Help! My little sister became a Feminazi and she hates me for going my own way

[MrMeParticipant 651]

The tittle says it all.

What do you do when one of your lovely sibling starts noticing a change in your attitude and ideas/opinions and hates you for it?

My sister became a big time feminazi when she joined the university (couple of months ago) and I am now an evil homophobic , racist , sexist monster and whatnot. She broke to tears in front of the whole family because of some things I said and now well guess what? Im the oppressor and the bad guy. I try to keep my cool and to reason but hey it really seems like logic doesn’t work very well against an overly emotional feminist.

What should I do? I love her and will always, even after all the insults she threw at me. I want to have peaceful time when we meet at family gathering but this is really damaging the spirit we once had.

Any suggestions?

Thanks

[Cipher HighwindParticipant 1144]

On account of her possession of the golden vagina, most of your family will take her side when she throws a tantrum.

The only suggestion I can offer that is of any use would be to not be present at events where she is.

Remember that forgiveness is for the weak. No matter who she is, she made you lose face, and that must neither be tolerated nor seen to be tolerated.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Families are always f~~~ed up. She is only your sister by accident of birth, and though you may love her, from what you’ve said she’s not doing much to be very lovable. So here’s what I would do.

Stop caring. There is nothing you can do to cure her madness. It’s something for her to deal with.

Continue going your own way.

Study hard. Work hard. Make something of yourself for yourself. Once you’re out on your own supporting yourself your family dynamic will change completely because you will be able to decide how much of your family’s behavior you are willing to tolerate, and you can leave whenever you feel like it. And they’ll know it. In ten years time you’ll be independently successful but she’ll be just another bitter, used up, cat owning feminist banging her head against the wall. Or she’ll see your success, compare it to her own, and change her ways before then. Honestly, once she’s out of college and finds herself wanting a man to support her, don’t be surprised if she goes anti-feminist traditionalist. Either way, it is not your problem. You are not your sister’s keeper.

Continue going your own way.

[constraints_theoryParticipant 43]

the way i see it man there should be nothing that deters a man from doing what he believes is right. hopefully your sister will out grow this nonsensical stage in her life if not well there aint much you can do about it she made her choice and nothing can change her mind and i will say you shouldnt force her to either by doing so will only cement her beliefs. the same can be said for you no amount of tears shed should deter you from your path and any who try should should only make your resolve to be stronger. ive always took evaluations in my life for example i am heading along my own path and anyone that isnt with me i cut them loose this means for some really good close friends and even family i cut them off because in the end they will only drag me down. perhaps that might sound callous but then again your living for yourself not the appeasement of someone else.

My older brothers for example are perhaps the biggest blue pilled manginas out there and always bash me and tell me im wrong from being MGHOW well to hell with them i dont need their approval and i dont need them in my life. i shouldn’t have to justify anything to them and i dont and because of that my relationship with my older brothers is perhaps almost non existent sad to say since i was really close to my middle brother but then again i cant force them to see things my way nor can i force them to see things my way. i see them perhaps once every few years. to me they have no bearing on my life.

so in short just keep your sister at a distance. i dont know if you were close to her at one time that makes this a difficult thing for you but just realize you have control over how close you want her to be in your life. for me i have two older brothers but they are as close to me as two complete strangers on a bus.

 

Good Luck!

I've killed worse than you on my way to real problems.

[HimeoParticipant 471]

That’s rough, MrME. I’d drop contact with her and minimize encounters if at all possible. Just focus on yourself and improving your finances, health, and knowledge. Let your sister be crazy, bro. Keep calm and carry on.

[mydarkpassengerParticipant 3]

One video I think you should show her (if she’s willing to check it out) is by a woman named Erin Pizzey who created the first shelter in the mondern world for abused women and wrote the first book about domestic abuse called “Scream Quietly Or the Neighbors Will Hear.”  Erin had 2 abusive parents though and knew women could be as abusive as men and came forward with this information.  She received death threats (from radical feminists) for her, her children, and her grandchildren and she had to go into hiding after they killed her dog.  Here’s a video of her talking at the 2014 Domestic Violence Symposium in Toronto.  She’s someone who has a lot of credibility due to her past and I don’t see her being a hard person for her to listen to.  I don’t know if it will do anything for her views on you being MGTOW (the video isn’t about that) but it might get her seeing things in a different light about how a lot of feminism operates and I consider it a great video to start to undue the brain washing.

[Smitty the Great OneParticipant 1535]

I have a similar situation, stay away from her, nothing good can come from interacting from you. At some point her indoctrination will require her to harass and harangue you for believing differently. Before you even start, don’t…… just walk away, your family will side with her regardless (they always have in my case). Let her be bats~~~ insane and blame you for everything. As long as you aren’t around her you don’t have to hear it, that’s as good as you can hope for, sorry.

Life is too long to play by someone elses rules....

[experiencedParticipant]

For your peace of mind write her a letter.  Now, at two months,  compare things to all that time before two months ago.  You love her as a brother does love his sister.  Perhaps tie in a good memory from three months or years ago.

“letters I’ve written, never meaning to send.”

Send it to her, in a fully sealed envelope, addressed care of you via your current address.  This way it gets postmarked with two months or so date on it.  Keep it and if she goes off the deep end and comes back, or if things lock, but unlock later–or more importantly look like they might, then you can give it to her, sealed. “got this in the mail five years ago, its for you from me.”  Maybe this will get its chance to help the situation from a larger timespan,  it should help you to sleep now though.

 

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[Anonymous 5]

@ mydarkpassenger
That is the single most inspiring video talk I’ve ever seen.

I’ve worked first hand in the trenches, the front lines of domestic violence in both a homeless shelter for men and the corresponding shelter for women with the organisation I was employed with.

Domestic violence is not a gender issue.
For a male, it’s far scarier to work with the female victims than it is to work with the males. The horror stories I could relate about male victims of domestic violence would fill pages. NOT ONE SINGLE CASE I EVER WORKED WITH EVER RESULTED IN CHARGES AGAINST THE WOMAN.

Even the females who worked with us almost universally acknowledged it was the females who were by far the hardest to deal with and despite our protests that only females should work with female victims, we were routinely ignored. Female staff were just too gutless to work with more than half of female “victims”,,,and for good reason!

This Erin Pizzey knows it from the ground up, especially the political economic nature of the modern feminist structure and the outrageous gender biassed laws that have been brought into effect.
No one explains MGTOW better than her. No wonder the feminists hate her.

[mydarkpassengerParticipant 3]

If most feminists still hate her it should raise red flags to the rest of society.  She had a ton of credibility in helping women out, probably far more than any of them ever will.  Warren Farrell is also another good one.  Probably the 2 top people I would use in order to make my points.

[BlueToRedSpectator 23]

There is nothing you can do except go your own way. This is one of the hardest parts of swallowing the red pill. When she broke down, you should remember know that it was a bluff and basically social strategy.

 

You know that she’s a feminazi. And you know that she’s a woman. She’s your sister yet she’s putting you through this. She does not value your free thought, she wants you to comply and that is what matters to her above ALL ELSE.

 

I cut off communication with my sister years ago and with my feminist mom very recently. I miss them, but it’s for the best. They aren’t worth the time of the day.

[GrefParticipant 203]

MrMe wrote:

My sister became a big time feminazi when she joined the university (couple of months ago)

Universities are the biggest feminist cesspools you’ll find, pretty much every girl at uni is indoctrinated.

[url url=http://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/2d6337/i_was_divorce_raped_dont_be_me] I'm paying her 25% of my salary over the next eight years. I had to pay my lawyer, her lawyer, 50% of all my retirement funds and give her another few thousand dollars to make her go away. It cost me $20 to get married and will cost me over $220,000 to get divorced. [/url]

[peterfaParticipant 833]

I got this. Rules are:

1. Know your boundaries and know them well. Know when it’s times to remove crap from your boundaries and when it’s time to accept crap.
2. Know accountability and know it well. If you love your sister, you’ll sacrifice your relationship for her for her sake.
3. Watch out for lusts for weird thing. That is, watch out for her little god or godesses and see what she’s serving. Remember she’ll make sacrifices to those gods or godesses, including you.
4. Remember it’s her choice, and prepared to let her go. I let go of my sisters because they were sick. Now, even if they were to repent and ask for forgiveness, and I find them to be sincere, I am happy to say that this is over, and that I forgive them, but they will never be a part of my life again. That’s destroyed forever.

I don’t fully understand the drive to women for this sort of thing. For starters, I was hugely sympathetic to feminism until Karen Straghen screwed that up. Anyways, men are good and have good and wonderful elements. Those might be misunderstood or ignored by academics, but that’s just as good as the idiots who run it. Want to know a secret? People who are abused become excellent at their endeavors. They wish to never be found wrong or wanting (it’s due to how they’re abused, which is sick and heartbreaking and when you understand it, you see why). They rise to such levels and end up in powerful positions (think about it, you want a heart surgeon who will refuse to do anything but the absolute best), but abuse victims while sincere, have issues that they should sort out.

OK, there’s too much to explain here, because you’re dealing with a massive subject. You’ll just have to let go of your little sister and let her run her life. Maybe she’ll look at you and wonder why you disagree. Though you love her, you don’t own her. You can say to her that what she says hurts you, she doesn’t understand you and when she turns, you will forgive her, but until then, she’s created a problem and you’ll have to make a healthy distance between you.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Gref wrote:

Universities are the biggest feminist cesspools you’ll find, pretty much every girl at uni is indoctrinated.

But isn’t it amazing how quickly they change their tune when they graduate and find themselves jobless with hundreds of thousands of dollars of student debt?  All of a sudden a whole lot of these hardcore FUGs (Feminist Until Graduation) somehow see the merits of “traditional values” and start looking for “a nice, traditional man who knows how to treat a lady right.” (Under six foot need not apply.  Must have six figure job and car and house.  Send pictures of house.)

[GoneGaltParticipant 361]

I don’t have sisters but recently I booted a long-time female friend out of my life for various issues, an unpaid debt and her constant manufacturing of drama foremost among them, because I finally had had enough. Naturally she immediately spewed out this huge email to another long-time female friend who lives in another state (and is actually normal) saying I’d gone crazy and rambling on and on as is her modus operandi, without once of course bothering to explain why I’d done what I did. I got a copy from my other friend, and was also told that yesterday she wanted advice on whether she should just show up at my house unannounced. Since I don’t have to open the door to see who’s there I’ll just not open it because as almost all women do she’ll try to use tears to sway me and the drama she’ll create (and wallow in) will only p~~~ me off. She’s a master manipulator and she’s deluded if she thinks I’ll ever be a friend to her again.

Also, when I was in my early 20’s one of my brothers got kicked out of college for stealing from a library to pay for drugs, and my father literally disowned him. In appreciation of such, he then stole another of my brother’s belongings, car and even his f~~~ing cat and left the state to whereabouts unknown. This was in the early 80s and he never bothered to contact any of us brothers. We didn’t even know if he was alive. So he missed the funerals of both our parents. Recently he popped up and visited the brother he didn’t rob (he also never paid me back on a loan) and claimed he was a born-again Christian. When the brother he robbed asked him to explain why he did what he did, he replied he assumed us brothers had also disowned him – he was wrong, of course. He also told my brother to ‘get over it’ without explanation, so I sent him a scathing email and told him to stay far, far away from us.

So while I don’t have a sister problem like you do, I have gone through similar situations. People first entering college think they know it all and are very earnest to the point of accepting no dissent from their viewpoints – your sister is one of them. I suspect she’ll mellow as the years pass but take the advice others have given you, distance yourself and refuse to get into arguments. You might also try sending her a letter offering a truce on the subject wherein neither of you will bring this s~~~ up, so that you can be around each other at family gatherings without her drama queen act. But in no circumstance allow her to manipulate you into situations where she can sandbag you with this feminism crap. MrMe, your sister is exhibiting behavior like a member of a cult, which feminism really is, and she is so blinded by her zeal that facts that run counter to her belief are simply ignored and the bringer of the facts (you) will be personally attacked, not your facts. And when you tell her you will not discuss the subject with her any longer, MEAN it. If she brings it up, remind her that you have no interest in discussing it with her any longer and that she’s free to believe whatever she wishes but she is NOT free to use it as a weapon against you, especially in front of the family.

That’s the essence of MGTOW – go your own way, be as polite as you can about it but in the end walk away if she won’t shut up. That includes Christmas, Easter, Thanksgiving, etc – just push away from the table or get up off the couch and leave. If the rest of your family allows her to do this to you and even supports her, they’ll all eventually get the message you’re your own man and you will not be manipulated this way.

Good luck!

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

She may be your sister but she is a female. You can’t fix her and you can’t change her and you can’t prevent her from following her natural urges and getting tied up with feminists, man hating lesbians, rock star playboys, drug dealers and pimps. Stop trying to protect her and stop caring if she loves and accepts you, those are the pathways to the Kingdom of the White Knights, not a place you want to go.

So, in essence, forget her and move on. That’s what MGTOW do.

[Cap285Participant 6007]

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, keep contact with your family minimal or break it off entirely. The sooner you cut extraneous s~~~ out of your life, the better off you’re going to be. I see my family no more than once or twice a year and that’s only for my mom’s sake. However, she knows I can walk out at anytime. As a MGTOW and someone who carries a concealed weapon, I’m pretty much the opposite of my blue pill family.

No disrespect to you, but your sister sounds like another idiot you thinks she has the world figure out after her first semester in some liberal indoctrination center (college). They talk about this on South Park. Tell her to get back to you in 15 years. My cousin is like your sister, thinks she has the world figured out but has been in so many car accidents she actually couldn’t drive for a time. Got the world figured out but can’t figure out two pedals and a wheel. Know what she does for a living……teaches second grade.

God help us all.

Fuck this planet.

[Cap285Participant 6007]

Stargazer wrote:

She may be your sister but she is a female

. You can’t fix her and you can’t change her and you can’t prevent her from following her natural urges and getting tied up with feminists, man hating lesbians, rock star playboys, drug dealers and pimps. Stop trying to protect her and stop caring if she loves and accepts you, those are the pathways to the Kingdom of the White Knights, not a place you want to go.

So, in essence, forget her and move on. That’s what MGTOW do.

Doc, again with much wisdom. That’s why he’s a Doc.

Replace sister with mom, aunt or that girl who ‘likes’ you.

Fuck this planet.

[Cap285Participant 6007]

Cipher Highwind wrote:

Remember that forgiveness is for the weak.

I think we are going to get along famously sir.

Fuck this planet.

[MrMeParticipant 651]

I shed a couple (just a couple) of tears reading those replies. She has always been my little angel that I wanted to protect (even if she is more than strong enough to protect herself) from harm but I guess it is time I let her go her own way while I do the same … in the opposite direction.

Guys, I appreciate your support and counsel.

Cheers.

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