Hello mates – A new MGHOW from Paris

[The FrogParticipant 35]

I just introduce myself. My name is Alex (40 yo) and I’m living in Paris France.
Married 2 daughters (7 and 5 years).
My wife is a beautiful woman, I met her when I was 25 she was 18. Our relationship was good at the beginning (I was a beta blue pill at that time and I did all she wanted).
We had a happy life (cinema, restaurants, travels) and many friends. Love, love and love !

One day, we plan to marry (I was 30) and we had our first child when I was 32. Then, I felt something was wrong. I mean : I wanted children but something inside me told me it wasn’t the life I wanted for the next 40 years.

I spent 70h a week at work and my wife stopped working and stayed at home with our daughters during 3 years. She annoyed me by constant complaining and nagging. She told she was tired with our babies.
What about me ? She had a new job now but I spend more time at work and I bring 70% of the incomes.

We had many quarrels. About children. About money. For example, one month ago, she took the money from our account in order to pay her holidays with our daughters and her parents (who hate me). Why I have to pay for this as I was at work ? She wanted me to pay her parents holidays.

Last but not least, when I married her, I wanted a prenup as I have a better salary than her and as I said, we don’t know what could happen in the future.
She didn’t want and as I was a blue pill, I accepted to marry her without this prenup. It means that the money I earned for 10 years is her money too. Today, I want to do a prenup (the french law allows me to do it) but she doesn’t want. She thinks we must share everything when we are married. I’m not sure she is a gold digger because she is really romantic and she belives in true love.
She doesn’t understand why I changed. I have a family, a good job, a nice car, a stable woman … why am I not happy then ? Anyway, she knows she had my bollocks in a box.

My feeling are gone and I think I will file for divorce. I’m afraid and I’m thinking of my 2 littles daughters.
My friends tell me I have to stay : money is not so important but I think time flies and my mariage is a waste of time
I will read all your posts in the mariage section and perhaps I will find something to help me 🙂

Sorry for my bad english, hope you can understand what I wrote !

Cheers

[Anonymous 42]

Trust your GUT feelings, you haven’t seen or felt her teeth YET!

[JimBoLeaParticipant 1891]

GLAD YOUR HERE FROG .I AM 52 NEVER MARRIED, NO CHILDREN EITHER, I’M THE TROLL THAT LIVES UNDER THE BRIDGE IN A VAN DOWN BY THE RIVER. YOU WILL FIND TRUE SAGES HERE THAT HAVE MANY GOOD WORDS OF ADVICE.
SIDE-BAR HERE I AM NOTICING MORE AND MORE FEMALE RESENTMENT AFTER THE FIRST CHILD IS BORN. BUT THEN AGAIN MAYBE IT’S NOTHING.
WELCOME TO THE FOLD FROG

LILITH IS THE HEAD SUCCUBUS AND SHE LIVES ON THE DARK SIDE OF THE MOON

[The FrogParticipant 35]

What do you mean ? GUT ? What is it ? Sorry, I’m not fluent in English 😉

[NerevarParticipant 8040]

Hey frogeater 😀 Welcome to the forum!

"One of the best things internet exposed is just how insane women are." - Freeman_K

[NerevarParticipant 8040]

The Frog wrote:

What do you mean ? GUT ? What is it ? Sorry, I’m not fluent in English

Gut feelings = instinct. When you think/feel something is wrong, you’re probably right.

"One of the best things internet exposed is just how insane women are." - Freeman_K

[KeymasterKeymaster]

The Frog wrote:

What do you mean ? GUT ? What is it ? Sorry, I’m not fluent in English

Your English is better than my French… mais, “faites confiance à votre instinct”.

Bonjour et bienvenue chez MGTOW.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 54]

Welcome Frog!
Your English is better than mine. And its my first langauge!(only language)
She says she believes in true love, but I dont think women are capable of true love.
If money isnt that important to you, you can rule that out in makeing your desision to devorce.
I dont have kids, but I think the better exzample to show is that a Man will leave if he is not treated with the respect he deserves.

We are glad you are here!

[BlacqueJacqueShellacqueParticipant 6890]

Welcome to the forums The Frog. As an Acadian Canadian your name brings a smile to my face. I am roughly the same age as you (41), no wife (never married), no kids. I feel for you man. Keep reading in the marriage and relations~~~s forums, the advice there seems excellent from an experience point of view. Save yourself some heartache by learning from others who have traveled a similar path.

[Anonymous 0]

Welcome home, Frog
I agree with above posters. If you feel something is wrong, it is. Could she just be biding her time until she finds another guy? Or has all the information she needs to divorce you; 70% of divorces are initiated by women. I don’t like to bring this up but are you sure you are the father of your two daughters? Is she already seeing someone else?
If you do decide on leaving her, then make sure you have a place to go, money in the bank that she does not know about, and see a lawyer about just what your rights are and how are your rights applied by the courts.

[Anonymous 0]

Welcome, Frog

I’ve been married twice and divorced twice.

Your wife is ripping you off. You work 70 hours per week, and she takes your money and squanders it by taking vacations without you and even taking along her parents (who hate you). Maybe she is merely stupid as a sackful of hammers and honestly believes that romance means watching you slave your life away while she squanders your hard-earned money. More likely, she doesn’t give a s~~~ about you and she just sees you as a source of easy money and nothing else. But either way, she’s ripping you off horribly. Life is too short for you to waste it slaving away while she blows your money on things like paying for her parents’ vacations.

At the very least you have to put your foot down. Establish separate bank accounts, and tell her that she either has to live exclusively on her own earnings or maybe you give her a small allowance to supplement what she earns. But either way, she should definitely not have free access to your money. She has made it quite clear that she’s perfectly capable of robbing you blind.

And if she has a problem with that, then dump her. She’s either too stupid or too greedy to be a proper life companion of a hard-working man. If you did the work, then you get a veto on how the money gets spent. One way or the other, pry her hands off your bank account.

If there’s a divorce, the kids will get over it. And meantime it’s important to set a good example for them as well. They shouldn’t grow up thinking that men are nothing more than walking credit cards. Put your foot down and stop the rip-offs.

[TuneoutParticipant]

Bonjour Monsieur Frog,I think preparation is important,find a good lawyer and see what your options are.

Lifes a bitch,but you don't have to marry one!

[Anonymous 3]

Hello Frog.

Someone here once said that “women are practical people trying to be romantic and men are romantic people trying to be practical.”

If you look at your situation from a practical point of view, you are been taken advantage from.
Do a cost/benefits analysis, is it balanced?

So, only the emotional aspect is making you confused. But it shouldn’t, you are still unbalanced there. Think about this, even at this field you are been taken advantage from. Would you go on holidays alone leaving your wife working behind?

No? Why? Maybe because you care about her?

It is your question to make and answer. Does your wife care about you?

We MGTOW learned that women do not care about men, only their usefulness. Ask yourself what would happen if you had an accident and could not work…

[Anonymous 3]

PS: I am going to give you a countersense advice.

My advice is to learn what you can with your present wife. Open your eyes to understand how women operate and most importantly, how you get caught.

Many men get a divorce only to fall pray to some other women that “is the not the same”: the NAWALT argument.

A man needs to open his eyes and learn the truth about women. AWALT is not easy. There are many tastes of poison.

[RhinoParticipant 3477]

Welcome brother, I want you to think about this for a moment. If you were to ever lose your job what would your wife do? It seems to me the only thing keeping her with you is the money. Does she give you sex whenever you want it? Does she cook and clean for you and do other things that you yourself cannot do because you are working 70 hours a week? If the answer is no to any of these questions it is time to leave her she is just using you.

The more you give and the more she takes you will get burnt out with nothing to show for it. You can still be a parent to your kids if the courts allow it but this might not be the case they could award full custody of children to her you need to talk to a lawyer. Time is ticking the longer you wait the more money you will have to pay out. Start recording everything, all your conversations with her for evidence and be prepared to see your wife in a new light because once you cut off the money she will turn into a animal. You already know this because she refuses to sign a any document that will protect your money. Remember it is not what she says but what she does that shows you her true character.

She will try to convince you that her way is the best way you are a slave right now working for her and she is just taking so fix that right away and your life will be better for it. I wish you luck brother keep us posted on what you decide to do.

[HitmanParticipant]

Hello. .
Trust yourself.
Take a few days off and step away from the family.
You need time to think. ..
We are here for you. .
Good luck brother!

[Truthseeker82Participant 6406]

Welcome! As others have said – you need to trust your basic instincts. Since you have children – you also are doing right by keeping them in mind as well as your own concerns.. You can never change the nature of women – they are what they are. But you can draw your boundaries and see how well they hold up in the marriage. Keep us posted and glad you’re here.

[Nathan R. JessepParticipant 1102]

You’re French…aren’t you supposed to have women on the side?

[Nathan R. JessepParticipant 1102]

Also, you said that your wife’s parents hate you. Did you know this before you were married?

[Nathan R. JessepParticipant 1102]

Rhino wrote:

Welcome brother, I want you to think about this for a moment. If you were to ever lose your job what would your wife do? It seems to me the only thing keeping her with you is the money. Does she give you sex whenever you want it? Does she cook and clean for you and do other things that you yourself cannot do because you are working 70 hours a week? If the answer is no to any of these questions it is time to leave her she is just using you.

How about this…

Instead of filing for divorce, quit your job and stay home with the kids. Make her appreciate the work you do for the family by working and then go back to work.

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