Hello, hello

[OrangeMan12Participant 71]

Greetings,

Im fairly new to this site, but have found comfort in some of the things I’ve read on here and it was like a light switched on–

Im a 27 y/o college student, pursuing a Mechanical Engineering degree, struggling with ADHD/anxiety man has it been a tough battle… I come from a very conservative christian family, but their actions are far from Christian; My mom is a highly paranoid, unreasonable individual who thinks the world is out to get her, and dad is a master lying manipulator with deplorable actions that are far from Christian and a self-centered brother that thinks I’m crying for attention. I was always seeking the acceptance of my family and it has wrecked me.. From being misunderstood, to having girls handpicked by my parents because this is my “prime time to get married,” to being told I’m worthless and I’m a failure when I don’t abide by their “advice.” It was only a few years ago that I was at my wits end with my ADHD, sought out for help, although this should of been done many years ago, but when id plea for help from my parents with my symptoms, they’d tell me that I don’t need help, I’m a smart kid thats just not motivated and need God in my life. In all honestly, I have faith in God, but not sure I have enough to know that he will get me through it. Maybe its because of the fact that I was always forced (still the case) to go to church and their would serious consequences for not going. Either my parents will be passive with me or threaten to kick me out (which has been done quite a number of times in the past 6 months.)

With that said, I have decided to go my own way, really seek what I want in my life and actually do it without my family’s support. Its time to cut the leash and stop seeking validation from them. Its going to be a tough adjustment, and id be lying if I didn’t say I’m not scared, but I know it needs to be done for my own sanity. Im currently looking for a place to stay, but have very limited funds. Being a full-time college student, and an internship that pays very little, its tough, but I know the glass is half full, waters under the bridge and I will get through it.

Thanks for listening and would love to hear from you guys.

-Anonymous

Again, you can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something - your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life. -Steve Jobs

[Truthseeker82Participant 6406]

Welcome. Hope you find much benefit from the collective wisdom writ on these pages!

[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

Very good intro-I can relate. Welcome home!

[John Woods 13Participant 2855]

Stealthy is on break right now, but if he were here, he would tell you to go camping. Go alone. Just you, nature and God.
Just stay there for a weekend and be in silence.
It will help you focus your thoughts and provide clarity while you embark in your newly chosen path.
Welcome home!

The answer is NO. “I could but I won’t”. Memini murum!

[MACHOParticipant]

Welcome OrangeMan12, I hope you find some peace on here.

You must own a better Crystal ball than I

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

Welcome
A lot of anxiety goes away when you take full and total control of your own life.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[HitmanParticipant]

welcome friend.
you are in the right place.
let the MGTOW force be with you.
..you need to stop letting the parents manipulate you ,
and stand on your own.
nice intro,
gracias amigo!
.
you are young and have a life ahead of you,
YOU can make it incredible ,
provided you do it your way,
and not anyone else’s.
peace be upon you !

[JVBParticipant]

Welcome brother. You’re amongst friends. Look forward to hearing from you. Cheers.

Peace is > piece.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

OrangeMan12 wrote:

I was always seeking the acceptance of my family and it has wrecked me.

Welcome, OrangeMan12. Seeking acceptance from anyone, [especially a woman],is a recipe for disaster.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[Anonymous 14]

Don’t put faith in things that are not going to help you, look in the mirror and help yourself.

[Anonymous 12]

With that said, I have decided to go my own way, really seek what I want in my life and actually do it without my family’s support. Its time to cut the leash and stop seeking validation from them.

I´m sorry what support did you say, laddie?

Support in “come to church or else” ?
Or support as in “marry the sorry ass potato we choose for you”?
Ah! you mean “belittling you and telling you to get over it”?

I know what you mean.
Finish school and GTFO, that would seem like a wise course of action.
Looking at people and understanding who they are is a task you have already accomplished, one key element of your life learned.
well done!

Welcome.

[Anonymous 1]

Just look forward to moving out on you own once you get your M.E. degree. My Mom was crazy into Church like that too. Have some patience and hang in there. In the mean time welcome to MGTOW!

[Anonymous 0]

Welcome home, OrangeMan
Beer’s in the fridge

[Anonymous 1]

Wow, welcome.

I come from a family of ‘devout’ Christian too. By ‘devout’, I mean they love to go to church without knowing why, celebrate Christmas without knowing why, buy new clothing for the church without knowing why, and gossiping about other member of the segregation to feel better about themselves. Very … religious.

When I live on my own and can support myself, I can tell them no, I don’t want to do those bulls~~~ things anymore. I don’t have to give my reason, I just don’t. Now they somehow respect me, begrudgingly of course, but respect nevertheless.

So, if you decided to live by yourself, make very sure that you can support yourself. Live minimally, delay gratification, focus on what you want to be in life and be very diligent. In time, they’ll see you as a self made man and stopped manipulating you.

Good luck!

[OrangeMan12Participant 71]

Thanks for all your kind words, guys. I really appreciate it! I look forward to get to know you all and know that I will get through this. Heres to new beginnings

Again, you can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something - your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life. -Steve Jobs

[Anonymous 6]

Hey you’re in good company. This is a place for men. So you have a place here. Here you don’t have to prove your worth. That’s only the beginning.

[Anonymous 1]

OrangeMan12 wrote:

Im a 27 y/o college student, pursuing a Mechanical Engineering degree, struggling with ADHD/anxiety man has it been a tough battle…

Try nofap, welcome brother.

[AntipathyParticipant 4901]

Thanks for sharing your intro anon, and welcome aboard. i can relate to your story, independence is no easy road, i have multiple roomates cause the jobs suck around here, and i didn’t do well in school, always too nervous to present my work in front of everyone, difficulty even communicating with anyone in college really. i guess it’s best to keep doing what we can tho, one foot in front of the other.

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