I drew the line when it affected my health

[Truthseeker82Participant 6406]

The emotional scars of any relationship are bad enough, but when it starts affecting your health, you know its time to run…and run fast. At 55, I was a man in excellent health, worked out, eat healthy, very fit. That was until 18 months ago. That’s right gentleman, 18 months. That is all it took. A 32 year single mother with an 11 year daughter from a husband who abandoned her years ago and lives far away. The financial stress of supporting a child who is not mine, the constant s~~~ storms from my spouses moods, I am convinced if I was not in such good shape before I dove headfirst into this bucket of s~~~, I would be dead by now. I am working with an attorney on getting out of this mess. Even after only 15 months of marriage (that’s right..married her after knowing her 3 months – why – she was young and hot – kick me in the ass men..I deserve it), I am a wreck. Imagine if I stayed 15 years. The financial damage? Nothing probably in the scheme of things. I have no children with her, alimony formula in this state says I cough of about 3,000 dollars and another 2500 for the lawyer and I can get my b~~~~ back for under 6K. I look forward to a future of peace when I come home, rebuilding my finances and understanding that relationships need to be kept at arms length. This website opened my eyes and gave me the strength to accept the truth. Thank you Keymaster for your hard work on keeping this forum open to all men and to all the brothers out there for speaking the truth. Cheers.

[hellraiderParticipant 2837]

well, we all make mistakes, at least you had the common sense of getting out.

[OgreParticipant 5863]

That was a steep learning curve. I’m glad you started out strong or you’re right, you may not be here.

Remember in the future, pre-wall=plaything. Postwall=cat hoarding wino. Hot can mess with your head, but underneath it all single moms are train wrecks.

You done f~~~ed up, but you’re getting out cheap.

Life is a road. not a destination. Your GPS lied. GYOW.

I failed to realize in my youth that I was the prize. I was going to work. I was going to earn. Little did I realize that due to feminism, that no longer meant I had to share. Road soon, Desert after.

[experiencedParticipant]

Thank you for your post, which I reread, then reread again. Young and hot…….I can see myself making the exact same mistake were it not for your post. They are like magnets, a guy gets too close then click, and the destruction of him begins..

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[Blue SkiesParticipant 15665]

thanks for sharing your stories.

Stories like this are important because it reinforces my determination to never get married.

MGTOW is not a movement, it is a way of life.

[NEVERGELParticipant 166]

Thanks for sharing brother. I too recently have come out of a 2 yr relationship and made the same mistake of allowing my health to deteriorate. I’m grateful for this forum so we can encourage eachother to get back on track with our lives. Good luck to you on getting back on track.

I live the life I love and I love the life I live.

[Anonymous 0]

Easy enough to fall prey to a hottie’s wiles. Welcome home Brother

[TiredofbsParticipant 485]

Don’t beat yourself up too hard man. What you went through, self imposed or not, is something all of us men are prone to. At the time, you probably thought you had a good wife and obviously was attracted to her. Women are masters of deceit. And yes, as men, we need to constantly remind ourselves of that. But, don’t let it keep you down. Admitting a mistake and taking steps, no matter how painful, to correct it will pay off in the long run. At least you will get your sanity and peace of mind back in the future. Getting to that point is what half kills us. Hang in there man.

[Truthseeker82Participant 6406]

Thank you men! This forum is further proof that men are rational beings in a world of delusion. To all men out there – not that you already don’t know- but if you see a hot young single mother you are attracted to – RUN – RUN – RUN. I cannot emphasize that enough. You are truly playing with fire. I don’t care how awesome her t~~~ are and if you can bounce quarters off her firm ass, get the hell out of there. She will use every possible tool at her disposal (which pretty much consist of one – SEX) to lure you in and hook you in like a prize fish. The process is so slick and well planned, you will never even notice it and by then its too late. Avoid the misery. There are women you can date and have fun with if you must – but under no way must you commit. Get a vasectomy or use a condom and then keep it in your possession the entire night. I look at the s~~~ I just went through after only 18 months. I tremor to think at the harm to a man after 18 years.

[TheroniusParticipant 975]

I don’t know what the appeal of the single mom is, but there is something there that can suck a man in. Maybe it’s the perception of fertility, or just the family fantasy, or some delusion that she will work harder to keep you around. I don’t know, but something about it traps a lot of men.
I was lucky enough to see through it and run the other way, but I can sympathize with any man trapped that way. We are raised to think that being a mommy somehow improves a woman, makes her kinder, and more stable. NOTHING COULD BE FURTHER FROM THE TRUTH. If you are not her kid, you are s~~~. Realize this motivation, and the behavior of single moms start to make sense. Don’t be fooled.
Chances are she has been living a life of seething anger at resentment for the injustices she brought upon herself. She gave up her freedom, Chad, the carousel. Now, after she probably drove her baby-daddy away with her terrifying, resentful personality, she wants someone else to step in and take up the financial slack, but she will very likely transfer all the resentment of her past life right onto you, the new guy. Add to this the fact that you will never be as important to her as her kid(s), and that to her even being with you is a sacrifice for them, and you can see what a toxic combination it is.
In my opinion, a woman having some other guy’s kids should be the biggest single glowing, pulsing, neon red flag possible. A big sign that says “You will always be s~~~ to me, but I will tolerate you while the money holds out, if you do exactly what I say”.
I dated a couple of women with kids when I was young and naive, but decided after a couple that I was not ever going to be a father to them, and I did not want to be just another man who was there for a while and left. I like kids that much. The mothers… real easy to do without.
Anyway, rant over. Welcome to the forums. You will find many sympathetic souls here.

"I am is reportedly the shortest sentence in the English language. Could it be that I do is the longest sentence?" - George Carlin

[AttonParticipant]

A younger and less educated man would have ran himself into the ground to try to make it work.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

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