How does she introduce you to others? If at all.

[SpleeferParticipant 960]

Just about every gut instinct I had when I was involved in a relations~~~ was correct.
Where was she for that afternoon in the city?
I thought we had more money than that in the savings?
I smell cigarettes, is she smoking?
Right, right, and even worse than cigs.

I’ve been reviewing the fact that they tell you exactly who they are if we listen. Here is one of those indicators.

How does she introduce you to others? If at all.

One of those things I always thought was off; was the way my ex-wife introduced me to other people. It always bothered me that she wouldn’t even introduce me properly, if at all. I would just stand there like a dumb ass. Common manners right, I figured she just didn’t know manners.

Wrong! She didn’t introduce me because she had no respect for me or our relationship. I was a simp wallet and sperm donor, why would a proper introduction be needed? I saw the same pattern as I dated other women. One chick introduced me to a guy friend and was gushing all over him. Tattooed bad boy with problemas. I knew right away who she respected. Luckily I was smarter then and lost her number immediately.

You might still be thinking not my cupcake. But reality is they tell you exactly where you stand. One indicator is the introduction or lack there of to people who come up to you in public.

If you get introduced as the drill Sargent probably not a good sign. Sugar daddy, probably not a joke, father of my kids maybe? Never, the love of my life? Peanut butter to my jelly? If it’s another guy they are introducing to you, does it change? To a poor / ugly guy, “this is my loving husband spleefer”. To a handsome rich dude “crickets”.

How are you getting introduced?

Spleefer

Galatians 5:1 (KJV) Stand fast therefore in the liberty wherewith Christ hath made us free, and be not entangled again with the yoke of bondage.

[AwakenedParticipant 35202]

Just ANOTHER thing that is only of concern if you’re interested in a Relationship.

No concerns here……

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

Why are you even asking that here?

There is a lot of monks and pump and dumps here, none of those require “introduction to friends and family”

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[MonkParticipant 16996]

Spleefer wrote:

I’ve been reviewing the fact that they tell you exactly who they are if we listen.

True.

When the enemy speaks … LISTEN.

[The man in the mountainParticipant 4102]

If you know a woman is a scumbag and you pick her up and make her your gf then you are not that much better either, i am happy to see more dudes are walking away when they pay more attention to what the c~~~ lets out about herself and NOT her t~~~.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Good topic!

Spleefer wrote:

Just about every gut instinct I had when I was involved in a relations~~~ was correct.

Same.

There were even 2 (or 3) very NAWALTS who I later regretted breaking up with….. but there is a reason I did. There was an underlying / unspoken “tension” there – like I could feel they were up to something. Like planning an “oops” pregnancy. Just instinct. But I listened to it. The more I reflect, the more know my gut was right.

Men KNOW it. We know there is something wrong with caving to her every demand to watch a chick flick instead….. or go to the restaurant SHE wants instead ….. or instead of going to brunch and wasting $45 on eggs, you just wanna stay home scratch your b~~~~ and watch the game with a bucket of KFC. But you do it to “make her happy”. While you’re gut is telling you “What the hell is the matter with you? Tell this bitch NO, goddammit”.

Listen to your manstincts. They are never wrong.

I have seen a man win $20K in a poker hand by using his manstincts.
I have seen a man punch a hole in dry wall and not hit a single stud – using his manstincts.
I have seen a dog find his way home 50 miles.

Can you guess what sex that dog was?
That’s right. He had a f~~~ing dick.

Spleefer wrote:

How are you getting introduced?

My ears always listened for this too.

But I think it’s also important to note that as soon as you have sex with her, your name goes right out the window. Chick after chick would stop calling me by name – even to my face. It was ALWAYS “babe”. Or “Hey”. Never my name. I didn’t take offense to it , and it didn’t really bother me. But I thought it was so odd, and arrived at the same manclusion.

My manstincts would kick in when she/they would introduce me as “her boyfriend”. Like an accessory – or a purse. In German, a woman says “my man”. But “boyfriend” is silly after the 11th grade.

One said to her girlfriends “this is my BOYF”.
Not even the full word! . . . . just “BOYF”.

( WTF? l o l )

I eventually concluded, if she doesn’t say “this is my man” or “this is John”…. dump her. After about 26, I had enough of it. I would tell them to stop saying “boyfriend” to other people.

I saw your topic and it just made me smile.
It’s really something to listen for.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[SpleeferParticipant 960]

Carnage wrote:

Why are you even asking that here?
There is a lot of monks and pump and dumps here, none of those require “introduction to friends and family”

Obviously it’s not directed to monks or pua gents. There are a lot of men here and lurkers who have long term girlfriends or even wives. It’s a thought provoking question for them base on my past experience.

Galatians 5:1 (KJV) Stand fast therefore in the liberty wherewith Christ hath made us free, and be not entangled again with the yoke of bondage.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Spleefer wrote:

It’s a thought provoking question for them base on my past experience.

It is!!

The second last line I wrote (above), I actually typed the words “thought provoking” and then adjusted it. But it really was thought-provoking. Thank you.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 1]

And for those of us who endured the marriage trials and tribulations for some number of years:

How many times, in your presence, did the wife say “…at my wedding…” or “…for my anniversary…” or “…my anniversary is..” or “…this is my daughter…” or “…my son starts school…” or “…my house is 2-story…” or “…I don’t want those in my house…”

et cetera…ad nauseam

In hindsight, I guess she was just telling the truth, as she and the courts define it.

[Anonymous 1]

How about, “I’d like you to meet my current ATM, Bob” ???

[JVBParticipant]

She would use the word “it” a lot. Made me suspicious lol.

Peace is > piece.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Anonymous wrote:

And for those of us who endured the marriage trials and tribulations for some number of years:
How many times, in your presence, did the wife say “…at my wedding…” or “…for my anniversary…” or “…my anniversary is..” or “…this is my daughter…” or “…my son starts school…” or “…my house is 2-story…” or “…I don’t want those in my house…”et cetera…ad nauseam

Check this s~~~ out. Remember Cassey Jaye? The producer of the “Red Pill” movie?
She’s AWALT too.

• “I’m engaged”.
• “I’m getting married”.

That’s some terrifying s~~~, hombres.

I'm engaged!!!

— Cassie Jaye (@Cassie_Jaye) May 30, 2017

I can't believe I'm getting married on Saturday! Any wedding/marriage advice? I'd love to hear it…
(photography by Taralynn Lawton) pic.twitter.com/n3t43hEAAh

— Cassie Jaye (@Cassie_Jaye) June 20, 2018

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[MoreSkyParticipant 4865]

Spleefer wrote:

How are you getting introduced?

Interesting topic. Got me thinking.

How the ex-wife introduced me changed during our marriage.

In the first couple of years, when I had a senior management position and was nearly always suited and booted and looking obviously wealthy including a flash car, I was introduced as “her husband”. Basically, she was saying “Mine, mine, mine” to the flock of harpies.

After a couple of years, I changed to being a consultant and, whilst I was earning even more, I generally dressed casually, stopped drinking and changed my car for something more practical, I was introduced as (daughter’s name)’s Dad.

For the last few years of marriage, I was never introduced as she always insisted on going out on her own (girl’s night out etc.). You can guess how that ended up…

"...reinvent your life because you must; it is your life and its history and the present belong only to you.” It is Your Life, Charles Bukowski.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

MoreSky wrote:

as she always insisted on going out on her own (girl’s night out etc.)

And your instincts are telling you that your phone is gonna ring at 3AM when she calls you to come pick her up at the club, because she’s puking and needs you to drive all of her drunk friends home too. After she just finished blowing Guido the killer pimp in the toilet.

I didn’t know for sure, but I told one if she goes out for “girls night out”, the locks will be changed when she comes back. Don’t get to live at my place rent free with no job while doing that. Was right on the money.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[MoreSkyParticipant 4865]

Keymaster wrote:

And your instincts are telling you that your phone is gonna ring at 3AM when she calls you to come pick her up at the club,

She always said she was going out in her home town (about 30 miles away) with friends she had known since high school and allegedly stayed at her parents’ house.
At least that is what she said.
With hindsight, she was undoubtedly banging her way through ex-boyfriends.

"...reinvent your life because you must; it is your life and its history and the present belong only to you.” It is Your Life, Charles Bukowski.

[HermitParticipant]

I don’t recollect how she introduced me, but I sure remember how she spoke to me. She never, not in the entire two decades of marriage, ever called me by my name. It was always, “hey”. When she wanted something, she said, “hey”, every f~~~ing time. That’s how important I was to her. I was just basically a “hey you guy”. One time she did call me an asshole.

The evil in women’s hearts leaves them no moral bounds as to inhibit them from descending to the lowest levels of darkness to acquire their self entitled desires.

[Anonymous 0]

My ex wench only used my name when she was angry or during the divorce. My last GF called me by my name constantly, I think so she wouldn’t forget who she was with that day.

If I ever have another wench, she will call me “Sir” or “Master” depending on how I feel that day and if she’s wearing a collar and crotchless panties.

[Branched offParticipant 10941]

Yes, this is very telling. I will never forgot how my first wife introduced me (her then fiance) to a guy she had fancied at school. I do not remember what she actually said, I only remember the tone was dismissive and one in which she was displaying her power as having got me even though she did not respect me. I was too inexperienced in life then to dump her on the spot. (I had to later pay £100K plus costs to dump her) But I remember we argued. I said in front of the guy “don’t talk about me like that!” And afterwards she froze me out and called me a sexist for having told her how she should behave. Poor little blue pill boy that I was I sat glumly and thought “Oh women are too touchy today” not “Bin this parasite now”

Particularly take note of how you are referred to when she is talking to the hive and she doesn’t know you are in the next room. If she is genuinely proud of you then you are lucky and you are as safe as you can be (which is not entirely safe). If she is calling you anything remotely derogatory, unless that is the pet name you have in your relationship, then she will have plan B ready in her mind and probably plan C too, even if she is not trying to put them into action now.

A woman is like fire -fun to play with, can warm you through and cook your food, needs constant feeding, can burn you and consume all you own

[Sky-OParticipant 18936]

Introduced?

Towards the end of my blue pill era, I would have to have at least existed first in order to be introduced. LOL

I was kept hidden & tucked away by women (in my own house) until the call or text came in and it was time to f~~~.

In a way, I had a hard time being mad about it.

One of them was engaged to a guy.

Two had long term boyfriends

One was married and another one was in active beta-wallet hunt mode so she had to appear single.

I was Secret C~~~

Of course, promises we’re always made, like ‘It won’t always be like this’ and ‘We can be together. . .soon’ LOL

Not that I cared. I was already emotionally and psychologically numb to it all. And I was getting their sexual best: Stuff I previously thought only happened in porn scenes.

But. . .When you are Secret C~~~, it allows Pumpkin to unleash her full and unrestrained sexual potential. After all, nobody is going to find out. Secret C~~~ doesn’t even exist. Well. . . A few of her girlfriends would find out all of the hardcore details of her sex life with Secret C~~~. Those we’re the girlfriends that she knew we’re also sluts and she got off on telling them things about her sex life with Secret C~~~.

But Secret C~~~ was never introduced. He was never brought anywhere. Unless it was a week long vacation 1,000+ miles away from the charade of a life that Pumpkin was living back in the perimeter.

But just like all guys, Secret C~~~ was expendable and could easily be devalued and discarded if / when Pumpkin decided he didn’t serve a purpose anymore or if he wanted or needed more from the ‘relationship’

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