I am becoming a loner.

[AposematicParticipant 2671]

Monk mode 13 years.
I get traumatised just hearing couples fight/ be bitchy.
Something inside of me regressed to childhood insecurity
hearing adults fight.
Alone, I can only swear to myself, rarely experience frustration and
am serene.
I know what it is to meditate and take monkly vows. It is not
to get higher to a spirit, it is to find THE PEACE WITHIN.
I appreciate human contact- I got to nurse a newborn 30 minutes today
whilst consulting. I don’t have to put up with the drama!!!
Is it such a bad thing to be that cool Uncle NFG.\
Or to allow your solar installers to do a f~~~ing awful
installation from aesthetics- but practical lossless safe installation
thinking efficiency?
Who cares about being “Lonely”: I have my most content times
alone, and these days most people are too engaged in their
devices to EVEN APPRECIATE COMPANY MINDFULLY.
Long ago I was married, and my XYF did not encourage
my music and there was remarkably No point in which
she had a genuinely intellectual conversation.
That is getting to the above Robin Williams quote (R.I.P. Robin).
If you want company a dog or a cat can turn a house to a
home. And living out your values nurturing children while
not having to have “your own”.

Afinogyny.. from the Greek Afino {to abandon/ to set down/ to leave /to allow/ to let } + Gyny {Women} MGHOW’s philosophy to not engage women without “hating them”. Narcorca =Narcissistic Orca typically spouting to a bathroom mirror taking an arms length selfie ; Wallinate describes post wall females whose SMV is terminally negligible New Years resolution "To not make women happy" . Instadestitue: yet another Neologism for Men that cohabit with women that decide to pull the handle of intervention orders.

[ChristopherParticipant 2478]

Anonymous wrote:

People ask if I stayed in touch with people from my hometown. Not really. I used to feel bad about that, must be something wrong with me. But nah we’re just different and frankly most of them are dim, dull and vulgar, or simply malicious; far below the quality of person I’d like to call a friend.

My circumstances this year meant I ended up living in a property I own in the rural area close to a small town I mostly grew up in. It is the first time I have ‘lived’ (as opposed to visited) here since I gladly left it when I was 18. The thing is I have mostly bad memories from growing up here and I feel its too close to my parents (I have cut my narc mother off from my life) so it feels a bit awkward as they live in the area.

I had a physcial health issue so had to stay put – now my health is recovering I am thinking of moving to a different area. Does anyone else find it less than ideal living in the area they grew up in ? or is it just me and I should get out more?

Feminism was funded by bankers/politicians to create more taxpayers. MGTOW IS FREEDOM https://archive.org/details/mgtowisfreedomblurayready

[Anonymous 12]

Spleefer wrote:

I spent a year purging toxic people from my life. Now i can choose who will enter back in.

Hey Spleefer,

let me , at random, drop a few lines here –

The goal is not to lock the door and throw away the key. being able to do so does not mean you SHOULD.
It is necessary to stay engaged in society, even if it is only as a daily reminder of its crazyness. Even if this only a “hi, how are you doing” at the local bakery.
Being monk it is healthy, and funny (?) to see the Males make great efforts to get their dick wet.

[Anonymous 0]

Christopher wrote:

My circumstances this year meant I ended up living in a property I own in the rural area close to a small town I mostly grew up in. It is the first time I have ‘lived’ (as opposed to visited) here since I gladly left it when I was 18. The thing is I have mostly bad memories from growing up here and I feel its too close to my parents (I have cut my narc mother off from my life) so it feels a bit awkward as they live in the area.

I had a physcial health issue so had to stay put – now my health is recovering I am thinking of moving to a different area. Does anyone else find it less than ideal living in the area they grew up in ? or is it just me and I should get out more?

I wrote about a kind of similar situation in this thread: /forums/topic/countering-s~~~-testing-with-mgtow/

[JVBParticipant]

Side effects may include a long , happy, peaceful existence.

Peace is > piece.

[ChristopherParticipant 2478]

Anonymous wrote:

I wrote about a kind of similar situation in this thread..

Cheers amigo.

Feminism was funded by bankers/politicians to create more taxpayers. MGTOW IS FREEDOM https://archive.org/details/mgtowisfreedomblurayready

[GrumpyParticipant]

Meh
IMHO.
It depends on who deems it “unhealthy”.
Personally, my physical, mental, emotional, financial, and spiritual well being always suffers the more I have to interact with people and xociety (spelling intentional) in general. The toxicity levels are almost to the point of wholly intolerable for me.
Being an actual loner is not a bad thing, it’s just easier for society to sell more papers/views/blame when they portray solitude in a negative light.

There was a time in my life when I gave a fuck. Now you have to pay ME for it

[G.O.A.TParticipant 1459]

I was born alone, and I’m going to die alone.

F~~~ everyone!

Money is God.

[Anonymous 1]

I relate to every thing you say, I am a loner I don’t even like riding as a group in the motorcycle club I am in. People of the club come to me to get their bikes sorted out and a sum of money changes hands.Then they leave me in peace. This arrangement is by appointment only, any newcomers have to be vouched for first by one of my regulars. Other than that I prefer to be alone.

[HermitParticipant]

Keymaster wrote:

You didn’t mention how old you are, and that’s a factor.
Your need to socialize is going to be stronger when you’re younger.

This is a fact of my life. When I was in my early 20’s, I “thought” I was lonely. I felt as though I absolutely had to interact with friends and females. Now, in my 50’s, I am definitely happiest when I’m alone. I go to my hangout once a week and talk with friends, but by the end of the evening I’m ready to get home and be alone again. There’s a reason I only do this once a week.

The evil in women’s hearts leaves them no moral bounds as to inhibit them from descending to the lowest levels of darkness to acquire their self entitled desires.

[SpleeferParticipant 966]

Thank You all for the solid advice and experience.
Couple of thoughts
1. There is a pull to go back to the plantation. As much as I would deny it prior to my post, after reading the replies it’s clear I doubt my abilities to succeed on my own. This isn’t true, but fear is an enemy here. I will build on each success and each challenge in front of me. Thanks Puff! Stick to the plan, this pull will diminish over time.
2. My social engagement is up to me. Over time I will find a balance that works for me. Don’t sweat it bro.
3. The Robin Williams quote from Keymaster reminded of me when I had my last relationship. I’d be in a room full of “family” and feel absolutely alone. No impact in anyone’s life, no real conversation, no depth in relationship, just gotta keep the flow of money going. That was my job. Ugh. Thanks for that reminder!
4. Get my Ass in gear and build something! Projects, create, execute a plan created by me. Build for myself.

Galatians 5:1 (KJV) Stand fast therefore in the liberty wherewith Christ hath made us free, and be not entangled again with the yoke of bondage.

[Daryll55Participant 2955]

Spleefer,

A lot of great information on how the “loner” life can be handled. I can think of little to add; they covered the gambit,(aren’t these guys great ?!?)

I was going to add just one thing, and you nailed that yourself in the post above…..
At 10 months MONK you are in a time of trial. When trying to break a habit/process, you need to go hardcore on it to secure your belief/actions. Once you establish this, you can pull back on the throttle a little and relax.

As for myself; I been MONK for years now, no relationships with women, very little contact with others. I do have a few hobbies that are social, so I get interaction with others and enjoy the time with them as well. I really enjoy my time in solice as it builds my character.

The hardest part is to resist that “lonliness feeling,” just remember that is what sets you free!

Marry again, Hell NO ! ( Even JESUS was hung on a cross just once)

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