Hi i need advice

[DarkDagoParticipant 180]

Hi all hope you guys are doing well
I need to ask for advice as somthing has come back up in my life which i thort would never happen
sorry i,m dislicx and so my spelling will be bad 1st of i need to say in my life i have made missacks and done things i should not have done
and could have done better i have 2 kids my 1st kid she is now 10 years old i see her all the time and get her for all the holdays there was
a time i need have her full time but got f**k over by the mum any way our kid had problues and got put in to a special school and was going to head
down the same path i went when i was a kid she could not talk and her mum could not give a dam did not help at all i did get help off my mum and dad
so me and my mum and dad spent 10 years helping my kid and it work out fine she is in main school and reports coming in saying she is doing well
it was 10 years of hell for me and my mum and dad my kids mum wanted it to be all about her not our kid one of the things she did was which was
resont was our kid brock her arm and did notting for 3 days well she called me and well she lives 150 miles for me so i had to go up and take her
to a&e but she seems to be taking care of her now that i have ask the school to keep an eye on her this is were i need advice this was a back stroy
on my 1st kid
I had a 2ed kid with some one i thort would be good to have a kid with i won,t go thourt the hole thing she was nice at 1st but changed she would not let
me go out even if i was going to take the kids with me she has one of her own with some else she has a boy who i looked after like my own she would take my
mob phone of me she would not let me see my friends or my mum and dad it gose on and on i was leaving on day and would not let me go so i tryed to run
past her she say that she would call the cops and rip her cloths off and say i did it i memory loss from my dislix and my epilepsy and would
use this ageins me saying i did things that i did not do and way i did get out of there and i the relationship i still wanted to have time with our
kid she would not let me saying it would cut the csa (money you pay for the kid) down and then started to say how i could not take her to my mum and
dad has the home was dangerous for our kid and way i know she is a good mum belive it or not so i know our kid would be fine and happy i payed my way
and sent items to her i got call the other day from my 2ed x say that our kid from what she was saying to me it shonds like she will end up being
like my 1st kid who is now fine but i i,m going to help her out as its not our kids falt we can get her better reson she has called me she know that i know
what to do and how to go about it but i don,t want to go thort anther 10 years of hell as i know what can happen i lost most of my friends becoes of her
and she lied to evry one about me so i i,m going to help our kid but can i do anything to help my self thank you for your time. 🙂

[DarkDagoParticipant 180]

I meain help my kid out not help my x

[MaillesmithParticipant 64]

My advice:

You need a lawyer or other legal representative (someone to speak on your behalf). You have likely experienced it in the past with your “Issues” (dyslexia and epilepsy), difficulties with the courts or ex mothers taking your claims or problems seriously. While we live in a progressive society, these problems may be holding you back. I believe either a lawyer or representative will help you state your case more succinctly(clearly). If you can find a good one you can trust, they could help find the best course of action to take which would be in the best interest of your and your child.

Find a LAWYER YOU TRUST dude, they know the law better than us, and it seems like you’re getting screwed by the law. It’s illegal for her to say un-truths about you, to spread rumours about you and to deny you access to your child. In Canada at least, a parent doesn’t have to pay support in order to be entitled to time with their child, and a judge will not hold “he’ll be paying less money” as a viable reason to refuse you more time with your child.

I’m not sure where you’re at, but if you live in Ontario there is a group called “Law Society of Upper Canada”, which directs you to a local lawyer that provides free consultations on a legal matter. There should be something similar in your area. Any CAS (Children’s Aid Services) will have a list of local lawyers that specialize in matters surrounding children.

Please excuse any mistakes… I’m a little drunk at the moment.

GET LEGAL REPRESENTATION!!!

Sorry my friend, but you don’t have the capacity to deal with this matter on your own.

I mean no offense by the above statement, but you may have already realized through past experience that most legal systems and people in position of authority tend to take the side of the “more educated/intelligent party(person)”

[DarkDagoParticipant 180]

Hi there tahnks but i can,t get legal representation i need to put down £1000 just for one to help me and it will cost some more £2000 total £3000
i only get £800 a month and i been down this way before and got f**ked for put my kids interests not my own and not my x
my 2ed x who has asked me to help our kid out which i,m going to do but i would like ways to help my self and not get messed about
thank you for your time and hope you had a nice drinking run last night 🙂

[MaillesmithParticipant 64]

Where do you live?

As I mentioned in my post, Ontario has “The Law Society of Upper Canada”, which will direct you to a lawyer able to provide you with a free consultation in the matter. As far as I am aware, every province in Canada has some form of this organization (not “of Upper Canada” – that is an outdated term for “Ontario”). And while I’m writing this I realise you likely live in Europe…. o.O

I’m not going to do the searching for you, but there has to be some form of legal aid where you are from. Here in Canada, legal services are provided at no-cost or a reduced cost to those who wouldn’t otherwise be able to afford it. It is a bit skewed, I will admit, for if you make any more than the maximum qualifying income you are entitled to no assistance (even if you make $10 more, and/or just as financially f~~~ed).

If you don’t have the means to get a lawyer after and EXTENSIVE and EXAUSTIVE search for the programs, Pro-Bono lawyers, or organizations that might help you; I again suggest you have someone else (who has you and your children’s best interests at heart) represent you in the legal process.

Here’s a thought. Go to a university and seek out the law students. Many students are required to perform pro-bono services before they can graduate. You might find someone who will be a strong advocate for you, all while completing their studies.

[DarkDagoParticipant 180]

Hi there thanks for helping me out i live in the uk and we don,t have legal aid or reduced cost any more as the government has stoped them now
my x has asked me for help which i,m going to do but i,m not and can,t get help as i have been there before and the law f**ked me
over from the last time with my 1st kid no wants to hear a man out or ask for help so i,m just looking for advice from others who
can help my 1st x kidnapep my 1st kid years ago and no one would do anything i wated £800 on a lawer and the cops would not help i did
go around to orthers for help and no joy my mum and dad told my x if she comes back thay would give her £1000 to her which she then
did and thay payed i,m emotional f**ked and i can,t do this all agein i had 10 years of the s**t and don,t want to go thort it agein
but it,s not about me it,s my kid who will up Surfing in her live if i don,t help i don,t want any of my kids to go throt
what i went throt as a kid i would like so advice on how i can help my self and not get hurt or messed about at the same time
i would like to thank you for your help and time 🙂 (sorry if i seemed to get mad)

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