How to Make Male Friends

[Falcon SageParticipant 92]

I realize this is a rather odd question, and a stupid thing to ask as every young boy should know this before entering middle school (by high school, at least). I am 18 years old with tomorrow being my last day of high-school, moved around all the time, have atypical autism (PDD at time of diagnosis) and (used to) have anger management issues; I am not making excuses, I am only giving context and possible information that may be useful. To cut to the chase: how do I make male friends? Sorry, I meant men, not manginas who know nothing but worshiping pussy. I’ve only been able to make one or two male friends and never was able to fit in a group (apparently there’s an old saying “for every group of friends there is one friend that no one actually likes, and if you don’t know who that is; it’s you” and I suspect I am that person). Is there any tidbits you guys could give me? Does it depend on the area? Do I need to have a (male) therapist or one of those classes about making friends? What do you guys suggest I do?

"Woman is a misbegotten man and has a faulty and defective nature in comparison to his. Therefore she is unsure in herself. What she cannot get, she seeks to obtain through lying and diabolical deceptions. And so, to put it briefly, one must be on one's guard with every woman, as if she were a poisonous snake and the horned devil. ... Thus in evil and perverse doings woman is cleverer, that is, slyer, than man. Her feelings drive woman toward every evil, just as reason impels man toward all good." –Saint Albertus Magnus, Dominican theologian, 13th century

[MGTOW_MikeParticipant 6253]

A lot of therapists are brainwashed themselves in this gynocentric society. Find a passion that you like and find other men who also share the same passion.

A tranquil mind is neither happy nor sad, it is uninfluenced by external conditions.

[Anonymous 43]

look for a group of people who are doing something you like, ask to join, and add value to the group.

[Can’t Stump TrumpParticipant]

Finding friends is like a needle in a haystack. When you’re playing Diablo, it’s a waste of time to look for a particular item; you should just kill as many f~~~ing monsters as you can and see what drops. It’s the same in life. Pursue your interests and you may get lucky and find one.

Women are better at multitasking? Fucking up several things at once is not multitasking.

[IntellectualSaviorParticipant 1238]

Can’t Stump Trump wrote:

Finding friends is like a needle in a haystack.

I agree with this one. The reality is you may never even find a “real” friend. Buddies, yes but real friends or “brothers” are rare and I mean very very rare. All you need to do is connect with others, join them if you like them and let them acknowledge you, be a precious part.

And don’t focus solely on making friends focus on living your life as you like it and socialize while enjoying what you’re doing. In the end you may find people who enjoy your company too. It’s all a process in time. Remember, friends are expendable, It may sound harsh but it’s reality so don’t completely “rely” on anyone. Rely only on yourself, do your thing, live your life, pursue your dreams and I really hope in the end you will meet like-minded people.

Best of wishes in your future life my friend!

When I have a pen in my hands, it's lethal.

[ShineParticipant 1696]

Hobbies are always an easy in. Get serious about doing something you enjoy and find others to do that with. Bit of trial and error will get you in with some like minded mates. But don’t rely on other people for your happiness, be self sufficient.

"Society is to blame" Denton

[Jim01Participant 6678]

https://www.meetup.com/

you can always find something you are interested in and you guarantee everyone else is interested in the same thing

[bladeParticipant]

Go join a boxing gym or kick boxing . If your into building s~~~ and like a bit of tech get into radio controlled planes or something.

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[Anonymous 1]

Like the above advice – find something *you* are interested in. $10 says there’s a group of like-minded geeks/nerds/weirdos/layabouts that love just the same sorts of stuff. Whether its a sport, hobby, whatever. Revel in your interests.

Second point: I suspect from your comments about ‘being the guy people don’t like’ – that you’re feeling insecure about yourself, and how people perceive you.

I know this is hard to overcome — I spent many years doing the same thing. Do yourself a big favour – learn/teach yourself not to care, be proud of who you are.

I’m not saying it’ll be easy, but it is definitely a part of becoming a mature adult.

One book someone on here pointed me to is ‘Beyond Success and Failure’ by the Beechers. Its out of print, but can be obtained second hand (abebooks, book depository, etc). A very straightforward, simple and self-affirming read.

You may find it a bitter pill to swallow, or nod your head in agreement, or both. Its basic message is ‘grow up’. Don’t be a snowflake. No-one owes you anything, and you don’t owe anyone else anything. To get something from others, you need to provide them some service in exchange – ie: you also need to be a friend to them.

Oh – and as for friends, not everyone has, or desires lots of friends; don’t compare yourself against others. I have a few work colleagues I like to hang out with occasionally, a couple of old friends from a common sporting interest that I see a dozen times a year, and that’d be it. No friends who have remained from high school or University.

[AntipathyParticipant 4901]

Finding a real friend, is f~~~ing hard Falcon. The only friends i’ve found so far have been online, i met thousands of people, and filtered through to find a grand total of 2 friends/brothers. You can always find pals and such, but to find someone you have so much in common with, someone that understands you completely, and you understand them completely, and connect with them, i’ve had to filter through thousands of people on chat services.

Side Note: It can be much harder to find them locally, because in person, guys tend to hold back most of who they really are, and put on a caracter. I dunno really, but i can tell you when you find one make sure you stay in contact.

[Anonymous 0]

As we can see above, hobby just for you really can be the answer.

A few years ago I found Airsoft (this being the awesome paintball wishes it could be). It’s not exclusive to men but day with 100 players would be very unlikely to include even one woman. So this is a great way to be a man surrounded by men.

If you are anything like me socially (and I suspect you are) then whatever hobby you go for you will be keeping you head down. so please do not get disheartened when you do not make friends day one. I went months before having any kind of conversation with anyone, but hey, in the mean time I got to run round the woods playing army. Eventually, small talk about said hobby soon lead to other subjects resulting in a handful of legitimate like minded true friendships.

The point my ramble is trying to make is, if you find yourself something you really enjoy doing then it’s not so bad being “alone in a crowded room” with a load of people who are probably feeling the same way. Also a some point later on, I guarantee you will spot someone who is in the same boat as you are now and will be the guy who knows how to help him.

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[Anonymous 11]

Anonymous wrote:

To get something from others, you need to provide them some service in exchange – ie: you also need to be a friend to them.

That is so true. I’m sure many of us have “friends” who only call whenever they want something. They’ll say things like how good of a friend you are. I don’t take their calls.

I have a large number of acquaintances. I can count my true friends on the fingers of one hand.

Falcon Sage wrote:

To cut to the chase: how do I make male friends? Sorry, I meant men, not manginas who know nothing but worshiping pussy.

Find manly things that you like to do and be yourself with no faking. If someone does not like you, move on it’s their loss. You may want to open up to meeting men older than you are too as well as your own age. I was notorious for having friends way older than myself.

It’s very difficult like trying to find a ruby in a pile of rubble.

[GnosticParticipant 2491]

Do you want to make male friends or male acquittance?

The truth is people who can be our friend is almost non existent, for the majority of us.
There are many acquittance who share our interest and can have fun. But we cannot rely on them when SHTF.

There is a much smaller group of honorable people who we can rely on when SHTF if we befriend them. But we don’t have the same interest as them so it cost us mentally since we have to do things that does not interest us to be their friend. In the end we may decided it is too costly to maintain the friendship and it is more effective to depend on ourself.

Then there is an almost non existent group of people we can rely on when SHTF, and we share the same interest with them, so it is no longer a cost to maintain the friendship since we are doing what we like with them.
This group of people is so rare that we will be extremely lucky to find even one.

To make these friend we have to find them first. Else we have to decide acquittance with similar interest is enough, and leave no weakness for our acquittance to betray us.

There is no magic in MGTOW, just recognition of the truth and logical decision how to avoid dangers. The red pill is but the truth, it is no magical potion. Do not think in this modern world men have no longer have natural enemies, men are prey to women and government.

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