how to cope with bad mornings ?

[freedomParticipant 5129]

Sometimes I wake up with lack of energy, my mind is racing and processing events from the past and I just sit on the bed furious about all that s~~~ and angry with myself for letting it hurt my present.

I open my eyes and it starts straight away, like waking up to a storm, then I stand up – wash, drink coffee and after an hour or so, I’m fine, but starting some of my days like that is a f~~~ing nightmare.

how do you handle it? do you have a routine to get your s~~~ together in the morning?

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

I don’t know, I’m too busy getting ready for work in the morning.
My problem is with lazy evenings

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[freedomParticipant 5129]

Russky wrote:

I don’t know, I’m too busy getting ready for work in the mornings.
My problem is with lazy evenings

the problem is that sometimes I wake up like an hour earlier, then I have too much time to be angry with s~~~

[Branched offParticipant 11035]

Thoughts feed the mind and to wallow in anger makes you angrier. I think that to get straight up and throw yourself into some activity is good. Even coming on here to rant is better than stewing because if you are just sat in the echo chamber of your mind surrounded by anger you are just going to be in a bad place. I tend to find negative thoughts trap me in the evening when I am trying to sleep which is hard to remove by activity but I think in the morning one may be bale to do something if one wakes earlier -some sexercise or a walk or something.

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[CarnageParticipant 22113]

I don’t have that problem ever, my day just get f~~~ed over becouse of people.

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[Space CowboyParticipant 1466]

Everyone has s~~~ty days and it’s hard to be motivated at times. Try on focus on long term and short term goals or jobs to get done. Try to do a little bit each day towards bigger tasks and get some easy ones out the way as well to feel progress.

Even something like sorting out kitchen cupboards and throwing away expired food or s~~~ you never use anymore can be positive.

I find it hard to cope with the daily grind of waking up early and forcing myself to go to work, just keep in mind why you are doing it. Saving up for a holiday? Overtime to pay a car off early?. Each day is a step towards that goal.

By doing this regularly and making a habit of looking towards future goals and progress, hopefully this will take away your current habit of looking at the past and the pain it brought you.

Fixing things helps to ease the pain to the past. For me getting rid of the bed I used to share with my ex and getting a new one helped me to forget the past.

The rest of your life is in front of you and you need to enjoy it and look forward to it all. The past is gone, learn from it and keep going forward making improvements to your life and make yourself happy. Day by day you’ll see how far you’ve come and how much better everything is, I’m not even talking about a bigger house or newer car. Even just peace and quiet in your own place it more than you had before.

Does this seem helpful to you or do you struggle in other ways?.

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[HitmanParticipant]

perhaps a water proof bumper sticker,
w the face of your ex on it,
inside the toilet bowl.
then you can p~~~ on her when you wake up,
like vets do w jane fonda at the v.a lodges..
.
seriously,
i pray.
not sure what else to do.
start my day earlier,
make coffee and either come here or listen to radio..

[NoMoreParticipant 1233]

An idle mind is left to wander. When I find myself falling prey to this, I start giving myself tasks to complete. Given my current situation of getting my house back, I have plenty of tasks to do.

Make a list of short term and long term things you want to complete. Short term; clean the house, tend the yard, create a monthly budget, repair the deck, build a vegetable garden, etc. Long term; pay off debt, organize a space for relaxing with a TV and bar, visit family and friends, learn a new skill, plan a weekend for your kids, etc.

These don’t have to be difficult tasks, just things that require your mind to focus on them. Break them down into small steps that you can perform each morning when you wake. The steps could be watching a YouTube video on building a vegetable garden, vacuuming the floors, loading the dishwasher or washing machine.

The point is to make a list of things you want to accomplish. Break it down into short manageable pieces you can accomplish in a step wise fashion. Each day you are making progress towards your goal. Each activity occupies your thoughts. Each completed task rewards you. This creates positive feedback making you more likely to continue to perform these iterated tasks.

Soon, your yard is immaculate. The house is pristine. Your car and home are paid off. You are relaxing in a chair eating homemade salsa from your vegetable garden.

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[xanthineParticipant 4903]

Depends on if i work that day or not. When I’m p~~~ed off (which is most days) i have a lot of extra energy. So i don’t try to fight it. Instead i just focus that energy on getting work done. It makes me stronger, faster, and most importantly, it gives me energy all day. When I’m at work, i just let it flow through me. I work faster, more efficiently, and i also don’t take s~~~ from patients or coworkers, which means i don’t waste a lot of time arguing with people who think they can bully me into doing whatever they want me to do.

If i don’t have to work, i use my excess energy to work out, improve on my various skills, work on my projects, and get things done. If I’m feeling depressed, that tends to weigh me down and sap my energy, so i try to focus on whatever is making me feel depressed and get angry about it instead. That may not make me healthy, but it does make me productive. As busy as i am, i can’t afford not to be productive. So keeping busy keeps me in the right frame of mind, and keeps me moving forward doing the things i need to do to be productive and ultimately live the life i want to live.

[Just MikeParticipant 393]

What are you angry about? Is there a reason you’re lacking energy on certain mornings?

Things from the past can be a bitch, no doubt. Went through that myself and MGTOW/red pill helped me process a lot of that anger, understand why things are what/how they are even if they suck. Makes it more bearable, that foundation of knowledge. Like, knowing you haven’t been chosen to be s~~~ upon; that’s just how it (human behaviour) is sometimes and it has been that way since before you or I or anyone else was here. Gives you an up in the game, takes away a lot of second-guessing that just wanders about in the mind without a resolution.

Apart from that, be successful, whatever that means to you. Take time off work if you can. Whittle down the bulls~~~ in your life, mentally and physically; have less useless s~~~ to clutter your mind and space. Organise what’s left over, compartmentalise it into maintenance action/thought and be done with it. Start forming a long-term plan to get out of any sort of situation that has the potential to drag you down or keep you angry. Learn CBT and rewire your brain.

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[Anonymous 42]

Every morning I emulate my dogs, they wake up happy to see me, happy to be alive, and just over all happy, the only thing I’m missing is a tail I can wag right along with them!

They are the choirs to my day!

[Anonymous 12]

freedom wrote:

Russky wrote:

I don’t know, I’m too busy getting ready for work in the mornings.
My problem is with lazy evenings

the problem is that sometimes I wake up like an hour earlier, then I have too much time to be angry with s~~~

when that happens i either turn and desperately try to get another hour of sleep (i stay up past midnight…)
OR – and in summer this feels good –
i take the dog for an early walk into the grass greens and trees, catch some early Sunrise sunshine.

[Anonymous 11]

Wake-n-bake

[BoarParticipant]

By recognizing that pain is inevitable but suffering is optional. Stoicism is how I usually cope with these situations.

Untamed wrote: Quit complaining and Go Your Own Way in whatever manner suits you best.

[Anonymous 42]

Anonymous wrote:

Wake-n-bake

C-Pig for the WIN!

[AutoliteParticipant]

freedom wrote:

Sometimes I wake up with lack of energy, my mind is racing and processing events from the past and I just sit on the bed furious about all that s~~~ and angry with myself for letting it hurt my present.

I open my eyes and it starts straight away, like waking up to a storm, then I stand up – wash, drink coffee and after an hour or so, I’m fine, but starting some of my days like that is a f~~~ing nightmare.

how do you handle it? do you have a routine to get your s~~~ together in the morning?

I don’t have that sort of problem. I’m arthritic so the first 45 minutes of each day I’m occupied by just getting out of bed…

[Ranger OneParticipant 16836]

I don’t have the time for bad mornings.

I look at the to-do list for the week, map out a strategy to try and achieve them. (e.g. if it is raining tomorrow, I will mow today and paint a room inside the house tomorrow)

Setting achievable goals, and then meeting them is a great way to combat being demoralized.

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[ArcturisParticipant 2819]

freedom wrote:

the problem is that sometimes I wake up like an hour earlier, then I have too much time to be angry with s~~~

Use that time to focus on your passions mate.

If I wake up earlier I start working on one of my projects. IM GRATEFUL for the extra time.

Like others have said, find something more important to focus on.

Give more attention to the things you want to achieve in life than on what has happened in the past.

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[Anonymous 12]

if the sleep was good, i just look at myself as a battery – when i open the eyes, the battery is a 100%.
make use of time and battery power before it inevitably drains away.

[The man in the mountainParticipant 4102]

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