Hello and some observations

[In Which We ServeParticipant 111]

Gentlemen

I’m very glad to join the forum and won’t take up too much time with my own story. Put briefly I’m in my early forties, was married for 2 1/2 years to a lady from eastern Europe, I’m now separated pending divorce. I was ‘red pill’ long before marriage. However, since separating, I’ve been seriously thinking about life and love and am close to concluding there’s no point in modern relationships, hence joining this site. Anyway, here’s some observations and crass generalisations about women I’ve been pondering in the last few weeks. It was initially a bitter rant but I’ve lightened it a bit since I think it’s important to retain one’s sense of humour. This is not really about my wife, as in many ways she is a good woman, it’s just a combination of things I’ve noticed in my own relationships and in other people’s. I hope you like it:

 

• The chief end of most womens’ lives is to wallow in drama and emotional turmoil. In effect, to be happy through unhappiness.

 

• Most women do not like the physical act of sex in and of itself. The ones who say they like no-strings sex are either doing it as a trojan-horse method of starting a relationship by stealth, or thrive on the self-hatred caused by the lack of emotional connection; ie, the emotion felt is the LACK of emotion. Screwed-up artistic type women seem particularly prone to this and they love writing crap poems or songs about it.

 

• Women’s jobs and career goals are a means to obtaining drama in their lives, not an end in themselves. As Chris Rock said, every woman has some other woman at work whom she hates. ‘She trying to DESTROY  me!’ ‘You work at JC Penny folding bags. What she do, take all your paper?’

 

• It’s not true to say women don’t know what they want. Women know EXACTLY what they want – it’s whatever they DON’T HAVE. I call this deprivation drama.’ When they get what they think they want, they don’t want it anymore. Eg, if they have a man who treats them badly, they want a man who treats them well. If they change and get a man who treats them well, they become bored and long to be treated badly again. If they get a man who treats them badly sometimes and well sometimes, their brains short-circuit and a major girlfriends conference has to be called to come up with a solution, which will eventually be that she should dump him because he’s unreliable.

 

• Women don’t have friends, they have rivals. Conflict is the basis of most drama and therefore, friends are there to provide such conflict. One or two close friends may be genuine, but most of the interaction with their ‘circle’ will be about validation, rivalry, and deprivation drama.

 

• Social media is perfect for this, which is why it is so popular with women. A woman can in the space of ten minutes on social media tell her best friend that she hates her and never wants to see her again, then make up and be best friends again, and then fall out with her again, and not think it at all odd.

 

• Women don’t want male dominance. Some may say they do, but only when it suits them, which is therefore not male dominance. It’s just a watered down version of a rape fantasy. The reason women love ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ and all that S&M rubbish is because it safely turns male dominance into some sort of consensual game that is acceptable to feminists. Women claim to love dominant fictional men like Heathcliff and Darcy but if those men met them in real life the women would run for their university campus ‘safe space’ and start working up an outraged feminist Twitterstorm in five seconds flat.

 

• Women have very little concept of emotional self restraint or self analysis. One of the reasons they henpeck and nag their husbands is because the strain of having to behave in a reasonably logical and rational way at work (which is still a requirement for most jobs, despite feminism’s best efforts) is often too much for them and they need an outlet at home for crazed irrationality.

 

• Whenever your woman spends several evenings or afternoons with some girlfriend she doesn’t normally spend so much time with, be very wary. This is usually a consultation in preparation for the ‘we need to talk’ speech.

 

• Women don’t love a man for ‘who he really is’. They don’t care who he really is; they care about who they think he is or what he represents to them as a provider (either materially or emotionally). Once he no longer lives up to those expectations, love disappears. No woman ever said JBY (just be yourself) to a man she actually liked, only to losers that she wanted to keep safely in the friend zone.

 

• Women don’t want men who are open with their emotions. That would make them the male equivalent of a sexually loose woman. Just like men may find such a woman initially exciting, most would not want a long term relationship with one, and most women do not want a relationship with a man who is an ’emotional slut’ either. Just like a man might worry a slutty woman is screwing other men behind his back, a woman will worry an emotional man might be showing his emotions to others, or worse, talking about HER behind her back.

 

• In the early stages of a relationship a woman will try to find out, largely subconsciously, what a man’s previous bad experiences were with women, and will then strive to show that she is different. Once in a committed relationship, she will revert to her former self. Eg, If she thinks he wants a homely woman, she’ll be darning and cooking like crazy but once they’re married the darning needle will end up stuck dangerously down the back of the sofa and the cooking will consist of pizzas warmed up – by him. If she thinks he wants a slutty woman, she’ll be wearing dental-floss thongs and pleasuring him orally on her knees before they’re married, but once he’s trapped, she’ll be wearing big grey ‘period pants’ and the only ‘oral pleasuring’ will be her eating six chocolate bars a day.

 

• A woman’s phone is the most precious non-living thing in her life. It gives her instant validation, group-think confirmation, drama, novelty, entertainment and social contact without her having to make any effort on her part or behave with any social propriety. It is her drug, her child, her talisman, her religious icon all rolled into one, but, Unlike a child or a deity if it fails to please it can just be thrown away and replaced with a new model.

 

• Once a man is in a position where he cannot easily walk away, a woman will begin (not immediately, but the process will start) to destroy the relationship. Nagging will begin and the announcement ‘I’m not haaappy’ will eventually occur. In relationship terms, ‘I’m not haaappy’ is the equivalent of cold fusion, dark matter or perpetual motion. Men have gone insane trying to figure it out.

 

• Once a man cannot easily walk away, sex becomes a bartering tool, used as a means of control by the woman in one way or another. The process will begin by a simple drop in frequency, then unconditional sexual acceptance of the man will gradually become less. Acts she initially claimed to enjoy will now become taboo, and even the man’s ability to physically satisfy her will be questioned (because she cannot believe it could be her fault); if sex does occur it will be dutiful ‘starfish’ sex or lacklustre handjobs while she secretly checks her phone. If she is clever, mindblowing sex as it used to be in the beginning of the relationship will occasionally occur in order to keep the man interested while she considers her get-out options.

 

• After the two stages above occur, the man has three options; to walk away, to stay but be unfaithful, or to stay and become sexless and henpecked. Whichever happens, the woman has achieved her chief aim, which is to have a destroyed a potentially healthy relationship. Just like the house always wins in Vegas, the woman always wins in relationships because drama can always easily be created whatever the circumstances.

 

• Problems are not things to be solved in women’s lives. They are there as providers of drama. Once they no longer provide drama, the problem is ‘solved'(ie, becomes irrelevant to them) and the woman moves on to a new problem. It would be like medical researchers saying ‘well, cancer WAS a big problem, but now we’ve heard Aids is like, really bad, and we need to move and grow as individuals and research Aids instead of cancer, you know? LOLZ.Take care xxx !’

 

• ‘Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.’ Women believe it is their prerogative alone to end a relationship. If a man does it, it is for the woman the emotional equivalent of the Japanese attack on Pearl Harbour or the Germans coming round the Maginot Line – ie, a dirty underhand trick that will cause moral outrage.

[DoneParticipant 21]

Very well articulated and accurate at the same time. Thanks!

Sometimes the light's all shining on me!

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Thank you for taking the time to drop this and introduce yourself.

Welcome to MGTOW and the forums……. “In Which We Serve”.

Salutes.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[BubParticipant 1405]

Well put. All your points are valid and true.
Your last point is amazingly accurate. How many of us have said “bye baby” only to have her do everything to make us stay, while she knows that one day she would turn the tables and kick us to the curb at the time of her choosing?
Upper hand boys, strive for it. Be in control of your own happiness.

Just rolling down the road

[Deus Ex MachinaParticipant 1068]

BRO PREEEEACH!!!!!

 

Couldn’t agree with You more Bud. Everything hit a SOLID note as well as the honest straight up TRUTH!. Totally agree 100%.

 

Welcome to MGTOW.

"If You have the Tooth of a Whale, You must have the Whale's Jaw to hold it". (i.e. One Must have the right qualifications for leadership) -Hawaiian Proverb

[ConradParticipant 41]

Great post. So much truth there…men need to learn to walk away from mess like that, and the sooner the better. To retain their sanity, their self-respect, their resources, actually anything and everything they have. Because it will all be taken away from you if you don’t learn to walk away.

A few of these really hit home:

 

• Social media is perfect for this, which is why it is so popular with women. A woman can in the space of ten minutes on social media tell her best friend that she hates her and never wants to see her again, then make up and be best friends again, and then fall out with her again, and not think it at all odd.

• Women don’t want male dominance. Some may say they do, but only when it suits them, which is therefore not male dominance. It’s just a watered down version of a rape fantasy. The reason women love ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ and all that S&M rubbish is because it safely turns male dominance into some sort of consensual game that is acceptable to feminists. Women claim to love dominant fictional men like Heathcliff and Darcy but if those men met them in real life the women would run for their university campus ‘safe space’ and start working up an outraged feminist Twitterstorm in five seconds flat.

• A woman’s phone is the most precious non-living thing in her life. It gives her instant validation, group-think confirmation, drama, novelty, entertainment and social contact without her having to make any effort on her part or behave with any social propriety. It is her drug, her child, her talisman, her religious icon all rolled into one, but, Unlike a child or a deity if it fails to please it can just be thrown away and replaced with a new model.

[…Spectator 1165]

Conrad: Yup. Before we gave them phones they had dogs and cats, and I could deal with that. But now……s~~~ man! did we f~~~ up by giving them phones? Yikes. I think we did man.

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In Which We Serve:

 

My former dentist started out in nursing.  She mentioned to me one day that the reason she got out of that business was that women could be terribly nasty to each other.  Eventually both she and her brother (who was an MD) took up dentistry and eventually formed their own practice.

 

By the way, In Which We Serve is a terrific war movie.

[Krab_AssParticipant 267]

Well said, well said indeed.   I was married for approx. 14 years and much of what you said was a trip down memory (shudder) lane…

 

"I care not what others think of what I do, but I care very much about what I think of what I do! That is character!"
~ Theodore Roosevelt

[johnconnor777Participant 85]

Great points!!

[Anonymous 5]

My ex would have panic attacks if she didn’t have her iphone with her for more than 30 seconds. Like chill out bitch, it is just a phone.

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