How Long Did The Good Times Last?

[QuellParticipant 2538]

The vast majority of us here have been in relationships or marriages that have been a disaster. But it wasn’t all bad was it?

I was reading an article today about why so many couples breakup after 1 year. Some study quoted that 70% of relationships end after 1 year.

https://www.bustle.com/articles/178263-why-do-so-many-couples-break-up-after-a-year-or-two-9-experts-weigh-in

I’m just curious how long did the good times last in your most serious relationship/marriage?

For me it was 1.5 years was great but hard and then another 1.5 years of distance, cold and just difficult bulls~~~. I still remember her one night laying in bed asking “Why does this always happen?! Things just become stale after a year and a half.”

[Greg HondaParticipant 6406]

Till the money ran out.

It's Time to get Wise

[Mr. ManParticipant 2916]

Three months.

That’s it. That’s all of the stress-free, happy-kissy-fun-time you get before the inevitable decline starts.

Some declines are long and slow while others fall right off of a cliff.

That’s my experience after having been in six, long-term, committed relationships, lasting from two – ten years.

[Anonymous 43]

I don’t know that there were good times together so much as “I’m not alone and that makes it good times.”

Does that make sense? I was alone and thought I needed a woman and was miserable. With her it was non stop drama, s~~~ tests, cutting comments and backstabbing bulls~~~. But I was not alone, and that made it ok.

getting stabbed through the hand really made me question our relationship, and then I decided I must have really deserved that, given that I had f~~~ed up somehow and made her angry enough to stab me. I must have deserved it. I had it coming. Why else would she do that? I’ll just keep my mouth shut, not argue with anything and well get along fine. From that time on, I agreed with everything, go along to get along. I completely lost my s~~~ at that point. I stopped living that day. I did not speak against her until we went to marriage counseling, I thought it was a safe place to speak. I was so wrong. I was under attack there.

She was angry with me for being so agreeable, and demanded that I push back. but I couldn’t . I had no where to go, no job, no money, I had the kids to take care of. I was the typical battered spouse here. F~~~ed, and had to just take it.

Divorce after a few years of dating and 10 1/2 years of marriage saved my life.

I couldn’t understand what happened. I thought divorces were over infidelity, money, or addiction. I wasn’t cheating on her, we had gobs of money, and I had no addictions. WTF happened? I did everything she wanted. Why did she file for irreconcilable differences if I agreed with everything?

I drove over 200 miles to every toys r us to find some halloween inflatable cat and pumpkin and found it in Wisconsin for f~~~ sake, just because she wanted it. F~~~ I shoulda told her to f~~~ off. She was p~~~ed that I found it brought it home and set it up. You asked for the thing, here it is, why aren’t you happy?

Being away from her, I have found good times. I don’t live in fear of doing some chore wrong, or accused of infidelity everyday. I come home and do what I want, how I want and when I want.

These are the good times now.

[joetechParticipant]

I’d have to say my good times with #1 were too miniscule to count. With #2, maybe 9 out of 13 years. With exGF(not wife) 7 years of happiness, and 6 years of s~~~. So, all in all, about half and half, which is how I like my coffee. Right now I’m in a period of re-adjustment with every day stress free and either boring as hell or lots of fun. At least now it’s all up to me, not some bimbo with “needs”.

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[BeerParticipant 11832]

Mr. Man wrote:

Three months.

That’s it. That’s all of the stress-free, happy-kissy-fun-time you get before the inevitable decline starts.

Some declines are long and slow while others fall right off of a cliff.

Haha I agree. Its always nice when your getting pussy and they’re going out of their way to put the show on while they are getting to know you. Once you start to see the real them though…its pretty much over at that point.

[GeraldParticipant 3642]

1st relationship – 1 year. 2nd relationship -2 years . Current marriage – 6 months.

No longer can we walk away, we must run. Remove the motive power.

[EyeswideopenParticipant 2930]

Mr. Man wrote:

Three months.

That’s it. That’s all of the stress-free, happy-kissy-fun-time you get before the inevitable decline starts.

Some declines are long and slow while others fall right off of a cliff.

That’s my experience after having been in six, long-term, committed relationships, lasting from two – ten years.

Yup, have to agree. I got a factor of X 4 out of it because I worked long shift hours and our time together was sporadic and kept it fresh with the ex wife.

(Divide by 4 due to shift work for the following chronology)

0-12mo – Best behaviour. Could not get enough of me.

12-24mo – Minor s~~~ testing/hoop jumping.

24-36mo – Return of good behaviour. Want to get married.

36-48mo – Starts detaching. Hot/cold. Needs to get married as she has too much invested at this point.

48mo-72mo – Married. In the devaluation/discard phase.

72+mo – Runs off with Chad/monkey branch.

The End.

Oil change girlfriends. Keep it to 6mo Max.

- Marriage is described as an institution. You would have to be crazy to be commited to it. -"If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal. Not people or things" Albert Einstein

[Anonymous 5]

For me I was married for two years to her the good times lasted 4 months in I don’t know why I stuck around maybe thinking it will get better. It didn’t she’s the one who had me committed to a mental facility. she and her mother were demons to me .I guess it was the illusion of love I divorced in 2008 I have been c~~~ free for 9 years . It feels good not to be nagged and belittled and have her coming home at five in the morning wondering where had she been not calling just took off I do not want that again it was literally like hell on earth .

[bladeParticipant]

It was just all an illusion , all a lie from the beggining . So in reality it was a lie to myself as well . Woman are full of s~~~ . Awalt

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[RoyDalParticipant]

There were good times, and that’s how my girlfriends got me hooked. Really, it was my own hormones that got me hooked.

The good times were not worth the trouble and expense before, during, and afterwards. Too much cost, not enough benefit.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Back in BlackParticipant 1732]

After a kid comes…it all ends… you are now a utility.

Once the kids came – it was O.V.E.R.

"Women are directly adapted to act as the nurses and educators of our early childhood, for the simple reason that they themselves are childish, foolish, and short-sighted—in a word, are big children all their lives, something intermediate between the child and the man, who is a man in the strict sense of the word. Consider how a young girl will toy day after day with a child, dance with it and sing to it; and then consider what a man, with the very best intentions in the world, could do in her place.” Quote from Arthur Shopenhauer, 17th century philosopher

[Prefer Peace to PieceParticipant 10809]

The good times ended the day I got married. After that, it was one long bitch fest. She wanted the big house, expensive cars, and exotic vacations. She was never happy. Sex became infrequent and always had strings attached.

The day my divorce was finalized was one of the best days of my life. I regained my freedom.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Quell wrote:

The vast majority of us here have been in relationships or marriages that have been a disaster. But it wasn’t all bad was it?

I have not been married (or divorced) nor had any REAL “disasters”. I think it’s because have a very/unusual low tolerance for controlling women, and especially nagging. I can’t take it. Never could. As early as 24, I decided “NO more bitches”, so it never got “bad” because I wouldn’t allow it.

Not including short flings, affairs or one-night stands, there were two exceptional women out of 7 lasting 2 – 3.5 years. I do not reflect fondly on the other 5.

Quell wrote:

I was reading an article today about why so many couples breakup after 1 year. Some study quoted that 70% of relationships end after 1 year.

Most women can’t keep up the good girl / mask / charade for much longer than a year at most.

Quell wrote:

I’m just curious how long did the good times last in your most serious relationship/marriage?

The “good times” lasted as long as it took to decide to get into a “relationship” with her. Sometimes this was months.

Quell wrote:

For me it was 1.5 years was great but hard and then another 1.5 years of distance, cold and just difficult bulls~~~. I still remember her one night laying in bed asking “Why does this always happen?! Things just become stale after a year and a half.”

The last MAJOR one was 3 years, and for the longest time, I thought “is it ME?”, so I consciously approached it with a “for better or worse” attitude and put with s~~~ I never did previously – just to give it my VERY best shot. Big mistake. Gave her an inch, and she wanted a mile. Was going to break it off about a year into it to encourage her to move out and stand on her own. She cried. I caved, and never mentioned it again. Almost 2 years later, she blamed me for “not letting her be her own person”.

It made me so angry to be blamed for her own goddam issues, if I could have gone back to that day when I suggested she “be her own person”, I would have pushed her (and her things) into the street and bolted the door behind her.

“For better or worse”? Forget “worse”.
For better or GET OUT.

The “disaster” was dealing with a false accusation from an insane c~~~ who was never even a “girlfriend” and I never even slept with. Go figure.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[ConstantineParticipant 4420]

Anonymous wrote:

I don’t know that there were good times together so much as “I’m not alone and that makes it good times.”

Yup, that’s about the only thing that’s powered the majority of my relationships.

I can only recall one situation where I was seeing a girl who I was crazy about. That was when I was 15. And how long did the good times last – oh, about six months. Then she lost interest, started liking another guy and just drifted away.

I didn’t even realise that we’d broken up until one of her friends told me. That’s how I knew it was over – I was told. She went ’round telling everybody that we’d parted before she’d even told me. One day her mate said, “So how’ve you been holding up since Brenda dumped you?” I said, “She didn’t dump me, what are you talking about?” “That’s not what she said. Apparently she broke up with you last weekend.”

Gee. You’d think that I might need to know.

To see what is in front of one's nose requires a constant struggle. -Orwell

[Buller100Participant 2189]

3 months , after marriage they are happy they have their lottery win in any case, oil change dating all day long.

For some poor guys they can’t do this they chase unicorns and marry 4 times in some cases, in the end when they have no money they have no women .. wha they are so scared of happening being ‘ alone ‘ they are ensuring that happens.

Unlearn the programming..

[Mr. ManParticipant 2916]

Dude, I bow my head in recognition of the conditions you lived under. Ain’t right, I tell you. But we’re told that it is. Thanks to the men of MGTOW, we now know the truth.

[Mr. ManParticipant 2916]

Oil change dating.

You get four nice months, then move on.

Bingo! This here is the crux of dating/relationships. It’s really this simple.

Thanks for yet another truth bomb, Stealthy.

Source: Am old guy with s~~~ tons of female experience.

[KadafiParticipant 67]

For me, the two year mark any fun from the relationship has been drained and the novelty of only having sex with this one women has wore off.

At the weekend I was at a family party. I have 4 cousins and we are all in our 30s. 3 of them have pretty good incomes, own there homes, married and some with children. The one remaining cousin, has always earned a lot less money, doesn’t own a house or any real assets. Women always just put him in the friend zone and never take him very seriously in relationship terms , they are all too busy trying to hit the jackpot .

[Anonymous 0]

1st marriage was all just mediocre times, divorced at 4 years. 2nd marriage was pretty good until she learned to speak English and finally got assimilated into American society. I discovered that they can’t bitch, nag, or argue if they can’t speak the f~~~ing language.

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