicts, once recovered, obviously show a degree of male dignity that no woman could ever attain. They have no clue what honor, courage or commitment is and use men like a bullet sponged stair case. I’m glad you aren’t stuck with them and have found reason.

I’m happy to inform everyone, that I helped spread the MGTOW word. I caught a guy telling me he “likes to keep low budget and doesn’t get sucked into the female consumer driven materialist driven life.” (paraphrased) I told him, especially after he started talking about getting set up to take this chick out for the perfect evening, I said, “You ever heard of MGTOW? Because a minute ago you sounded like one of them but now you’re more sounding like a dude that begs for pussy.” Remember I didnt know this guy, total stranger. I briefly explained MGTOW a little and told him to check it out, reassuring him it wasn’t homosexual.

The good part is that this guy is a completely different ethnicity than me and he came into my shop today to thank me and tell me how much he’s enjoyed reading about MGTOW (with which he fully identifies with). It’s great when the light turns on for us. I just wanted to share this is a success and an example of when it could be appropriate to speak to someone about MGTOW. This is also an example of how the MGTOW message transcends so-called race barriers. Here was a guy that couldn’t be more different than me, in a time when the media is trying its damnedest to f~~~ up race relations, and he’s coming straight up to me and whole heartedly thanking me for telling him about MGTOW. Bulls-eye and defeat for the feminists.

[Anonymous 42]

Hi Terminal Meme, You are among honorable men, and we are honored by your presence. Welcome to MGTOW, Its AWOL all the time around here, Were enjoying the s~~~ out of our social AWOL status, you’ll fit right in!

[Road ManParticipant 5]

Welcome have a nice stay. If you have any questions I can help you.

[Anonymous 42]

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[Road ManParticipant 5]

Would you quit spamming this videos all over the forum. I don’t see any point other than quenching a thirst for attention.

[RennieParticipant]

Why roadrash? Is it bogging down your dial up link?

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