How Much is Enough for a Wife

[peterfaParticipant 833]

A year and a half ago, I met this woman who’s friendly, funny, who was smart and we got along. We became friends. I wasn’t attracted to her but friends aren’t for sex so I was cool with it. She’d invite me over to hand out with her and her husband on the weekends and that was great because I was new to the area, and I knew nobody.

The husband is a bright and talented man who does computer engineering. He pulls in a hefty salary I wish I could have. It’s over $130K. Despite being intelligence his wife only pulls down $25K as an Administrative Assistant. Rightfully she wants to work hard and get a degree to earn more but that never worked out.

Now her husband was really nice to me, trusted her with everything. I had access to his child, his house, and his wife. He opened up with everything because of her. He also helped me get a job interview at the company he worked by her advice (it didn’t work out, FYI, but I think they have issues anyways).

She quits her job (which she hated, and I don’t blame her). Her husband is pulling in a fat salary, so she can. She wants to finish up school (and by the looks of things, that never happens either).

Anyways, as time goes on I find out that she shares details with me that she doesn’t share with him. For example, she let’s me know about all of the men who flirt or solicit her but only most of them with him. In the same breath, she speaks out loud telling him that she tells him about all the men who do this, and then next to me she tells me in a hushed voice that there’s a few others and identifies them. I was confused at his because I took her for her word. I tend to be naive.

One day she brings up the idea of cheating over text messaging. He problem is that he doesn’t spend enough time with her. She’s unsatisfied and trapped. She basically indicates that the door is open to me should I wish to have her. Now, that’s just gross because she’s married and she’s not attractive. She indicates that he works so much and when he comes home he doesn’t do any chores. I told her to talk to him about it but she says he doesn’t listen.

The tally is this:

• He pulls $130K at least
• He does all the chores when he comes home
• He works 70 hours or so a week
• He trusts me by her advice with everything that is anything to him
• He treats me nicely as a guest
• He is bright and talented
• He’s a good father (I watched)
• She does nothing all day, no chores (she says it’s because he doesn’t like how she does it, but I suppose learning how is too much too)
• She pulls in either no money or $25K
• She gets hit on (or just think she does) and let’s everybody know
• She’s fat
• She is smart though, I’ll give her that (we should be fair)

Extra Credit: I had to get the Fifty Shades of Grey speech. Despite the fact that I wasn’t comfortable discussing this topic with her (double-extra-credit, in front of her husband) I had to be told that the book helps women explain what they want to their husbands, yadda yadda, but my disinterested in the topic was taken as a sign of disgust or rejection, not of honest morality (boundaries, hello?).

Double Extra Credit: I don’t care how stoned you are (she had to take medicine for some serious medical issues she had), I’m not going to pay attention to you when you squeeze your breasts together to make cleavage (tripple extra credit: in front of your husband) even if it’s a joke because that’s so inappropriate. I’m not rejecting you, that’s just wrong, nor am I going to explain it because that runs up a tally of risk.

But wait, there’s more!

If you tell me to my face that while he can make mistakes against you (IE, go out for beers with work buddy instead of staying that one day home with you) but that you can be passive aggressive, and tell me your underhanded little plan: Quadruple Extra Credit!

Congratulations on your AWALT Award!

I guess pulling in $130K, working 70 hours a week, doing all the chores, trusting 100% of your wife absolutely to her male friend, who tolerates your blatant faux pas (benefit of the doubt) isn’t enough because you failed to bang your fat wife all she wants so that gives her an excuse to sleep around on you, just isn’t enough to be treated fairly and honored as a husband.

I talked to a psychologist about her though, and he says that she can’t have anything good. She’s trying to bring trouble into her life because that’s how she feels about herself. She was a sexual abuse victim, and a victim of a dysfunctional family (but that doesn’t give her the right to screw over her husband like that, she has to work through her problems). She revealed to me some of the nasty crap that happened to her, and they’re not OK. I believe that she’s honest with me because of the way she acts, the projection, transference and other issues.

[Soldier-MedicParticipant 2566]

I have seen this happen before.  She is either seeking the approval of a male to have an affair, or she is trying to lure you in to an affair.

Tread lightly her my friend.

Two options.  Check out of the situation completely or show him the text messages.

 

"I asked you a question. I didn't ask you to repeat what the voices in you head are telling you" ~ Me. ........Yes I'm still angry.

[DakotaParticipant 341]

DANGER Will Robinson DANGER!

I’m pretty sure hubby gives you an all-access pass so that maybe…just maybe, you’ll be stupid enough to bang the fat pig and fall in love, thereby prying her fat ass out of his life.

Had the same thing happen to me once.  Except the simp husband was none the wiser that his sweetie was riding every black c~~~ that sported shiny rims and gold teeth.  The fact that I made myself untouchable drove her crazy (her daughter was a friend of mine).  In the end, she drove me to this backwoods parking area down a gravel road “to talk” and begged for me to f~~~ her.  When she noticed her pleadings weren’t working, she tried to rip my clothes off.  It didn’t work.  She was p~~~ed and I never saw her again.

Your story may come to a head, or head, like it or not.  I’d haul ass.

 

[peterfaParticipant 833]

I did. I stopped talking to her after that. I don’t think he was trying to get rid of his hitch, I think he was trying to be a good man and do the right thing. I think she got the hint that she just lost a friend.

[TRUBLU22Participant 8]

I agree with Dakota, in fact, if you’d like I know a woman who’s husband works a lot . . .

-maybe my humor misses the mark sometimes, but seriously, I do know . . .

[Binary LogicParticipant 2351]

I don’t even know where to start, or how to respond to the blatant stupidity you experienced. How Much is Enough you ask? Try walking a thousand miles bare-footed on burning sand and broken glass. Then sell your Soul to the devil when you get to your destination. If you can do that, you’ve only just begun to meet the needs of that walking atrocity.

Funny, isn't it? How women thrive on a mans time, attention and resources, while simultaneously telling him he isn't enough...

[harpo-my-“SON”Participant 2410]

You give her too much credit for intelligence.. She will eventually ruin her marriage with stupid decisions.  Don’t be a part of her destruction..

I was bound to be misunderstood, and I laugh at those who misunderstand me. Kind mockery at the well intentioned, but unfettered cruelty towards those would be prison guards of my creative possibilities. This so as to learn as much from misunderstanding as from understanding. Taking pleasure in worthy opponents and making language fluid and flowing like a river yet pointed and precise as a dagger. Contradicts the socialistic purpose of language and makes for a wonderful linguistic dance, A verbal martial art with constant parries that hone the weapon that is the two edged sword of my mouth.

[BDParticipant 1146]

Wow, ok, so the husband is a drone mangina who will become Mgtow in the next couple years, I look forward to meeting him! This is a perfect example of how women do not appreciate good men. You could show the husband the text messages but he probably wouldn’t take any action on it, but…  after he told her I guarantee she would try to spite you somehow, like on social media, something….  He would probably still mangina with her and you would lose them both as friends….

Because in order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive.

[experiencedParticipant]

Tell him.   It’s the guy’s life so write it out ahead of time, check it for accuracy and comprehensiveness, worded so as not to be cruel to him.   Read it to him. Do not let him have the paper. Let him know that when the crap hits the fan, you’d be honored to testify in his favor especially regarding he gets the kids, and or help him in any manner possible.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[peterfaParticipant 833]

I decided to just stop talking to them. It’s been over a year now. Neither of them have bothered to pursue me. I think he knows his wife is a loser. She screwed up and she took the opportunity to let me go.

It is too bad that this will go down ugly. It’ll be a few years yet but it’ll go.

This man is definitely a good man. She doesn’t appreciate him. She’s not narcissistic, she’s just neurotic, but she’s still self-absorbed. She doesn’t care about anybody but herself.

[Cap285Participant 6007]

It never ends. She’ll always want more and more.

Don’t get married. If you’re married, get divorced.

Fuck this planet.

[peterfaParticipant 833]

A gun and a shovel? What’s that going to do? This man has high level clearance and works on oil companies and fortune 500 companies. I don’t think the gun and shovel are the greatest of my concerns. It’s the fact that he has so much implicit power and access. I would be begging for death.

I got out of that a while ago. I decided they have serious issues. She is trouble. I don’t see her as a bad person, but a person who’s seriously scarred and screwed up in the head. She’s a nice person and means well, but all those issues plaguing her system makes her trouble.

Would I mess with another man’s property? No. That’s immoral. Besides, I’m not interested in her. She’s unattractive. Even if she were, she’s such a jerk to her husband that I wouldn’t want to have that relationship.

The herpes idea is good advice. I could claim that in times of desperation. Should work.

[Won'tGetFooledAgainParticipant 3293]

So gentlemen, we roll the clock back and look at American history. The 1950s. The lady wanted a suburban life, not have to work, children, a pool, dog, maybe the country club and even a second car. Pure f~~~ing paradise for women. and guess what… THEY WERE NOT HAPPY. Along comes Jewish Marxist feminism and trashes that dream. Today, all women are trying to get back to the happy male slave plantation where they could sit and sip mint julips while their husbands work on their early heart attack, while the wife was making sure his life insurance bill was all paid up.

I totally agree with this, the amount of women who seem to want to get married and have children so they don’t have to go to work anymore is unbelievable.

For women, everything eventually boils down to Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.

[Anonymous 13]

Honor, show him the texts.  If you do not, he will hate everyone, not just the other half of our species, but men as well.  Do the right thing and show him the texts.  Wake him up now, let it all unravel now or it will later and possibly not in a better way, but worse.

[peterfaParticipant 833]

Anonymous wrote:

Honor, show him the texts.  If you do not, he will hate everyone, not just the other half of our species, but men as well.  Do the right thing and show him the texts.  Wake him up now, let it all unravel now or it will later and possibly not in a better way, but worse.

I don’t know. It’s also over a year. Maybe I should have. I don’t know.

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