How I turned down going to a wedding for work

[IRuleMeParticipant]

Some friends of mine had gotten engaged like a year and a half ago. Well, someone that I used to hang out with but still talk to messaged me the other day asking if I was going to the wedding. Now, since I’d gotten off of social media last year, I’d totally forgotten about the wedding (since I only really see them when I go to their band gigs).

My stance on marriage is well documented on this site. I’ve given my opinions on it countless times, I’ve broken down the cost of marriage both from the groom/bride perspective, and the cost as the guest attending. Being someone who is going my own way, I don’t support the idea of marriage. For obvious reasons. So I was happy to spend MY valuable time making money working yesterday, than investing money in a 6% chance that their marriage will last 20 years. No thanks.

I’m sure I was missed. But they’ll get over it.

[UntamedParticipant]

I’d rather go to a funeral.
There’s more permanency in death than in modern marriages. I don’t see the joy in seeing another man being deprived of his sovereignty, freedom, financial liberties and sexual life as a precursor to being despoiled of everything he works for.

IRuleMe wrote:

So I was happy to spend MY valuable time making money working yesterday,

Good for you. That’s exactly what I would’ve done.

Don't let them Blame, Shame or Tame you!
Give 'em NOTHING, not even an answer!
#GenderSegragationNow!

[BoarParticipant]

Well, they had better get used to not seeing you. Cupcake is going to cut their friends off at the source within a matter of months. They may contact you later, but they will most likely be a shell of their former selves. Sorry for your loss and theirs….

Untamed wrote: Quit complaining and Go Your Own Way in whatever manner suits you best.

[Anonymous 42]

Weddings? No, I’m not a hypocrite! I just can’t do them anymore! I just CAN’T!

You’ll have more luck getting me into a shirt printed “this is what a feminist looks like”!

[It’sallbsParticipant]

Untamed wrote:

I’d rather go to a funeral.

I’d rather lick my own winnets.

http://www.leavemeansleave.eu

[GregB0Participant]

IRuleMe wrote:

I only really see them when I go to their band gigs).

Understandable that you did not have the social media reminder about the wedding but you know that you’ll catch hell if you attend another on of their gigs. It is now two against one, the Borg collective has spoken.

​"​My father didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.​" - Clarence Buddinton Kelland

[MarketWatcherParticipant]

Their wedding is not putting food on your table. Also, you will rarely see them again as they build their nest only to see her take all the eggs in a few years.

You missed nothing.

[IRuleMeParticipant]

Ironically I have a cousin with a wedding coming up and my wedding invitation is supposedly in the mail.

#NoThanks

[RemovedParticipant 4676]

Smart move, IRM. I used to go to those events, even a best men twice that I remember, but I now refuse to go to something that I know is the imprisonment of another man. You might as well attend a guillotine event or a hanging.

[Ranger OneParticipant 16836]

Late last year, some young relative of my gf was getting married and I wasted no time mentioned how I thought it was a silly idea. (both them getting married, and me going to it)

So I dodged that bullet.

All my life I've had doubts about who I am, where I belonged. Now I'm like the arrow that springs from the bow. No hesitation, no doubts. The path is clear. And what are you? Alive. Everything else is negotiable. Women have rights; men have responsibilities; MGTOW have freedom. Marriage is for chumps. If someone stands in the way of true justice, you simply walk up behind them and stab them in the heart-R'as al Ghul.

[Anonymous 18]

But free food.

And compare and contrast.

5 years from the day of his wedding.

Perhaps I am a sick f~~~. But if I want to be reminded of what not to do I go to a wedding.

[Anonymous 0]

You did the right thing irm, as sad before in the long run she will cuts you and his other friends out of his life anyway.
So why waste time and money to celebrate his incarceration.

[ScarberianMPTGLParticipant 3286]

GregB0 wrote:

Understandable that you did not have the social media reminder about the wedding but you know that you’ll catch hell if you attend another on of their gigs. It is now two against one, the Borg collective has spoken.

Well, all he’s gotta do is tell them that he couldn’t get the day off or something.

I, Lelouch Vi Britannia, command you, all of you, to Go Your Own Way!!

[IRuleMeParticipant]

ScarberianMPTGL wrote:

GregB0 wrote:

Understandable that you did not have the social media reminder about the wedding but you know that you’ll catch hell if you attend another on of their gigs. It is now two against one, the Borg collective has spoken.

Well, all he’s gotta do is tell them that he couldn’t get the day off or something.

Lying is a spineless game. I got no qualm telling them “I don’t do weddings”. If you’re gonna do something, stand behind it.

[HermitParticipant 1121]

I can’t stand crowds of people. I wouldn’t be able to get out of there fast enough. No way I’d go.

I don't hate women. I just feel better when they're not around.

[LionOnTheLooseParticipant 1315]

I think this is a smart move.

I had this debate with myself last year when I was invited to a wedding. I’d initially accepted the invitation on the basis that (a) the woman was someone I’d known for years and is in the same business as me, (b) it was probably going to be a good chance to meet other people in my business, and (c) it was taking place in a beautiful European city, and promised to be pretty fancy, so I thought it’d be fun.

But I found myself feeling more and more uncomfortable about the prospect of going. I have a basic objection to marriage, and going to a wedding is showing your support for the institution. The reasons above are all pretty shallow reasons to go. Then again, if it were someone in my family getting married, or a really close friend, I would still go for the same reason that I still try to get along with certain people who don’t share my beliefs.

So I wrote to her, sending my apologies. I’ve never heard from her since.

Needless to say, the wedding was documented ad nauseam on her social media (isn’t it how the photos tend to be of her, rather than her and her husband?).

Another one to file under “poor bastard” and move on. Meanwhile, life as a ghost looks increasingly appealing.

There aren't holes in your pockets. It's called marriage.

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