How do I take the high road

[Two Time WinnerParticipant 1090]

Was reading another post and can’t find it now so will start a new one. Wife filed for divorce on 03/28/17. Still living in the same house. She is fully capable of working but doesn’t. I am staying to not start a precedent on spousal support.

I try to be polite and kind in all our dealings. She will bring up some point in the settlement as she is trying to get everything we own. No matter what I say, she goes into bitch mode. Starts with we wouldn’t be getting a divorce if I hadn’t done all these things wrong, on and on. Then she goes into what her friends and family think of me. Complete attempt at shaming and hurting me. Yes I have done wrong things and asked for forgiveness. She says she has forgiven me but continues to bring them up.

I get angry and try to walk away before I say anything but I am about at the breaking point. I think this is her plan to drive me out to get more money. I’m almost ready to say that peace is worth more than money. After being together 28 years she knows which buttons to push. Have asked my attorney to see if we can get a separation agreement now, so I can move out. Mediation in July and divorce in November. She has said she will not accept irreconcilable differences and will prove inappropriate marital conduct, one night stand in August of last year, she found out. So we may go to November and start on the divorce then.

My plan is to just walk off if she starts talking and not respond to her, not talk to her at all. Not a single solitary word. Will communicate by text.
How have any of you guys managed this situation? Living with an angry, narcissistic bitch while going through a divorce. How do I do it?

I ain't got a wife to spend my money, I have to do that all by myself.

[joetechParticipant]

The silent treatment. Get that divorce finalized ASAP.

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Two Time Winner wrote:

She has said she will not accept irreconcilable differences and will prove inappropriate marital conduct, one night stand in August of last year, she found out.

That’s stupid. It won’t change anything. You don’t get extra money if the other person cheats. All she’s doing is delaying the inevitable. That’s the beauty of no fault divorce, created by women.

Two Time Winner wrote:

I think this is her plan to drive me out to get more money. I’m almost ready to say that peace is worth more than money

Again, you leaving doesn’t get her more money. At least not in the US as far as I know. It might make it easier for her to get the house, but she would have to buy you out of your half.

Talk to your attorney as soon as possible and run all this by them. My guess is that they will tell you that it doesn’t matter. At least not if you don’t have kids in the house. If I’m right, move out tomorrow.

Remember, all she has to do is make one phone call. You don’t want to be in a private setting with her for one second more than you absolutely have to.

Order the good wine

[Anonymous 13]

You’re now in a toxic living hell.

Anything you say to her will be used and twisted against you.

The only way to play is to walk away from any and all bitching or put downs. I know it’s hard, hell do I know.

She wants a reaction.

I hate to say it but…the c~~~ may even call the cops.

They’re real good at that.

Good luck.

[Anonymous 13]

Two Time Winner wrote:

Living with an angry, narcissistic bitch while going through a divorce. How do I do it?

That’s the bit that troubles me most.

Angry + Narcissistic + Bitch = phone call = JAIL

[Anonymous 42]

Anonymous wrote:

That’s the bit that troubles me most.

Angry + Narcissistic + Bitch = phone call = JAIL

SpiritRR should just speak for most of us! After he’s spoken there’s really nothing more to say…

There is one thing, always have a video/audio recorder recording your life, CCTV, Dash cam, GoPro, Cell phone, get every bit of her conduct on a digital memory chip and make a file on your computer or best put it on a remote hard drive. Record everything for your naked protection, otherwise jail is only a phone call away. I know, I was put there by a heartless two faced c~~~ full of revenge.

A suspicious car with Connecticut plates just drove by, I have his make, model, and license plate. I also have peace of mind…

[Anonymous 13]

Two Time Winner wrote:

She has said she will not accept irreconcilable differences and will prove inappropriate marital conduct, one night stand in August of last year, she found out.

Oh man, now we can add VINDICTIVE for sure to that equation.

In fact, forget the previous equation. We can simplify.

Vindictive = phone call = JAIL.

Seriously, get cam’d/cctv’d up.

[AutoliteParticipant]

I noticed your avatar. Is that yours? Can you just move into a camper somewhere???

[BlacqueJacqueShellacqueParticipant 6890]

GET.THE.F~~~.OUT.ASAP!

[Two Time WinnerParticipant 1090]

Autolite wrote:

I noticed your avatar. Is that yours? Can you just move into a camper somewhere???

That is what I plan to retire to next year. Trying to get enough of our investment account to buy one. But I will have one no matter the outcome, it may be old and ragged but it with be in the southwest about 2,000 miles away from my soon to be ex-bitch. All children are adults so only problem there.

We have a camera recording system in all the house except for the bedrooms. Plan to use that in event of any allegations of abuse.

TTW

I ain't got a wife to spend my money, I have to do that all by myself.

[OgreParticipant 5863]

I looked at your signature. What keeps you from living it? After 28 years, your financial contribution and hers are pretty well documented. Check with your lawyer to make sure that staying in that hostile environment is necessary to achieve your objectives.

If not, pull the plug and hit the road.

I failed to realize in my youth that I was the prize. I was going to work. I was going to earn. Little did I realize that due to feminism, that no longer meant I had to share. Road soon, Desert after.

[Anonymous 42]

Two Time Winner wrote:

That is what I plan to retire to next year. Trying to get enough of our investment account to buy one. But I will have one no matter the outcome, it may be old and ragged but it with be in the southwest about 2,000 miles away from my soon to be ex-bitch. All children are adults so only problem there.

Airstreams are expensive and valuable, go for a 70s, 80s, 90, long ass motorhome on a truck chassis, low mileage and low price are only the beginning, if you’re mechanically inclined it doesn’t take much to put the old stuff back into top mechanical condition, everything was simpler back then, get a 60’s School Bus! Double deck it with a spiral stair case and balcony so you can look down on all the trailer trash around you, look over their roof tops and see trouble coming! Plus you can sit in the birds nest and shoot all the squirrels, chipmunks, seagulls, and pigeons. You’ll have the cleanest bird s~~~ free roof around! Car too!

[No Ma’amParticipant 212]

F~~~ the “high road”!

There’s no such thing as a fair fight. It’s survival. You have to make it as unfair in your favor as possible.

"Nobody loves me, but my mother, And she could be jivin` too." - B. B. King

[shaunozParticipant 512]

Oh dear ! her stupidity astounds me ! Many men think it is like that also….

1. “No fault divorce” means whatever anyone did does not matter.
2. In Australia, US , Canada, and other feminised first world countries — neither party can REJECT or NOT-AGREE-TO a divorce. It gets filed, and agree or not, it gets processed. If anyone is sooo incredibily stupid to challenge it by the time it gets to the courts then possible the court will allow them to make a short statement or something ( wasted breathe and never happens), and then the courts rubber stamp the inevitable outcome.

Is she seriously so deluded as to think that she gets a say in whether a divorce is processed ? or that she can has some sort of veto over the process. She is living in the 1960’s ( i.e. pre no-fault-divorce , back when marriage was not considered temporary).

[AwakenedParticipant 35202]

After 28 years, it’s BEST for your Sanity to just pack what you need for the time being and find ANYWHERE ELSE to move to.

You have YOUR PLANS for the FUTURE, start LIVING for them TODAY !!

No Need to hang around and RISK INCARCERATION !!

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[BoskParticipant 111]

Well, you leave the house if you can.
This is what I did 2 weeks ago and I am just fine !
It is SOOOO CAAALLLMMM !!!
This is like being reborn.

Nevertheless, you are lucky in the US.
In France, we cannot even divorce if the other part refuses… which she does by the way… because she loves me soooo muuchhh.
You have to leave the family house for at least 2 years to force it, prove it and this is an automatic divorce but with consequences in terms of having the kids or not in the end…

[BoskParticipant 111]

Beware not to finish like in this film: “The War of the Roses”.

[OldschoolParticipant 2481]

You are in danger of being accused of abuse and the police being called, they WILL belive her. Be careful see if you can live with a friend, no rent so you don’t prove being able to support two households. Read my intro to see how quick the cops will be called. Secure you future, look up the divorce “list” and follow as many as you can. Good luck, this will suck my brother hang in there…

Get a vasectomy.

[NoMoreParticipant 1233]

“How to live with a narcissistic bitch during a divorce?” You don’t.

First, file for a no fault divorce today. She can bitch and moan about infidelity, but in most states, it’s not a game changer unless it was a habitual thing or put the kids at risk.

Second, start recording everything. Then move out. My wife constantly states that I abandoned the home. Yet, I have tens of hours of recordings showing her berating me, trying to start arguments, and generally just interfering with my time with my son. Now, I haven’t said anything to her, but if she tries to play the abandonment angle, I have pictures of the aftermath of her throwing things as well as the recordings. She created a toxic environment that was dangerous and unhealthy for me to remain in, both for myself and our son.

It’s over and accepting that will come easier when you have your own space, free from insult and harassment.

A co-worker recently told me, "If you want to see who someone really is, divorce them." I have found out how true this is. When your wife drops the façade of being the caring partner, you will witness all of the greed, hate, and spite that she has masked. It is truly breathtaking!

[BoskParticipant 111]

NoMore wrote:

A co-worker recently told me, “If you want to see who someone really is, divorce them.” I have found out how true this is. When your wife drops the façade of being the caring partner, you will witness all of the greed, hate, and spite that she has masked. It is truly breathtaking!

So true !

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