i done goofed!

[GoldieParticipant 1]

intro here.. im 29 the baby momma is 25 weve been together since highschool..she was a virgin when we got together..we have been together 11 yrs and have a 7 yr old …were not married and i am firm on no more kids ..she doesnt push for kids or marriage..how long before deontay moves in brahs?

[GoldieParticipant 1]

bump

[GoldieParticipant 1]

damn not enough men on this forum..

[Tbowden1Participant 195]

What kind of advice are you looking for here? You already made one of the biggest mistakes you can make by knocking this girl up. You expect to get a reply that “fixes” your situation?

[GoldieParticipant 1]

just some advice…dnt yell

[GoldieParticipant 1]

http://www.youtube.com/?v=dQw4w9WgXcQ

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Are you sure you got the youTube ID right? I just edited your post to paste the link plainly and it will show up, but the ID must be correct. Anyway, welcome.

Yeah our forum is read by many more men than actual participants. This is to be expected and any MGTOW forum can tell you the number of lurkers is greater than the contributors.

Plus… we just opened the forum a few weeks ago and the site is only 4 months old. We don’t advertize our site. So I wouldn’t be too concerned about the number of men who don’t reply so quickly. I’d like to think they are busy “going their own way” and enjoying their lives. I can tell you, when I reply, it’s because I’ve been thinking about HOW to reply before I actually do. I know Im not alone. TBOWDEN (above) left a killer intro and I haven’t gotten back to him either yet, he certainly deserves a reply and he will get one too.

In any case, a big and sincere welcome to you. Happy to have you here.
Not sure what “deontay moves in brahs” means. Care to elaborate?

THere’s nothing really wrong with your situation – unless you think there is. Men have ben doing it that way for a LONG time,. and it’s only in recent decades that one might say the world has changed so much that STARTING life with a kid may not be the way to go. Guessing by your “I done goofed” subject line, you’re beginning to realize at 29 there is still a MASSIVE future ahead for you, which remains untapped. I know a guy who had a kid at 19, he was young enough to still be able to build a new life for himself at 35 or 40, so it’s not like you destroyed your future. But then there are those who will tell you a kid at 19 puts a cap and will hold you back from your true potential.

This is one of the reasons women try to “trap” men into marriage and fatherhood BEFORE he can conceptualize how much potential lay still before him. As her options begin to narrow, yours haven’t even BEGUN to accelerate.

In any case, don’t beat yourself up too much.
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If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[GoldieParticipant 1]

i wrote i done goofed as i messed up by having a child..and by being in a ltr with someone…”how long before deontay moves in” means is my gf’s cheating inevitable? wat im getting from this site that most/all women are whores and none should be trusted.ive known this..i havent had any cheating/trust problems with my gf but who knows..i wouldnt put it past her/or be shocked ..she doesnt really have friends and just home schools our daughter..

[KeymasterKeymaster]

I have to assume you are 100% certain the child is yours, so I won’t say anything more about that.

But don’t mistaken the attitude that “all women are whores” means ” ALL WOMEN are whores”. It’s just a healthy and realistic approach to take, because assuming they are NOT (whores) can be very dangerous. After all, There is no great payout (or reward ) for automatically thinking they are wholesome and will remain loyal to you. But there is an ENORMOUS reward for being prepared. Namely, you get to hang on to your own s~~~. For some men, that’s a HUGE gain – by avoiding the loss.

Since the payout and losses for a man in divorce are SO HUGE….
It makes AVOIDING it a big win for every man who does.

Living with her and having a child with her is (by law) as good (or as bad) as being married. She’ll get your child support money until the child is 18 – that’s a sure thing. But I won’t pretend to offer any “advice” you should live by. Nobody can tell you if your girlfriend will cheat on you, but isn’t it a good thing that she’s not pushing for marriage? I can’t say I know too many women like that. I don’t even think I know any!

Not being married and STILL together is a sign that she is with you every day because she WANTS to be. Knowing she can leave anytime she wants – but doesn’t – is terrific sign. You don’t want to know that she is with you out of obligation and resent – like many married people are. Non-married couples have the luxury of knowing the other person is there out of their own free will, and not because of some silly contract.

The women I have known have all pushed for marriage “or it’s over” , basically.
So I just said, “OK then , it’s over” because I don’t put up with female ultimatums.

If she’s threatening that “it’s over” and is telling me she intends to walk, it’s like telling me she doesn’t give a f~~~ about the relationship anyway. So why would I want her around? The only girl worth hanging on to is the one I know is there every day because she WANTS to be, and not for any other external factors. This is just MY PERSONAL attitude.

The overall message that you get from our site “all women are cheating whores” is simply not the case.
But it is very rewarding for men to take that attitude. So please don’t take it TOO literally.

We’re not trying to “sell” you anything – or convince you of anything.
We provided a hub of information and examples so you can make up your OWN mind.

Listen to your manstincts. You’ll know what’s right.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[GoldieParticipant 1]

thanks man …i will aware more guys on this site.. good stuff

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Pleasure. I hope it was some help to you. Let us know how things progress and visit us again soon. I wish you every success.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

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