How to get better at shutting up?

[onmywayParticipant 502]

Hi brothers.
I have certain things I never want to talk to anyone about. Things like money, politics and religion. I don’t want anyone to know my money situation or my (to PC bitches) “extreme” politic viewpoints. Around certain people it’s easy to shut up, however some people have a way to get to me.
They make me feel secure, or make me so p~~~ed off I can’t hold back.

Do you guys have any advice on how to get better at shutting up? My slip-ups until now haven’t caused any problems except me feeling unnecessarily drained afterwards (which to me is enough of a reason to not talk about these things), but I’m afraid I will say something to someone that will come back to bite me later, professionally for example.

Thank you.

[GeraldParticipant 3631]

OMG… this is one of the toughest things I struggle with, is just keeping my damn mouth shut.
The only answer I have so far is to leave.

No longer can we walk away, we must run. Remove the motive power.

[Anonymous 42]

I learned that legally when you STFU you’re giving the adversary plenty of rope to hang themselves! Short on words and long on thought will save you lots of aggravation, it’s something I trained myself to do, I always “pause”, giving me time to “think”…

[GregB0Participant]

Spot on Tower –

Anonymous wrote:

Short on words and long on thought will save you lots of aggravation

Anonymous wrote:

it’s something I trained myself to do, I always “pause”, giving me time to “think”…

A trick I learned from the Army was to first not reply and wait for the person to finish. Reflect their statements back to them and often that will give you a way to divert any difficult conversations. By slowing the conversation down by discussing one point at a time you begin analyzing what you hear and not what you think the person might have said. This is a skill that takes practice, practice with friends. Best of luck.

​"​My father didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.​" - Clarence Buddinton Kelland

[BigvernParticipant 1983]

Hey onmyway,……great question brother, but we as men have all struggled with keeping our mouth’s shut, because of OUR PASSIONATE views.

You will learn to realise, that “the more you know, the LESS you show”, if they want your opinion, you can choose to tell them what you TRULY think, or you can leave the B*ST*RDS guessing, if they don’t ask you, they’re probably not interested,……and MOST People, are not interested in someone’s views, especially PASSIONATE views.
There are so many pitfalls in ‘being one’s self’, in this day and age.

If you can train yourself to just think for a few seconds, before giving an opinion, then you can keep calm and rational.

I too struggled with this, for years and years,……you’ll get there, and then, you’ll be the winner, WHATEVER REPLY YOU WOULD LIKE TO GIVE THEM. LEAVE ‘EM GUESSING, AND BE THE BIGGER MAN.

"What made you think, there'd be a livin' in sheep?, Eat, Work, Eat Work and Sleep" - Mark Knopfler.

[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

Similar to Gregbo I advise to wait–then use the Socratic method on them…that is ask pointed questions that YOU KNOW they can’t answer.

EXAMPLE: College Campus, libtard girl tells some guy he can’t wear his MAGA hat. What does he do? argues with her and gets nowhere. What do I do: Question: what is your source of authority to give orders to me? Where does this authority come from? does everyone have this authority? Does it only apply to garments? Do I have the same authority? Does everyone? How exactly does this work?

YOu get the idea—you throw the logic monkey on their backs and wait for them to self destruct because they CANNOT answer the question.

[Anonymous 7]

I have the same problem. I have a strategy that sometimes works.

See, the problem is, the type of people that I suspect you have a problem with are stupid f~~~s that base everything on the feelz or what is faaaaaaaaair.
Mostly I’m like WTF does feelz or fair have to do with anything?

The strategy is in two parts.
1. Ignore the stupid comment that is designed to a. find an echo chamber or b. pick a fight.

2. If they ask a stupid question ask them a stupid question right back.

Example of #1:
C~~~: The f~~~ing nazi right in this stupid racist country just don’t like brown people.
You: <crickets> <shrug>.

Example of #2:
C~~~: How in the f~~~ can you support the racist POS nazi Trump.
You:Hmmm. Hey what do you think of this season of <insert what the f~~~ ever here>.

Another Example of #2:
C~~~: How in the f~~~ can you support the racist POS nazi Trump.
You:Hmmm. What makes him rayciss, I don’t really pay attention? Then tune the f~~~ers out b/c everything that comes next will be bulls~~~.

[StealthParticipant 5378]

It’s just personal discipline. One small victory at a time will develop the habit. Remember making this post and challenging yourself.

"Once you’ve taken care of the basics, there’s very little in this world for which your life is worth deferring." -David Hansson. "It’s not when women are mean or nasty that anything is out of the ordinary. It’s when they are NICE to you that you have to be on high alert..." -Jackinov.

[Soldier-MedicParticipant 2566]

onmyway wrote:

Do you guys have any advice on how to get better at shutting up?

I view the stupidity that falls out of peoples mouths as a genuine opportunity to understand the twisted landscape of their minds. It’s just holds too much macabre fascination.

I had the same issue until I realized that this was a learning opportunity. Don’t interrupt your teachers. They have valuable information to impart. If only to learn not just that juggling hand grenades is a bad idea, but the real damage they do at close range.

People have stupid ideas flowing through their heads at regular intervals. Sort of like having ticking time bombs of mental retardation waiting to explode gooey dumb s~~~ at regular intervals all over the room. Better to wear a rain coat and keep your distance.

It also helps to explain their motivations. Understanding a person’s motivations empowers you to be able to avoid their bulls~~~.

"I asked you a question. I didn't ask you to repeat what the voices in you head are telling you" ~ Me. ........Yes I'm still angry.

[Anonymous 54]

Pretend you are on a covert mission.
Dont blow your cover. See if you can good at it.

[DocParticipant]

The way I deal with those whose views oppose mine is to just say as little as possible to them about the things we don’t agree about.
If we debate and still disagree it’s a lose situation. The likelihood that what I say ever changing their view just isn’t worth the effort.
I don’t care if people disagree with me or vice versa. I just think about how I protect my sanity.

It’s like wading in a shark pool.

Like someone above notes – practice silence and composure. I see this practice as a life long endeavour.

The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape, finding oneself in the ranks of the insane. Marcus Aurelius

[GregB0Participant]

Anonymous wrote:

Pretend you are on a covert mission.

Secret Agent Man “To everyone he meets he stays a stranger” “Be careful what you say or you will give yourself away”

​"​My father didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.​" - Clarence Buddinton Kelland

[JuehueParticipant 1316]

Just wondering if there were any alcohol involved when you slipped up

[BushidoParticipant 637]

Brother, it tends to boil down to self restraint. If people know the buttons to push, they will push them relentlessly.

My best advice for you is to use humor to your advantage – saying more or less the same direct statement disguised in humor tends to disarm people and prevent them from inquiring further about a sensitive subject.

In this manner you can still make your point (perhaps even more outrageously or strongly) and people won’t be either a) irritated or b) curious by your response. It’s all about finding a way to tell someone to f~~~ off in such a way that they gladly do so. 🙂

Logic guides your actions, emotion guides your morals. Only you may decide how you use them.

[hmskl’dParticipant 6414]

Think Stealth

Forget all the triggers they throw at you trying to get a rise
… and focus on YOU!!!!

this is the way to get better at saying nothing

You have work…
work like your future depended on it
say only what’s needed to get the job done well

take the fruits of Your labor
and spend or invest them on You ..
possibly .. some to your chosen philanthropy.

Reward yourself for saying nothing.
Then go live YOUR life. Live very well.
Peace!

[Anonymous 54]

GregB0 wrote:

Old Sage wrote:

Pretend you are on a covert mission.

Secret Agent Man “To everyone he meets he stays a stranger” “Be careful what you say or you will give yourself away”

GregB0 wrote:

Old Sage wrote:

Pretend you are on a covert mission.

Secret Agent Man “To everyone he meets he stays a stranger” “Be careful what you say or you will give yourself away”

Its just a silly mind trick, but if it works, what the hell.

[Anonymous 54]

Sorry about the double pumps.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

onmyway wrote:

Do you guys have any advice on how to get better at shutting up?

I like this one. It’s a good rule.

“What’s a matter with you? You gone soft in the head?? Never tell anybody outside the family what you’re thinking again”.
– The Godfather

Also, in regards to those who try to p~~~ you off, WHEN THEY DO… just SMILE.
They really HATE that.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Secret Agent MGTOWParticipant 22546]

See my screen name and avatar. 🙂

Women want everything, but want responsibility and accountability for nothing.

[Prefer Peace to PieceParticipant 10809]

Silence is golden.

Learn to listen.
Keep your answers short.

Lady: why do you like Trump?

Man: I don’t know. Is there a coffee place around here? Later.

Lady: all men are jerks.
Men don’t listen. Men don’t give me what I need. Men are bad in bed.

Man: you are probably right. I’m late for an appointment. See you.

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