How to Stop Drifting

[KingOfTheSeaParticipant 1270]

Kind of feel aimless right now, so I thought I’d get opinions from the Manosphere.

I’ve been aimless ever since I graduated high school. I have a few college courses under my belt, but I haven’t really done anything yet with myself. I’m not in school and I don’t have a degree. I work, go home, sleep, wake up, do it again, and spend the weekend watching Netflix and movies because I work nights, so no one is up when I am. I don’t know what I want to do with my future…I’ve talked about writing and drawing comics before, but I’ve never had the discipline to really work on that and I feel like all my ideas are unoriginal and s~~~ anyways.

Any advice for how to figure out what I should do for a living? All I know is that I don’t want to be poor, haha.

[alternative_rooParticipant 26]

I’m thirty, when you find out please tell me 😀

No really there are two ways of doing this. Find something you like and try and work in it, even if it’s not the same thing but pretty close that’s still good.

Secondly, find something that your community/country really, really needs and is willing to hire for, even train you from nothing for and get into that. Then sit back, get money and see if you want to continue.

[BigDParticipant 3024]

I didn’t know what I wanted to be when I grew up either.  I joined the Army to buy some time to figure it out.  After the Army I wanted to do everything, so my course schedule in college reflected that.  I must have changed my Majors at least twice per semester while taking 5 Semesters a year at 21+ semester hours a semester.

Then 9/11.  Army stated they were cutting off my college money and were more than likely going to call me back in.  So, I became a contractor.  Just making money trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up.

After all these years I have finally figured out what I want to be when I grow up.  I am fortunate enough to more than likely get there sooner that most, but just so you know, here it is.

I want to retire when I grow up.  Couldn’t do that with a wife and kids that would become ex-wife and some children related to me I don’t know.  I will be the dirty old man when I grow up, and I will be well under 50 when that happens.  The thought just makes me smile.

Don't stick your dick into anyone you aren't willing to put up with for eighteen years and nine months.

[willastParticipant 23]

Here is what worked for me.  I had been in computer sales for a long time and saw that it really had no future for me.  I read a lot of books on the power of thinking and Pyscho Cybernetics.  One of them gave me a thought that I used to create 20 plus years of mostly blissful employment in the IT field.  It was “I now work at a job that has all the characteristics I value most.  In this matter, I will give to myself the most efficient service of which I am capable. Rendering the fullest possible quantity and the best possible quality of service.”  It may seem a little hokey but the languaging is semantically significant and goes right into the brain. At the time, I knew what characteristics of the job I wanted such as hours and location and how I wanted to have interesting work that I would enjoy but had no big idea of how to define it.  When I wrote this down and focused on this thought along with the characteristics the I knew I wanted then a whole bunch of things changed in my life without a lot of effor.  I cleared all the stuff about sales out of my resume.  Interviews starting happening and I found that I needed more information.  I got that and in about 4 months after starting the process, I got a job in IT that paid way more than I was asking.  I am still in the same place today and still using that thought when things seem difficult.

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BigD:

 

I’m pushing 60 and I’m still waiting to grow up!

 

[KingOfTheSeaParticipant 1270]

My gig… Programming. Database and web. $119k with the benefits.

Really? I didn’t know it paid that high. Shows how much I know.

[SargeslideParticipant 82]

Think about trade schools also. You are leaning toward a “Artistic” type of work you would like to do. I would say to check out welding, always a need, it pays very well, and it has artistic qualities you can take pride in. I know it is not comics, but the art some welders produce is amazing. Just a thought.

I am retired Air Force, and while you can go in a learn a trade and get experience, I am not sure I would recommend military service right now. Kids in the school I teach at earn about $38K a year, right out of the gate, high schoolers! For welding!

[DoinMyOwnThing40Participant 1000]

Don’t worry about it. It ain’t even worth worrying about. Work is a four letter word for a reason.

Women are parasites. Each and every last one of them.

[BigDParticipant 3024]

@Quarter_Wave_Vertical and everyone else

The whole “What do you want to be when you grow up” seems to be just an abstract thought process brought to us by society in order to control us.  I remember when I was in school I thought I wanted to be a teacher.  I scored real high on every aptitude test they through at me, and I guess the establishment just decided to put in my records I would be a great teacher due to me saying I wanted to be a teacher.  I’m willing to bet if I put down I wanted to be a janitor my records would have stated I would make a great janitor.

The point being jobs are like hobbies.  Once you master one you always want to move on and do something else.  So our best bet as men is to make as much money as possible, save it up, and have a good financial base so we can do whatever the hell we want before we die.

Don't stick your dick into anyone you aren't willing to put up with for eighteen years and nine months.

[RoyDalParticipant]

I never found out, but I retired young anyway. If I did it, so can you all.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Binary LogicParticipant 2351]

Elmospeed. You got it. IT is just made for MGTOW. Then later when you are ready.. You really can go your own way… My hours in the batcave are from 11pm until 2am. Working on my own db architecture and web code. The code and server objects and the data I own 100%. Forget teams and so on. The guy who created pof.com did the same thing. One guy and a few years passed and he worked his plan. Gents, if you are lost in career and job hell… Turn on your mind. What you sacrifice is the time to do it and bail on TV. It’s a waste land programmed by fembots. You’ve seen all the Dad is an idiot commercials… They are programming you. WAKE THE F~~~ UP AND CANCEL TV. Do not support their world. Think of the decades you will waste and have nothing to show for it. The formula….

Just copy/pasted to a sticky note on my desktop… I concur with that method. Well put friend.

Funny, isn't it? How women thrive on a mans time, attention and resources, while simultaneously telling him he isn't enough...

[HimeoParticipant 471]

Batcave,

Can you be more specific for someone that knows nothing about programming and doesn’t have a degree? What are the steps to getting into what you’re doing?

Thanks for the advice man.

[KingOfTheSeaParticipant 1270]

Thought this might be relevant to what Batcave was saying:
http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/myprojects/mit-challenge-2/

[MantelarParticipant 77]

take college classes.  to the max extent – give up tv, internet, porn, drugs, alcohol.  not saying to stop them entirely, but minimize all of them.  exercise – not saying to be a gym rat.  find something active you like to do and do it, out in the sun.  find other people who like the same thing and do it with them – anything from free-climbing to LARPING, i don’t care.  just work up a sweat once a day.  the key is to find the environmentals in your life that are controlling you.  the things that you find yourself rationalizing away if you examine them or if other people who you know really care about you question you on.  its not just women that enslave men.  find what bonds you – and is WASTING your life – break that bond, and set yourself free.

[JinParticipant 77]

Batcave, you are a f~~~ing boss man

"Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it"

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