How Do You Influence Your Daughter or Little Sister?

[SubtilitasParticipant 101]

Dear community,

I am the brother of a little sister whose life I have been able to follow from the very beginning. She is 11 years old now, very intelligent and one can clearly see that she is beginning now to slowly become a very beautiful and attractive young woman. We are a big family, so I’m not her only brother and she also has got a sister. Having been surrounded by adults all her life, except for her friends from school of course, she’s mentally already much more mature than many others her age. Although she is mum’s and dad’s “little girl” I couldn’t say that we would have spoilt her at all. Her (my) parents are not the perfect rolemodels at all, but they try to raise her the best they can and leave her open all possibilities in a Western European cultural setting. Nevertheless, she’s a typical girl who likes all the typical girl stuff. Not as much as her friends though, who even have started “impressing boys” already. She basically enjoys having adult brothers and a sister, who would gladly buy her stuff she needs or wishes to have, but of course, we would show her her place if need be and keep an eye on not giving her anything she wants right away. So, roughly, this is the background.

Now to the guys on here who are in a similar situation (who have a little sister or a daughter):

How can I help her gain a healthy mindset towards men as she’s becoming a young woman now?

Or more basically:

How exactly can I influence her in that she doesn’t become one of the women we have turned away from?

Certainly, a woman is a woman with all the negative traits of her nature, and my sister will inevitably share some of them. But I do think that as a father or brother you have some power over it, ideally.

I am looking forward to your stories and advice.

Thank you

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

I treated my daughter in the same way as I would a son.

She can ride dirt bikes. Skydives and can fly light aircraft.

She has fallen off things, cried from pain, wet herself in fear.

She knows how to cook, clean and yes … if needs be … defend herself.

She has treated everyone of her boyfriends with the respect they deserve.

She knows what it’s like to be brought up in a male world. She knows how hard it can be. She bares the scars.

Walk a mile in a mans shoes and you get an idea of the heart, soul, pain and joy that brings.

Treat her no different than a male.

[Faust For ScienceParticipant 22568]

ILiveAgain wrote:

I treated my daughter in the same way as I would a son.

She can ride dirt bikes. Skydives and can fly light aircraft.

She has fallen off things, cried from pain, wet herself in fear.

She knows how to cook, clean and yes … if needs be … defend herself.

She has treated everyone of her boyfriends with the respect they deserve.

She knows what it’s like to be brought up in a male world. She knows how hard it can be. She bares the scars.

Walk a mile in a mans shoes and you get an idea of the heart, soul, pain and joy that brings.

Treat her no different than a male.

I am not sure that is going to work. But, that is a good approach to take. And at the very least, thanks to your approach in raising her, your daughter is not going to be a SJW snowflake.

[narwhalParticipant]

I have a 10 year old daughter and 12 year old son. I understand what ILA is trying to say about treating your daughter and son the same, but my kids are very different from each other. My son is very much self motivated. He absolutely needs guidance, but he definitely wants to succeed on his on and is aware that not everything presented to him is as it seems.

My daughter isn’t so motivated. The only activity she wanted to do was dance, so that’s what she does. She also likes to sing, but does not want any formal training in it, despite my encouragement. While my son wants to take care of myself, my daughter loves being taken care of. It’s difficult to push her to act more like a man when it looks like doing so will make her miserable.

However, we do talk about what we see in the media, like ghostbusters and that Meghan trainer so ‘No’. We talk about what real equality is. We talk about never expecting someone else to provide for the things you want it life.

You can talk to your kids and give them experiences and examples to follow, but ultimately, they need to make choices for themselves. I can’t guarantee a happy future for either of my kids, no matter how much I wish I could.

Ok. Then do it.

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

You must at least show her the good side of a mans world but also how men suffer.

She will never be told/shown this …. unless she’s told/shown it.

This is what the system counts on … SILENCE.

When something comes up …. point out the other side.

It’s hard … fkg hard … but opportunities will come along.

[Anonymous 3]

Men are objective beings, takers, who are intrigued by the world and his surroundings, and most importantly, are naturally inclined to acquire what they desire by themselves. Women on other hand are receptors. They do not receive the same sense of accomplishment, the feeling of joy that you get upon completing a challenging task, same reason why single working men are happy while single women are depressed and miserable. Personal sovereignty, altruistic goals, being able to take care of oneself, true independence, knowledge and objective truth, all mean absolutely nothing to women. They are suppose to acquire what they desire by ensnaring the men who do possess such things. To encourage a woman to venture out, and “be a man” and “work like a man” is fruitless, essentially the other side of the same coin of women trying to make you a woman.

You can’t teach a predator to be a prey or the other way around. Whatever your perspective is, be it you look at us men as the hunters, or the hunted, men and women are two opposing energies: Yin and Yang. So let’s say for the sake of discussion, women are the hunters. Do you raise your sister as you would a prey? Or do you equip her with the necessary tools so she succeeds at what she was naturally designed to accomplish? For one, do you think you or any other man here can ever do what they do with sugar daddies and dates, just hang around and get paid? Women can do that in their sleep, it’s that easy for them, and a testament to how different and distant we are.

I’m not saying one should go as far as trying to make her a feminist. But to be woman, is to be gynocentric and derive benefit off of that. Women are vastly weaker both physically and mentally, and will never see eye to eye with men. You might want her to have a super red pill MGTOW type guy who is well respected here in this circle, but what good does such a guy do if all he cares about is himself and doesn’t even take care of her? You might want her to have a super blue pill provider good hearted guy, but she’ll fall out of love quicker than the speed of light.

Something to think about. Not much outside of that from me. Wish I could give you a more definitive answer.

[AttonParticipant]

How exactly can I influence her in that she doesn’t become one of the women we have turned away from?

I turned away from women as a whole, there is just no benefit greater than the cost when it comes to them. But frankly the best you can do is give her pointers, make her consider how her actions affect others. Make her question if she would have others do onto her as she does onto them. Make her see that the world is bigger than her and that it is bigger than privileged white women like herself.

But I do think that as a father or brother you have some power over it, ideally

Only if you play your cards like a genius can you hope for any power over anything.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[TaxGuyParticipant]

I don’t have sons, just two daughters, so I can’t tell you how it’s different. But here are a few lessons that I try make sure my daughters learn.

1. Cause and effect: When they were about 7 and 5, trying to get them to go take a bath one night. I tried about 5 or 6 different ways to get them upstairs, all to no avail. Finally I yelled at them. They asked me why I yell at them. My response: “You picked it. I tried every other tone of voice and you ignored it. But when I yelled you responded. If you don’t like getting yelled at then respond the first time.” The look on their face as they processed that little piece of info was priceless.

2. Getting good at something is hard work: One plays soccer, the other does dance. I remind them often of how much work they had to put into it to get as good as they are. If you want to be better, then work harder.

3. Energy: Your sister ever watch Monsters Inc.? The monsters get their electricity by scaring the s~~~ out of the little kids, and then realize that if they make them laugh there is more energy. Positive energy is better than negative energy. I preach looking at relationships that way. Are both people giving a relationship energy, or is one giving and one taking? They get it. Now, what hasn’t happened yet is me pointing out to them that they were the taker, but I haven’t seen it yet. But when I see it, they will hear about it.

It’s an uphill battle, and there are a lot of men here that will tell you it can’t be done. It’s their opinion, and they are entitled to it. I personally hope they are wrong. That said, I’ll always bang my head against that wall trying to make my daughters the best people they can be.

Order the good wine

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

Teach them to respect themselves and others.

Teach them hard work is its own reward.

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

[Anonymous 0]

There is some great advice here. I’d like to share something. I have two young daughters and I’m in the predicament of guiding them. Thankfully they are still very young and so i have some time to come to terms with my new outlook before I need to worry about them so much. However its never too early to start.
Being a teacher I always encourage questioning. Whenever one of my daughters asks me what I know to be a great question, I praise her. I can see the joy in her eyes whenever I say ‘great question’. She tries harder to ask other great questions. I know she listens intently as the question prove this.
Anyway, she was often going on about my ex’s new boyfriend saying ‘he fixes stuff’…’he’s a great fixer’.
I, at first, didn’t bother saying anything and then I responded one day…’what does he fix?’….silence….
‘give me an example of one thing that he fixes?’
She could not answer because she was just parroting dribble from her mothers mouth. He in my view is a pathetic dole-bludging loser but I would never say that to her.
I explained to her that one should always have examples of things to back up what they say. She stopped saying this.
Then the other day I made a sweeping statement to my daughter. “Give me an example!” my five year old daughter said back to me. I almost fell off the sofa as she was clearly interested in making sure she didn’t just accept this sweeping statement as truth without examples to back it up. I will be nurturing this aspect more. Be critical of everything and always ask for evidence.
The next time she asks me such a question, she’s getting a lolly.
Also her mother is a bit sick and honestly believes she has the same medical knowledge as a medical doctor. Anyway I often have to ‘put things straight’. My default position here is that scientists know just about everything and if they don’t , they are working on it. Therefore any s~~~e that comes I just say for example ‘the scientists have not found any evidence of ghosts, magic, fortune-tellers, or any other s~~~e their nutcase mother tries to get them to believe. I often say ‘lets ask the scientists on the internet’. (I know the internet is for of quacks too) Its just that the kids think their mother is f~~~ing god but she’s actually a C~~~!

[Crazy CanuckMember 4215]

I think the best way is to teach her not to have sex until marriage. Remember the women try to use sex as a way to lure a man into marriage without good intentions.

Here is a video showing the dangers of sex out side of marriage. It is pretty frightening. Women have no idea how casual sex harms them and even their children if they end up having children. Teaching to be honest, having integrity and teaching her to stay away watching movies and modern music which can influence her.

"If pussy was a stock it would be plummeting right now because you've flooded the market with it. You're giving it away too easy." - Dave Chapelle

[TorchemParticipant 453]

I’ve a daughter. She’s pretty level headed. She’s seen the worst of female emotions, vindictiveness and the money grab from my divorce. I was lucky enough to fight and keep my son and daughter from mother in their teens. I done my best to show her and my son the good and bad from both sexes. They both know and understand from life experience from a messy divorce can do to both sides.

BUT!!! My son married an control freak like his mother. He was c~~~ struck, as she was his first root, fell in “love” and got married. I feed him red pills gently, point out how/what is going on and he’s slowly awakening to what’s happening and thought he was going to boot her last year. But now with a bub, I feel he’ll never leave as it’s the “right thing” to do to is stay. His mates are also telling him to f~~~ her off but it’ll take something extreme or a long time before he boots it out. She’s a typical c~~~ now married, cut off hair, not interested in loosing baby fat so really fat, chunky to what she was and now staying home to look after baby and said she doesn’t want to go back to work. I’m sure she got pregnant to keep him under control as a couple of months before he fired up and told her to get her s~~~ together or out.

Now my daughter. Is is no such thing as a NAWALT. It’s hard wired into them. She met her boyfriend 4-5 years ago, they both said no marriage, no kids until they have done what they wanted i.e. travel, better jobs etc. I thought YAY, got one to break the mold, but NO. Silly idiot boyfriend proposed to her last valentines day and she said yes (being an emotional female). No we have a princess wedding this November. I was really split to what I was to do. Support them, help pay for wedding etc or just tell them to f~~~ off their idiots. I’ve sort of met myself in the middle. I sat them down and had a big talk about how I feel, how her boyfriend will be screwed over down the track if/when they divorce etc. She fully understands on how I feel, they are getting a prenup fair to both of them and I’m contributing towards the princess day. But she’s a typical girl with this wedding day prep s~~~.

TLDR; Men think with their dick until mid 30’s and do stupid things.
Women are hard wired to be exactly what they are. They will not change. Just various degrees of not throwing stones at some of them to wanting to pile them up at the rubbish tip.

[Anonymous 42]

Subtilitas wrote:

How exactly can I influence her in that she doesn’t become one of the women we have turned away from?

1. Get in your time machine (borrow one if need be) and start the family car on fire the night of your sister’s conception!

2. Kill everyone else except her.

3. Move her to Mars.

4. Leave and don’t look back…

On a serious note, WARN HER ABOUT LIBERALS AND DEVELOPING A REPROBATE MIND. Teach her NOT to compromise core values, Show her the road to death.
After hitting a few guide posts set in place by your warnings, she’ll learn to trust your word and respect your wisdom with her lumpy bumpy head. How many lumps, and how many bumps depends on whatever bulls~~~ someone else is putting in her head>>>TV, social media, society, feminazi education, It’s become a minefield packed with mines like a room full of mousetraps with no place to step. Teach her to fly or use stilts.

Teach her that she needs to take care of her mind and that the things we do will determine if we become mentally ill or not, show her that the things we do will determine weather we can be happy or not, show her things like this and tell her they get their by making bad choices one after another. Tech her that it’s up to her to stay off the many deadly trails of destruction and how those paths are adorn with flowers and sweet sensations at the beginning.

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