Hello…….new dude, similar stuff

[GTFO21Participant 12]

Hi All!

I’m new here and just wanted to put a little piece of what brought me.

40 year old who got woke up in the most amazingly blind sided way.

I was married 15 years and found out my sweet innocent soon to be ex wasn’t what I thought she was. AWALT right?

Anyway……I’m wide awake. Divorce SHOULD be final in 60-90 days if not sooner.

I’ll post my whole story that will be similar to most divorced men here I’m sure.

Thank you for this FORUM…..there’s a lot of great posts so far. Really digging the one about being civil when going through a divorce.

Till later gents. STAY FROSTY…..

"Poor prior planning on your part, doesn't constitute an emergency on my part."

[bstoffParticipant 4885]

Welcome and BE VERY CAREFUL during this delicate divorce process. Don’t let your guard down for a moment, no matter how “civil” your soon-to-be ex pretends to be. If she has consulted a lawyer, you can bet she has been advised it is to her financial benefit to pretend civility while digging into you for as much as she and her lawyer can scrape out of you. If possible in your state, try to use the simple, cheap divorce program provided online by your state’s court system. It saved me a ton and prevented the ex from getting “counseled” to go after full custody and a lot of money.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Best of luck with it all! and welcome aboard. You seem pretty upbeat about it(?). Would be interested to know how it goes. Thanks for stepping in with an intro.

GTFO21 wrote:

Thank you for this FORUM…..there’s a lot of great posts so far. Really digging the one about being civil when going through a divorce.

Hitman dropped that gem a few days ago. Enjoyed it too.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[The Manipulated ManParticipant 1856]

Greetings GTF,

Congratulations on making it to MGTOW.

I hope your divorce is as painless as possible.

Do you have any children and was your wife working while you were married?

Those two factors will greatly affect how much you will be f~~~ed over by the divorce, nevertheless it is difficult for a man to predict what s~~~ the Gynocracy will throw at you.

Reading about your impending divorce brought up a memory of some advice I ignored a long time ago from an old timer who tried to warn me about woman:

“The f~~~ing that you get… (pause) isn’t worth the f~~~ing that you’ll get.”

A buddy I worked with named Sean was married to a hot looking gainfully employed middle class woman. They both owned and paid off their own homes before they got married. They had no children. Even though Sean made over $100,000 per year, her income was 20% more than his and she also rented out “her” home during their marriage. She ultimately divorced him for a multimillionaire. So, we all expected him to walk away from the divorce without taking a financial hit.

Sean was surprised to discover that he was required to pay her half of his pension investments during the fifteen years they were married. She never made any official pension investments and the courts required Sean to pick up the slack.

Sean got to keep his home and toys like his Harley, muscle car, and boat which is where a lot of his income went into. Nevertheless, Sean eventually had to take out a loan to pay her a substantial lump sum of cash for the “pension.”

Sean’s story reminds me of another bit of old time advice which I also ignored:

“If it flies, floats, or f~~~s… (then) Rent.”

What happens when a man finally comprehends the cold and calculating thoughts that are going through a woman's mind, while her eyes are brimming with tears?

[Mr_OptionsParticipant 298]

Welcome GTFO21. Here you will find many men in your position. I’ve been there done that. Divorce was final 2 years as of yesterday. Adapting post divorce, is a different road for most of us. Myself I was blind and jumped back into the blue pill swill of online dating. Found a divorced women with more insecurity issues that any other women I ever met. Ended that s~~~ storm in May of this year. Found MGTOW in March and just trying to better myself, and go my own way. YMMV, but know you have brothers here for support and knowledge.

A man without a woman is like a fish without a hook.

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