Hello, How I became a MGTOW

[Qbeck01Participant 57]

How did I become a MGTOW? A simple question, one that has really made me think. I’ve been MGTOW for over 10 years. It has been awhile since I’ve thought about the why. There are many reasons so let’s start at the beginning.
Childhood: I grew up with a mother that suffered from mental illness, the least of which was depression. She’d spend a lot of time sleeping all day, and when she was active she was extremely moody. She’d been institutionalized a few times.
My sister was also moody, one moment she was anxious the next she was a scatter brained twit. It wasn’t until later in life I found out she was addicted to drugs. When I think back it was obvious but at the time I was naïve.
As you can imagine my childhood was not very pleasant. I knew from an early age that I definitely didn’t want to have a family. The first females in my life left me with a rather low opinion of women.
As a teenager I was very horny, I’d lose my damn mind when a pretty girl would show me attention. I was easily manipulated by high school girls and I realized back then it was unhealthy and I also recognized it was near impossible for me to resist. It offended my pride that I was little more than beast subjugated by instinctual behaviors.
Life experience: I joined the Army after high school to get away from that small town in Indiana. My compatriots who were married never seemed happy; and you’d always hear some cringe worthy story about what happened when someone went on a training deployment for a month; their wife would make the rounds. I’ve seen a few friends suffer through divorces; one of which attempted suicide but more often they would abuse alcohol.
I was stationed in Hawaii after AIT; life was good. I’d date girls that were on vacation. I’d show them around the island we’d have a good time and they’d leave after a week or two. My friends in the military would come and go as they’d be assigned to other duty stations. The typical tour was 3 years, but I extended and spent 4 years on Oahu.
I developed a peculiar talent of not getting attached to people. Many people I knew would get homesick and miss their families, which is something I never understood.
Temperament: I’m naturally an introvert. I prefer solitude and can only endure socializing for a limited amount of time before I get agitated. I prefer a quiet life free of drama. I enjoy my hobbies and I’m very lucky to have a job I love.

There came a time when I just lacked the interest in going to noisy clubs and chatting up women; I simply stopped chasing tail.
I believe the MGTOW life came easy to me mainly because of my temperament. I like solitude.

[VoidraitheParticipant 477]

Welcome Qbeck01

I can understand totally your desire of a drama free life. After my last relationship soured 15 years ago I took a break from relationships and kept to myself and found peace there. I stayed there.

[Qbeck01Participant 57]

Considering all the horror stories I’ve read, I’m glad I’ve made the choices I have. I really dodged a bullet.

[harpo-my-“SON”Participant 2410]

Qbeck01  loners are more than alright by me. I give your 2nd thumbs up because of my inner-hermit like mentality.

I love being outdoors for extended periods. When I can indulge this part of me, I do not miss shaving. In fact I miss my beard now. Enjoy the forums.

I was bound to be misunderstood, and I laugh at those who misunderstand me. Kind mockery at the well intentioned, but unfettered cruelty towards those would be prison guards of my creative possibilities. This so as to learn as much from misunderstanding as from understanding. Taking pleasure in worthy opponents and making language fluid and flowing like a river yet pointed and precise as a dagger. Contradicts the socialistic purpose of language and makes for a wonderful linguistic dance, A verbal martial art with constant parries that hone the weapon that is the two edged sword of my mouth.

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