How's it supposed to work after divorce?

[MalfunctionNeedInputParticipant 257]

So I went to visit my daughter in Colorado, flew out from Texas. Upon deciding, the ex wife was impatient about f~~~ing. Apparently she’s been really horny as she’s at that age in her life when women peak and I’ve been pretty bored here in that area of life. I took her up on it and played the prostitute except without the pay while there. Sex with her reminded me of my first time…I was let down although I enjoyed the nostalgia of it all. (Of course condoms were utilized)

My question, is this normal? Is there a normal? Is there a right and wrong in this situation? I made a decision and feel nothing, no guilt or shame. I really wonder what the deal is with her, was it a manipulation tactic? It didn’t work, wasn’t exciting enough for me, perhaps it’s because of the fleshlight. I’m not really sure if I should do this for her from now on, or if I should make her suffer by saying “NO”, or let some other dude f~~~ her. We’re not enemies, but I do recognize her ability to manipulate and how she does attempt to use me. I guess I should tread carefully.

The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing. One cannot help but be in awe when he contemplates the mysteries of eternity, of life, of the marvelous structure of reality. It is enough if one tries merely to comprehend a little of this mystery every day. Never lose a holy curiosity. --Einstein

[FrankOneParticipant 1417]

I have sex with the ex every week. And we both plan to continue. In my case, she DIDN’T do the financial divorce rape thing, so it was amicable. Both of us understand we aren’t moving back in together or getting re-married or anything like that.

[MalfunctionNeedInputParticipant 257]

FrankOne wrote:

I have sex with the ex every week. And we both plan to continue. In my case, she DIDN’T do the financial divorce rape thing, so it was amicable. Both of us understand we aren’t moving back in together or getting re-married or anything like that.

That’s the thing for me, I want to think that my ex and I will be like this but I’m not sure as I think she lies and manipulates a lot which leaves me thinking I don’t know what I can believe. Thus far though I think I can navigate myself somewhat through her maze of lies and see that she does still enjoy my “company,” although I’m not sure what the future holds. She says she doesn’t want to get married but who knows as women will do whatever benefits themselves the most, there is no honor in their words.

I shouldn’t dwell on it to much I suppose as it’ll end up messing with me. Back to work.

The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing. One cannot help but be in awe when he contemplates the mysteries of eternity, of life, of the marvelous structure of reality. It is enough if one tries merely to comprehend a little of this mystery every day. Never lose a holy curiosity. --Einstein

[narwhalParticipant]

How does your new relationship with your ex effect your daughter? Personally, I think it would be rather confusing for my kids and could cause them additional pain and suffering. For that reason alone, I’d avoid it. Even then though, I would not want to give my ex that satisfaction. She does not get to divorce me and have sex with me. (She is remarried, so it’s immaterial, but still).

Ok. Then do it.

[VettenParticipant 110]

Having gone through one episode of this a month after we parted ways, this arrangement wouldn’t work for me. I say me, because it may for others. I’m a black & white guy, no grey. If I divorced her, it was for a reason. I won’t let myself go down that road again.

I can see no positive outcome to the situation, for me it’s just an invitation to let gremlins breech my perimeter or feed her hamsters.

No kids involved in my situation, but I can’t imagine how confusing that would be to them. Kids are smart, they may not say anything but they see everything.

Too many other options, go your own way…

[OldBillParticipant]

As the others have already posted, there are too many options in play. What are her feelings towards you, what are your feeling towards her, how bitter or not was the divorce, simply too many variables to suggest a blanket policy.

If it were me, I’d have nothing to do with her and it wouldn’t matter how genial our post-marriage “relationship” was. The only way my hypothetical ex-wife would ever see me was when I couldn’t avoid attending the same family functions she is attending.

To my thinking, once the marriage is over it is all over. Even if minor children were still in the picture, she would only be able to contact me through my lawyer. She wanted the divorce so she’s going to get that divorce good and hard.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[MattNYCParticipant 2329]

If i could go back in time & give myself a guide to how to deal with my divorce, it’d read something like this:

1. It’s going to be an emotional roller-coaster. It’s totally ok to be ecstatic one minute, then depressed as f~~~ the next, then calm the next. Expected, even.

2. It eventually will end. Completely shutting her out of your life will help all the wounds heal.

3. It will take time. Lots of it.

4. Focus first on take care of yourself. Everyone else comes in second.

5. Hate f~~~ her as much as you want, until you reach the point of #2 above. It’ll be emotionally confusing, but sometimes fun. And when you’re done f~~~ing her and she starts crying, it feels even better.

6. For f~~~s sake, don’t get her pregnant.

Now go hire a hot housekeeper & remind yourself that you can hire a newer, younger, hotter housekeeper whenever the f~~~ you want.

[MalfunctionNeedInputParticipant 257]

OldBill wrote:

As the others have already posted, there are too many options in play. What are her feelings towards you, what are your feeling towards her, how bitter or not was the divorce, simply too many variables to suggest a blanket policy.

If it were me, I’d have nothing to do with her and it wouldn’t matter how genial our post-marriage “relationship” was. The only way my hypothetical ex-wife would ever see me was when I couldn’t avoid attending the same family functions she is attending.

To my thinking, once the marriage is over it is all over

. Even if minor children were still in the picture, she would only be able to contact me through my lawyer. She wanted the divorce so she’s going to get that divorce good and hard.

That’s what I thought as well. Our divorce was amicable, the only thing is the child we both share but she basically full rights and me visitation. There’s no alimony, neither of us touched the other’s retirement, only child support which we agreed upon a set amount lower than the state required 20% which is nice. It’s almost like the divorce did me a favor, I’m able to grow as a person and not just rely on our relationship, not just be a slave and be unhappy with life in general.

I guess there is no right or wrong answer, only consequences for choices and which hurt less.

MattNYC wrote:

If i could go back in time & give myself a guide to how to deal with my divorce, it’d read something like this:

1. It’s going to be an emotional roller-coaster. It’s totally ok to be ecstatic one minute, then depressed as f~~~ the next, then calm the next. Expected, even.

2. It eventually will end. Completely shutting her out of your life will help all the wounds heal.

3. It will take time. Lots of it.

4. Focus first on take care of yourself. Everyone else comes in second.

5. Hate f~~~ her as much as you want, until you reach the point of #2 above. It’ll be emotionally confusing, but sometimes fun. And when you’re done f~~~ing her and she starts crying, it feels even better.

6. For f~~~s sake, don’t get her pregnant.

Now go hire a hot housekeeper & remind yourself that you can hire a newer, younger, hotter housekeeper whenever the f~~~ you want.

No way man, the women in this area are the kind that seek men to support them for the rest of their lives and get fat. I live in an area where none of the women go to college and they’re super traditional where men support the women and the woman does housework. For the most part. I don’t even want to touch women from here for fear they may end up crying rape or somehow getting pregnant.

Like bunkermode has said, Youjizz is fine; leverage that with the fleshlight and things are great.

Thanks for the responses fellow MGTOW. This forum is an excellent resource.

The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing. One cannot help but be in awe when he contemplates the mysteries of eternity, of life, of the marvelous structure of reality. It is enough if one tries merely to comprehend a little of this mystery every day. Never lose a holy curiosity. --Einstein

[OldBillParticipant]

MalfunctionNeedInput wrote:

I guess there is no right or wrong answer, only consequences for choices and which hurt less.

That’s a wise viewpoint and, considering how “friendly” the divorce you described was, I believe the correct one.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

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