How do you guys tune out the world?

[BlackValeParticipant 79]

I’ve been trying to build relationships and date and I realized one of three things: 1. I don’t have the personality for it at all so the social world makes no sense to me at all. 2 Most people around my age (24) already have their own set of friends established that they will know for the rest of their lives and they don’t accept new comers (or at least in my area). 3. The desire for both stem from attachments and insecurities forced on me by my mom when I was a kid.

So now I’m switching gears. I’m trying to find some things that I could be passionate about so I can have some type of fulfillment. Right now I am studying BJJ and Muay Thai and I love it a lot more than I thought I would even though I have a f~~~ it attitude towards it sometimes. I am also trying to get into music production and mixing in FL Studio as well as freelance web development (WordPress and ASP.NET for starters) so I can be working for myself in two years. Also I haven’t watched tv since Middle School and only play video games during the weekend if I have time to just sink. Even though I am getting into and learning about these things it feels like I should be doing more and that there is more in the world for me.

Another thing that bothers me are my coworkers. A lot of times they talk about their social lives and what they do with the people they know and for some reason I feel bad about myself even though it all sounds like mindless s~~~ to me. And the coworker who started with me always wants to go to lunch with me for some reason and a lot of times he talks about the s~~~ he does with his friends and I always give him the most blank states because I have never experienced what he has and I have no clue how to respond to it. I think he’s starting to understand that and he talks less about his personal life and texts on his phone sometimes but it feels…awkward sometimes. Why is this?

Has anyone here ever had that feeling before? How did you address it? And how did you deal with pressures from outside?

I hope my post makes sense.

[JB BooksParticipant 3182]

Answer: Stop tuning it in

We just don't realize life's most significant events while they're happening. Back then, I thought, "Well, there'll be other days". I didn't realize that that was the only day. - "Moonlight" Graham

[JVBParticipant]

What world ?

Peace is > piece.

[The man in the mountainParticipant 4102]

I am 26 and most of the people i would call “friends” very loosely are maybe 60+ year old men, some of them are married while others are not, the reason i opted to have older men as “friends” its because i could draw from their life experiences and gain knowledge on how to go about living life efficiently.

Most of the men at my age they are in a constant state or loop in hell of drama and validation that to me became rather unbearable when i was younger, Men who are in the age group 20-25 usually can’t make up their damn minds and make too many silly mistakes that makes you wonder if they are thinking at all at times.

I suggest most younger men (20-24) to find older men or neighbors whom they can have a reasonable conversation with, most men that are old are actually quite open minded because of experience usually but not always, with the younger guys you are almost expected to “fit in” and not “stand out” from the crowd, if you start to talk too much about things that are not popular or don’t go in line with their line of thinking they eventually get tired and leave you all alone.

You don’t want to be alone and specially you don’t want to be just another drone blue pill Beta in a squad full of morons that live pretty unhappy lives, lives that can be chaotic and packed full with drama or s~~~ show after s~~~ show for Relations~~~s.

The worst part of being in a “group” of “friends” is whenever a woman is “part of the group”, you end up finding out how tragically things can go when a woman is involved, she sleeps around with all the guys, she plays with everyone’s emotional strings, gets the guys to fight or kill each other, blah blah blah i could go on with the possibilities, but i hope you catch the drift.

If you don’t like hanging out with older men that’s understandable, but i find it refreshing to have a normal conversation in which i don’t feel any kind of pressure from society, by being with men that are my age whom are supposedly “doing better” or “doing more and getting more done than i do” it can create pressure and expectation in me, which can turn into future depression cycles when i don’t fulfill any of them in short therm.

[Anonymous 38]

Be the grey man; ‘in’ the world but not ‘of’ the world. Do the things you enjoy.

[hmskl’dParticipant 6406]

no smart phone .. no texting, tweeting, tinder or typical social media, none

[SkelatorParticipant 1261]

With a chainsaw and a six pack of Bud Platinum. Formerly known as Ice.

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

0 f~~~s given.

Friends? What do that even means?

What is a friend? Can you answer that?

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[RhinoParticipant 3477]

You want friends and to be popular with everyone? Lie like they do. The reason you cannot connect with these people is because they need and want validation from you something you refuse to just give out freely like every blue pill person does.

The most popular people are in two categories, they are either constantly using white lies or are for the most part truthful. The friendships that last a lifetime are the ones where they intertwine truth with white lies while the most popular people with multiple friends tend to be the ones that are constantly validating everyone even though they know it is just a bulls~~~ game.

Honestly you don’t really need to be a part of that world unless you enjoy playing the popularity game. Finding good quality people that tell it like it is and are honest with you is rare in this world. Women are the worst offenders of this they will never be truthful with you in a social setting or in a relationship. You are not missing out on anything if you are not friends with these people in fact you not being able to relate to these people is your instinct telling you that they are probably low quality people.

Good people gravitate toward other good people, there will come a time when someone you meet will be a good person and over a few interactions your instinct will tell you if it is worth pursuing a friendship with the person. Keep in mind though it is very rare to find someone like this in our current time as most are blue pill who will put women on a pedestal and measure their worth by how many women they know and love. Being friends with a woman is another topic that can fill pages on why and I would advice against it but that is your choice to make.

[MonkParticipant 16979]

BlackVale wrote:

A lot of times they talk about their social lives and what they do with the people they know and for some reason I feel bad about myself even though it all sounds like mindless s~~~ to me.

It is, so don’t.

[SkelatorParticipant 1261]

Avoid at all possible costs. I have seen friends come and go. One thing remains the same. They want something from you.

To be a true man, is to be free. Solitude is ultimate freedom. Learn to live with yourself, everything else is control.

[The Black ScorpionParticipant 2144]

Focus on your goals, passions and interests. I see you’ve already started in that direction so keep it up.

In spite of all the brain washing we get, people are really not that important in the grand scheme of things. People come and people go and most of the friends, pals and buddies you’ve had are nothing but leeches of your time, effort, energy and money. Socializing is vastly over rated, and at the end of the day despite all your efforts you are left with a big pile of nothing because of it.

Become as self-sufficient as possible and if you need help then pay for it – no strings attached.

And ghost that co-worker ASAP. He’s just looking for an audience to listen to his stupid, pointless stories about his stupid, pointless life.

You have better things to do than to listen to his crap.

The greatest tragedy in life is to spend your whole life fishing only to discover that it was not fish you were after. - Henry David Thoreau

[Secret Agent MGTOWParticipant 22508]

BlackVale wrote:

I’ve been trying to build relationships and date and I realized one of three things: 1. I don’t have the personality for it at all so the social world makes no sense to me at all. 2 Most people around my age (24) already have their own set of friends established that they will know for the rest of their lives and they don’t accept new comers (or at least in my area). 3. The desire for both stem from attachments and insecurities forced on me by my mom when I was a kid.

So now I’m switching gears. I’m trying to find some things that I could be passionate about so I can have some type of fulfillment. Right now I am studying BJJ and Muay Thai and I love it a lot more than I thought I would even though I have a f~~~ it attitude towards it sometimes. I am also trying to get into music production and mixing in FL Studio as well as freelance web development (WordPress and ASP.NET for starters) so I can be working for myself in two years. Also I haven’t watched tv since Middle School and only play video games during the weekend if I have time to just sink. Even though I am getting into and learning about these things it feels like I should be doing more and that there is more in the world for me.

Another thing that bothers me are my coworkers. A lot of times they talk about their social lives and what they do with the people they know and for some reason I feel bad about myself even though it all sounds like mindless s~~~ to me. And the coworker who started with me always wants to go to lunch with me for some reason and a lot of times he talks about the s~~~ he does with his friends and I always give him the most blank states because I have never experienced what he has and I have no clue how to respond to it. I think he’s starting to understand that and he talks less about his personal life and texts on his phone sometimes but it feels…awkward sometimes. Why is this?

Has anyone here ever had that feeling before? How did you address it? And how did you deal with pressures from outside?

I hope my post makes sense.

You gotta get away from it. Find nice outdoor places to walk and hike. Enjoy and decompress.

Women want everything, but want responsibility and accountability for nothing.

[Anonymous 43]

Have you seen the state of the world lately?

Minimum participation minimum exposure minimal contamination.

[SolidParticipant 7520]

BlackVale wrote:

Most people around my age (24) already have their own set of friends established

No, they have a bunch of people that they hang out, just that.
Friendship is another thing, is not about hanging out here and there. Take some time to reevaluate your friends and see how many of them are real friends and how many of them just hangout because of you can provide, and how many of them would stay at your side in a s~~~ty situation, like letting your crash in their couch during your divorce.
Those guys will just vanish when they get married, they will be “allowed” once a year to see their “friends”.
Your “friendship” will be in the awkward level of being just acquaintances, your shared hobbies will be only yours, they will be forced to leave them.
Sooner you will be the bad influence according to their lil pumpkins and those c~~~s will start cutting you off, so their husbands will spend time with other cucks and be in a echo chamber, where only worshiping the might vagina is allowed.

Brother, this happened to me, lost several guys that I though that were my friends to c~~~s, and I bet a beer that at least half of dudes here witnessed the same thing.

[DorkShitParticipant 4353]

Inner spiritual peace.

Your post really strikes a chord.

Everything external is nothing.

You actually sound like you are close. Amazing for how young you are.

Peace brothers

[The Batman 2020Participant 2112]

Friends has the word ends in it. They don’t last. Just like a girlfriend.

Get a dog

Your 20's are for learning, your 30's are for earning.

[AttonParticipant]

You can find quite a few friends online that much is for sure.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[bladeParticipant]

BLADES WORLD .

Don’t put yourself around c~~~s with no humor . Laugh best medicine in the world and it is slowly dying . Laughter .

Common things away from your problems . I like looking up UFOs and s~~~ . Or nature stuff .

Get out in nature on your own . Embrace it in silence and listen to it come alive .

Dont give a f~~~ what people say, do or think . Love yourself . F~~~ them .

Content . In ones self .

Smoke weed . Play video games . Read a book .

Ring a radio station and f~~~ with them for giggles . That will get your confidence up . Record it then listen to how you sound . Like everyone they dont like the way they sound except threw there own ears . It does build confidence in speaking . I have seen it work with guys with low confidence . Planning . Plan before ya ring . After a while you will talk like your not on the radio . Like a fighter in the ring that doesn’t acknowledge the crowd .

Have fun with the system. F~~~ em all there a pack of c~~~s .

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[bladeParticipant]

Oh start small

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

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