I am so glad I found out about MGTOW

[DJCParticipant 44]

I really need the support of like minded men right now, as everyone in my life seems to be pressuring me into getting married.

I don’t even need to get into the specifics because I’m sure you’ve all heard it a thousand times here, classic female pressure and manipulation.

I have been reading through the archives and some of the forum topics and I am finding comfort in the like minded thinking around here.

Look forward to any future advice, and hopefully I can contribute something now and then.

 

[SamMGTOWParticipant 95]

And you are welcome here. Like you have heard if you have been scouting the forums out some before joining, a common piece of advice given by KeyMaster is to ask why the woman manipulating you is asking you to sign a marriage CONTRACT. That’s the key word. Ask yourself what possible benefit you could get from being married. Ill be on hold to shoot down anything so go ahead. It fails every risk/benefit analysis that exists. Marriage is a matriarchal concept that is enforced by our gynocentric judicial system which you can bet your house on will f~~~ you over the first chance it gets. She’ll pull the whole “poor me” with sad eyes routine that we’ve all seen and you’ll be f~~~ed. Have the confidence to determine for yourself what success is and what a fulfilling life is. I repeat, every “advantage” of marriage can be achieved without signed the contract. Its just a piece of paper that she can rip up when she gets bored of you and use the courts to f~~~ you over with.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Sam.. you you beat me to it! I was thinking that and you said it!

Yes DJC it REALLY helps to stop thinking of it in terms of :marriage” but rather by placing emphasis on the marriage CONTRACT. When you discuss (and mention) the “CONTRACT” it completely de-romanticizes it and they really back off fast:

i.e…… “There is no benefit for a man to sign a marriage CONTRACT”.

Replace “marriage” with “the marriage CONTRACT” and nobody can shame you for that. Because now it’s not “personal” anymore. You’re criticizing the STATE – which you refuse to let into your personal life. This angle will save you a lot of grief in conversations and debates with friends and family. Emphasizing the contract makes them VERY uncomfortable and you’ll notice the women shut the f~~~ up on the spot, and you just gave the husbands in the room something to think about, too.

I also have an ALTERNATE angle which you can have fun with.
Tell them GREAT! you already have drafted your OWN marriage CONTRACT.
And you would be happy to find a woman willing to sign it!

(work with me here….)

Write everything down that you want in a marriage. No matter how ridiculous. You want her to greet you at the door naked with a beer and a BJ every night? Write it down. You want her to shut the f~~~ up whenever you request it? Write it down. She will pick up a mop and make the floor spotless? Write it down. You want her to iron the sheets? Write down . And don’t hold a f~~~ing thing back! (you don’t actually have to show them, just TELL them this is what you’ve done and you have NO objection to a marriage contract)

Women think a marriage contract is just about giving THEM whatever they want, and your needs and desires are a non-consideration. When they hear that you are 10 steps ahead and have laid down the law on how things will be in the marriage.. they will run screaming for the hills while you laugh and enjoy your desert.

Also….. I recommend using this one too:

“Oh, I believe marriage is right – For YOU. Not for me. For YOU.
Who the f~~~ else is going to keep the whole ridiculous gong show going?
Certainly not me. So, dream away friends. There must be a diamond out there in that landfill.
Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. They’re just bitter.”

It’s pure genius, I don’t mind saying.
Just pull the pin on that hand grenade … and gently set it down on the table.

Welcome to MGTOW , DJC and thanks for joining.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[learningParticipant 115]

Hello DJC, I only just joined the forum but couldn’t help it after reading your post. DO NOT DO IT. Please brother, there is NOTHING in it for you. All you will do is service her for the rest of your life.

I’m saying this cos I am married (with kids) and have only just woken up a couple of years ago.

I know you said you don’t want to give specifics, but please do give us specifics because people here will give you proper logical answers and explanations as to why some of the reasons that people are pressuring you to get married are completely untrue, false and idiotic.

This is the time for you to take the right path – I wish I had the advice back then, but I didn’t. But you have a chance – take it.

[DJCParticipant 44]

Thanks guys. I never been told that it was ok  to make your own happiness a priority, it is so refreshing. All you ever hear is “if mamma ain’t happy then nobody is happy.”

A little background in case anyone is wondering, I’m 37, have a great job, i live with a woman who is 30, we’ve been together for over 5 years, she moved in a year  ago and immediately began to use every trick in the book to get me to propose. And it isn’t just her, it’s her family, my family, they all seem to think I can be pressured into marriage. At no point have I ever expressed a desire to marry.

It is even more annoying and complicated too, but it’s a lot to type on my little phone keypad. But trust me I have a lot to talk about, especially since my best fruend has opened up about his unhappiness in his marriage. So i will his voice here too.

[TheNinjaUWannaH8Participant 386]

Brother DJC….Welcome!

I hope you do walk away from the Ungodly Pressure.   To encourage you, I’ve walked away THREE TIMES where the Women begged to Get Married.  Was my Mother, their Mothers and family mad at me?? F~~~ Yeah they were!   F~~~’em.

Like Capital One, Ask me “What’s in my Wallet” and I’ll tell you…Not ANY of them Ex-Muthaf~~~as!

Now I’m Happy and Free.  That’s just how I Roll.  🙂

 

[KeymasterKeymaster]

I just happened upon an article about MGTOW and “de-prioritizing women” and reminded myself to drop this for you.
Remembered reading your intro. So behind with the holidays but they say its the thought that counts. Cheers! Hope to see you back soon.

http://developedman.com/mgtow/

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

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